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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/9/2007 9:47:23 PM | | Interesting, I've found that it's the women who steer clear of the men with kids. Seems it's ok to have them, it's good that your a good father, but, why do I always get questioned about spending time with them. As a single dad I know the demands of parenting, Why are there two levels of acceptance. Why are the demands of single parenting considered so much more important for the single mother. Do single fathers not chauffer their kids to dance class, swimming lessons, soccer, hockey...... Do single dads not sit in the evenings doing homework with their kids.....Do single dads not nurse the wounds, give a shoulder to cry on and stay up worrying when their kids come home late. I could go on and on but the fact is parenting is parenting! Why is it that most guys I know appreciate the demands on the single parent ladies we see but, god help us if we happen to cancel a date because of a sick child or have to arrange a night out around a babysitter.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/10/2007 12:12:33 AM | | i have been putting a lot of hought into this and just before putting my profile on POF, I came to the conclusion that single dads are the best route to go for finding someone to spend time with. Usually no games and they understand life's little challenges that go along with being a single parent. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/10/2007 5:51:00 PM | I think you have a valid point. It is such a double standard to want the women to be with them if they have kids, but as soon as they find out we do, their out the door. Being a single parent is very hard and anyone male or female that's a single parent get my highest regards and admirration None of us chose to be single parents, I know I didn't so the fact that we are hard working, caring, honest and independent should at least be enough to build on and get to know the kids. We aren't asking you to be their parent (father or mother) but just to interact with them and be a positive roll model. I'm always upfront with the fact that I have children. It's in my profile because when someone reads it, if they don't want or like children they see right off that I'm not the one for them. I know there are men out there who will date women with children, I just don't know if we are looking in the right places for them. Yes, we all have needs and wants, so let all of us look at the person and see how he or she is goe with that, not the fact that we have children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/10/2007 6:24:51 PM | | I admire you for that because I know it wasn't an easy thing to do. Don't let anyone convince you differently. Even if you were scared it wouldn't have made you less of a man. Taking care of a child that isn't yours is very scary, for anyone male or female. We just all need to be there for each other and just understand that it isn't easy doing it on your own. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/11/2007 3:36:04 AM | We do and perhaps, much more than you think...only, the issue is how many single moms sincerely would have another child with their new partner and marry or marry again???
I think the issues surrounding this kind of topic are very broad and most of us single men who don't have children need to learn more about the directions and needs of single moms as you are a unique unit with varying needs to that of a single women. And there has to consideration of the needs and aspirations of the man within the relationship too.
Talk, talk, talk and more talk.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:20:08 AM | I am a single mother with two jobs tht helps support my daughter just fine but that's not to say that I don't miss the companionship of another.I mean I am not looking for someone to financially help me or wouldn't feel good in letting someone else take the responsibility of raising my girl.
So I second that opinion I am just looking for a friend, someone to be there for me | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/11/2007 12:16:57 PM | Hmmmm, I have never had a relationship that produced kids, so I am looking for a younger woman that has little one's -- a baby would be nice. I've rocked other people's kids; I even taught one to walk and talk that was rejected by his mom at birth. I enjoyed one relationship with older kids -- we all had a blast. But then I had one relationship whose kids hated the interference with any time taken from them with their mom. That daughter -- 14 at the time, would be real nice to me and help cook a meal or do housework with me if I got there before the mom got home and wanted to surprise her. But when she came home, the teenager's head spun around 5 times and one time she even came at me with a fork. Consequently, no kids means I've missed a ton and sometimes feel like my life is being wasted. You can have money out the wazoo, but there is nothing better than feeling the breath of a baby that is sleeping on your shoulder. I'm just a tad over 50, was just told I look about 35 -- no dentures or hair plugs, and would love to meet a younger woman with even just one offspring, and a dog, a cat, or anything other wildlife. Just no forking with a teenager. (pun intended)
I couldn't agree MORE!! My problem is when you DO develop a relationship with the woman and her kids, why do they decide they want to be with their 'ex' instead? I guess most women prefer to be with some piece of trash who will abuse them rather than someone who'll treasure them and do right by her kids. So help me, the older I get, the less women make sense to me.....lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/11/2007 4:07:23 PM | | I was wondering the same thing but the other way. I love kids and would gladly date a woman with children. If did not have kids, I'm not to sure I would look at it the sameway. I think if you don't have kids you would look at them as a burdon and not the joy that you know they can be when you have your own. (notice I said can be....hehehe) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/15/2007 7:19:36 PM | I think the simply answer is, look, 'an example of relationship failure, let me stay away from that.'
