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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:12:11 PM | ok johne102 you could have just said that lol  like i said you have a rite to choose who you want to date, its ok to be friends with who ever you want theres nothing wrong with it hun | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:16:13 PM | Zora you missed my main point...
"So to move on i have decided that i am 30 years old, want to go for my MA in Jan. 2009 and truthfully i think i deserve to have firsts with people that have not experienced them. Kids and marriage are no exception, i think i deserve it to be equally special when our child is being born, both from her perspective and from mine. And maybe, just maybe i have this crazy idealized notion that i may not be in Hollywood Love for a fe minutes and then move on, but want to endure with that one special person. I have never had that before, and therefore as firsts go, i think i deserve a "true" shot at that, without distraction" | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:25:59 PM | | sir reaper i understand im not dumb sweety and yes you deserve to be equally especial because your a good man and wat good man doesnt your rite, about that like i said women who dont apprecaite miss out on good man | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 7:47:40 PM | Johne102:
If you obviously don't like dating women with kids, then why do you date women with kids??? It's just like you do it so you have a reason to complain about it. We get it. If you marry a woman with kids you can be held responsible for the kids financially. I've only read that like 20 times from you.
we get it.
let it go. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:29:44 AM | | I will only date single moms, we have too much in common to start to ignore that positive aspect of our lives. Expectations of priorities are obvious and we always enjoy the time we have together more. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:38:41 AM | CanisLupusFan, I actually find the opposite true. I get so much more attention with my kids in tow. And just about any comment that comes out of a girls mouth in regards to your kids can be used to your advantage to try and score a phone number or a cup of coffee later. With that being said I think it's shameless to use your kids to pick up women, or men! LOL Those who take them to the park and put on a show JUST to try and meet people show be ashamed! If by playing frisbee with your son and your dog at the park you catch the ire of a beautiful woman passing by they kudos to you! =)
You just have to remember that everyone has different interests. There are men out there that'll date women with kids. Heck, I actually look for those with kids bc it likely means they won't want more and they'll understand me more. They'll also accept the fact that sometimes things may get a little difficult with conflicting schedules, and someone without kids might have a hard time understanding this because they are used to everythign being about me and not we. A woman without kids is generally a red flag for me, but I still give them the time of day and consider the possibility. But I have noticed that many of the first contact emails I've responded to where i said I was a single father of two half time I never heard from them again. I find it funny. A simple "sorry, not ready for the kid thing yet" would suffice. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 7:38:05 PM | Try being 50 with three still at home! Most my age have grandkids and 'are done raising kids' bah humbug, I say. If I had my way I'd have kids in my home all of the time. As mine move on, I would consider foster or adoption. Who knows, I just might. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 10:04:38 PM | | I've never dated a woman with kids. At first i was a little apprehensive. mostly because i didn't know what to expect. the 1st two people i dated immediately demanded to know if i was going to be a father for their children. (keep in mind its still early in the relationship). another person was pretty laid back and it was like a normal date. that was when i was younger though, I'm older now. I wouldn't mind dating someone who has children. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 10:10:45 PM | | I have to wonder why single men that don't wanna date single mothers and single women that don't wanna date single fathers - why da hell ya on these forums so much???? | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:17:28 PM | i meant, as in a gf/bf kind of dating.( i haven't dated a women YET as my girlfriend with kids. mostly , because i've never met a single mother who was interested in me.) but its like dating anyone else really. it s not a problem at all. maybe because i haven't met an women with children yet. like girlfriend wise or dating wise.
