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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/6/2007 4:43:20 PM | The real question is do women date single fathers with kid and can accept not being #1,2 or 3 on the priority list .Im a single dad of 2 and my kids come first. double standard anyone | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/6/2007 9:37:02 PM | | Well guys honestly? I think it works both ways men don't typically want the bagage and women like the freedom .... if both adults involved have children then the main issue seems to be the molding of the child rearing skills and the children working with you not against you to build a family! so as for it being a double standard I think its a two way street no matter how we look at it | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/7/2007 3:08:07 AM | Hear hear trouble9. I totally agree with you.
Since i separated from my ex, i made a vow that my children will not meet the guy i start a relationship with UNTIL i know that it may go somewhere. That way my kids dont get attached to them and get hurt. I think im doing the right thing, what does anyone else think?
I'd love to have a relationship with a single dad, i think it would make it alot easier as we would have an understanding.
Its a huge thing to take on another person's children, and i have a lot of admiration for those who do so. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/7/2007 4:59:20 AM | I wonder if there are any men out there that are intersted in dating women with two almost teenage kids and where are they?
Speaking only for myself & experience  , .I 'dated' a young woman who was 33, with 4 children, ... B 11/ G 10/ G 5/ B 2+, ... 'we' dated for some time & as I was not 'keen' on having any more of my own, ( B 16/ G 14+), .. but then the inevitable 'happened', .. so with the further addition of 2B, .. we continued 'dating' as we never seemed to have the time to tie the 'knot' so to speak, ..ha ha , .. after some 8 yrs of 'bliss', family deaths & other various problems, .. we finally parted our ways, ... :(....
If I had the chance to do it all over again, I would 'jump' at the chance, .. so many gr8 memories, .. & stories to tell, ha ha :)
So, YES, we are here, just have to prise 'us' out of the 'closet' & dust us off, .. & HEY, .. it works both ways uno, .. us blokes are single parents too, .. so are there any women that would take us on????
Ciao, ..  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:28:17 AM | They seem to be out there according to reading these posts but did not find one even remotely close to where I am. I have the fortune of them saying they oh you have a kid thats great but different story when its comes down to face to face.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:56:49 AM | Self Plug:
If you are a single mother, with one or two kids, are looking for a long term relationship with marriage possibilities, and want more children...I for one raise my hand and say that you have at least one guy out there open to you. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/9/2007 2:13:56 AM | I honestly dont think they do!!!
I recently met a great lad, thought he was everythin i wanted, an when he said he shouldnt meet the kids until we were sure about our relationship an where we were heading, i agreed cos i thought he was right, so whenever i saw him i made sure i had a baby sitter or that my kids were in bed. Turns out all he wanted was sex, he didnt wanna be involved with my kids at all, an more fool me cos it took me 10 weeks to work it out, 10 weeks of not seein my kids at weekends etc, he told me that if i didnt have the kids we would be together. What gets me though is he knew i had kids before we met!!!
Since then i havent met anyone cos im scared of pushin my kids to one side for a man. And that is somethin i dont want to do ever again.
Its like someone said, everythin is great with a fella until u mention u have kids!! They just dont wanna know.
So the answer to your question is: I dont know, I dont think there is!  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:23:19 AM | Absolutely agree with missy4u2 but from different perspective.
I went out with a working mum of 2 for a few months and took quite an active role with her young kids as they had been through a tough time and soaked up a bit of positive time and attention.
When the relationship went wrong (partly because dating someone with so much demand on their time means its hard to build an increasingly strong relationship / commitment) I felt that I had let the kids down, damaging the trust I had tried to build towards men after their dads failed them.
Having parent type contact early in a relationship is a dangerous game from the perspectives of both the kids and partner. I miss them more than her, they paid the price in a situation they had no control over. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2007 9:21:55 AM | well hello there yes i no what you meen if your entersted give me a shout i have a son that is 12 so give me a shout if you wish  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/9/2007 11:00:14 AM | | Broke up with love of my life 2 years ago, he felt the same, I have 2 teenage kids, said he thought the world of me but couldnt take them on devasted, so stayed single since, so in answer to your question I think the answer is no!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/9/2007 2:19:22 PM | there are men who want to have and raise kids and there are men who do not want to have and raise kids...those who want to have and raise kids are likely to be more open to date women who have kids...
those men who do not want to have and raise kids usually do not date women with kids unless the dating activities are not with an end game in mind. If a single mom who wants to settle down with someone eventually, those should date men who wish to raise and want kids---
both types of men "actually exist"'
Not everyone wants to have kids and raise them.
