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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:15:00 PM | i agree with you. I am a single mother who lives in Lakeland, Fl I have a daughter and a son and their fathers are not in there lives at all. It is very hard to find a man you have things in common with and it does seem like once you do mention you have kids they stop talking to you. So with that being said if there is any single christian guys out there who lives near me what to start talking to see where it goes then check out my profile and let me know what you think.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/17/2007 3:09:25 PM | Hey
Well heres one that does!! i have 2 daughters of my own i raise em on a regular basis when they come visit me in school holidays, i cherrish em with my life and only wish i had em full time, anyway juggling a full time job to pay for lifes luxurys and supporting em fulltime is hard but wudnt change it for anything, its amazing how it sumtimes takes years 2 love sumone but with ya kids its instant. so my question is 2 u girls out there!! anyone wanna date me!!! just kidding. and theres nothing wrong with supporting sumone elses children. i ve done it. cheers, mart | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:41:58 AM | | Actually ahve to say i prefer men with kids. I hav e 2 yr old of my own and find its a lot easier to explain the dynamics of a single parent relationship to someone who knows a little more about it. As for men dating single mums i generally find most who do dont last long with me as they see us as easys lays then realise that our kids come 1st sorry guys but its ur sex that are making me think this so if your male and u disagree you need to sort out the lads that give you the bad rep!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:40:22 PM | | To me it doesnt matter if the person I'm dating has a kid or kids, I dont have any kids, If I'm interested in the person 1st we establish a relationship or something and if we know its a something serious betweeen the both of us and were both in love, then we both can learn to love to children together, Ive been meeting women with kids and I see no problem with that, as long as your honest from the get-go, I mean what do I have to lose, women arent looking for a guy to practically support their kids, they're just looking for that companionship, and if they come with the complete package so be it. but prefferabily I do prefer someone without kids, it makes it simpler do date and go out of town, but like I said I have no problem. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2007 10:43:18 AM | | myself i prefer to date men with kids. the problem ive been having is that when the guys here that my boys dad is not in the picture, they figure all im looking for is a daddy for them. ive been a single mom all this time and we have done fine, im not saying if i found a guy that wants to take them on , that i would push him away, but its not my intension. guy that support their kids, financially and emotionally get extra points with me. GOOD JOB OUT THERE YOU DADS THAT ARE "REAL"DADS | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:26:15 AM | | I agree! But also I would not turn away any one who does not have kids. I have 4 teenage daughters who lost there father July last year. The girls don't need a new father but a friend! To every one out there who had kids well done and I hope you find happyness and those who don't don't assume we want fathers for our children!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:51:38 AM |
myself i prefer to date men with kids. the problem ive been having is that when the guys here that my boys dad is not in the picture, they figure all im looking for is a daddy for them. ive been a single mom all this time and we have done fine, im not saying if i found a guy that wants to take them on , that i would push him away, but its not my intension. guy that support their kids, financially and emotionally get extra points with me. GOOD JOB OUT THERE YOU DADS THAT ARE "REAL"DADS
Now if you could just move down to Austin I'd be set......
But seriously, it seems difficult to find a woman that appriciates that | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/6/2007 12:09:44 PM | there may be some women which is the key word, out here that dont have kids but they are either into their career, into themelves, dont want any children, or are a tad too young to be dating!!!! there is nothing wrong with dating a mom or dad yes time may be limited but there is always time somewhere. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 3:02:36 AM | I will ladies... I love kid's and want more. I only have one child, a boy who is 4, that I love very much. I have joint custody over him and im just like you. aIt's been hard for me to find a woman for the same reason. Yes there are some women out there who think as some men do. But I know ill find my love one day. Just half to have patience. Peace-Out | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:14:27 AM | | I would love to know where these fellas are. I met a guy at work (he was a contractor, not a fellow employee) and we went out for a while. He used to call and want to go out about an hour later. I explained to him many times that I needed more notice to find a sitter. He didn't get it. He also thought sitters were free. The last straw with him was the day he told me he wished he had met me before I had kids. I thought that meant he wanted to have "his own" kids. No, he explained that he didn't want kids and mine were in the way. I've never thrown anyone out of my life so fast as I did him. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 10:58:36 AM | | I am in a particularly hard place.... I have 3 kids 6 and under and I am only 22, so automatically people think young stupid and irresponsible... I have taken care of all of them by myself and am doing just fine, but it's so hard to find a man with similar interests that is willing to start a relationship with a young mom!!! I am not looking for a dad, they have one!! And I am not looking for someone to pay for them... I can do that on my own...I am looking for someone for me and as a bonus a friend to my kids... can anyone shed some light? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 11:15:50 AM | poohbear: I can relate to what you are saying. I am a single with no kids who would love to give you a chance or any other singke mom for that matter. I have dated single mom's in the ast and am willing to do it again. What you must understand is tat some men including me have had bad experiences dating single mom's and that can spoil it for eveyone else as when they tell their friends the friends decide they will not date single mom's. I have had single mom's use me for money and a baby sitter, which is not a nice experience.
