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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2008 6:44:08 PM | | well yes were out here in fact I have 3 ex g/f who's kids I still baby sit or take for the weekends so the mom can go out or work even tho thig's did't click with mom and I dosen't mean I care any less for the kids. I can't figure what's wrong with so many of the moms that don't want a caring male in there children's lives. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/14/2008 7:16:33 PM | YES they do exist and some men actually prefer a woman with kids. Listen ladies, if you are over 29, most men understand that a woman has been married at least once and most likely has kids. Many men find single mothers to be less selfish and more nurturing than some single women and can also see first hand how great a mother you would be if you were to have his kids. I find that many good men do not mind dating a woman with kids as long as he finds himself attracted to the woman as a whole.
Men are turned off by women who are insecure about themselves because of what ever perceived short comings (i.e. single mom with kids) they may have. A confident woman with or without kids is a total turn on to a man and will grab any man's attention and eventually his heart. And when a man truly falls in love with you for you, he will automatically come to accept and even love your children. If he has a problem with you having kids then he is not a great catch for you but know that there are other great catches out there who could care less if you had a house full of kids (ok, may be not a house full...but you know what I mean!)
I suggest that we as single mothers change the way we call and perceive our selves. Instead of calling ourselves "single moms," we are single woman with wonderful blessings in the form of children in our lives and any man would be lucky to be with me and my kids. If we transform the stigma we feel about being a single mom from the likes of wearing a scarlet letter on our forehead into a badge of honor, we will become a man magnet that seems to attract men easily.
I have learned after dating after a divorce that it was not the fact that I had kids that turned men off, it was the fact that I was clueless about dating and made every mistake to turn men off. Now that I learned better, I can not keep them away and I have two little ones at home. Visit this website www.singlemomsdatingguide.com and download your copy of "SingleMomsDatingGuide To Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30Days!" this book has been a God-send to many single moms dating and maybe for you too. Good luck and happy dating.
With Love
Shay Your Date Diva | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2008 12:07:45 PM |
...in this day and age it expected for both parties to have children
ROFL... Just how flipping sad is that statement?? EXPECTED TO HAVE CHILDREN?? REALLY???
I suppose that all those "old fashioned values" were too pesky to bother with, so lets get some new ones...
Sad... Very sad indeed if your "expectations" are this low.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2008 2:24:09 PM | | i would love to date a woman with kids.i love kids they can be so funny and if you give a child love then you will get love back.i don't think you can generalise that men don't want to know women with kids.i'm a single dad and do voluntery work with kids coaching football.i would love to date a woman with kids i can't have any more kids but i would love more kids i love to spend time with my son doing whatever.i think it all comes down to the individual reardless whether they be male or female. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:08:38 PM | I guess I'm missing something here. With the divorce rate over 50% and the number of single mothers who never got married, either by choice or other, a man who wouldn't date a woman because she has a child or children is really limiting his chances of meeting someone that may turn out to be that special person they've been looking for.
I've also found that doing things with single moms can be more fun . The first thing that comes to mind is when I went to Disney World with someone I dated. It was fun when we went by ourselves and her kids stayed with their grandmother, but the next time we went and took the kids along, it was even more fun. It was a perfect excuse to go on the silly rides and attractions, and it was wonderful to see them smiling and having such a great time. 
I can think of a lot of reasons I wouldn't want to date a certain woman, but the fact that she is a mother, or someone who is a soon to be mother, is not one of them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:08:35 AM | | Yes we do, I love kids, I have three, but I also have 2 ex-step children that refuses to listen to there mother. they call me daddy and spend alot of time with me. yes there are guys out there that will date a woman with kids. but be careful on who u let around your little ones its a crazy world, and there are alot of preds out there. I am speaking from the postion of a father, a single man with kids, and a cop. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2008 5:30:35 PM | PDVolgrl asked:
Would YOU settle? If so, why havent you done so now?
No..... I would not settle. I am an attractive single woman/never married/no children. I am, more now than ever, ready to find someone who can I can focus completey on and he can reciprocate that same attention. I have no need or want to be in a one-sided relationship. I have freedom to come and go as I please, and I have more options in a relationship, such as choosing a long distance relationship because I have the freedom to travel and the extra money to spend it on if I choose. And I feel that I have paid my dues by waiting.
