| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/20/2007 8:26:00 PM | | I know what you mean .Try having 4 children and young ones they run.I think you are set just about right . Your children are old enough to mind self unless disabled and not much raising left to do.I know some do exist.But Where I have not found. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:50:30 PM | I can confirm that we are still out here.... just that not to many notice it. Come to think of it.. I can not think of 1 gal that I've ever dated.... that DIDN'T have children of her own already. Go figure!  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:15:34 PM | | i agree i have been on this site for a long time and have been searching for a long time and i dont believe that any guy out there realizes that single moms arent putting a big "Father" responsibility on them ...most single moms child have fathers good or bad and they dont need another and dont expect a guy who isnt the father to step up and be one... they are just looking for someone for themselves to have fun with. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:47:50 PM | I have found that talking about yourself and getting to know the guys your interested in first to see if youde even want a relationship is the first step--i have dated some men on here and i tell them upfront i have kids and it doesnt seem to bother them--we still go out and remain friends
and I look at it this way I dont look for guys who dont have kids if im attracted to them i approach them thats that--your looking to fall for the adult not the kid--that will come later..i feel as long as you like kids meeting someone with or without them should not make a difference -- being happy with who your with is the key-- kids should not come into play til it becomes an actual relationship..by then you should have figured out the kid issues and how you would handle that situation--i actually like meeting guys who have older kids, they can take care of themselves --other than the kids not warming up to you im up for the challenge-even as a woman with kids you just have to choose the right ones their out there just takes time
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:11:15 PM | My few experiences so far with single mothers have not been altogether pleasant, though the number has been small. It's been my observation that single mothers seem to be quite a lot more sensitive and easily offended than others.
To answer the original question, I don't think it's that big a deal if a woman has 1 or maybe 2 kids. Some guys do. Some guys like big girls, some like petite girls. That's how it goes.
I'll have kids some day, and as long as at least one continue my proud family genetic line, it isn't a big deal whether the others are technically mine or not. They are hers, aren't they? And if I really care about her, that implies I care about them.
That said, some single mothers are just looking for a new daddy to watch the kids. That's not wrong--it's looking out for the children, but dating is about a relationship with the woman, first and foremost. Yes, the kids are more important to that mother, but neither the kids or the woman are that important to me unless I am granted the time to get to know them. I am not looking to be a free long-term babysitter for someone I don't even know, and if that involves some sort of excessive effort, there are plenty of other fish.
That's the issue I think--time. Call me/men shallow if you want, but if I get to the point that I enjoy the company of a particular woman, I want to have a reasonable amount of time to enjoy that company, and some portion of that has to be alone time. You can't really have the kind of conversation where you get to know what a person is really like on the inside when she (and the guy) are chasing a 2-yr old the whole time.
None of this really matters when nearly everything I say pisses them off though. When I send a message to a woman that looks like they may be interesting to meet, I'll often give them a bit of a hard time if something seems a little weird in how they present themselves, maybe give them a little nickname from something in their profile, that sort of thing. It's all in good fun and not meant to be some sort of vicious attack, and it's also my little way of testing to see if she is an insecure nutjob that can't take the tiniest shred of honest (but humorous) criticism. Everyone so far has taken the ball and run with it, except for a few single mothers who got uptight. One implied that I was a shallow jerk, presumably because I suggested she post a photo -- any photo -- on her profile.
Well guess what girl, back here in reality, someone browsing a thousand profiles is a lot more likely to notice one that has a photo rather than a gray box with text. Deal. If she doesn't want to post a photo--great--whatever, but don't throw daggers at me for daring to suggest the idea.
So maybe it's just the two particular people I contacted and not single mothers in general, but there's my reason for not wanting to bother with them anymore. If I'm going to automatically get an attitude, well... Next! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2007 8:44:18 AM | | O will date a single mother but as the above poster mentioned single mom has to meet the guy half way and the single parents who use others give the rest a bad name and make it difficult for them to date. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2007 9:03:17 AM | | it not for th money cuz i can take care of my 3 kids on my own. and i dont need thier dad to help but is his responsability to take care of his kids too!!! and i dont date guys for thier money or for what they are going to give me. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:23:05 AM | "Another thing I have noticed is a lot of single mothers are man haters anyway because they are dealing with dead beat dads. This makes it very hard sometimes impossible to break through all that and meet the real you. Why waste my time?? I am sure you are a very nice person but I don't need those headaches."
that's a lotta truth right there. whatever the reason for the seperation.. the single mother usually has this "men are as bad as my child's father" stigma.
another reason why guys [ specifically without kids ] won't date a woman with a child.... think about how'd you feel if you were used to taking care of no one but yourself.. you hook up with someone and now their child is in the mix. already you know your not #1 in her world and a lotta men can't deal with that.