> single parent if the man who had children with me was a responsable person
why is it always the guys fault?
> Isn't it admirable to work full time and not ask a soul for anything?
Studies have shown that children of single parents are in fact lacking (and the example that is usually cited is that of lacking a father figure). so yeah, you've failed your child, but you can convince yourself otherwise.. but trying to make yourself feel good about it.. so you buy them lots of things.. vicious cycle.
It's not unfair, it's actually quite fair. You get what you deserve? law of karma.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/16/2007 12:00:19 AM | | So what your saying is if we are single parents we have failed. You are a jackass! I didn't fail at anything my ex was screwing around and I am taking care of my kids working and going to school. Obviously you being on here makes you single and you have kids so are you a failure? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:26:16 AM | Bab I agree.. jackass.. an being a single parent does not make us failures because the other parent is not there.. not a choice we made..life just turned that way.. I also have 3 children..and I find it harder to get a genuine man to date me with 3.. if I had 1 or 2.. no problem.. and my ex.. was screwing around as well..and he is with a woman..who has NO kids.. and he never sees our daughter .. SO before some jackass has a comment to speak negative.. think with the better side of your brain.. and stop blaming parents..
and you men..who say you will date a women with children.. I bet theres a limit to how many children there are.. I cant count how many men.. would love to have dated me..til they see the number of children I have ..and then theres ones..who dont want to be with a full figured woman.. as beautiful as the woman are..they get shunned. but.. I live with the positives in my life.. my children and knowing that I am a good person with morals
Also.. I applaude all you single mothers and fathers.. life is not easy for us.. and GOD BLESS YOU ALL! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/16/2007 11:29:56 AM | Sorry Aquarian Kiss that logic won't fly.
My ex had 5 kids. The youngest girl was 3 months old when we got together. She graduated from high school before me and her mother broke up.
Yet I am still lumped in with the socalled "selfish" men because I have never married and have no kids of my own. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/16/2007 12:09:32 PM | | ok DRG... let me clarify my statement.. NOT ALL men have limits.. and it wasnt a logic.. it was my opinion. Not from my personal experience..but from hearing from alot of men themselfs and women on the matter.. not intending to offend all men.. Im sure there are different views.. and kudos to you for your williness to not limit yourself.. thanks for yours input. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/16/2007 1:39:51 PM | How is it that women post these threads and it not even consider that the number of children and ages is absolutely relevant?
-There are more men in the world that will date women with children than men who will not date women with children. How many kids and how old they are is of the UTMOST importance.
Many guys in my age range would love to date a woman with 2 kids if they're both 10 years old or older. Most would not date a woman with a 2 year old. Why? Because of the age and how many more years of child rearing are left. It's that simple. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/17/2007 4:42:23 AM | Sure do exist! I actually would prefer too date a woman with kids, Im unable too have children so its the best option out there for me!
Im single and childless would love too find a woman that has a couple young kids I could help take a part in raising.
Had it once, but someone decided that since I was there too watch the kids,, it was time to go out and party constantly..
IM YOUR PARTNER IN LIFE!!! not your live in babysitter to be used as soon as I get home! You deserve your own time alone,, just too get out and relax. Just dont take advantage of me, I deserve better than that! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/17/2007 10:02:46 AM |
Many guys in my age range would love to date a woman with 2 kids if they're both 10 years old or older. Most would not date a woman with a 2 year old. Why? Because of the age and how many more years of child rearing are left. It's that simple.
that right there tells me alot about the person who feels this way
my parents were in late 40's when i came along, can you imagine how big their hearts were to not care about how many years of child rearing?
if the age of the child matters so much, you shouldnt be near kids as it is JMO | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/17/2007 10:32:54 AM | "if the age of the child matters so much, you shouldnt be near kids as it is JMO"
Wow, cat scratch fever!
Surely that was purely emotions talking. Have you thought of why there is an option in profiles that says *Do not want more children*? It's the exact same reason people don't want to date those with very young children! WOW- makes sense now doesn't it?
Since people not wanting more children and people not wanting to date those with small children are of like mind for the exact same reasons are you placing both in the same category of *shouldn't be near kids*?
Sad…. Very very sad…. | |
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