On the other hand, Single Moms may be attractive but they have children, been married, divorced, and are now looking for their 2nd or 3rd husband. The whole looking for Mr. Right or finding the Soulmate thing should be nipped in the bud. Instead of trying to find the perfect guy, why not try to find the guy who is accepting of your situation. This has worked out for a lot of single moms.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:17:49 PM |
im just sayin that you cant just take time off work thats all,weekends i can see him begin there. i was goin to comment on tha new b/f being call dada but that off topic. NOT ALL DADS R DEAD BEATS! ty
I know I'm buttin in at the end of the conversation, only knowing half of what has been said. That being said I have 2 comments...
1) Sometimes you will get fired for taking a day off every week! I wouldn't do it, and I also wouldn't expect my daughter's father to do it, a couple hours in the evening will work with CAS This is my ex-step-daughters schedule, so I know they allow it.
2)Not all fathers are deadbeats! My sister's ex is making her life hell because he is fighting for 50/50 custody, at least he is fighting for his kids.. there's so many out there that just let them go after the break up. Kudos to men out there that are REALLY active in their kids lives!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:34:27 PM | | Yes we do exist !!!! It wouldnt matter to me at all. If there is a good connection then who cares if you have a child. I find single moms way to reserved and hard to talk to, maybe if they would lighten up a bit they might find a man with no kids to date. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:00:27 PM | I'm replying to Johnne
Meaning the courts can force you to pay child support for ex step kids.
I have said this before on another line.. I am a woman, who lives in Canada, and married a man who had a kid. I agreed when I married him that I would be responsible for child support, just like he agreed he would be responsible for my student loan.... Now, this may be unusual, I don't know... when we split up I offered support to my step daughters mom, cuz I knew he couldn't afford it, and I never asked him to pitch in on my student loan (even though his signature is on it), I also haven't asked for support for the child we had together because I know he can't afford it. In addition, I have recently instigated the court proceedings to have my ex step daughter brought to my house, instead of being in foster care... Don't tell me canadian women are users. We are not all like that! and most of us won't use the loco parentis law in our favor, but as someone who got caught in the law, I don't have a problem paying support for my child's sister, on the other hand, I might have a problem if I hadn't also had his child, but I don't think so.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/17/2008 10:23:29 PM | I haven't had that much of a problem, yes there r some men who r stupid when it comes to being with a single mom. You just have to weed out the bad ones. I know its hard I am just getting back into dating after 8 years. My husband died in Nov. 07 and I wasn't ready but actually took the leap and with a very, very fabulous looking 23 yo. We went out a couple of times, and that didn't work out, but it was my decision to end that one. You just have to find and yes I know its hard to find them, but they are out there. I have only been on this site for a week and have been on two dates with single fathers. I enjoyed myself tremendously and am continuing to see both.