but it goes both ways though. it'll always be tougher to get with someone that doesn't have a child because whether the parent will admit it or not.. that child is now apart of the other person's life.... not a lot of people are ready to have little ones apart of their lives.. and that shouldn't put them in the wrong either. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:11:58 PM | | How is a single mother expected to find someone to accept her child as well as her. Unless you've been a single parent, it would be hard for you to understand what that parent goes through. I am a divorced mother with a teenager with ADHD. My child's father has very little patience and therefore doesn't spend as much time as he could with our child. He has been unemployed for like 2 years now and his mother is paying his bills. He complains if I ask for a night to myself so that I can go out with friends or something to myself. I was married a second time and thought everything was great until I had to put in jail for not being able to keep his hands to himself! So, now put yourself in my shoes and tell me how a single mother with a child that has been through a traumatic experience is supposed to date. Am I supposed to wait until my child is grown and out of my house? Would love to hear your opinion. Thanks. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:28:08 AM | | Hey. I guess that's just because there aren't as many single dads out there as single moms (not realisticaly). I am a single mother of one and i have deffinatley noticed that alot of guys will talk to you and once you tell them you have a child they're like ok...maybe it's the shock lol. I always tell people I have a baby first thing so there's no shock lol. If they still wanna talk perfect if not they're not worth it! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:17:39 AM | | i know what you mean, men can sometimes change when they find out you have children, but so what, surely if thats not what they what then so be it, and in my opinion you are better off with out them, my kids are far more important then any man that isnt interested in me as person and judges me on having children. We get to an age in life where if you are getting on abit and are single, its not often we are going to find someone that hasnt got a past, either been married or already got kids, for me at my age and stage in life its the other way round if they havent got a past, havent been in a long term relationship, been married or had kids, i wonder why !!!!!!!!!!??????? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 11:45:39 AM | do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Yes we do.
I am a single parent myself. Although, in my experience, the women run when they find out I have kids because they are worried that I might play favourites. Wether kids before them or my kids before thier kids.
So can I ask the question,
Do women actually exist that date men with kids?? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 1:59:26 PM | i would love to here from men who have kids but so far no luck so if u are out there bring it on i dont care how many u got or what ages they are but would ask the men to be 49 to 50 ish hope to here from u one day | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:08:15 PM | Good evening,
I prefer dating woman with children! However many woman fear my kind of man. I am a teacher of disabled children, and having a teaching credential I have been throughly checked out. I used to advertise for an "Instant family" and have never gotten any replies. I can't figure the entire thing out. They want us and they both fear and avoid us. I just gave up!
Thanks for reading,
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:10:55 PM | | I dunno I think Id rather date women that have atleast one child. As a single dad to 3 wonderful girls, It makes it easier for the other person to adjust. There is no jealousy or resentment when something special planned gets cancelled because one of the kids falls ill there is just understanding. I think a woman with Kids has lived a different lif ethan one without and learns new things non mothers dont. I find them more mature(mostly) more responsible (mostly ) and to be honest...I find it quite sexy ... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/25/2007 11:01:30 AM | | I've found the same thing as well. Women run just as fast as any man when they hear that i have kids. Single mothers are much more understanding maybe cause they have to deal with the same experiences | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/25/2007 11:48:05 AM | I hear ya on that mavhaz. I think it happens with both sexes.
There are plenty of men that date women with kids, BUT there are just as many, if not more, guys that are not into it. It just comes down to personal preference,that's all. I look at it as in they prefer caucasians over asians. You can't take it personally if someone is not interested in you because of your kids. They are the ones who have the preconceived notions and it's not our job to go out of our way to show them otherwise. Dating is all about risks, and some guys don't wish to take what they perceive as a risk. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/25/2007 12:24:08 PM | | Ah...they're out there! And, if you have teenagers, it's not like you have to be home babysitting them. Depending upon how close you are with your children--get out and have some fun; your teens are capable of taking care of themselves for periods of time. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/25/2007 12:33:09 PM | | when i met my ex 20 yrs ago she had 3 girls age 9 ,7 ,and 6 we married and i,m proud to say that raising those girls as my own was the most rewarding thing that ever happened to me ,i wouldn,t trade that time for the world .now that the ex and i are split ,its ok cus i ,m still very close to the girls and the grandkids which is also a treat beyond compare. the fact she had children when we met made absolutely no difference to me whatever | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/25/2007 12:52:22 PM | | Ok Ladies there are guys /Men out there for us but we have to wait. I am a single mom of a 3 year old. I had a few guys ask me out. that was nice even thow they were my best friend yes I did go out with one of them but. It didn't last long but that is ok a year was long for me. He got a job out west and long distance relationships are hard. But do you know what if I found some one I know you will find some one. And GUYS we are not asking you to bye the kids stuff or to look after them. We don't want you to saport our kids we can do that. We just want your love. If you notice in this world there are more single parents than there are both parents, I think out of both sexs we have to realize that some people that don't have kids think thatwe want saport from them No we just need the love and understanding that we want to be with them not for our kids Yes our child /children do come first but Give us the LOvin PLEASE | |
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