| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 3/18/2007 9:15:20 PM | I think what i have found is that for a guy without kids to date a girl with them or visa versa it sounds all good and dandy at first. Saying thats not a prob, however after they start dating i find they come to realize how much time is needed for those kids. She/he cant just get up and go out anytime called there is planning that is needed sitter ect.. So i think they without children find it hard to understand that. If you are with someone and you guys get pregtnant together you have 9 months to mentally prepare. Then you have "your" child to bond with. Entering into a new dating relationship not having that experence can be hard for someone to understand that time is shared. Anyways I do think there are many men/woman out there that are fine and understanding that it isnt just a call me now lets go out but that planning is needed and time is shared. And for those who are understanding to that SWEET YOU ROCK.COM!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/3/2007 3:48:03 PM | | I am a man and wondering the same thing since I have a 3yr old daughter it seems true to what you are saying so just looking for women with kids or not to date so if any takers email back | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/3/2007 9:11:27 PM | | I agree that we need someone for us, but me personally look at my kids too, he may not be their father but I would want them to be able to treat them as if they would their own, especially if we are in it long term, not financially, but playing with them etc. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/3/2007 9:48:22 PM | | Well I am a mother of three and I am the one taking care of my kids no man helps me . Not to be a ***** about this but most men want one thing and if they dont get it they never talk to you again. I know a man that as his kids and he is a great guy and I give him respect for it . I have found a guy that as no kids and we dating for about 6 mo. and he stop talking to me back in feb. I did everthing for him when he was sick I took care of him.The job he as puts him out of towm alot and I was ok with that.I would have done anything for him but I would not give up my kids for any man.( he never asked me to) so u tell us women that are good to r men what do we do to keep them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/3/2007 10:02:39 PM | I think there are many men who take the package willfully. I find that women without kids generally run away when they find you have one! What I can't understand is why there are so many people out her looking to find mates that have similar interests and don't seem to be able to connect. There seems to be plenty of potential matches here and on other sites. I just wonder if we may not all just be a little to narrow in our search. I don't know, but it seems there is some type of barrier. I would apppreciate the feedback so I know what I may do to enhance the likelihood of finding someone. It is not really an option living in the bedroom community I do.
I understand ladies with children need to be EXTRA careful. I just wonder after reading many of the posts by people lacking matches, dates, introductions why that is. There seems to be a number of very willing people on each side of the children/child issue. I am relatively new and have been out of dating for years. I was approaching this with great optimism. I mean before when all the sites were free I had absolutely no problem meeting ladies. Just wondered what everyone thought. Thanks! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/4/2007 7:48:44 AM | | i think you ladys have got blokes all wrong i may only be 21 but i would be willing to see somebody with kids when you get in a relationship you take them on to and i also want to be part of a family so any of you ladys looking for a lad to take on your kids aswell then im here get bk to me if you like and we can chat | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/4/2007 11:55:17 PM | It takes a special guy to date someone with a kid(s), someone who cares about the woman, and doesnt get scared off at the fact that if the relationship gets serious, that the kid(s) will be part of that too.
It is hard for both parties to deal with that type of relationship... the mom has to worry about the guys intentions and when is a good time to introduce her kid(s) and the guy has to worry about becoming too attached or if this is what he wants for his future....
I mean he can say he doesnt mind that you have a kid, but when stuff starts to get serious and he realizes HOLY SH!T this is really happening, it tends to either make em or brake em....
Which is why I dont introduce my kid to any guy i am dating until it gets beyond that make or break point.....
Also some guys seem to think you want a dad for your kid, but personally i am not, my kid has a great dad, just didnt work out with him and I...
It's just complicated all around is what it is.... but when that amazing guy comes around and it just works and all falls in to place(if that ever happens) Then it wont seem so complicated :P
Good luck everyone! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:36:51 PM | I think there are men out there that want to date women with kids and vice versa. Being a single parent means a whole new ball game......we just need to get out there and find these men.
I think we have all been passed over because we have kids or various other reasons and i think it would be better to meet someone who has kids as they will understand the time demands and dramas that occur nearly on a daily basis lol
I hold out hope and good luck to everyone in their search too :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:59:46 PM | Hi,
Just my own question here. what about women dating single fathers? I see alot of the women profiles and they say that they do not want children,even though they are mothers too? Am I reaading it wrong as a male? Please enlighten me.
Joey | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/5/2007 9:59:07 PM | I have one child that is enough for me more now, but my profile says undecided cause who knows, I do want another just way later :P
I was engaged to a single father.... I would date another single father if we got along well and it went in that direction :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:06:49 PM | Yes! we're out here but we single dad's seem to have the same problem. Relationships that last seem few and far between! Personally, I think It's time to stop trying so hard and just get some hobbys! lol I figure all the time and effort I've spent on women could just as easily be spent on my son, and I know HE will apreciate it!  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/14/2007 5:29:48 PM | My fears when comes to dating a woman with kids, is "Their dad still around ?"
I dont want to compete for attention, etc
I did date a woman with a 10 yr old daughter not living with her. The little girl had an endless amount of energy. No one in the house can keep up with her nor even tries.
