| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/5/2007 7:53:39 PM | Here is my question....Why is it that when a guy finds out that you have kids, they act like you want them to be their dad? I mean most of our kids have dads(he may not be your favorite person) but they still have one. I don't think that after all of this time raising them by myself..I don't want some guy to come in and try to "take over". Sometimes we want the same thing that they want . Why don't they just ask? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:56:02 PM | | I have a kid also, and one of the things that I have been thinking about for a while now is if it would actually be better for me to find a woman who already has a child, so that we can both understand each other on that subject. My decision is that I would definately date women with kids. Back when I didn't have a child, I felt the same, in that I would definately date a women with kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 3:24:33 AM | | I think men who are mature...and more importantly secure with themselves do date women with kids....but it is like finding a needle in a haystack.....speaking as a single mom! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:13:29 AM | hey if its any concillation i am a single father. although my ex has cutodial rights over my daughter i still see her and still have too get on with my life too
i am a guy that does not and will not get between a person and there kids
firstly if i were to go on a date with a single parent as i have done before it makes no difference too me whether they have kids or not simply because im not judgemental and i take people for who they are
i dont like being judged myself so why judge others
there reasons for being single may come up in conversation sooner or later but the best part of meeting someone is getting to know them
i have no preference in what kind of woman i meet and i mean that in no disrespectable way
all im saying i suppose is that we are all equal we all have the one life we take chances and if they dont work we move on if they do thats where the best part of your life begins
so if there are any single mothers who are looking then why not check out my profile find out a l ittle about me and if interested then by all means share with me your glorious details and see how we get on
i must remind you also i am no sick pervert or anything in that way
there are guys out there like myself we all meet when we aare not expecting it and all i have too say now is single or not single parent we are all as one
we should all be treated as one | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:22:16 AM | I have 4 boys and, trust me, if there are men out there who will date women with kids I sure can't find them!!! My ex had two kids when we met and one of his daughters still spends every other weekend with me and most of her summer break. I don't mind if the men have kids. I couldn't imagine my life without Brit in it. I mention I have 4 boys that are with me full time and that she is with me part of the time and you would think I just announced to the world that I am a carrier of the bubonic plague or something. The only men that do send me messages (no offense guys) are 55-60 year old men. I am interested in someone closer to my age ....by about 20 years!! I have had a few married men extend what they felt were "generous opportunites" and were totally confused when I told them no. Or my personal favorite is we can have sex but I don't want to be in a relationship with someone with kids. What the f*** is that?!!!! My ex was a total a$$ and I am beginning to think that most men are somehow related to him.
I know. I sound pretty jaded. I realize that there are some really wonderful men out there who take care of their kids, have a good heart, and are totally nice. I just haven't met them yet. | |
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| thats not the question hunny its do women date men with kids
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:22:57 PM | | and in my eyes men date women with kids only if they have them there selfs be cause we feel as if we would step on your toes and most men are teriffied of the idea of dateing a women with children if the have none of there own so the answere to your question is yes men do date women with children you just have to find the right type of men | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 7:11:29 PM | | Way to go Montana man, knew you couldn't be from Minnesota, because I have been single since 1997 when my kids were 1 and 3 and have yet to meet a man that is willing to engage into a commitment because I have children. My kids are now 10 and 13 and the last guy I went out on a date with had the balls to tell me to look him up in 8 years after my kids were gone -- PLEASE, he's the last person I would call upon. Maybe in 8 years after the kids leave, I'll move out of state where there's REAL men!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 7:15:18 PM | | I hear ya on that -- if guys would just think before opening their mouths, would be nice for a change. I even tried explaining that to a guy one time -- the response I got from him "what I'm not good enough to be their father?" Man, it was like damned if I do and damned if I don't. Simply put, I want a relationship for myself and yes the kids are part of my life and I just want my partner to respect them and be comfortable around them -- they don't bite. I am not asking for a father for them -- I am asking for a partner for me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/6/2007 7:20:02 PM | | I think I have the same men answering my ads!!!!! I hear ya on the "well we can just have sex" -- yeah, well I think I p*ssed off a few of them when I told them that I can get the same thrill from the romantic party catalogs, they make toys nowadays. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/7/2007 8:36:24 PM | | Unfair you say? What about people like myself without kids? You ladies seem to think that I should act as if I have knowledge of what it's like to raise kids and because I don't, I get the cold shoulder. I always thought a lady would appreciate a hard working, nice guy. I never realized knowledge of child rearing was also included. How do you propose I get the experience? Before you brush me off for lack of knowledge, remember what life was like before you had the knowledge. How quickly you forget. Do you suggest I date ladies whose kids have flown the coop? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/7/2007 8:44:10 PM | | Thank you for saying that. I've met people that tell me right off the bat about a "package deal". Shouldn't getting to know the lady be the first step before the rest of the family gets involved? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 11:13:24 AM | What amazes me most is...you could meet someone a few times and as soon as you mention children, you never hear from them again?!
The guys who are willing to date women with kids are most likely the ones who already have one of their own.
So why are all the single unattacthed men and women afraid of starting a relationship with someone who has a child?
I have a 5yr old son who anyone could grow to love, but it seems impossible to find that special someone. I would choose being single and having my son over not having him and being in a relationship.There is nothing like looking into the eyes of a being you brought into this world.
It seems Like I'll be single for a long time because I have a son, and who knows maybe forever, but he was worth it.
So is there really hope for us to find that special someone?! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:49:22 PM | They do, but if they are like me they are just scared to get involved with a woman who has a child because if the relationship goes downhill, they may become attached to the child and will be hurting because of losing two loved ones, not just one.
My two cents, hope it helps you out.
Adam | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 2:17:17 PM | | I had my kids young for a reason as well, but now being single again, I have to say I wouldn't mind having more kids. I don't want to be someone's replacement daddy, been there done that. I will however take on the role of adult role model with someone who is willing to have at least one more with me. So I guess there you have it.... there are some guys who will date women with kids... it is just less likely for those who have kids and don't want any more. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 5:07:30 PM | I have two little ones and I can appreciate what it's like to be looking for someone who is understanding that I have children and they are first and formost in my life. I must admit that the idea of having more children is hard to ponder. I love my kids so much that I just don't know if it's fair to bring more into this world knowing full well that the relationship may not last. It's hard enough that I couldn't save my last relationship and my children have to grow up with separated parents. Do I really want to risk that again? It's a tough call.
Regardless I have no issues dating a beautiful woman with kids. Check out my profile and give me a shout. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 5:48:38 PM | | I have pretty much decided I won't date women that don't have kids. Childless people don't seem to understand the priorities involved in being a parent. (I have a 12 year old daughter) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:35:20 PM | | If she already has a kid she more than likely won't want any more. I'd be wasting my time. Also I don't want to rasie somebody else's kid. Then theres teh financial factor. If it doesn't work out she could sue me to pay the child support depending on the city/town. Too much of a hassle in general. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/9/2007 2:04:28 PM | | yes they do im a atractive man 29 with three brillant daughters and im lookin its just everyone is so fake and guys dont want to be the father figure becuase they know they couldnt give other poeples kids the attention they need and deserve | |
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