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sjmama
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Joined: 10/6/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/17/2006 4:08:07 AM | | well i know guys do date woman with kids doesnt mean the accpet the fact you have children some dont care really and the nyou got those wholl accpet you and the whole package it just depends really you gotta see how they act around your children but i dont think its a great idea for them to meet them right away its confusin the child and all | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/17/2006 2:47:46 PM | The woman you dated shouldn't have expected you to take control, their her children.
Of course children are going to attempt to sabotage any relationship that a parent has with anyone other than their mother or father.
In answer to the original question: yes there are men who date women with kids, I have dated a few single fathers who have custody of their children. The important thing is to not let the children feel left out. Who ever I date knows from the beginning that I have children and come as a package deal, if he can't deal with it, then he is not worth my time, the same should go with single fathers. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/17/2006 4:39:18 PM |
There are alot of men around that would do what you are asking and have what your looking for (wich you just named) and they ARE on this site i have seen a few of them that will do what you named.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/18/2006 1:31:54 AM | SOME single moms will just NEVER get the picture that MEN do date women who HAVE kids i mean i know quiet a few and i also know some who says they wouldn't wich i could NOT blame them for, not wanting to date a woman who has kids most women now days get way to "caught" up in their child to even noticethat they have a GREAT man who really cares about them and wants to be with them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/18/2006 8:48:00 AM | I have dated woman with kid s, and sometime s these kid s were used
as a crutch, oh I can t go out cause my kid s need me , oh I cant
stay out past mid night cause my kid s, the kid wer 18/ 20 yr old ?
Im sorry but it sounded like a crutch to me, but I did meet 1 woman
did the right thing made me feel good and made the kid sfeel good
too, treated me like family, and I recipracated, | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/18/2006 5:03:19 PM | OK..case in point.
I received an email from a man here on the site. At first he was pleasant and stated that he was "sorry that I'm not willing to give someone outside my age range a chance". I was sincere in my apology and stated my reasons.
The email that I got back in response was HORRIBLE. I had become a b__ and a whore suddenly. He then went on to say that a man would never be willing to date a woman with more than 1 child. 
Now, I know that it was venom from my rejection...but the thought had to come from somewhere..ya know?
I agree, it does seem easier to date a man that has children as well. He understands the time constraints and the other things that go along with parenting and affect the dating life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/19/2006 2:22:23 AM | | I did,would and do.If you are a man you have nothing to fear about dating a women with kids.That is if the woman stands with you (and you with her) on what is and is not allowed how they are to mind and such.Im legelly separated going to divorce.My eldest boy is 23 was 18 months old when I meet his mother was adopted my me when he was 3.He will tell you I never treated him any better or worse then the 2 others we had.But my best testimony is the fact he knows what is going on and he stands with me.Im not patting my self on the back but if you can treat a child of a woman you are dating as your own flesh and blood.Move alongdown the road.And no woman should settle for less then that,When it comes to her child. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/19/2006 2:23:07 AM | | I did,would and do.If you are a man you have nothing to fear about dating a women with kids.That is if the woman stands with you (and you with her) on what is and is not allowed how they are to mind and such.Im legelly separated going to divorce.My eldest boy is 23 was 18 months old when I meet his mother was adopted my me when he was 3.He will tell you I never treated him any better or worse then the 2 others we had.But my best testimony is the fact he knows what is going on and he stands with me.Im not patting my self on the back but if you can't treat a child of a woman you are dating as your own flesh and blood.Move along down the road.And no woman should settle for less then that,When it comes to her child. | |
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Sirpep
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Joined: 5/10/2006
Msg: 1212 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/19/2006 7:17:45 AM | | Well being a single father of 2 boys 13 and 16 fulltime and basically raising them since birth. I wouldn't think twice about dating a single mom. If anything a single mom may be a little more stable. That being said, Its about OUR chemistry and desire to be together that matter most. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/19/2006 6:42:15 PM | | Send me some of these men, 30 yrs old, single mom of 3 boys, all i ever hear is you have how many kids, blah blah blah.......maybe it depends on where you live, i hear men are all different in different areas. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/19/2006 6:47:02 PM | | i so agree with that, i meet lots of guys and as soon as i say i have kids ..poof their gone. its just not fair that we as single parents see guys that have kids attractive and yet we are not of the same quality. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:38:33 AM | | ya we definetly exist hang in there we are hidding as much as you are not trying to just using the busy raising kids excuse its time all single parents show their kids they too can be happy and love does exist showing affection so they see how to adults connect its just as important as anything we teach them i takes care of my kids and struggle when there not here so i look for the woman with kids to have the familly value thats missing we are out here so dont be afraid and dont scare us away lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:17:01 PM | Well, this sure has been an eye opener. I had no clue that women had issues dating men with kids...no clue at all.
