| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/23/2006 5:37:21 AM | | You know,I took this offensively when i first read this.Assuming that us single woman with children are looking for someone to take care of us. I am sure that there are some people out there like that with /without children. My children already have a dad, we are just not a family together as one.I am looking for myself, someone to share my life with. You will not meet my children untill I know where the relationship is going, cause if your a fly by night man they dont need their life interupted and put their emotions out there. If they had a dead beat dad, then that is why they have me.Just my point on the issue | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/25/2006 4:53:08 AM | | we all know i didn't read all 50 pages of this so i'm gonna put in my 3 cents here at the end and leave before another 50 pages crushes me. i have 2 boys, their currently sleeping upstairs. women don't like men that do well for themselves and have children. i think, esp around here, it makes them feel inferior. i live on my own, i have no problem keeping food in the house, the power, gas, water, phone and cable on and gas in the cars. only working myself. i work 40 hours a week and i feel bad cause my kids always ask me when i'm coming back home. so yes i defenatily admit there is some hesitation between women and men with kids. women are trapped in that 12 y/o free spirit mode for their entire lives where as men acutally mature as time goes on | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 4:18:25 AM | | My children were very young when I divorced..the men I met had no problem with it,but,I never introduced my dates to my children right away. Why turn a casual date in to a family affair if you don't know where it's headed? Children don't need all this confusion. | |
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Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 1229 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 5:48:20 AM | | well said shedevil1971, ive brought up my kids on my own as there dads have never had anything to do with them,they never wanted to know them.ive provided for mine myself also.Our kids are with us for life....men come and go. Is there any man out there that will take on "special needs" children?? as 2 of mine have special needs....Im not holding my breath | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:47:41 AM | | I wouldn't know but my fear is that if i approach a guy he thinks I need a dad for my kids. the reality is I need someone my kids have mom and dad but not together.......I'm just looking for someone that will be there for me like me for him.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:50:52 AM | Yes, we exist.. I am one of them. I have three kids of my own and have found it difficult to meet people since I moved here. I have little free time but what time I do have I would like some companionship. We exist!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 3:28:50 PM | i'd like to find one of those dammit!!
it seems to me that every man i meet that becomes interested in me, tried really hard to show me that they like me, and then somehow start slipping away. My daughter is very loud..she'sa very demandin two year old..who likes to make her point known, in a funny way..and just like evry other toddler she has tantrums. So, usually guys get a little freaked out by it. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/28/2006 5:03:35 PM | | that is a really good question. i also have 2 teenagers and when a man finds out that, he generally slithers away or you get the really stupid response "will you sleep with me, you're obviously not a virgin??" | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 7:22:18 AM | | Well i have 2 kids that are still young and i have just met a man that is totaly fine with my having kids. we duscussed the fact that i have them all the time so i found that if you say strate up that you have kids and are a commited mother or father then you should be able to find that people are more then willing to be with you its just that you werent up front with them so they tend to think you may be hiding something else. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 11:12:44 AM | | Men do date women with kids/babys and most of the time it is NOT the baby/kids fault why the men choose NOT to date the woman i know some men who do not want to be with a woman because she has kids but i also know alot of men who, will date a woman even if she has kids/babys it is NOT the child/baby fault or reason why men would NOT date single moms i think the reason is the "mom" is why men run/scare away from women with kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 1:12:44 PM | Yes, men do exist that date women with kids.believe or not, it's true.I met a wonderful man 11 1/2 mths ago that no problem with the fact that i have 2 young kids..Of course it may have helped with the fact that he also has 2 young boys.. but with his personality i don't think it would have been a issue anyhow...so to all you single moms, and dad's alike there are men/women out there willing to date a single parent.And it's not just my own experience but many of my gf's are also single mom's or have been, and have dated men that had no problem with the fact they had children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 1:13:53 PM | Hi,
My last relationship was with a women that had two boys that were 4 and 6 when we became a couple. This relationship lasted for three and a half years. Three good years, but last half year I could live without. The kids had nothing to do with the relationship breaking up. This lady always told be how wonderful it is to have your own kids, and she always added "... but you don't know how that feels". The reason for me not dating women with kids is that the probability for them wanting to have one with me drops to almost zero if they already have two or more, and now I want to meet with somebody to start my own family.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 3:53:56 PM | | christ there is alot of answers on this one, i am a single dad and yes i have my daughter full time she is 11, but trying to find a women that will except it is another question, i am quite happy to find somone who has kids as i feel that we would share things in commen like bringing up children so there would be the first building block. and why is it on here some of the women class men with children as baggage, you look at there profile and youve guessed it they have children, it just makes me laugh that they have only one brain cell when they put that, i have dated somone in the past who had 3 kids an 8, 15, and a 18 year old and mine of 11 so to your answer shedevil there is a lot of men who would, just trying to find a women who would. all the best out there to all the single dads its tough but there is somone out there. | |
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Joined: 7/11/2006
Msg: 1242 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:08:06 PM | Don't have trouble finding dates; have trouble finding time to date as have kids around 99% of the time. Absence makes the fond heart wander, and all that... so, never see who i am dating and end up just not that interested as they are never around.