Not everyone has the desire to not want kids and are opposed to the idea of kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/9/2007 5:15:25 PM | | Sure people w/o kids want to date those w/kids. They may not neccessarily want to meet those kids though. So it is up to the parent to decide what exactly are they looking for... Someone to share their life w/ or someone to escape w/. Figure it out off the jump. It sometimes gets messy when you back track. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/10/2007 7:32:34 AM | hey names trish:>
hi bye the way, yes men do exist, there out there i happend to stumble over a great one. i know it's kinda hard to beleive cuzz usally men just want to get laid an leave an not worry about another woman's kid, butt have hope there out there. hey this is my email address
puddinz_84@Hotmail.com
peace out | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/16/2007 5:10:28 PM | | I think alot of guys forget that kids will grow up and sometimes move out but kids are great i have learned alot from kids. I would date a lady with kids no problem and there are alot of men who would. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:29:23 PM | | to be blunt, teenagers are more acceptable than pre-teens and toddlers. i don't have children (by choice ), so i can't imagine getting heavily involved with anyone who has children. i don't like the family-oriented lifestyle at all. i want to do my own thing when i want to do it. don't want any strings encumbering that. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:34:01 PM | | to msg 1477: well, you reap what you sow, if your screen name is any indication, i'm lead to believe you're 29. if that's the case, why couldn't you keep your pe*cker in your pants and not run around siring offspring? your best bet is with women who have children. i'm 38 and i would not remotely consider anyone your age (nevermind older) who has kids. deal breaker. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2007 10:19:21 PM | Is how many women who have children are genuinely interested in dating a man, going by what they seem to think is an acceptable arrangement. When I've dated women with children, all too often the kids are right in the middle of everything right up until it's time for me to go home. The mother may be happy for me to come over and socialize with (e.g., entertain) her kids in between occasional brief, noncomplex verbal exchanges with her, as she runs around the house doing stuff for the kids. Going anywhere together usually ends up being running errands that either are directly for the kids (with them along, regardless of what my mood may be about having anyone else besides her with me right then) or are household chores, or are buying not just her, but all of them, a meal out (with more child- than adult-level conversation). For a woman I'd date who had 2 children, I would be buying 3 other people meals, but would get given one meal when she bought or cooked me one.
Basically, all too often in my experience, women with children in the house who wish to "date" just seem to want someone around some of the time who will do things to help out that the father of her kids used to do.
It gets back to the equity issue: a woman with children wants a man who dates her to accept being # (#of kids + 1) in her life, but expects to be #1 in his. A woman with 3 kids is expecting a man who dates her to never be more than #4 priority in her life, but would absolutely lose it if he indicated that she would thus be #4 priority person in his life. There's just no equity in such a relationship. If a woman I was otherwise attracted to who has children could figure out a way around this, I'd certainly be willing to give dating her a try. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/17/2007 4:30:21 AM | I think that most men don't mind dating or getting into a relationship with women who have kids, I know that I will never do it again. I met a woman on this site, we fell in love almost from day one, I moved in with her and we started to talk about the future, awhile into the relationship I had a row with her son, he is fourteen, he accused me of pushing him. In the heat of the row I packed a bag and left. I had sublet my place to a friend so I went back there, after a couple of days I had calmed down and called my partner up and we talked things out and we decided that I would stay at my place to the end of my lease which comes up in a couple of months and then move back in with her. We were going along until I was working on her computer one day and found that in the two days I had been gone she was back on here checking out guys. I confronted her with this and had everything thrown in my face, she accused me of spying on her and putting my hands on her son;telling me that I had betrayed her trust. Here was a woman that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and she was telling me that I was abusive and a psycho. From the beginning of the relationship she wanted me to get involved, assist with setting boundaries and this is what I got. So, yeah it's not the kids that we have problems with but the women with with the kids.
BTW, I have kids also but they don't live with me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/17/2007 6:08:51 AM | Yes thay do im one of them im a singal father my daughter is 12 she is my prid and joy
wether the wome had son or daughter wouldent matter it just makes for a biger famly | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/17/2007 7:52:20 AM | | I have date women with kids and without. I prefer women who have kids because the ones without just dont get it. I am 37 now and I find it very weird dating women who do not have kids, because its like they missed the boat. I feel sorry for them. When I was a teenager I watched that movie 'Meaning of Life' by Monty Python, and after, I thought 'what is the meaning of life?' It is to procreate! It's that simple. Everything we do is designed to keep the cycle going. And women without kids will come up with all this deep bullsh*t about looking at art, dining with friends, seeing the world. Well get all of that out of your system and then go about procreating. Women with kids rock. They tend to better at sex, and more stable in a relationship. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 2/17/2007 8:18:13 AM | I have found that many women with children are less materialistic and more realistic.
They have learned that often it is the little things that matter.
Now that is in no way meant to mean that some women without children do not have those same qualities . I have just found in my experience that it is simply more prevalent among those with kids. | |
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