| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:28:59 PM | | I have often wondered that myself, I have been single for the last 6 years. I have had guys who are interested in me, but the minute I tell them I have 3 children, you can almost see them change in front of you. I'm a warm loving person, I am fine if he has children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/20/2008 7:14:28 PM | Have no fear!! There are men on POF who date women with kids still at home!
I've dated guys with grown & gone kids and ones who've never been married & had no kids. Doesn't really seem to make any difference.
I sometimes thinks it's easier to date someone who has had kids, still at home or not, just because they usually understand the idea that the kids have to come first. I don't just drop everything to run out for a date. I have to be sure the kids are going to be OK (too old for babysitters at this stage) and that we don't have friends spending the night or whatever. Another parent understands this, even if his kids are grown & gone.
Haven't had the opportunity to date someone with underage kids since mine were born, so I don't know how that would affect dating at this point. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:50:14 AM | I really admire a man that is there for his children, I have a few male freinds that are single parents and I admire them, it takes a real man to raise his children, anyone can donate sperm. so to all you men out there that are there for your children ,you will be blessed. Yes women do date men that have children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:31:39 AM | I'm currently in my first single parent relationship - she has a 14 yo daughter who lives with the father in AZ and she's raising her 6yo son on her own.
It's been interesting. Her raising him on her own has made things more complex than I'm used to, but she's a really cool chick so I'm not running away. I'm looking forward to meeting the little guy (we both agreed we should date a month or two before I meet him as "mommy's friend") and watching some cartoons with him.
Any suggestions would be more than welcome. I'm a kid at heart and have always gotten along with friends' children around his age.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/21/2008 12:54:02 PM | I have no problem dating women with kids. Just put the kids in bed before I get there or they'll dramatized by all the sweat and semen getting thrown about in the living room.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/21/2008 8:13:44 PM | | I bet they exist. I met one who would recently and he was wonderful. But to comment on the age group you speak of...it is the scariest one, or can be, for some moms. Sometimes single women have a right to be worried about their kids behavior, or their use of obscene language and all the other stuff that teens sometimes resort to when they feel like being total idiots. I have met men who opened up to me on this topic and these are some of the fears they have in common with single moms. Keep looking if you are now. Going thru the teen years can go pretty fast, if not be bumpy, and when its all over, you have the prospect of your total freedom to look forward to. That is a prize worth waiting for and sharing with someone special. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:45:49 PM | | Wow, i am glad to know i am not the only one that finds myself having this issue. I want to be able to date someone who doesn't run off at the mention of children. I am financially secure and not looking for a step in daddy. I do quite well on my own, but it can get lonely sometimes and it would be nice to find someone who can accept the fact that just because you have children does not mean that you cant have a healthy relationship. I want someone who truly enjoys meand my company, but that can respect the fact that yes i do have children. I didn't choose to be a single parent but i am. I understand that there are guys out there who probably feel the same way i do and i understand them. I personally would love someone else children, but that is just who i am. I have become very picky though from experience of guys hightailing it once they learn that there are children. Anyways, good luck to all of you single parents out there. I wish you all the best in this crazy dating world. | |
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Flakk
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Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 2058 | |
| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/22/2008 1:41:48 AM | I do. I understand that a woman and her child are a packaged deal. The trick is giving the kid enough room and not apearing like I'm trying to replace Dad.
I loved my last girlfriend very much. Her daughter and I got along great. I can't say anything bad about the relationship. I would defiantly do it again. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/22/2008 3:39:52 AM | Wow, i am glad to know i am not the only one that finds myself having this issue.
~cookies and cream
At this point there are more single moms than childless ones. Put your game face on and bring your A game because the competition is getting stiffer everyday.
