| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/18/2006 8:55:09 AM | I am currently dating a lady with 2 very cute kids...
they are not teenagers but that is cool...
So I guess to answer your question.... yes I have and continue to date women with kids. and I live in Canada eh!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/19/2006 5:24:35 PM | I have to say that there are men out there that do date women with kids... regardless of age.
I have had a couple of relationships with men, the catch is they usually come with kids themself. So if you don't want anymore then you are going to have trouble finding on without. They are out there .... but you have to weed through the pond to find them.
It is one thing to find a man that will date a woman with kids... but unless I am not the norm, I never let them meet them. I see it like this... it usually take at least min of three months to even start to get to know someone... then another three months to decided if they are worth meeting your kids... so what is the rush? Have fun while you can and the perfect man for your life will fall into place at the right time. Life is about timing... so is love  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 6:24:20 AM | | I have a teenage son and men automatically assume that I'm looking for a father for him because they are dating me.My son has a father and he has a relationship with him and that actually is very far from the truth.I can see where that would be an issue with some women but not with me...on the other hand,instead of pretending he doesn't exist(which seems to be the case) it would be one of the first things that needs to be discussed.It's hard being a single mother with children because my son has priority still and until a man shows he is worthy of sharing our lives with him, that won't change. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 6:44:04 AM |
Children present alot of challenges that the average childless person, may never have even thought of.
That still tends to get me laughing when I see comments like this.
2 of the 3 previous relationships I've had, the woman had kids.
I still have no kids of my own, but I'm not going to say NO to a woman that likes me for me, because she has kids.
The 2 of the 3 relationships with kids involved, the woman couldn't have any more kids.
Again, that didn't stop me from liking her AND the kids.
So, with the one relationship I had, where I was constantly correcting the daughter for wearing roller blades up and down the basement steps, hmmmmm only common sense, that it's dangerous, but the woman said SHE will correct her daughter and it will only be HER to correct her daughter. That didn't go to far in getting corrected, so I took the roller blades away. When it came to disagreements, she was the one that used the kids as a shield, saying the kids were getting in the way. I had no problem with her kids at all.
SO, being a childless, single guy, what makes not having kids any less knowledgable to raising kids?
It seems the people with kids are the ones that seem it an issue to make forum threads about "do men actually exist that date women with kids?" Do women give single, childless men a chance to date them with their kids?
I'm not saying all women with kids are not giving single people a chance, but the topic seems to pop up a lot on the forum threads. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:41:21 PM | I so Agree with everything thta is said. Im a single working Mum, dont get a bloody penny for great things. Cant seem to find Mr Right. You think you have foud him, then he will lie, cheat etc. But afterf 7months of being single, im happy to be out of all that, i maybe left with his debts, but feel so free. Now im wanting and feel ready for me to move on, so my three year daughter can enjoy all family hood kind of thing.
I think we do a great job us single parents, we should be sooooooooooooooo proud of ourselfs. Bringing up our kids, making them for who we are. WE will find someone in time and look back and laugh. i hope.
Kim | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 4:37:58 PM | | Yes we do, trust me, im one of them, im not sure what it is or why, but my three previous partners including my ex fiance are single mothers. For some reason now i seem to be more attracted to single mothers, im still trying to figure out why and my family keep telling me to stay away from them, but what can you do?? I think it is mainly my strong desire to have a family that is driving me towards, the so called "ready made family". I love kids as i also know a lot of my friends do, i have a few mates that are dating single mothers at the moment and it doesnt seem to bother any of us. Guys all i can say is look at the person, not at the fact that they have kids, and girls think about this, there is only one thing i cant stand when dating a single mother and that is when - and i stress only sometimes because it depends on the woman - the kids aren't allowed to call you dad, and your not allowed to be involved in their upbringing, girls if a guy is going to put the effore it to be there for you and your kids and try and be not only your partenr but the kids best friend then let the kids make up their mind to call him dad. If you are living together and he is helping with the care of the kids then give him the respect of having some insight into the way the kids should be raised, yes at the end the decision is yours but at least give him the option, trust me he will love and respect a whole lot more for doing so. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 4:46:51 PM | I have to respect the single childless men who are willing to try and give thier hearts to a single mother.
