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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/19/2008 5:56:59 PM | | Hey, My names Kris Im twenty years old and love kids, my problem is i cant find an older women that wants to date younger because they think im just looking for something to brag about when really i find the older ones more attractive, and they dont play games with your heart. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/19/2008 8:16:45 PM | | I think the issue is centered more around men who don't have children probably not wanting to date women with children. Before I had my daughter, I probably would have thought the same way...though I was engaged and married at a fairly young age and with the same woman for most of my true adult life (21-27) so when I last dated, most women my age didn't have children. I'm pretty recently seperated now, I've been interested in a couple women that have children, the fact that they have children bugs me no more than the fact that I have a child. Which isn't at all. Though now I find it tough to discuss the idea of dating with someone now that doesn't have children, mainly because I'm worried that they might think that I'm looking for a new mommy for my child, which I'm not. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/19/2008 10:32:46 PM | See and I always thought it would be the other way around. I mean, everytime I turn around I hear ladies saying they love it when a guy has custody of his kids or he sees them interacting, just because a father son or father daught...mother daughter mother son interaction is awesome  congrads on the kids....from what Ive seen of our profile you seem like a cool dad hehe | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/20/2008 6:40:10 PM | ZORA said :"But if you gave those women money its cause you wanted too noone forced, and look at the routine of the women you chose first before you talk wat did they all have in common besides kids ???? well you dont sound like the kind of person that does stuff from the heart, and if you have something against kids that arent yours well your right you stay away from kids period or moms with kids. "
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Noone force to give single mom money - you are wrong. Loco parentis can kick it and it no longer become your choice and this option becomes a legal requisite
F*ck that - Like I said before, if you screw up, you and your partner (kiddo's bio father) should be held responsible financially and emotionally. IF THE FATHER is useless, why in the first place you chose to bed with him to get a kid.
You make a decision, bear the consequences. I do not want to clean up other people fu*kedness - I dated a single mother who wanted to move in with me and I said "Hell Motherf*cking NO" - I am scared to be caught in a bunch of shit that I do not want to.
There are too many risks and fortunately, those risks are avoidable at this point in my life. I do not gamble a lifetime of hardwork and savings to pay for someone else decisions/mistakes. NOT ALL SINGLE MOMS ARE GOLDDIGGERS but many of them are ... even if they are not, I would not chance myself - been there before -- done that and will not do that again
Once you live in with a single mom, then you cannot start a family on your own. I want to get a kid from my own. Many single moms are unwilling to accept. F*ck that ... i do not want to raise someone else offsprings. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:20:26 PM | I met a wonferful man on this site and I have 3 children (16, 12 & 7) and he has a 6 week old son. We met before his son was born. His ex cheated so much he was not sure the child was his and had DNA last summer to confirm that the child was his. I did not introduce my kids to my bf until we had dated a while to be sure I wanted to date this guy seriously. My bf did know about my kids and his brothers told him to find someone without kids and he replyed that it was almost impossible. We are both in are mid to late 30's and both divorced.
Personally, I think guys think that women with children are looking for a father for their kids and in my case that is simply not true as I am sure it is not true in most cases. I know they are out there just keep trying! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 2:32:29 AM | I know that a real decent man is hard to find one that will not onlycare for you but also accept your children! I am one of those rare kind of guys I Love kids and I welcome single mothers you ladies go through alot alone trying to care for your kids and trying to also balance work and Q-T time for family! I know the feeling myself I am a father of one child   | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 4:25:04 AM | yes there are a few of us out here who love dating women who have kids ,there is nothing wrong with dating a women with kids , i find that looking how your kids have been brought up can tell a lot more about the type off person you are | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 8:55:33 AM | | Just a reply to the pissy guy, im a single mom and not a golddigger. I work hard, and have taken care of my son myself for 9 years. dont cleche us. My son was no mistake and i dont need your money, i have child support! open your heart jerk. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 2:22:35 PM | | ok i just have something to write here it is alittle off topic but here it goes i'm a lesbian have been all my life , i have a 5 year old daughter with a girl i was seeing she left me when i was 8 months pregnent i have been single since then but i have dated i can also say that woman i have gdated get scared when i tell them i have a kid and honestly it sucks and i don't understand it at all i could see if from a man but not a woman but i do see it all the time it is so wierd to me. i would love to go with someone who had kids i love them they make the world go round anyway just thought i would let u know that it happens to us gay people two i just think it is a commitment issue or something | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:06:53 PM |
...but i have dated i can also say that woman i have gdated get scared when i tell them i have a kid and honestly it sucks and i don't understand it at all i could see if from a man but not a woman but i do see it all the time it is so wierd to me...
