| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 5:47:57 AM | | You are SO right! if the men who fathered these children were responsible people the majority of us single-mums wouldnt be single? Also how many men out there are fathers themselves but dont want to get involved with single mums? do they not realise themselves that the woman they left behind is now also a single parent? Are we not entitled to live, love & be loved also? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 11:12:20 AM | | Everyone is entitled to love. When you choose the wrong person and had a child with them it can be hader to find someone else. That's all and you need toaccept that as we all have choices. I choose not to settle for the crumbs of affevtion and time but want as much in return as I give to the woman and the relationship. In reality many (not all but many) of the single moms I have met can not give the relationship with a man the time and comottment it deserves. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 2:34:32 PM | I'm a 24/7 mother of 2 amazing little kids(18 month old & 4 month old) whom their father chooses to walk away from. I never CHOSE to be a single parent, I chose to share my love with someone and create something from that love. Trust me when I say that I'm a devoted mommy but that doesn't make me any less capable of giving or recieving more love with another person.
I love my children to death, and I choose to be the best mother I can be, because I'm all they have...for that I find it difficult to meet men. I just have to say that it's not fair! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 6:02:15 PM | | Yes, we do. I know it seems like there are no guys out there who want to step into a ready made family, but, there are some of us who are more interested in how good things can be, rather than just OMG, kids! Be patient, we are out there. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 8:55:01 PM | | I am in total agreeance.... as I am the same way! No ifs, ands, or butts. Kids come first. What kind of example would we be setting otherwise???? I'd rather be single than parade men through the house like it's a seasonal parade. I would actually rather date a guy that has kids because they know what it's all about. ( well for the most part..lol) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/3/2007 11:27:28 PM | Yea... I agree, fathers are easier to date than men with no kids... but they have to be devoted dads, not just have offspring (like my ex) LOL They get the whole parent concept... "I already have a priority"  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 1:51:33 AM | i dont want to sound rude i was widowed at 36 left with 2 children to bring up i had to give up work i have no morguage no debt i am not an ugly man and my kids respectable ive been on my own now for 9 years in that time ive had 5 short term relationships spaced out over 9 years im now 44 still not an ugly man my kids are 15 and 12 i have once again been dumped just last week by a women in same boat as myself 2 kids i was prepared to mary her and make a go of it but she told me im not taking on no other womens kids every relationship ive had has went same way what im trying to say is you are looked upon as a package deal not a human being as you no we live in a material world and the bottom line is whats in it for me so you see its not just men wimen are no different it has left me feeling bitter and i dont like feeling like that i think its a case that we have to wait till our kids leave us i know what your thinking lifes to short and i feel same way but how much hurt should a person take trying to find happyness with an other humen being im a proud man and can hounestley say relationships have done me no favours mentaly
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 7:30:45 AM | When single mothers use men we tell our friends family and co-workers. I have a few friends who pay child support for ex step children. I myself have been used by a few single moms and a few have attempted to ue me but did not succeed. They said the tried to use me because it was something they needed for their kids. That is just shameful.
Just because you have kids does not mean you are owed a date. So your life did not turn out as you would have wanted it to. It does not mean anyone who is not your child's father owes you anything.
I have my standards and will not change them so single mother's can fit what I am looking for. Men who post on these boards get called shallow. Well if you made your choice to have kids fine. It is our choice not to support your kids or to date you. Some people want to date one person not a package deal. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 11:10:22 AM | | I would be more than happy dating a woman with kids.It makes the whole dating of that person a bit more tricky but issues can be overcome.Being a father myself i know how difficult it is to even get a date.I meet women out a lot have no problem getting into a conversation ect however i mention that i have kids and it's goodbuy !But there are guys out there willing to date women with kids however they are unlikely to be single.There loss i suppose | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 5:54:38 PM | I do enjoy dating women with children. They are more likely to show more courage and compassion than their counter parts. The timing can be tricky and you've go to be creative, but it can be done. The fact that I'm a student (at 42, go figure) and work full time is what ends it. Oh well...... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 8:39:39 PM | | I have found a few who will date me, even though i have too very young kids, but it seems as soon as my kids starting getting attached to them they run like hell. I would love to meet a single dad, i mean i have no problem with a man having kids. I actually admire a man who has to go through that because then they understand where us single moms are coming from. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/4/2007 10:05:58 PM | Yep. There are men who date and WANT to date women with kids.
