| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/11/2006 6:25:29 PM | | yes I am here!!Iwould like to say that women with children are attractive to me because it shows they have grown up and understand the circle of life.Teenage children are amazing the way they view the world and can give us all a refreshing outlook.The ladies that raise them their whole lives are to be commended,cherished in fact,and I can not imagine anyone more suited to being the perfect date for me.My girls are soon to be young adults and I feel they made me a better person.A mother of teenagers must be the best. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/13/2006 3:12:36 PM | Why NOT? If things are going good within a relationship with a woman and the kids, then hopefully the woman and kids will BOTH be #1, and hopefully she would think the same way. The guy in her life AND her kids are BOTH #1. The whole family thing I guess.
For a guy to ask a woman choose between more time with him or the kids isn't a man at all!
Does it really matter that much that a guy thinks he's #2 in a woman's life and the kids are #1? To worry about such things as #1 and #2 in someone's life is a bit silly. To make things work so that with working TOGETHER, everybody can be #1 in their life is what I believe it's all about. Then again, I'm in search of the whole family traditions stuff, so I could care less if I'm #23 on the list, as long as she's thinking of me! Now if the cat or dog rates higher than I do, then that might become a problem. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:13:38 PM | | Are you kidding me ,I wish I met a women with her own children (my children would also love it). All the women I meet are in their late 30's wanting me to have more. I just want to have an instant family again | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:19:13 AM | ok, i know i am going to get a lot of slack for this, but i am going to give you women an honest answer to the question you are asking. please keep in mind that i have dated single mothers before. here are the top reasons why i and im sure a lot of other men do not date single mothers. please keep in mind that these ideas are also very applicable to single fathers. it does go both ways.
1. THE KIDS FATHER--- guys dont want to deal with a woman who is tied to thier ex. i mean, would you want to date a guy who always had his ex involved in his matters? yes he is the kids father, but we still dont want the hassle they can tend to cause on the men that date thier ex.
2. Maybe we just dont like kids.
3. Maybe we want kids, just not some other dudes kids.
4. If a strong relationship does somehow occour, it will most likely always be your say in how the kids are raised.
5. Kids can cancel out all the fun parts of dating/courtship. all plans will have to revolve around the kids. this can be especially true with infants/toddlers
6. Men can get attached to kids that are not theirs. if the relationship fails, this means not only did the man lose the woman he has been dating, but he also lost the bond with her kids that might have been made. believe it or not, this can be hard on a man. we just wont always admit this emotional side.
7. men may look at being a single mother as a weakness of her charecter. example of this may be in their choice of a father of thier kid(if he is a loser) or their failure ot keep him around(if he was a winner).
8. kids cost money. and lots of it. this is no secret.
9. friends and family may frown on us when we date a single mother
10. maybe your kids are just complete out of control brats or ugly. (ok, the ugly part was cruel, but hey, some men think like that)
please remember these are just honest answers to the questions you asked, and that these rules also apply to single fathers. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/14/2006 9:50:44 AM | | I have to admit, that I wonder the same thing...I'm 23 and I have a 4 year old son who is disabled. Now that alone is apparently enough to put me on a "stay away from" list. And on top of it, I'm not no skinny thing ... So that makes it even harder for me to find someone...Guys out there don't want to deal with some crazy ass baggage from a previous relationship. Getting divorced, have a disabled child, not skinny...those are all marks against me. Its bad enough that I have come to the conclusion that all men are jerks like my ex and that the world would be better off without them. But, there are times that I do wish that I could find a really nice guy..one who doesn't care that I already have a child. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/14/2006 11:56:11 AM | | I think this has much more of an effect on the younger single Moms then the older middle aged moms. Because young Men are not able to handle the responsibilitys that come with being a parent. And really dont want to be bothered with the inconveince. Older guys understand the situation because we are often father's ourselves. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/14/2006 1:10:16 PM | | Of course....But my theory on dating anyone is your dating the person. If said person has children the parent should be the one who decides when the person he/she is dating should meet the children/child. And the person you are seeing should realize if they want a relationship or future together, that your child is a part of you and if they want to be with you they have to be with all of you. And as a parent you should have instincts if the person you are dating will be a suitable person for your child to meet. This coming from a single Dad, but i admit meeting a guy who is willing to take on the whole package is a rare thing, especially if the dude doesn't have a child. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:37:08 AM | | Well they are still out there I would date a woman with kids for sure! I dont have any of my own yet but I would like to share the experience! So yes to the question asked! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:01:18 AM | | yes they do i for one would date a woman with kids teenagers or not i dont see where the problem is i mean if you dont want to date some one just because they got teenage kids doesnt that just mean your a shallow person any way and would you realy want to be with some one that feels that way any way stevie3393 xxx | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 10:41:10 AM | KnightWriter33, this is exactly what I am looking for - someone who does not want to compete with my kids, especially the baby.
Someone who knows he has his place in my life, and who doesn't have to *whine* about it when he thinks his place is slipping out from underneath him (or that he is slipping out from on top of it).
And please.... someone who doesn't think it's slipping every other day and crap like that.
That's why I want an older guy, not a younger one, unless he has been in the military, because so many are still delaing with insecurities.
Most don't get over their insecurity until they are in they're mid-40's (please don't start on the mid-life crisis thing, that can happen any time, not just mid-life), and I just do not want to deal with it. It makes me feel like I am raising them or something. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:59:01 PM | | I don't have any problem dating a woman with a kid Just as long as we connect in an intellectual level...She's human like us and nobody is perfect so have to accept them for who they are even though society and peeps like us downplay them which is not right at all | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 3:06:25 PM | can i put a twist on this?? a single mom i know is an irresposible moron. She spends 24/7 on her comp and her children come over to my house to play and they crave the attention I give them. I actually had this very talk last night with my man, about how angry it makes me.
She has a good guy beleive it or not..but they are 2 peas in a pod...and together they are downstairs while the kids are upstairs or at my house with me entertaining and playing with them and my own kids. I odnt mind to a certain degree..but it makes me sad to know that for this couple..comp comes first..kids second.
so..not all single moms are wonderful ppl..some dont have thier head on straight case in point to this person i know. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 4:06:56 PM | lori....
There are alot of men around that would do what you are asking and have what your looking for (wich you just named) and they ARE on this site i have seen a few of them that will do what you named. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 4:07:57 PM | sitting there on the other side of the screen wondering the same question.......
its all about fate and circumstance...i wasnt looking..wasnt interested and neither was my guy...but as luck would have it..we both got tickets to the same event..the same day..posted here to find if anyone else wanted to go..AND POOF.. 3 yrs later here we are happy and in love.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/15/2006 4:15:55 PM | | Aww, that's awesome. I have belonged to this site for a couple of years now. Have had a few dates, but nothing spectacular. It always seems like the guys are BS'ers once you meet them in person, sorry guys, I know your not all the same, just haven't met a decent one yet! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:47:26 AM | I got one for y'all...try having QUADRUPLETS!
I tell guys first thing off the bad.."Hey, I've got four young kids..you can't deal, then the time to run is now". I don't want anybody pretending they can handle it only to find out a few months down the line that it was a lie just to keep the door to my panties open. | |
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