( i was apprehensive when i was younger because i didn't wanna screw up! didn't want to mess up or give an bad impression on a child. so i used to shy away from it. but now, i dont) | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 2:14:36 AM | I feel that it is appauling. that you even feel that a guy does not like it that woman that have kids. i think it is one of the mose attractive trates that women can show.
also mind you that ive never had children before nor have i ever really had the responsibality of looking after children. but does that mean that i dont want to. i think a good looking single mother is more attractive than any woman i may meet otherwise.
and i think i know what your going to ask. why is that. ive grown up around small children. i have so many cousins that its hard to count. i just became a godparent and im so proud of that. and i would love to try to make a difference in a small childs life.
so i would say that there are a few of us out there. and i would love to do my part. but who is willing to trust me.
and look for something more with me.
now that is the true question im looking for. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 5:11:40 AM | | Wow. I hope this works. This is my first time trying this. Ok, I have to agree with fubar4night somewhat. Men do want what men do want. But its not the only thing men want. I love kids, and have 3. My second marriage was two someone that had 2. We didn't work out, but it wasn't because of the kids. I love them. I have a lot more in common with someone with kids. Women that don't have kids are not use to sharing their time and giving up their time for the kids. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 5:19:09 AM | ok ive not read all 77 pages but wanted to put my twopenneth in
Im a single mum but i totally get why guys wouldnt want to date a single parent. It's a lot of hassle, emotional baggage and the like. If the guy has a child too then i can see how it would be harder to maintain a relationship with another person who also has a child. Too many things to go wrong in that kind of relationship.
A lot of single parents also have court cases hanging over their heads or have become social hermits since becoming single focussing all their energies onto the kids.
I personally would steer my daughter away from dating a single parent, id hope she does things 'properly' but im a realist and know it may not happen (hell it didnt happen for me!)
But having said all that you fall for who you fall for. If someone rules an individual out of their lives on the sole basis they have a child then more fool them. It just shows them up to be shallow and full of themselves if im honest.
Fall for who you fall for and open up your mind to all comers.
Personally i dont tell guys in real life im a parent unless they ask or it gets to a point where they need to know. It seems to work so far. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 2:40:05 PM | | I have learned my lesson and now stick to women without kids...I find they do not ask for money. More men might want to date single mothers if so many did not have bad experiences doing so. I might beome more open to dating simgle mom's in my 40's but by then it might be those with kids over 18 yrs of age. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 2:52:06 PM | Hello shedevil,
To answer you question first, yes and I am one of them. Being fairly new to POF I was exploring different catagories and came across your question. The dating with kids question cuts both ways. I have had women tell me straight out they would love to go out BUT they don't want to date anyone with teenage kids. That is fine with me as I don't involve my children unless it comes to developing into a serious relationship.
Don't worry something good will happen for you soon and I will go back to exploring this site.
Best regards,
PCSmith | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:27:49 PM | by the way your giving answers your trying to be negative thats not a cool way of anSwering a simple question, you brought legal things that noone really will do to a man unless your a crazy chick, and bitterness into it lol, you carry baggage and not all men think like you sweety pie stereo type all single moms with begging for money why are you still here? go find your girls with no kids if your so bitter. If your trying to make all men think like you well not all will so you failed there, and your trying to make single moms look bad, its your problem if you went for beggers in stead of responsible single moms, it tells more bad about you then them, you went with them knowing! your bad noone elses so noone has to pay for your mistakes but you right?: they way you write this stuff makes me laugh sorry sweety ive never herd and of anyone with kids ask for money to anyone not in my world . you must really think your some god, the only ones that beggs for money are bums, and i dont believe have the things your saying maybe those women werent wat you say they were or as bad , let them tell thier side before you bash them. and ya why are you single if you have had beter luck with women with out as you say lol hahahha ( | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:52:52 PM | your going for women with out kids yay everyone !!! well great ill give you a trophy cool cause they dont need you theres lots of good men out there, why are you stilll here ???lol to try and convice other men not to date them hahaha ya anyways sweety very shallow  | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 3:55:58 PM | | ya rock hunter bit the ones who take a man to court for them to pay child support with out it bieng thierkids daddy are even crazier and cold hearted ,i takes a certian kind of women to do that, wat about the women that take men to court to get stuff out of them when thier common law only ? well its not sinlge moms ther all the time is it? ive never herd of that before lol | |
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