| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/16/2007 2:48:00 PM | Thata girl.....................
Thats how men want to be treated.......just like how you want to be treated.....
Not as No. 2
Perhaps there is a problem because when there is an ex involved, sometimes people forget about the difference in relationships they have with their ex for their children, as compared to the relationship they have with their new man and their ex.
You know, where the ex has become the friend to talk to about things......
He is gone, he is out......the man in my life is the man i am with or vice-versa.
This is from personal experience.
We are out there, we just want your undivided respect, love and attention......so as long as we have deserved that. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/16/2007 4:09:56 PM | I agree totally. I have 3 kids myself and I have a really hard time trying to find someone to settle down with. As soon as I open my mouth and tell them Im a single mom of 3 its like they have a fire to go to, but what is most depressing is the excuses they use for not wanting to see you again. If any guy is interested its only for one thing; their personal pleasure. I would love to find a man who is a single parent, at least they know what we women are going through. I have alot of respect for all single mothers and fathers, its a great responsibility that obviously the dead beats aren't taking. Anyway, I hope my luck changes in the future, as well as for all of you. Good luck and take care.
Peaches | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/16/2007 4:34:40 PM | | i've done it before i had a child of my own and i would do it again... how ever it's hard to find woman my age that will date men with kids because they are celebrating their freedom! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/21/2007 4:50:13 PM | There obviously arent men out there that will date a women with kids therefore I am done with dating... I am sick and tired of the freakin mind games men play on here so I am done for good... If I never find someone I am honestly better off | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/21/2007 6:38:57 PM | | I haven 't ever had a problem with finding a man to date i have dated a few men throughthe several years i have been single...some lasted a few months some lasted a few years...it just depends on the situation...it depends on who you are and where you are in your mind...and the men that you run into.. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/21/2007 11:02:29 PM | | Nice and interesting fourm here. Lets see there are men who do date women who have kids. I do and always will because I have come to realize that some women who are in my range that I am looking for already have kids and willing to accept that and not judge the women for already having kids. I know in my life experiences when I was 20 after I graduated from college I took care of 6 kids that there not mind for like 6 years and really enjoyed that and it taught me how to really show love to kids and that is why I taught middle school for five years. Like I said there are men who do date kids you just have to go to placed where you can find those types of guys who will date women with kids. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2007 4:32:12 PM | Alot of men wont date women with teenagers. Im a single mum working full time and have a 14 yr old. I havent been on a date in 8 yrs. My daughter is with me 24/7 as I have full custody and her dad has never been around at all. Ive always hoped ppl will accept me for who I am but I am finding they dont.
Break of dawn, I agree with you there about the way men feel that they think single mums are after an instant dad or bank. Im independant and have raised my kid alone with out support from anyone over the last 6 yrs since my parents passed away. I look for new friendships first and if something comes out of that then thats a bonus to me. I dont go out looking for instant dad at all, never have and never will. I work full time so why do I need someone else's money. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:23:54 AM | there most certainly are shedevil1971, because i have children myself would not date some one without children, tends to create tension because quite often if they dont have children they want some or their children are grown and dont want some elses kids around. So absoulutly we are out there.
Good luck with your search lady. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/23/2007 8:34:58 AM | I agree whole heartedly with extrememale2003.
I myself have never been married nor have children of my own.
I was involved with a women for almost 5 years who had a 2 year old and a 5 year old with Turrets.
There were many challenges, many ups and downs.
The final outcome was a better me.
I would prefer getting involved with somebody who had children, because I know they embody the family values I too possess.
But, if I were to meet somebody that did not have children, and the chemistry was awesome, then I would not hesitate to get involved.
Everybody has a preference, its just finding the right one that will respect and take you for who you are and what comes you.
RESPECTFULLY.........Mark | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/23/2007 12:45:13 PM | | ive been reading this forum, and kind of laughing at the same time. i say this because when i meet a guy we start talking and bamm. the child conversation comes up, then hes gone. myself i prefer to date men who have kids, as they are more understanding as well as its a quality i find very appealing. im not saying i wont date guys who dont have children, as ive done that, but there is just something about guys who have children especially if they have custody of them. a man raising kids is something special. i say this because there are alot of dead beat dads as well as mothers but its nice to see aman stand up and do the right thing when the time comes. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/23/2007 5:13:45 PM | WOW ! Some very interesting comments on here from both sides.
