| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:04:18 PM | That is SO ignorant. Who says that single parents are looking to replace there kids parent(mother or father). Me for example.. My kids got a father and i am NOT trying to replace him. I am a women and I am allowed for a little compaionship in my life without resortting to casual sex. Ignorance like that is what makes the dating scene so harsh. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:25:02 PM | Yes, There is As I am one of them. Love childern.. Have alot of neices and nephew but none of my own.. I look at women with childern as a bonus not bagage... I think it has to do with the child in me that enjoys getting out every once and awhile lol. I find women with childern for the most part are more mature and yet know how to have good fun. So this is my feeling on this subject . If you have any Question ask me and I will reply.. Hope you all are having a great and fun day :))   | |
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babs3
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/8/2007 11:22:54 PM | To lovely (Evelyn),
My heart goes out to you. You are in a situation you were clearly not ready for or expecting.
Being a mother to two small kids on your own with no help would be hard for anyone! I know how you feel...I had my son very young too. Having said that, I think it is silly that you wrote how lonely you are! You need to focus on your kids and how to make yourself happy. You are so young, I bet you don't even really know what it is that will make you happy! You can't expect a man will come around and be the answer to all your problems. You need to find out who you are and at the same time take care of your lil ones. You should be too busy to feel lonely all the time. Switch your focus to you, your kids will benefit from it in the end! I wish you luck! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/9/2007 2:31:17 AM | I'm in complete agreement with babs3...
Having had quite a bit of psychology background, I know there's definitely a correlation of positive childhood development with overall happiness of the parent. With that said, happiness is key for child-parent relationships. It's important for your children to see you happy. But the source of this happiness can not be dependent on another. The only thing that will ever truly make one happy is themself. And you must find what it is that makes you happy. No one else can be the answer to that problem. There must be some source of passion in your life that drives and fulfills your required enjoyment for everyday life. Otherwise your stuck in a daily grind that is neither enjoyable nor beneficial for you, your kids, and everyone else around you for that matter. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/9/2007 6:27:23 AM | | Yes my love were out there allright well i am i wouldnt mind dating a lady that had kids it gives the male a chance to see what it would be like to have kids and me personaly would love to have kids but im too young at the moment i would be able to support a single mother though.,,.,.it must be hard looking after two kids on your own...how do you cope with it stress levels must be high..,????? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/9/2007 2:40:59 PM | | you can't begin to imagine the stress levels its is horrible but its nots so bad b/c mine is only 2. but yes i know that there are guys out that want to date me but i'm trying to be very aware because i don't a revolving door and well thats what i have been running into ok all thoughts and opinions wanted. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:35:33 AM | | Wow, what an opinionated forum. Of course this is a very deep subject. I've found out that some men can handle it, some can't. If they can't and leave that is a good thing, and their problem. Children are a blessing. The problem with alot of men is that they automatically assume that single mothers need a new father for their children or need help supporting them. Hello........Hint the word Single parent, we are quit capable of raising and supporting the children ourselves. We are just looking for someone to date or have fun with, and trust me single parents know how to have fun. I'm always upfront about having children, and you should be. I have learned though Do Not introduce someone to your children to soon, because as you will read here over and over, the children end up getting hurt..........and that really pisses single parents off when their kids get hurt........ had bad experience with that, but learned lesson! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:44:21 AM | Before my current situation I did ---
actually I dated over a period of time
TWO widows with Two Children each
both were young Widows as were the children.
The first woman I dated for a few years
and the second was near 5 years
Although the relationships did not work out
as for marriage -- both were good
There have been two other Woman I dated with children
Both Woman were self centered and the kids were Brats
(the children's nature were 100% of Mom's and Materialism,
Manipulative & Malicious nature) These did not last 6 months.............
So in the end it depends on a = the Woman
her nature and situation-
b= the Children and how they reflect the Mother
& c = what type of interaction +or- with the Father
Now that I am WIDOWED with a YOUNG Child
I am super cautious about who is contact with my  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/14/2007 10:54:04 AM | haha its true... kinda sad but i totally agree.
its differrent if you really like the person but, if you dont really know them why would you voluntarily want to get involved in a situation like that?
im a single mom and i am actually wary of men with no children who look for single moms to date! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:09:19 AM | I'd love to meet a single mom. I love my kid, your kid, and every other kid that wants to play sharks, monster tag, hide-and-seek, etc. One thing I hate though is when mom repeatedly rubs it in my face that her kids come first. Kids obviously come first so why say it - other than to anger the person you're telling it to. Grrrrr....
And then when the relationship doesn't work its always "Oh I guess he just doesn't like kids"  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:37:11 PM | totally agree with keeping your dating seperate from your kids until u both know ifthingsaregoing anywhere the kids orkid should never be involved asthey r the ones that get hurt too if thingsdon't work out. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:58:59 PM | | well i must say that there is men out there that will date women with kids and why that is is because im one of those men so may i say plz look this way hello........... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:35:31 PM | selina , thats a good question, one of my reasons is , most of the woman
in my age bracket have been married atleast once and allready have childern
one other reason is I come from a big family , lots of brothers sister s neice s
nephew s, I us to have childern around, hope this give s you some insight | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:44:48 PM | Well, here's some input for you..
I'm 40, single, no kids...
I have been a stepdad before, and it was great..
I would not rule out any girl because she has kids, but given a choice, I'd go with pre teen kids as I would be closer to the ground floor, so to speak, and could take a more active role in helping raise the kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:03:27 AM | I would concider a woman with chldren over 5 yrs old , that be a good age bracket
teenager s are good but they might foorm some animostity , ( your taking my mother
away from ,) may be ! under 3 and you may have conflicks about sharing time
at that age I would prefer the woman spend asmuch time with the children as
possible she my feel she is missing something and resent spend time with you | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:26:30 AM | | I would have no problem dating a woman with kids. At the end of the day you have a relationship with a woman you like and want to have a relationship. Kids come as part of the package and should have no bearinging on the relationship. Of course you may have to make the odd sacrifice to a night out etc... but then cosy nights by the fire are great too. Bottom line, if you like her, date her. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:07:31 AM | | its wierd but im on the other side of the spectrum,wondering the same thing. im the father of a beautiful 3yr old girl, what woman wantsh a 21 yr old boyfriend with a 3yr old kid???? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/17/2007 7:12:48 PM | | Ok, so I'm no spring chicken, but hello most women who are over 35 and are newly single again HAVE children! What things I have been getting when I contact someone on here that I think I have similar interests are: sorry I am looking for someone never married and with no kids. The men were my age and OLDER! So either they want really younger women with no kids or older ones who have been recently released from a convent ? I don't get this? Should I be looking for men who are twice my age? Sorry but I have never dated an older man......guess I should plant some roots in this pond huh? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/17/2007 7:13:17 PM | | Ok, so I'm no spring chicken, but hello most women who are over 35 and are newly single again HAVE children! What things I have been getting when I contact someone on here that I think I have similar interests are: sorry I am looking for someone never married and with no kids. The men were my age and OLDER! So either they want really younger women with no kids or older ones who have been recently released from a convent ? I don't get this? Should I be looking for men who are twice my age? Sorry but I have never dated an older man......guess I should plant some roots in this pond huh? | |
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