It's not hard to figure out at all. Some people (male/female/gay/straight) have made the conscious decision not to have children yet, or never, for many reasons--career, school, income, maturity, housing situation, etc. So getting involved in a LTR with someone who already has children is not an attractive nor viable option to those people. Then you have others who want their first child to be their first child, not a child they inherit as part of a relationship. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 10:38:37 PM | | I have to agree with nybrat0994. I think the true question should be "Can I find a partner that will accept that I have children?" I'm turning forty this year and am a single parent of a 3yr old son. Unfortunately the reality is most women in my age group will avoid me at all costs. LOL, thats fine. It's not a race and someday you ( and hopefully myself ) will find someone who accepts you and your kids and will want to be part of all your lives.The only part that sucks is the wait for that person LOL. Thats all part of the "game of life" Keep living and things will fall into place. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/21/2008 10:40:34 PM | Obviously single parents have a slight disadvantage when it comes to dating regardless of whether they are male or female. The problem is not that the men/women don't exist because they do...it just depends on where you look. Single parents often forget that dating is supposed to lead to something...a long-term relationship. Being with a single parent makes the relationship a little frightening for the other adult involved, whether they have child(ren) or not. It is important to understand that being part of a "just add spouse" relationship is sometimes scary for the other person and some are not ready to handle that type of committment. Others lack the maturity required to make the relationship work. Instead of being so upset by the other persons inability to appreciate your dedication and hard-work for being a single parent...be thankful for the fact that they got out early and spared you and your child(ren) the emotional heartache that was destined to follow. Learn that people are removed from your life for a reason, be thankful for the lesson, and move on. You don't want some dead beat in your space giving you more children to raise alone.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:06:31 AM | paker kim lol thats our choice good for you hahaha i love men that come on here and give stories like this lol but ya most are not some are dont stereo type most, and you dont always know if the dad is a dead beat before you have a kid with him some guys change so if you dont know wat its like to be on other side dont talk, and dont be on this forum, its always about money it comes and goes ok,
i buy my friends stuff and pay for dinner sometimes i dont complain dumthats for kids , ive met men who expect the girl to do everything i dont come on here bashing them so wats your point anyways ? money is the root of evil marrages brake up cause of money dam! if you dont want to date single moms lol then dont gosh its not worth dissing everyone that does you wrong , other guys have better luck because they dont concentrate on that then you guys
i know family who have kids that arent thiers and they dont complain thier happy lol, if you think its a bother to take on someone elses child why in the first place would you date someone with kids? lol  i dont believe she was desperate to move in for money, half these stories are too twisted its crazy,
like i said your bad for bieng with women like that so dont judge then ones that had a kid with the dead beat your just as bad. leave your drama at home when you come to these forums negative bull sh*it that needs to be put away right? ya | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:11:56 AM | Once you live in with a single mom, then you cannot start a family on your own. I want to get a kid from my own. Many single moms are unwilling to accept. F*ck that ... i do not want to raise someone else offsprings.
hahahaha and ya then dont hahahah big deal
and when you hava a kid with a chick and it doesnt work out then dont come around judging others cause people that think like this often get wat they ask for :( ive seen it happen) good for you stay away from single moms too  have a good night im done with you (no time for drama) | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 6:50:23 AM | | Why is it, when we do date women with kids, they end up sleeping with and going back to the kids dad? Why, when we make the effort, and love the kids too? Suddenly you don't have your girl, or her girls. Its like being dumped by three people at the same time. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 7:00:55 AM | Bahahahaa There isn't a snowballs chance in hell that I would get back with my daughters father. Once again, someone is taking the circumstances that happened with ONE single mother and punishing all single mothers for it. It's just a shame. I'm sorry that this happened to you but I hope you don't give up just because of one bad seed. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 7:30:23 AM | Yeah of course they are single commited guys out there who would love to look after and take onboard the responsibility of a young child or children.
I know i have in the past. !!!!
The only thing that i seen was difficult was communicating with my partner at the time about boundaries on disciplining the child. ( not easy for either party involved )
The child was spoilt rotten and from my experience felt it was better to teach the child morals and values etc.
Would i date again a lady with kids? - Yes | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:33:58 PM | I think the problem lies with being put in second place behind the kids. Women that I have dated have not liked the fact that I will always put my daughter first. It takes a very selfless person to understand what single parents go through, and to "put up" with always being in second place. It's not a very good feeling being in "second," and it takes a special person to do that.
When I dated someone with a son, I had a hard time dealing with it. Now that I'm a single father, I find that as soon as I start to get to know a woman... They lose all interest when they find out that I have a daughter full time. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:50:20 PM | | completely agree with this point... im not looking for money or afather figure for my kids ... just a friend or male company for myself to make me feel like more than a mummy sister daughter again . Another point is not all single parents are single through bad relationships many of us are single through no choice of our own but due to unforseen ciscumstances that took our loved ones away from us and are just looking to see if we can possibly find hapiness again after our loss ..... patience and understanding a must !! x | |
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