Hi everyone ! I am in the same boat.. and have sometimes wondered.. will I be alone for a majority of my life until my kids have grown, left home and I am in my late senior years ? Is this my life now ? I think some men do get scared of the word " children". I think they are frightened of several things: Getting attached and then the emotional hurt they can leave for the kids, perhaps they never wanted children and are afraid of a commitment and then suddenly they could become an instant parent, afraid of getting caught into some kind of financial support, perhaps they are not up to dealing with sibbling rivalry and fights etc that go on with all kids, having to share their new partner and work AROUND having kids, not so easy to take her out on a date, wanting that one on one time. The possibilities of what scares them are endless. I KNOW there are guys out there, even those that find the love of their life and are happy to accept her children as one big happy family.. but they are hard to find. First, you need to be compatible, that really narrows down the odds. I sure would love to meet someone who is perfect for me , so compatible , they can have children themselves I LOVE kids... I'd love to become a family again with the right person... family is very important to me, and sharing your life with someone can be an incredibly wonderful thing if you are made for each other.. however that is just my ultimate dream.. whether it does or does not happen, I still would like to go out with someone, have a boyfriend.. enjoy affection and do things together( if they have kids it's better because you can enjoy family activities together ).. just enjoy time together... my children have a father.. I dont' need someone to play father to date them. Unfortunately, my ex rarely has the kids.. so I AM FULLY tied down, I can't go out for dinner, movies , dancing with a date.. I can't get that one on one time... is it any wonder I can't find a boyfriend ?? :( Like I said earlier.. guess this is my life now, have to accept it.. my ex has a new life, full freedom and the endless love and affection from his kids when he feels like having it.. as for me... my life is now.. just me and the kids... and no personal life for myself. Go odluck everyone.. hope you do find someone.. ohh and I"ll finish by saying.. that through scouts ( i'm a leader ) I see so many wonderful dads.. so involved, loving, caring,.. supportive and helpful... but.. ladies.. they are all taken.. and would their wives ever give them up ??? no WAY !! lol :) CHEERS ! moonshadow NSW | |
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Posted: 9/23/2007 5:34:53 PM | ATTN: Marky44
Hi Mark.. just wanted to say I have read your comments on this forum, and was amazed by your comments.. and I also looked at your profile. I wanted to message you , just to say hi.. and tell you that I thought your profile was very deep and that I was amazed at how much you wrote, and at some of the things you wrote, most guys only get as far as one or two lines. You sound like an amazing person. Just a shame your all the way over in Canada and me in Australia. Anyway, your settings refused an email from me.. wrong age group or something, so I couldn't say hello *sigh * :( Goodluck in your future Mark, hope you find your soulmate, you sound like a wonderful person deserving of as much as you give .
Regards.. from moonshadow " Di " 
p.s. hope you got to read this :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/24/2007 12:46:40 AM | | I to am a 25 with 3 kids and am finding it impossible to find someone on here and anywhere else that isn't just after sex. It seems the only males that ever want to talk are after one thing and of cause we all must be easy since we have kids. Come on fellas wake up and give us a go ever thought that we have had it hard since we are single with kids most of us aren't after new fathers for our kids just someone to be there friend and ours too for that matter. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:03:18 AM | Yes there are! I am seprated and would expect anyone the ex's goes out with, that the children are taken into account first!
As for the shoe on the other foot, Well if i dated anyone, Her children must take a front seat as there is no chance for a realinship otherwise! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/24/2007 10:17:44 AM | There are many great men and many great single mothers too, the problem are the laws that force someone to pay child support for a step child but give the former step parent no rights. As well as some single mother's who abuse these laws collecting child support from more than one man for one child.
It only take a few bad experiences to make people wonder what they are getting into and why. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/24/2007 12:11:33 PM | On other sites (dating) they include in the profile a choice regarding children in a tick box format which adds
"undecided"
"Doesn't want children"
which seems to be the most popular choice from those avaiable--- a lot of people who have children choose the doesn't want----you can't tell if it's intended to be, as in have more babies, or they don't want a bloke who has kids---or in fact both.
If you were making the choice what would you choose if you had kids, didn't want to "have" more but had no objections to seeing some one who has their own kids-----beats the hell out of me every time. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/24/2007 3:37:22 PM | | well i have a 7 month old daughter who has never met her father. (which has never bothered me n hope he will rot in hell!) i came to POF to see if it really worked. after about a week i met a really lovely guy who i am now dating. i have 'met the parents' and things are going great. when the new year starts we are hoping to start a life together, get our own place together and my daughter will have a daddy. in fact he is already her daddy. he loves us and we love him. this really does work guys and there are men/women out there. keep your chins up. it will work out! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:02:04 AM | im a single mum of 2.....and been by myself for almost 4yrs now,
ive found that guys see me as abit of fun but nothing serious !
are there really decent men out there that will take a woman 4 who she is "children included" ?? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:12:20 PM |
are there really decent men out there that will take a woman 4 who she is "children included" ??
When I was in my early to mid-20's before I got married I know I wasn't looking to get serious with anyone who already had children. | |
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