| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:35:03 PM | | I have no problem dating a woman with children. I do however have a problem with being "daddy" to someone else's child. I also have a minor problem when you do date a single mom and you get the impression right away that she just wants someone to support her and her children. That has happened so much to me on here that I just shy away, period. Not only that, women, 9 times out of 10 blame the guy for your circumstances, like your all saints. Ha! Not every guy is like that. I shouldn't have to be finacially responsible for some other guys kids, someday for the right women maybe but right now not a chance in hell. I have custody of mine and I can't seem to find a date either. Maybe it's cause I work damn hard and support myself and my decision to have a child. Maybe it's cause I fight back. Some guys out there I agree with your point of view but as a man, I really think enough is enough. Alot of women just have kids so they're set finacially and don't have to work. Just about all of the single mom's I have met here tell me about their child support and whatnot and I just laugh. Children are NOT meal tickets. Maybe someday I will find a women out there that isn't standing there with her hand out and my point of view may change but I would and will date a single mom aslong as they don't want me to be responsible for their actions. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:57:29 PM | I have dated and been involved with many single women. For the most part it was great and I would do it again.
There have been other cases however where the ex wasn't worth the hassle. Other cases have been I have not been allowed to say anything about their precious childs behavior problems.
So it all boils down to just how much crap are you willing to put up with from a single parent.
If your ex is so important to you he would not be your ex. Yes there is a history and a tie between the two of you because of the children. Question is are you letting the ex control your life STILL.
If you want a long term relationship with someone you have to accept the fact that evenually they will be in a position to dicipline your children. Don't forget often they look at it as being their kids too.
When all is said and done it does take someone special to be a daddy, but let him be the daddy. | |
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Joined: 1/1/2007
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:22:13 PM | HEY I have 2 children 1s dad is dead and the other might as well be.
I ask no child suppoert and have never gotten any from my sons dad. I am very independant, all i ever wanted was someone to love and respect me as much as i would them. Everyones not thesame, but everytime i try to get in a relationship, I wonder if its the kids, im over weight, ugly, etc.
Would put a pic of me up but no way to right now.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/24/2007 4:58:43 AM | | i dont get that one, because myself, i have kids and they are my life. through everything i have been through, my kids have been there. i would rather talk to someone or date someone that has kids so we can do things together and so i can see how they are with their kids as well. a man (or woman) can say they are good people and parents all they want, but seeing it with your own eyes is another thing. i guess some women want all the attention and money spent on them, and if you have your kids, they know that they (the kids) will come first. there are good women out there that want a man with kids, you just have to find them. i hear there are good guys out there too who want women with kids, but i am not too sure about that one right now. time will tell. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/24/2007 5:13:58 AM | I'd date women with kids, actually that's all I seem to date lately.. sure its a bit harder to schedule time together, but not a big deal really.
I look at the person, what they are like.. whether or not they have kids is secondary.. as long they are willing to make some time for me.
Although since I have 3 of my own, maybe I'd be hesitant to date someone with more that 1 or 2 of her own.. can you say "Brady Bunch" lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:20:39 AM | you see the odd guy out there will date a mom...i don't know the reason behind this but some guys dont like commitment go figure lol...in my case im single now but i dont let the fact that they have kids bother me if they are nice and willing to give me a chance i say why not...?
My only problem is nice guys finish last and well thats the story of my life lol.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:02:29 AM | OH BOY. Here I am trying to be a single mom on my own by adopting an older child, it looks like I will have an even bigger problem after the signing of the papers. I do see it is easier for a woman to walk into a mans life and help him with his kids then it is for a man to walk into a womans life. I find alot of men do not and will not raise a kid that is not his. But geeeez, for 2 people to raise a kid that belongs to neither will be hard.
I am very independant and financially secure and need no assistance from a man. Looks like I will be single most of my life. Any feed back??????? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:28:41 PM | | Im in the same situation except my kids are boys. They havent had the best life dealt to them so for me to go out every weekend or leave them home with a babysitter dosent go well for me. I cant relax and enjoy my time. Ive been told that i let my boys run my life. WEll yes maybe i have but until i can find the guy who understands that my kids need a little extra time right now i cant date. The guys out there dont understand. Just a little time makes things a whole lot better for everyone. | |
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Joined: 12/21/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:33:15 PM | | Hey... I'm a single mum. I make it VERY clear to a guy that I have a child. If he looks vacant or walks away, then it's his loss. Being a mum doesn't make me any less of a woman! Infact, it makes me a BETTER one! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:27:43 PM | | This is where I get caught up in the middle. Do I get the kid and sign his papers with or without a man in my life. Try getting to know a kid and a new man at the same time. The kid needs all the time and dedication to get to know a permanent mom, what if the guy doesnt stick around. Then I have a child with more confusion or I have a new man with a new child who become family oriented together. Everybody gets to know everybody together. I am looking at a 9-13 year old boy who has never had a permant placement in a while. I do not know which route to take. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 6:44:48 PM | | I didn't realize it was an issue, but I guess it makes sense because there are alot of people who just want to party and mess around but those aren't the kind we want anyway right??? There's also no question that there are much much more single mothers out there, but that doesn't make it a gender specific issue. My last G/F had five kids, three still at home, and I thought it was great, made me feel like part of a family, always gave us stuff to do together going to football games or whatever. I wasn't introduced into "the fold" until we were close anyway which is the way it should be. It's not a big deal to me either way. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:10:27 PM | | Im a single dad of 6, three young ones live with me they are 9,7,6. I look for a single mom to date because they seem to adapt more easily to the struggles that I have. This is a new area to me as I just broke off a three year relationship where my kids were very attached to this woman. She upped and started dating someone within two weeks of the break up and the kids don't understand. But I think it's important that it's the same for both single dad's and single mom's. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:41:40 PM | | well i am a single mom of a 7 yr old boy and i would never date a guy that doesnt have kids. i did it once after i had my son, we dated for six months and it turned out sour because he wasnt ready to be with someone that has kids and cant find a sitter at the last minute because he wants to just up and go for the weekend. but in my case i find it much easier to just stay single now adays, my son has adhd, aspergers and ocd and most people dont know what these things are much less wants to deal with a kid being around them that has these problems. | |
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Joined: 12/9/2006
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:32:04 AM | | Sure there are men who will date woman with children.You need to look in the right places.I have been looking for the "right" woman,children or not and havent had much luck. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:44:23 AM | ive always dated women with kids
never had a problem
ive got kids too and only date women with kids because they understand parenting
all single women dont
so to all the posts out there
you havnt met the right one yet
keep searching
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/29/2007 5:26:50 AM | | I must say if a man loves the real you then it won't matter how many kids you have. I am a single mom with 5 kids ranging 3, 8, 9, 14 and 17. Noone ever had a problem with my kids. YES there are men out there that would enjoy a ready made family..... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/29/2007 3:18:41 PM | Oh yeah it happends :) I love it when this one boyfriend of mine was so into learning about children, he's adorable! I called him when my son first learned how to walk and he;s like "ya , so what? Dont they know how to do that at birth?" LOL he felt silly.
It has it's ups and downs sometimes but totally worth trying! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:37:28 PM | Don't go knocking it girls, let them run.
I've got four from the ages of 18 to 6. I was with the daddy, unmarried for 17 1/2 years. Most dropped from the face of the earth when they find out.
Great, they weren't for me anyways. When the right man comes along, the kids will be an asset not a deficit. Same goes for you single daddies, if they don't want kids you don't want them. If their that shallow that kids make them run, do you want them?
I'd rather be single forever then have to choose.
It all a matter of timing, when the right one logs on we'll be ok. It's a big world out there. | |
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