| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/24/2006 12:28:46 PM | | Here it is and it goes both ways. Single parents start dating, and find some one they realy like, and they tells you they want to be more than friends. feelings start to grow talk of moving in together. Then some guys/ladies start to worry about what might happen if theys change, and the single parent moves on and leaves the realationship. Feelings get hurt the kids get hurt a long with the one trying to build some thing new with the single parent. does that not sound right | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/24/2006 2:14:27 PM | I have a 12 year old son and a 4 year old son... I can ask the same question...
My kids dont live with me and I miss them very much. I also raised my ex finance's two other boys for the past 8 years and in my heart they are still my boys too.....
Im not opposed to dating women that have children....
As a matter of fact I say bring it on... Im looking for friends and maybe a special someone... If they have kids then thats just more to love.....  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/24/2006 3:05:51 PM | | Yes men do date women with children. I find it the other way around for me. Once women find out that some of your money and time are obligated to the children then they dont want to bother with it. That is what I have experienced | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/27/2006 12:04:44 PM | | Same here joejoe, Ive found that women,even a lot of single moms, shy away from single dads, because of the limits it puts on your time and resources, personally I prefer to date a single mom, She will be able to relate to putting your kids first. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 8:24:08 AM | I am so glad that someone raised this question. I dated a guy on again and off again for over a year and he sat down and told me that one of the reasons he hesitates to get serious with me is because i have a child. He doesnt want to seem as if he's taking over as the father,to the other father. He has twin girls of his own from a previous marriage and he cannot stand when his ex brings men around his girls and they buy them gifts. I know there is nothing wrong with me,i just think some men are selfish,so i say keep it moving. Take it or leave it buddy. Men are like busses;one comes along every 10 minutes. Stay optimistic. It's all in god's hands. He will give us all the perfect person for us to be with,this i believe. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 9:20:59 AM | | Dont give up hope, Some women do date men with children. Is there a parents w/o partners in your area of the world? Ladies near this guy, sounds like he's a good catch... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 2:55:10 PM | | Well it is a sad but true statement that most divorced men who do have children abondon their children. Just because a man an woman get divorced, neither parent should divorce the kids. I am a single dad and I have custody of my daughter. She is 3 years old. I am damn proud that I have my daughter. I would like for other men to learn from my example and take responsibilty for their children. So I take my hat off to all of you single moms. But let me say this, I think some men are afraid to date a women with kids because you always here that the kids come first. Well that will not cut it. You have to be able to balance out your lovers needs as well as your children. I know when a women says that to me, I see a red flag. I have a child but I am man enough to take care of my daughter and my significant other. If you can't do that then you don't need to be looking for a relationship!!! Not trying to preach but it is something to think about. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 4:41:56 PM |
I'm a single father and don't intend to bring any more children into the world. So a woman that has had no children of her own....well....that seems an unlikely match doesn't it????
Well, it depends. If she is OK w/ kids, even if not her own, it can work. As others have said, the acceptance works both ways.
Yes, if the guy/gal has kids of their own, they do understand more so what you have/do go through. However, not having their own isn't an auto-no.
My biggest concern isn't with not finding a good guy while raising my son, but finding one who is OK w/ not having a *biological* child with me - due to medical reasons, 1)it's hard to get pregnant and 2)childbirth & post-partum are not straight-forward. I wouldn't mind adding to a family either by being a stepmom, or adopting.
I just started looking, so hopefully I'll have more to add in the near future  Right now, I have a 25 y/o gentleman who says "YOu intrigue me greatly, and scare the hell outta me" - meaning he's not sure about there being a kid. However, upon telling him I'm not looking for a father (so far, ex is staying involved in our son's life), but someone who can love my child, and accept him. And he says he thinks he can do that.   | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 4:57:27 PM | I have no problem with any woman I'm seeing having kids. I would hope that she would mention that she has kids right away as this shows they are important to her and she is looking out for them. I wouldn't want to meet them right away though, not because I have anyting against them but I don't think it's fair to children (this does depend on age) to be introduced to them and then if things don't work out to completely dissapear from their life. After a few dates and things seem to be working well, maybe a short meeting and gradually/slowly work into the scene. Can't just jump into their lives with both feet.