Are u looking for permanent relationships or just dating to get out of the house. That is the key. If you want permanent then be upfront with them. Tell them what u want. Trust me, most of them will give u what u want. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2008 9:28:36 PM | | I don't normally post in the forums but I've been asking myself the oposite of that question...do women date men with teen age kids. I get a fair number of messages and talk a lot on the phone to some of these ladies. But still have yet to settel down with one lady. Kids always seem to come up in the first contact and shortly after that the meeting is over. Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong ones...Still I have a feeling that women and some men don't want to go to far with a relationship because of kids. I personally would date someone with teenage kids. It might be akward at first but if I feel strongly about a lady I'll go that extra step to try and become friends with her kids...Just wish there was a lady like that for me too | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:08:22 PM | | I don't have kids of my own, but my last 4 relationships (between the ages of 22 and 32) have all been with mothers. If I get on with the person, and they get on with me then why would I not date a single mum? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/19/2008 5:50:12 PM | | (OP ) I am 1 of them men that would rather date a women with a kid or 2 . I have 2 kids a boy and a girl . Because I'm 35 and its hard to find someone at that age where women that don't have kid don't want a man that has a all ready made family . I feel if she has kids it would mean that if I show her kids with respect and treat them good she will do the same for mine . thats just how i look at it | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:23:24 PM | | I wouldn't care if i fond someone with kids, my problem comes from a different angle, i am 23, and most women think that is too young to have as a partner if they have kids. It doesn't help that i'm not exactly brad pitt i know but still. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/20/2008 3:58:16 PM | | I 'm actually looking to date a woman with kids. I have a 16 year old daughter who lives with me, and I think someone who is a mom can better understand what it's like being a single parent and what your priorities are and I like kids. Joe | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/20/2008 4:59:13 PM | | Hi there i married some one from off here that has kids there ages are 7,9,19. plus i have kids from my first marrage. And it was the worest thing i ever did we have split up now. i was with my first ife for 15 years and we adpoted both are kids and they are speacil needs so i know all about how kids can pucs there luck. So some men do exist just this one got used hope you find Mr right take care and be carefull not all men are what they seam dave. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2008 3:19:16 AM | | Yes We Exist Smiles. Divorced Dad With 3 Children Of My Own. And I Would Be HappyTo Find A Female That Had Children. Many Times These Day"s You End Up With Mixed Marriage. Your, Mine, Our And So On. I Have Trouble Finding A Decent WomenThat Wants To Move Into a House With Me Having The Children. Any Takers?? Look Me Up!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2008 10:16:09 AM | Let me put it this way. Yes, there are men who will date women with kids, but not just any woman with kids. Let me explain further with a couple of my own experiences.
First time I dated a woman with a kid was when I was in college. The kid was a toddler, and I never got to spend any time with the woman. Yes, toddlers need lots of attention, but again so does a relationship. It's hard to cultivate a relationship if a potential partner doesn't have or just won't find time to commit to a relationship. I dated her two months and got to see her alone only one time. And if you only get to see each other once a week or so, it's hard to get to know each other.
Another woman I dated who had a ten year old basically used the kid as a shield when we started getting serious, sort of using the kid as a poor excuse to end the relationship because I didn't have any kids. I got along fine with the kid. She broke my heart, I really liked her, and would probably have married her had she not backed away. Later she told me she regretted ending things with me.
That brings me to my point. First, does the woman actually have time to cultivate a relationship? Or, can she or will she make time? Sometimes perhaps it isn't possible depending on a number of factors. She might be the woman of my dreams, but if she has a job that requires 90+ hours a week or work from her and I never get to see her, I don't see the point. Second, if we were to get serious, will she and I be equal partners and heads of the household or is she one of those who, when she says "my kids come first" what she really means is her kids run her life and her household and any man coming in will be basically put in the pecking order next to the family dog who got his jewels removed, and is not much more than a disposable piece of furniture? I know some will not agree with me, but the most important relationship in the house is the one between the man and woman. The stronger and healthier it is, the healthier the household and the better it is for the kids. I'm not saying neglect the kids, but they certainly shouldn't be the ones calling the shots; you're the adult. Kids can be very manipulative and can pit the couple against each other and unless the relationship between the two is strong, obviously there will be problems. Third, you both should agree on "house rules" what is and isn't allowed with the kids, etc.
There's more I am sure. I wouldn't turn away someone with kids automatically, but just as I am sure she would with me, I will have to address any "red flags" to make sure they can be worked around. I only want to marry into a lasting relationship. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:57:17 PM | HOney, Ihave been wondering the same thing!! Mine are almost 9, and 12. Seems they see kids inthe profile and bolt for the door!
If Mr. Right is out there for me, I guess i haven't found him yet because he is gonna have to LOVE kids...mine aren't going anywhere!
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:09:30 PM | | It happens....but in order for it to work out, there cannot be any misgivings about the potential situation he could end up in, or, he definitely should not go after a single mom with no intentions of dating...only to have a booty call! It is about being true to both himself and the others involved....before getting involved! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:22:07 PM | I would love to meet a man who would date women with kids.
I have one at the moment and i am about to have my second. I just want someone to appreciate me for who i am and not what you think you can get outta me | |
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