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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/28/2007 2:06:58 PM | I have a 5yr old little girl and I am very upfront about it, but she does not meet anyone that I date until it starts to get serious. Since my divorce (2yrs ago) I have had only one sorta serious relationship. I have no problem getting dates and meeting guys, and never had anyone have any problems with me having a kid. I just haven't really found anyone I care to be with long term. I've learned over the years that you can't settle because you end up being miserable in the end. I've also learned that its easier to date a guy who has kids because they pretty much know that sometimes its hard to just make plans last minute or understand that no matter what your kid comes first and no guy will ever rate enough to get in the way of that. I am also lucky enough to have time to have a social life. My ex-husband takes our daughter friday afternoon and keeps her until Monday morning when he drops her off at school. I am able to have my weekends to myself and do what I want. I rarely plan to do anything during the week when I do have my daughter. So, there are alot of nice guys out there, the problem is finding one you like enough to be with long term. There are plenty of  out there, lol | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 5/28/2007 2:12:39 PM | I know there must be some good men out there that would want to date an accomplished mother with children. I just find the guy's my age are still wanting to be out having fun and I'm already the thing they are trying to avoid for a few more years.
I find I can get guy's to go out with me, but something serious? no...
I suppose my question is... are there any men that date woman with kids in Calgary? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/1/2007 11:41:50 PM | | I won't date a woman who has or wants kids. That doesn't automatically make me a terrible human being! I am just being honest about my preference. Many people regret having children. More and more poeple are being honest about choosing a childfree lifestyle. My chocie isn't about my being "selfish". My not having kids means more resources for your kids! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2007 11:51:35 AM | hey singleshy Ive said it before ,and your right the question isnt
are these men out there, the question is are they in your town ,
or neborhood , I am a willing partisapant , I in the Bronx NY. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2007 1:14:58 PM | ~~~NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR~~~
I recently met a wonderful man who is divorced with no children. He cannot have kids due to medical incidences from childhood. He is the most loving, caring, man I have ever known. We are getting married in a few months. My 13 yr old daughter adores him. Not only is he childless, he also is quite a few yrs younger than me ......so really, both messages I started about younger men and dating single guys with no kids....I HAD NO IDEA | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/2/2007 1:31:38 PM | I absolutely WILL date a women with kids...it's finding one who lives near me who will date me that's the problem. Being a divorced father of four makes finding dates ROUGH.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2007 11:06:33 AM | | yes they do and most older women have kids, men who are not interested are a waste of space, they are selfish and only think about themselves so dont bover with no immature selfish twat. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2007 7:48:13 PM | | What all you men have to understand before dating a mother is that her kids come first. Motherhood comes first. If your gonna date one you have to be understanding about that. Don't get down on her because she can't find a baby sitter and has to cancel, shit happens, accept it and get over it! Until you understand what it's like being a single mother.. don't critisize us. And yes, some of us have been hurt before but that doesn't mean that we're all going to carry that over into the next relationship. What you have to understand is that our children need us, we're all they've got. Motherhood is a huge responsibility. Your taking care of another human being, raising them, you want to make sure your doing it right and that takes up a lot of time, which is understandable to a reasonable person. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2007 8:10:06 PM | AND I think the definition of a strong woman is a mother. We can take care of our kids, get them fed and changed and all of their needs taken care of, go to work/school, clean the house, pay the bills and still find time to go out on a date. If you can't respect that then theres no room for you in our lives. And the same goes for single fathers too, they are strong men.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/3/2007 8:15:27 PM | | I have two children, I find it 50/50, there are some guys willing to date you and some guys not, which is understandable because they just don't understand the situation you're in. Some guys are really great though, besides, why would you want to be with a guy that doesn't want to accept you for who you are, and your children make up so much of who you are! I'd say if they don't want to date you, it gives you a greater advantage, so you can filter out the guys who don't want to love you, and those who really do will stick around! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 1:44:16 PM | | I WOULD HAVE TO SAY I HAVE BEEN IN THE SAME BOAT AS MOST OF YOU HERE. I FIND THAT MOST MEN WHO ARE SINGLE FATHERS HAVE A HARDER TIME GETTING ATTACHED DUE TO THE KIDS BEING HURT AGAIN, I AM THE TYPE WHO ALSO LIKES TO DATE AFEW TIMES AND SEE WHERE OUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOING BEFOR YOU MEET MY KIDS, DUE TO GETTING HURT AGAIN. I AGREE WITH SOME OF YOU ON I DONT NEED A FATHER FOR MY KIDS THEY HAVE BEEN THIS LONG WITH OUT ONE, BUT THEY NEED TO KNOW IN THIS RELATIONSHIP THEY MATTER TO. I MAY BE LOOKING FOR ME BUT THE KIDS ARE A PART OF ME AND IF I WANT A MAN HE NEEDS TO ACCEPT THAT THERE ARE KIDS THAT COME ALONG WITH THIS. NOW ADAYS ITS NOT THE WHO HAS KIDS THING ANY MORE IT SEEMS MOST JUST WANT CASUAL SEX OR A ONE NIGHT STAND AND WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET TO THAT POINT. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU ALL. I FOUND A KEEPER AND HOE HE ACTUALLY DOES STAY AS HE HAS CLAMED. SO FAR SO GOOD. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 4:05:19 PM | I still don't see why dating a single parent has to be so complicated? It's only complicated if you let it be!
The 1st couple of dates, sure have them with just the person you are meeting for a date. If it continues to be a good thing, then maybe include the kids with the next one with a trip to the zoo, or something fun and family oriented that everybody can enjoy. After all, that's what it's going to become if things continue to work out.