Note: I don't have children but I have seen with others the affect that dating their mother can have on them and wouldn't want to be the cause of that. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:09:20 PM | | well ladies.. do men date women with kids?? i think men are just way too picky with whom they date.. i have no children and have never been married and i cant seem to find a specail person in my life.. I feel that i have a lot to offer a person but men dont seem to see it that way because i am not a gorgeous beauty queen.. so i dont think it is the kid thing that men dont like. .I just think that half of them really dont know WHAT they want.... | |
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Posted: 10/28/2006 7:30:14 PM | dont think thats totally fair to say if men put more effort into relationships there wouldnt be as many single mums ,there a lot of single dads out there too,and a lot of women mess about,and if a man does'nt want to get into a relationship with a single mum thats his choice just like all us women have choices in what we want in a man ,we are all different,and want different things at different stages in our lives ,i am a single parent and if a man did'nt want me because of that so be it , | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 10:41:48 PM | | it takes an "irregular guy" to raise children, not his, as if they were his own. i have seen this enigma often and i don't really get it. when i see kids that are unruly i look a little higher. you can't hate a kid, right? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/28/2006 11:39:18 PM | I'm an "irregular guy" then. With the first single mom I dated, I drove her 10 year old daughter to school, even stayed up late at night to work on a project her daughter needed for school. I didn't try to step in as a dad, because she had one. I did try to step in as a person she could look up to.
Her 2 year old daughter, I remember giving horse rides, and combed the hair of several baby dolls. I've kissed a few booboos to make them feel better, and was happy to be the person she looked up to as a father figure.
I wouldn't slow down to relax at night until I knew the kids were asleep and safe.
The one thing that did bug me was the mom told me she was the only one to punish her kids. I told her if I see the 10 year old going up and down the basement stairs in rollerblades, I'm sorry but I'm not going to come running to her and say MOM.....she's going up and down the stairs in rollerblades.
The 2nd single mom I was with, the kids were much older. Driving real cars instead of pedal cars. If one of them needed a ride or someone to help them do something, I had no problem being there. I took her one daughter on a 2 hour trip and back to pick up her daughter's son from the father. We had fun and I wouldn't have changed a thing. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/29/2006 5:37:18 AM | I personally stay away from the kid thing? Yeah the money thing and the father thing, not to mention being a child of a mother who constantly changed boyfriends isn't exactly good for a childs psychy. Oh yeah people with kids in my opinion are not singleand if they work then they really have no time because being a parent is also a job, which means they have 2 full time jobs and not alot of spare (fun) time.
not exactly an attractive peice of baggage besides what the hell is going on with so many single parents . WHERES THE OTHER HALF OF THE BABY MAKING MACHINE!!!!!!!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/29/2006 6:01:37 AM | Yes there are men out that actually prefer to date women with kids.
I have 2 young kids myself and feel sort of the same way, its so hard to find that special one once they realize your kids are real. Having 2 young kids or kids at any age should never be a major issue they are all special creatures. I long to find that special one that will accept me and my 2 daughters... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/29/2006 2:09:17 PM | | I have 1 boy who is 7. I have no problems getting dates. I am however extremely protective of my son. He doesn't meet my dates PERIOD. The men who I date have no obligation to my son other then listen to me gush about him and even that doesn't happen for a long time. I will answer direct questions about my son if they ask. So to answer your question. Yes there are men out there who will date women with children. I think it's more in how you present yourself and your situation. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/30/2006 5:51:15 AM | yeah i want to know the answer to this one. i have 2 boys and 2 girls they are my life but sometimes i need a damn man yeah it's easy to get sex from a guy if u just want it every now and then but hell that gets old most men that are around here just want sex and no relationship and that sucks im looking for a guy that is looking for the same things as me and thats not a one night stand or sex just when ever he wants it im no hoe and not gonna be treated like one.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/31/2006 8:12:10 AM | | I agree It just happened to me as well I really don't understand them at all. everythignwas going great til he came over ,we were carving pumpkins having dinner and getting along great. the next day he says this is not going to work for me . and that was it | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/2/2006 1:06:30 PM | I understand alot about trying to date with kids. I have one wonderful daughter and it is reallyhard to get a date with a kid and then if you do go on a date and they ask if you can
have anymore kids and then if you say no some guys get mad about that. | |
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