I am able to keep up with her, it was fun. When I am around, I become the girl's favorite adult, she seemed to like me even more than mom. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/14/2007 9:53:55 PM | Well, my husband married me when I was 7 months pregnant with someone elses child. And to say that no countrydad older men are not crazy when looking for younger women or older. It is personal preference what you prefer, and love is not touched by age. My grandparents are 21 years apart in age, and the last time I knew of them some years ago were celebrating there 71st wedding anniversary. If it is crazy, then it is crazy in love.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:55:11 PM | | Yes there are,I've been in a relationship with a single mom who had four children ( all boys ), when I met her she had just had her fourth child who was only 4 weeks old at the time. Our relationship lasted four years and in those years I took on the children and treated them as my own, I did all I could to help out, over time the children and I grew close to each other, they trusted me, the baby grew up with me around and called me Dad. We were a happy family and the children had a father figure in their life and some stability, we did all the things families do together, days out, holidays, I helped with their education, the boys would come and stay at my house to give my partner a break. Then for some reason she ended our relationship and I lost her and the children, and the children lost me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/15/2007 12:29:35 AM |
my kids have a daddy and and he supports them just fine. i dont need a man to take care of me and my kids we are just fine. A man who likes me for me would be nice.
I completely agree, I would love to find one who accepts that i have kids but wants me for me and only me. In fact for the most part hes not going to even meet my kids until we're more of an "item" than just dating. I have to protect my kids from any emotional attachment at least for a little bit. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:34:10 AM | | I`m going to have to agree with you on this post. I`ve been a single dad for a while now. As I have talked with several ladies on here, that`s all it has been, Until I actually went to a function to finally meet with someone from here, with my daughter, to meet up with her and her family. We had fun, (not sure there is a love connection) I am new to the dating scene, but when you see a man at 49 raising a 10 year old daughter, I`m sure it`s hard for the ladies my age to really want to date and man (men) in our position. Most or (some of anyway) the ladies in my age range, on here if you read their profiles all say my kids are over 18 and out the house, or no kids and don`t want any. Well like you said My time and energy is better spent doing things with my daughter. Don`t get me wrong, I miss the company of a woman, but I have to place my daughter first and foremost as she did not ask to be brought into this world, As time goes on I`m sure someone in my life will appear and except me and my daughter, we as guys do know when a woman is for real, or atleast I do. I am not tied down to my daughter 24/7 she is a social butterfly and has many little friends where she is always invited to spend the weekends with, therefore leaving me alone then, and yet no one to enjoy them with. So for all single dads out there KUDOS and for single moms out there out there looking for ( Happy Ever After) maybe you should try men with the responabilites of raising children instead of the guy who is alone. Not to down childless men, as I have also seen these guys who are getting up in age, and now want the family thing. But they are far and few between. I guess all I`m saying is to all Single Parents, keep hoping. For someday the light from above will shine on you, and someone will be blinded by that light and need you and your family to help see Him/Her through life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/15/2007 12:54:05 PM | i know for a fact that there are men out there that will date women with kids, lets be honest here anyone over 30 who is single, divorced or separated will have kids and as far as i am concerned it comes as apackage deal. the way you are talking it sounds like the guys you are talking about only are concerned with themselves and not the entire picture. look around you will see lots of men who love children and usually have there own.  childrenadd spice to any type of relationship | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/15/2007 1:01:12 PM | reply to message 1561
answer to ur question, when a women puts on her profile that she doesnt want any more children, in my view she means her as a person giving birth again not the fact that she doesnt want to find someone with children! i have 3 children and i CANT have any more but would be willing to date someone with children.
if anyone reading this thread is in the uk and fancies a chat message me  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/16/2007 8:38:41 PM | | YES WE DO. AND ON THE SAME NOTE I'M A SINGLE FATHER BUT IT DIDN'T EVEN OCCUR TO ME tHAT WOMEN MAY ALSO DO THAT. bUT i GUESS IF EITHER GENDER DOES IT'S BEST FOR THEM TO HIT THE BRICKS EARLY. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/16/2007 10:34:21 PM | Mixed emotions 1971. My children are everything to me and we spend as much quality time together as possible. Being married for 20 years and raising three children I always looked forward to the day I could spend more one on one time with my wife when the kids we're older. Instead, she wanted to adopt a younger child and start over again. After the divorce, I wanted an older gal who's children had grown so we could share the quality time couples struggle with when the children are younger. I understand the children come first but there's a challenge to balance the relationship with the significant other. If I could find a woman I love as much as my children, I'd be in heaven.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:22:47 AM | I am a 30 year old soon to be divorcee' (the only reason I have not gotten the full divorce from my husband yet is because right before we were going to file he got deployed to Iraq) single mother of 4 and I am soooo tired of hearing that all I want is a daddy for my kids and a meal ticket.
I hear this because I was in an accident and injured my back terribly and am unable to work because of it. I am not looking for a meal ticket or a so called "daddy" for our children. He is an excellent daddy to our children and he pays child support. He gives alot more than people would think and I am proud to have such a good daddy to my children. He also gives me a little extra for me because he wants to not because he has too or because I want him too. He just does it.
I bet most of you are thinking then why divorce? Well have you heard the saying "we love to hate each other when we live together but love to love each other as friends living apart?" Thats how we are. I just wish that men would not be so quick to judge my situation and assume that I am looking for money.
And for those guys with kids.... Even though I have 4 babies myself I would not mind dating a man with kids. (not babies literally i just call my kids my babies) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/17/2007 5:50:29 AM | Of course they exist - as has been pointed out befire, good luck finding anyone to date over 30 who doesn't have any.
That being said, it is very difficult either way when one has kids and one doesn't. I have no free time and very little flexibility in when I can go out. This must get very annoying to my childless partner. Further, I think my kids are great/fun/hilarious/perfect etc, but can see how someone else's kids would be totally boring. Makes it hard to connect.
Men my age (without kids, or with grown children) are looking for someone to travel with, go out with spontaneously, and someone who is financially able to keep up with them - not really able to do that at this point.
Very frustrating for both partners, I am sure. | |
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