I never could spell "absent" | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/29/2006 6:19:29 PM | Hi.. first of all I think they do exist and where are they is something I still have to know myself. I have a 10yr old daughter and I been singel for more than a year. and a lot of guys that I chat with tells me the same thing. They don't like dating women with kids just becouse too much hassel for them and if they do and the relationship dont work out, there is another person involve. And also they said we (singel mom) have way too much drama. Which not true at all. I think some guys are just looking for the easy way out... and mostly they will date singel moms just to get laid... So, how is that for truth?
Anyway, all I can say is there is nothing wrong to be a singel mother or to be a singel DAD at all. we did not choose for the lives that we are in now but we are trying the hardest to make the best of it. All we need is someone to give us a chance to be happy again and except us for who we are...happy fishing.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/30/2006 3:41:26 PM | First and foremost it should not matter wether or not the woman has kids and there are alot of guys out there who will date a woman who does have kids.I think that one of the major issues is that alot of men do not understand that when you are dating a woman with kids,the kids come along with the package.It is not too say that they are looking for a father for their kids,but at the same time with the way things have gone in this world and with alot of fathers leaving both the mother and the kids to fend for themselves,it does not hurt to at least try and be a positive role model in their lives.So yes they are out there and they really are not that hard to find.Due to the fact that I came from a woman and was raised by a single woman,I have mad respect and alot of love for those single moms out there. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:04:38 PM | | I would. There are lots of desirable single mums out there! I am also a father already and I really enjoy having young kids around. Dating someone without young kids would be a challenge because I would want to have kids again and I don't think that she would want them that fast if she didn't already have them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2006 5:55:58 PM | Thanks CANIBN2U!!! I really like what you said. And I myself have a lot of respect for singel mom out there and singel Dad.Becouse I know how hard it is to raise a child by yourself with out any help from the father.But, he recently wants something to do my daughter and I think it is notfair for me. After not having any contact with her for 8yrs, he shows up and wants a custody of her. Can Anyone tell me how fair is that.? But, she is the father of my child and that is something that I can't change. no matter what. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 7:54:11 AM | | yes there is guys out there that will date a lady with kids my ex had 4 kids when we meet and the lady im seeing not has 4 kids so there is still some men out there just keep looking | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 7:56:24 AM | | yes we are still out there i married a lady with 4 kids now we split after 13 yrs and im seeing a lady raising her grand kids so we are still out there just keep looking | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 9:15:14 AM | I have a 12 yr old son and I have never had a problem with my son and dating. I have certain days that I can go out and certain days that I can't and that does not seem to be a problem. Most men that I have dated like hearing about the adventures of my son and what is new with him, they ask!!! My sister had two children before she met her husband and now together they have had another...he is an amazing and guess what he adpted me too, lol now I have big brother and an awesome uncle to my own son. My mother married a fantastic man as well she had two adult children (my sister and I) one granchild and one on the way (my son). He is absalutely amazing!!!!! He has stepped in as father and grandfather and loves every minute of it he now has a total of four granchildren and I think he feels very fortunate, he looks forward to fathers day every year! He has never once faltered on expressing his love for all of us! There are some men that accept our children and some men that don't, but there are also some men that accpet somkers and some that don't. What I have to say ladies is sit back relax and adventually it will come to you. If you push your child on a man he will run away, nobody likes to be pushed no matter what is doing the pushing. If you try to hang on too tight because you think "oh wow...I finally found someone willing to accept all of us" he may also run away..nobody likes to feel suffercated. Its all about attitude and how comfortable you make a person feel in a situation. My son has a father and they all they have known that, but I always say...he always has room for a new friend. Guys never meet my son until they ask to and I find it acceptable, no preassure :) I dated a guy kinda off and on for years...it took him a long time to warm up to my son, simply cause he had never spent much time around children. They never spent a ton of time together (we were never to the point of settling down) but everytime I spoke to him about my son you could see on his face his concern and sometimes seemed kinda proud of him. He cared about my son cause he cared about me, would have probably done anything for him, actually I know he would have!! He was the last man on earth that you would have ever thought to put his arm around a child. Anyhow ladies this is quite long, haha! Sit back...relax and the cupid will take care of you!  | |
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