My advice is to be honest, tell the man about the potential challenges in dating you but try to provide solutions. If you are short on time to date say " I am a single mom, we do not havbe much time but I am free for an hour on Saturday, would you like to meet for coffee?" Tell them what you can bring to a relationship, make themsee you also as a person not just a single mom. I was out on a first date with a woman who was a single mom once and unfortunately she fit into almost all of the stereotypes of single mothers. Went went out for dinner then played pool and went to a karoke bar. At the end of the evening she thanked me for making her feel like a real person and not just her daughter's mom. I told her I wanted to see her again and she said she did not have time to build a relationship. She said I seemed like a nice guy and wanted to know if I could move in with her to help her raise her daughter. When I said that was moving too fast she said that she needed to move fast as it was the first date she had been on in 6 years, if I did ot want to move in right wawy I was useless to her and next she asked me if I wanted to go somewhere for some "nookie." She made a great impression with me until the end of the evening, that is what you do not do. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:01:13 PM | | I may be a single mom... but I am a woman too.. I am a good mother... and am always there for my kids.. but... when the kids are off at camps... and with their friends.. they dont need me.. I am left to sit home alone and wait till they come home.. It would be wonderful to find a man .. with kids or without kids.. that could blend in with my family. I dont have an ex around... I dont get weekends without my kids...but my oldest is 14 and is quite capeable of giving me a night out.. Custodial dads, make it known.. that you will never be more important than their kids.. Women like to be the apple of their mans eye... and who can start a relationship with a man.. that tells you up front... Their kid will always be more important that you... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:12:20 PM | Given the chance, there's a LOT of guys out there that will date a single mom.
Whether my kids (which I don't have) or someone else's, the whole package of a mom & the kids together is take it or leave it. I'll take it.
The thing I disagreed with the one single mom I dated, was she thought because her kids weren't mine, I couldn't discpline them and send them to her all the time. I was going to take her 10 year old's rollerblades away for wearing them up and down the basement steps, after being told NOT to and how dangerous that was at least several times. Then when things didn't go right and we had our disagreements she used the kids as her wall "the KIDS are getting in the way aren't they?" Ummmm....NO, not at all.
The understanding guy will have no problem with the time constraints on dating, due to mothering duties. If he wants to be with the person, he will anyway.
Why would a single guy with no kids date a single mom? Maybe because he LIKES her, kids included! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 12:38:52 PM | | well...i'll tell you my opinion on dating women with kids...to me it's a package deal...wether or not she has kids shouldn't be an issue...although some men...don't want to be bothered...but to me it's no big deal and if you enjoy being with that special someone...it shouldn't matter if they have kids or not...actually i raised three girls that didn't belong to me...not saying it wasn't hard at times...but to this day they still call me dad and that's really cool and for the men out there that don't go out with women that has kids...i guess you can't appreciate having someone special around...i look at it now and i see it all the time...wether their young or older women...most of them have kids...sooo...lighten-up and enjoy the company of that special women that might pop out of the middle of no-where and take a chance...you might like it and enjoy the pressence of a beautiful woman | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:43:30 PM | | Taken status? Just playing fantasy. I know he is one lucky fello now that he has a prize like you. By the way, What you doing over in theses forum's? You following me? LOL Peace-Out | |
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