| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 9:43:34 AM | i was wondering the same thing, i am only 18 years old and i have a 7 week old baby, i have noticed that it really turns a guy off when you have a child...and most of the ones that don't mind are only into you for one thing...where are all the good ones gone | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 1:54:30 PM | HERE HERE!!!!!
I get quite the looks from people when i tell them i got marreid at 18 and had 3 kids by the age off 22. I did it on purpose, NOT cuz i was easy or trying to 'get out' of having to work...i will only be in my mid-30's when there all grown up...still young enough to do the other things i have planed for my life...but also im young enough now to have the energy to run around after them after a long day at work.
As for finding a man that is OK with dating a single mom...Ive never had a problem, and as for dating a single dad..bring them on..wow..not having to get a sitter everytime we wanna do something...being able to spend time all together at a park..movies at home...the swimming pool..that would b great...
HEY SINGLE DADS OVER HERE!!!! MEMEMEME! PICK ME COACH!!! lol
however i would be consernd about said single dads disapline actions....I admit im a strick parent...i am the ruler of my household....I only say no to my kids ONCE! no, i dont beat them..(often..lol...jk)but i dont put up with crap either and i dont let them get the idea they walk all over me or throw a fit cuz they saw someother kids doing it.
i taught them early on MOMMY ALWAYS WINS!
I treat them with respect and i DEMAND the same
early on my family told me i was too hard on them and that it wouldnt get me anywhere...hahaha proved them wrong...my children have NEVER thrown a fit in a store...have excelent table/anywhere manners and im always getting complements on how well behaived they are... am i bragging..ok maybe a little, but u would b too.
happy holidays and a very excellent new year to u all! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/6/2006 2:13:01 PM | | I'd actually prefer to date someone with kids, especially ones closer to the ages of mine. I have my kids half of the time so just knowing someone has their own means they must like kids...right? And what's with people who do not want anyone with baggage...what's wrong with a couple cute duffle bags :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/9/2006 7:38:23 AM | gee kayley , 7 weeks isn t much time , and your very young ,
I think you should concentrate on the baby, and staying close to you r family
right now, your very cute Im sure the men will stil be there six months from
now don t be rushing it, you LL just be jumping from one guy to another
and its likely they won t stick around , just get what they wont for a couple
weeks or so and gone, , hope you have some good family around you now
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/9/2006 7:57:07 AM |
i was wondering the same thing, i am only 18 years old and i have a 7 week old baby, i have noticed that it really turns a guy off when you have a child
The problem here is that your only 18 and the guys that you would date would be within late teen, early 20's stage, and most guys that age just aren't looking to date women with kids. Most are finishing school, starting jobs and establishing a life for themselves.
Your going to have a tougher time finding a man whos willing to date a woman with a child that is your age. But I agree with anjori... spend these next couple of years focusing on your baby and making a life for the both of you first.
As for men who will date women with kids... I have found a great man who has opened his arms to both myself and my son! | |
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Joined: 11/16/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/9/2006 7:38:20 PM | | lol you re funny and why would you think they are bad men ?? just maybe thier relationship did not work out .For all genders it is hard to bring another into a relationship in which you already have children or they do. it is combining not just two sometimes four or five an then inlaws on both sides and the exes family on both sides so in fact it is sometimes very difficult yet not impossible i m 42 have two aughters that reside with me and one step son and two sons from a previous marriage so i do know the full extent of it on both parts male and female and i dont know how many dead beat dads tere really are or how many dead beat moms there are and i dont care .What i do know is that when find a person or a possibility of one i am very honest and down to earth and i dont let my children in on it even though thy are continuously asking daddy when are you going to find somebody ,seeing i just got out of a relationship with a nice lady that had no kids of her own it has opened my eyes to the fact that i dont want to actualy date women that dont have children unless of course they cannot have children and really want them for they to me are the only ones that i would even begin to get into a relationship with .You have to have a good undestanding of oneself and your children and the erson you are getting involved with has to as well so sinbad get a grip sired is for horses and just becuase a relationship did not work out means nothing other then things in another persons life may not have worked out for the best | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/10/2006 6:18:27 AM | There's nothing wrong. Most guys don't want a ready made family. I myself am fixed and if i meat a lady without kid and she wants kids..It $5000 dollars to be unfixed. So logicaly it would make sence to meat a gal with kids. Plus my kids come first they don't live with me and i'd drop everthing when ever, including walking off my job for them.Most guys can't handle not being number one. By the time they can they don't have the time or the paitence for the kids. Life kind of sucks like that..