I think it would take a really selfish person to have a problem with it. What, you can't stand being the last one on Santa's list each year? Or is it the fact that you want someone who can always put you first? Thats a mind set that you only get from folks that don't know the joy of parenthood. My kids are the best thing I've ever done with my life so I don't want a man that doesn't want the package. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 1:53:53 PM | | I completely agree...It's like some warped version of the pot calling the kettle black! How can someone say that there's a stigma about men not wanting to date women with kids , and then turn down a perfectly eligible guy because he's toting tots?? I personally don't find a problem with men who have kids, I welcome the extra advice on parenting , their views and opinions...On that note, I find in my dating experience that there are quite a few men who will date a single mom, and "play daddy" for a little while before they decide that it's really not what they're looking for, and yes , that is hard on the little ones. My son is my entire world and I am worried about my next relationship, if it's going to be the same and someone else who'll just disappoint and hurt the both of us... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 5:23:18 PM | Darren, I liked Your opinion. I have some to add that many forget about. First of all, I hear that in such a dating case,You have to understand that Her children will always be #1 Single men also have something in their lives that is their #1 also! Of course this is never considered and seems to be unimportant unless (it) is a child of His own. Women coming off a former love (with kids) don't seem to understand that You have precious things in Your baggage! Also, add the stigma that many 40 & single men had trouble dating because of career,faith issues, or looks too! Some men did'nt play the bar scene either. It does not feel too nice being considered (finally) after someone has lowered their "standards" due to their predicament ie: "I'm what You deserve....now dear", Seeing them finally attending church looking for those clean cut guys from 20 years ago???
I am a Dr.Laura listener. Some now-single mothers just were not attracted to the responsible clean cut types, but rather the cool cats. I sometimes wonder where We were when These ladies were on the altar taking vows. We were not good "marriage material" until now. I would dip a cautious toe when a (type) who formerly wrote You're type off suddenly presents themselves as available. As a wedding photographer of 800 weddings I've seen couples on their most happy day. I feel half were not aquainted long enough to make the plunge.Oops! the 2nd wave is coming.....Keep that home in Your name:-) good hunting | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 9:58:51 PM | Yes. Yes they do. I would rather date a woman with older kids than younger. It gives us more alone time. You don't have to worry about a babysitter! lol I have a teen age son too so I can't date younger women, well not THAT much younger anyway. They find it weird being half way between my son and I. So, ya, guy single parents have problems too. I usually prefer to date women my age or older anyhow. I find they are more settled and mature. Oh, and they like someone like me to spice things up! ;) just because you get older doesn't mean you have to act it( well...all the time anyhow).
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 10:01:54 PM | Yes. Yes they do. I would rather date a woman with older kids than younger. It gives us more alone time. You don't have to worry about a babysitter! lol I have a teen age son too so I can't date younger women, well not THAT much younger anyway. They find it weird being half way between my son and I. So, ya, guy single parents have problems too. I usually prefer to date women my age or older anyhow. I find they are more settled and mature. Oh, and they like someone like me to spice things up! ;) just because you get older doesn't mean you have to act it( well...all the time anyhow).
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/20/2006 10:20:52 PM | | People talking about other threads on this site that has been done to death, this is ONE thread that has been done to many times and it time to let THIS thread R E S T! | |
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