I have to say we a different breed altogether. We have been there done that.. most of us are well rounded responsible adults. We have a bit more wordly experience and sometimes even a bit more maturity than the non parent women.
Not a put down...but it can be a fact. I think its called the EXTREME EXPERIENCE.
They have loved...birthed.... cared for and rasied children. Now when we go out lookinf for love we tend to put our whole hearts in it because the majority knows what we want out of mates.
I was kinda shocked that I went for a childless man after my ex hubby. But.. he was in a step dad role for 8 yrs and had alot of experience to bring into the relationship. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 7:29:32 PM | | wow, you seem like an awesome "DAD" i dated a guy for seven years and lived with him for five of them , and left him because after all that time he wouldnt let my kids call him dad, my youngest was 4 months old when we srarted to date, thats all he knew was for him as to be dad as he didnt have any connection with his real father. this guys ex wife even thought he was in the wrong for not letting him call him that , to me it was an honour for them to even have that much respect for him. its now been three years we have broken up and do you know he still comes to my youngest hockey games and brad still calls him dad, funny how things work out. my kids deserve to call someone dad on a regular basis, its important to a kid to do so, and one day i hope to find that special guy. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/20/2006 9:23:08 PM | Single father of two wonderful kids who is destined to date single mothers with kids. Single women with no kids are scared of the "insta-mommy" factor and usually shy away. They won't even contact me on this site for that fact. Or if they do, they do not want to meet the kids for awhile and when they find out about my snip-snip procedure, they stop calling as they still want kids.
Yes, I date single mothers. Proud of it!
Matty | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/21/2006 6:27:18 PM | It has been my experience that my kids have actually HELPED me attract men. Then again they are truly a joy to have around. Many kids are not. I have a 24 yr. old daughter who is on her own, a 16 yr. old daughter and 13 yr. old son who have never been grounded, never been spanked, and do not need me to raise my voice to. They just want to please me. We've been a one parent unit for almost 10 yrs. and all of our financial and emotional trials have brought us even closer. I find men see our relationship and it is a witness to the type of person I am.
As for dating men with kids, bring them on! I hope to find a man who understands what it is like to be a parent. Oh and might I add - I particularly love teens! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/22/2006 3:52:45 AM | Yeah, no problem dating a single mom with 'almost teenagers'......
Guess you think that 'teenager' might be interpreted by men as being a problem.
However, I look at it as they are potentially more independent.
Yeah - there can be 'problems' with teenagers, but I don't think that there is anything 'normal' that makes me think twice. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/23/2006 3:56:45 PM | Of course there are guys out here who really dont mind woman with kids !! The question i would ask if a woman who is in her 30's or 40's and didnt have kids or a history or marriage, would be why not ????
My only worry would be how many?? seriously, 1 or 3 kids no wories but when it comes to 3 or 4 and by differant guys !! Alarm bells should ring !!!!!!! Not totally fair i guess but heh thats alot of kid making !! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/24/2006 1:17:15 AM |
The question i would ask if a woman who is in her 30's or 40's and didnt have kids or a history or marriage, would be why not ????
The simple answer is not everyone is particularly fond of kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/24/2006 8:50:12 AM | yes they do, a good man will not let kids stop them from a grate thing...country boy
Well said, Countryboy! I think women with kids hope to find a guy who not only will tolerate but appreciate their children. It can take a special kind of man, but isn't someone special who we all hope to find?
Men who have had their own children also can bring a unique understanding to the joys/challenges of parenthood and will not be put off by mention of the kids.
On the other hand....a woman needs to be mindful about not relating to the whole world like she is their mother!
No guy really wants another mom (although all of us - men and women - need to be nurtured) ... he wants a lover and friend, I think!
~Boots~ | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/24/2006 2:36:21 PM | heres my penny,s worth im a single dad. and i would date a single mum in fact i like single mums better they would never gall kids baggage that is mum pet hate. but iv had a lot of mums say they would date me BUT iv got kids. iv got my stepson who lives with me and my two kids i have round as much as i can. they take up most of my free time so its hard to keep a girl friend. i hoping that 2007 will bring me love but not holding my breath, merry xmas to all  | |
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