Then alternate plans, a date without the kids, a date with the kids.
I could be wrong, but that looks pretty simple to me. Not bad for a single guy with no kids to be thinking about stuff like that. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 4:12:07 PM | | They do exist!!! I have been fortunate enough to experience this. I am currently 8 mo pregnant and have found someone that wants to step up to the plate. It's just a matter of finding them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 6:03:00 PM | | I'd go out with a girl with a kid. I want to have at least two of my own and that typically limits out ladies with two or more. I guess the reason it doesn't scare me is that I LOVE kids. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 9:23:46 PM | Well me having a kid, I would actually prefer to date someone that has a kid-the understand more of whats going on and understand the responsibility. People with children (well, most people) are more mature and are set in a different state of mind-In my opinion!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/4/2007 9:42:31 PM | | I honestly do not belive that there are many men out there that will date women with children... I think the matter of it is that it scares them off.. i had someone that woudnt date me because he didnt want my daughter to think he was her dad... but honestly do u really think that your even going to get to meet my daughter.. not all women with kids just want a person to be a daddy to their children... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/9/2007 11:12:22 AM | Do we have a choice? Almost all of the ladies in my area...well have kids. I have seen but a few that didn't. Lord knows I don't wanna come off arrogant, but I'm single, 33, no kids, never married. In a word, Free. Most of my friends have children, and their level of spontaneity is severly dimished.
No going camping on short notice. No movies at the drop of a hat. No going to Jackpot on a whim. They have to plan around all things. As well as the financial concerns, does the little one need college or does mom and dad need to go to Jackpot for the weekend and blow a little dough playing cards?
At current I am rather used to those freedoms I mentioned, as well as a myriad of others.. I have dated ladies with young'ens. Still friends with all of them, but after far too many evenings or weekend plans were cancelled ( AND I HATE DEADBEAT DADS!!!) I had to move along. I know what that sound like, but when the time comes for me to have kids I will be ready to accept the challenges of cancelled plans. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/9/2007 12:40:46 PM | When I married my ex hubby, his kids, ages 9-17, came to live with us. I raised them and we had one of our own. My daughter is around the same age as her nephews. My ex and I have a good relationship and he supports her and she visits him every other weekend. She has a dad and she has a mother. I dont need anyone to take care of my child. With all of that said, I have had 3 relationships since my divorce where they knew I had a child and in the end, they decided they didnt want a relationship with someone who had kids. I waited a good amount of time before I introduced my daughter to them. When the time came for imtroductions, they got along great. In the end, I wasnt the only one hurt and she felt responsible for the breakups.
I know there are men out there that will date women with kids just as I know there are women who will date men with kids, because I am one. I know I'm not out here by myself. I think the issue for men that WON'T is that they want someone who can put them first and if they have any common sense at all, they know a woman with kids can't or wont. It's a selfish side to them, but yet we all have our selfish needs. I dont blame them at all. All I can do is hope that one day, there will be someone for me that will accept my child and me and know that I'm not looking for a paycheck or babysitter. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/23/2007 11:22:47 PM | i would love to know where all the men are that would date someone that has a 3 year old... and why they think they can play all us women with kids, because they seem to think that we are on the rebound. JUST BECAUSE WE HAVE KIDS, doesnt mean that we are gonna fall for ur tricks! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/24/2007 3:06:40 AM | | yes they do exist,and i'm sure you'll find love,please dont take wotever jumps at you first,as as not only as a mother but a worthy human being,if someone want's you bad enough they will walk hot coals to get to you,if it's love you want ,you will find it believe me,i have lot's of children and i'm a damn good mother as well as a good person,i find it hard as well,but i jumped once when this man took an interest in me,in the end i found out some horrid thing's about him that's made me very scared in looking 4 love,if us mum's give up,we remain alone and lonely,so please dont give up,this world works in mysterious way's,you will find comfort in someone soon,be proud of yourself,be proud that you've raised you're kids on your own,and never think that you're not worthy because you have children,as you are where would all these men be without their mother's and when you do find a man may he treat you with the respect that he treat's his mother,so good luck my friend,i wish you well. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 6/24/2007 3:35:13 AM |
I would not be a single parent if the man who had children with me was a responsable person. Isn't it admirable to take responsibilities for having children? Isn't it admirable to work full time and not ask a soul for anything? I mean it's not like I have the plague or anything, it's not like I don't have needs!! So I am in total agreement with your question-- do men actually date women who has children?
First off I agree that it's very! responsable and admirable for a woman or guy for that matter to take care of there children. I'm single and never married with no kids so here is a bit of perspective coming from someone like myself with no kids. There are many reasons that I choose to never be a parent. I did date one woman who I really thought things would work out and she had kids of her own. A teenage son and a younger daughter. I tried this one time and you know what happened? I actually got along with her son and daughter so well that they started to bond to me more then they did their own mother. I'm just being very blunt here, they became very loving kids and really liked me a lot, she even told me she was amazed how well the kids bonded to me.
Now for the negative. She began to resent me for dare telling her kids what to do ever and wanted me to take a back seat to all she said and did with her kids. I was suppose to sit in the backround and not have the final say with right and wrong with her kids. This was someone I was going to marry and things didn't work out. So the kids were hurt that I no longer came around to see there mom or them as they thought we were going to work out together and be a family, something that they never had since there real dad walked out on them years ago.
Will I do this again? No way, I felt I learned a lot from that relationship and felt like I was kicked in the teeth at the same time. I do admire single parents who raise there kids with that love they need, but thats why I will not get involved again with a person who has kids. Too much hurt when things don't work out. | |
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