Some of us have had some bad experiences with women who don't want their kids, particularly, and one who does kind of restores a little of that lost faith. :) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 3:34:29 AM | I know what you mean...I wouldn't have a problem dateing a single dad either...I became a widow shortly before my 20th birthday...Our daughter was about two weeks old...I have only been in one relationship since I lost my husband...And my daughter became very attached to the guy and well he left us in september...Well, my daughter is 3 1/2 years old and she is my main priority...He said it seemed that I never had time for him...Which is not true...I made lots of time for him...He just never wanted to accept the time I made for him...So, therefore it makes me feel as if I should give up  Ok...Sorry for rambling...I'm new at this =-/ | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 8:55:20 AM | Iceprincess:
I feel for you. You just need to understand that many men have had bad experiences dating single moms and are afreaid to do it again for legal reasons. I hope that you find your MR. Right. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 2:13:58 PM | | Trust me, there are guys who will date women with teenage kids....mine are 16 and 11 and I haven't had any problems with men not wanting to date me because I have kids. Put yourself out there! Have fun! He'll find you! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:15:03 PM | | lol..I was gonna ask it in reverse, if women actually exist that date men with a kid! Every 6 months or so I come back to this site and send out some messages, and never get an email from anyone normal/real...yet in person, I can have a conversation with a stranger in line at the grocery store and everything seems great! Just too bad the stranger is always married! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:52:38 PM | | yes i would rather date woman with children because most of the time they are alot mature then woman with out and they have some sort of responsability and something to work for | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 7:38:37 PM | johne102----->>>> LOL.. can't belive that people like you exsist. I a financially stable
single mother who doesn't have to ask anyone she dating to fill my
fridge or pay my bills. So to assume that all single parents are
looking to use you or any other men for that matter is preety damn
IGNORANT, considering some of us single parents maybe WAY better off financially then you.
Are you suggesting that there is no childless USERS out there looker for a sucker for there own material and financial gain?
Because from what I read on your page a lady stating
"This man is a sweetheart!! He would
give you the shirt off his back if he knew it would help you! Ladies,
trust me when I say this man is why you are on this site. He is all
you'll ever need, so look no further!"
That in combination with "genereous" right up there in bold print. You wonder why your a target got users? Can you say, come use me I am a door mat??????
**IF YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO USE AND ABUSE YOU THEN CHECK YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN HABITS BEFORE HATING ON SINGLE PARENTS**  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 8:16:48 PM | Now back to the main topic, Men dating women with kids.
My experiance is that yes men do date women with kids. My hesitation is always WHEN is the right time to introduce. Since dating again(few years) I always told myself that when I am sure that this going somewhere and not just a casual dinner here and there and we are going to be in a relationship then I would introduce. I am really scared of my kids getting attached to someone and it not working out then its them who lose again. But then there are the guys that after going out 2 or 3 times or what not want to meet the kids, to know what there getting themselves into(which I also understand). Most men admire the fact that I am not shoving my kids in there lap after 1 0r 2 dates. I would think thats something that a very needy and irresponsiable parent would do. Aren't people afraid of parents like that???? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 8:47:48 PM | mustluvecurves:
Have you heard of loco parentis? It is when you marry someone with kids and if it does not work out you can be held in loco parentis. Meaning the courts can force you to pay child support for ex step kids.
I want to aviod that and have never been used by anyone who is not a single mom.
I used to date single moms..now I see that option as a legal and financial liability. It is unfortunate that a few bad ones spoil it for the rest of you. But when I have to pay for kids that are not mine while dating their mother..that is not very attractive...just dating not living with.
Again you seem like a good one but those bad ones spoil it as you often can not tell the good ones from the bad ones until it is too late. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 12/5/2007 8:48:15 PM | | Well after reading 74 pages of this back and forth I thought I might put in my two cents ... I am a single mom of two gorgeous childern who are my life and the few men that have refused to date me bcuz of it were not worth my time and then on the other hand I have had a 3 yr long relationship with a man that loved my childern but didnt love me and he used my childerns affections to keep me around so he could abuse me m lie to me, and cheat on me. So with that being said yes there are men who will date single moms and women who will date single fathers but we all have to be very careful for our childerns sakes. My relationship ended horribly in March of this yr and my childern still cry for this man bcuz they loved him as much as I did but they never kinew the things he did to me and they dont understand why momm y wont loet him back in our lives even tho he tries to come back at times. | |
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