I hope you have better luck in the future.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/10/2006 11:02:31 AM | | I raised 2 kids (1 from birth ) that are not bio-logically mine . Sperm donation does not make a father . Yes we eneded up married and now divorced and i have to legally pay child support( which i don't care) But a guy has to be carefull datinf / developing a relationship with a lady with kids, If he becomes a father figure in those kids lives he is or can be held responsible for child support, Regaurdless if the biological father pays or not!!!!! Love my step kids with all my heart and for me it has been ok but incase your wondering that could be a reason | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/13/2006 7:45:43 PM | Dear elb,
I agree 150% with you that your kids come before your realtionship with a bf or the guy you are seeing. I am seperated myself for 3 years now and looking forward towards the divorce after a 12 year marriage. I wouldn't expect you (if we were together) to put me before your kids. I expect my significant other to take care of their kids first and I will be there for the woman I am with AND their kids 24/7/365. Its the way I was raised and am there ALWAYS for my friends and family. Good luck with your search in finding the right one and if you like to become long distance friends and talk, you can e-mail me on Plenty of Fish or buddyboy0831@yahoo.com. Hope to talk to ya soon and good luck.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:35:37 PM | | in response to the kids getting attached to someone....i won't let it happen AGain..i was seeing a guy for a few months and he did lots of things with myself and both kids..seemed real great from the start...BUT, my son (while missing his dad) grew very attached to him in a short period of time so when we broke up it hurt my boy maybe as much as it did me...so i guess i'm being more carefull and not letting someone get close to them agani til there's something real there...something i know will last | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/14/2006 3:56:18 AM | Hi She Devil
Indeed i would date a woman with children respective of how old they may be
i would respect and raise the kids as mine if we stayed together as hopefully my ideal partner would with mine
it would give me a sense of security knowing someone else understands the children other than myself | |
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dannol
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Joined: 9/29/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/15/2006 5:07:30 PM | there is hope there are some of us guys that will only date woman with kids cause with out kids thers or there partners there life is empty so dont give up we do exist               | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/16/2006 11:48:07 PM | | I believe men are turned off by children because they feel that if they date a lady with children then they are going to have obligations to take care of her kids. Most men don't like other peoples kids. So it's sad to say, but it's not you, it's the children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/17/2006 1:34:13 PM | I'll try to be as understanding as i can, however such women pose too big a risk to a succesful man. First of all from what i've read on this subject here it would seem to me that women feel the male domain owes it to them to just blindly accept women with children. We dont. To imply we do only demonstrates the same shallowness you apply to men. In Canada men are screwed because any woman can sue you for child support regardless of the biological father and thats just plain messed up, i personally refuse to participate in such a one sided affair. I've worked hard to get where i am in the world and chancing that on benevolence of single moms is completely absured. Then theres the more compassionate side of things...i personally adore little people as my nieces and nephews can attest but hey when my "single mom" g/f decides i'm not worth it for whatever reason not only do i lose my mate but now i lose my new instant family that i've put time and effort into loving oh and also theres that niggling issue of her trying to sue me to pay for her offspring... all things considered i'd be a retard to knowingly welcome such risk, few if any women are worth it unless theres some magical crystal ball that will give me the assurances i need. Its just plain stupid for men cognisent of the situation.
Ps. this wont make me a favourite here but i dont lie...truth hurts sometimes. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/17/2006 3:55:35 PM | Everyone is entitled to their opinion for sure.. as for sueing anyone for child support that is just insane but then everyone is not me....I am not looking for a dad ..rather someone to hang out with me sometimes.. I was in a relationship for 6 yrs with a guy, who became my daughters step dad.. they were closer than her and her own dad are.. sadly so .. but this is not what I am saying .. lots ppl are looking for daddys for their kids not me.
I would date a single dad for sure just cause they know what I would be going through..my last bf didnt have any kids. The ones without kids have no clue to what we go through as parents....
And men do actually date women with kids just not many of them out there left... or I have not found any and I wish I could. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/17/2006 4:26:09 PM | I am 39 and single and I have 3 kids.
I prefer to date men with children but haven't had much luck finding any.
I was told by the guys at work that kids are baggage and I shouldn't be too picky. I don't agree with that at all. I am not going to settle for just anyone who will take me in. I own my home and do pretty well for myself. My kids are taken care of just fine.
Why is is so hard to find a good guy?
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inachu
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Joined: 11/18/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/17/2006 11:05:34 PM | I find that men like you when they first talk to you and everything you have to say, but as soon as you mention you have children the vibe totally changes.
I agree with this 100%
It is VERY true, exactly how i feel lol... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/18/2006 2:12:17 AM | well cuteone824-a single dad here-have 14 year old twin boys who i have been bringing up myself now for the last 9 years. as for me i ONLY date women with kids now because they understand the hardships of being a single parent.so just keep looking around-there are quite a few of us now a days. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/18/2006 8:45:22 AM | | I try not to date anyone who doesnt have children. The exception is if they have dated someone before who had children. Children present alot of challenges that the average childless person, may never have even thought of. | |
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