Every new single mom that joins this site still has blinders on and cannot see that you are not the first one here and a new player on the roster joins every day with the belief that they are the only one. LOL
A lot of men have accepted that they have to date single moms because its getting harder to avoid not to. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/22/2008 5:26:43 AM | | Hey you ladies are not the only ones who have to worry about this subject. Men also have the same problem. Back when I was single getting a date was no problem. Now that I am divorced and have a son no one seems interested in me. But that doesn't surprise me. Some people just don't want children. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/22/2008 8:16:54 AM | | Hi, Ive always tried if possible to date men that are very close to their own children or even have them living with them because then they are more sympathetic to your situation because they understand. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:45:48 PM | "Hey you ladies are not the only ones who have to worry about this subject. Men also have the same problem. Back when I was single getting a date was no problem. Now that I am divorced and have a son no one seems interested in me. But that doesn't surprise me. Some people just don't want children. "
No its not only women I am seeing more men with children nowadays. But i appaled anybody who is raising their child/ren. Everyone needs to realize yes there are more single parents out here nowadays then theres ever been. Me being one myself is I look for traits in a potential person I am talking to if they have more interest in the bar scene I cut them off and move onto the next person. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:05:00 AM | Hi, I've been a full time single dad for over 13 years,and loving every min. I just started trying online dating sites, and have meet no one yet. I think that single parents deffenetely should date other single parents. I think that we should have more in common with each other .I come to sites like this looking for single moms that actually want to meet single dads ,but have had allmost no responce buy eather with or without. We are out here.  | |
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Joined: 5/18/2008
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/24/2008 12:00:35 PM | | If I had kids, I would not hesitate to date women with kids. Seems at my age, I'm big-time in the minority without them. So it's not necessarily easier to find someone compatible if you don't have kids and are looking for the same. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:25:20 PM | Hello,
I simply want to posted a reply with my limited experience. I dated someone for four years. She had three children and was a responsible and loving Mom. I realized that these were qualities that I admired as I was a parent myself. It enhanced the love that I had for her as parenting as a single parent is hard. The irony of it all as that when I finished the relationship I felt I loved her children almost as much as she, but of course in a different way. I know they missed me and I missed them. I consider it a mark of accomplishment in a committed relationship to be accepted by someone else's children. The problem of course that when a relationship ends everyone suffers a loss , directly or indirectly.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/25/2008 4:34:06 PM | | Id glady date someone with kids. Of course I myself have 5 kids, 3 of which are still school age. Had a Gal tell me just last evening that my 5 kids scared her. Go figure! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/26/2008 6:25:47 AM | ...from my experience on this site I can tell you that not many are willing to date someone my age with kids. I have 3 at home, and the youngest is 12, two of them are not bioligical children but are still members of my family...... One guy was pretty interested in getting to know me for a while but changed his mind. He said he thought I was a terrific lady but the more he thought about it, the more he wanted to see someone who was much like himself...an empty nester.
I couldn't balme him and I appreciated the fact that he was so honest with me so I wished him luck and cast out my line once again.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:49:42 PM | | Exactly. Like I'd already said... humans are inherently selfish and unwilling to compromise unless they feel that they have something tangible to gain. Substance, it would seem, is an incomprehensible idea to most. What I mean to say is, MOST humans are shallow as well. The "best" part, is when they complain after the fact when things don't work, and they STILL don't get it. Not that they will ever admit to it, but it's commonplace to have the "who cares what is inside a person's heart & soul, as long as all of the superficial proverbial ducks are in a row". If you're a highroller or a calender model, all else is disqualified from consideration... you're a "catch". Nevermind if you're a souless subspecies. Perhaps we're all better off. Chins up mom's & dad's... we're better than them. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/26/2008 7:19:43 PM | | I have found several men who don't mind dating me as a single mom but I feel cautious sometimes because of sexual predators out there. I met a guy once who was "very disappointed" that he didn't get to meet my son on our first date. We met for coffee then I had to go pick my son up. He just kept asking too many questions about my son. It felt odd. I believe he should be dating me for me and I'm not going to risk my son getting attached to someone, hurt or abused because I let a man into his life too soon. I also dated a man with 2 kids once and everything was fine in fact wonderful for the first 6 mo of the relationship. Until literally the day the kids showed up. It wasn't even 24 hours later and he all of a sudden didn't want to spend time with me and my son and basically completely cut us out of his life because he didn't have the capacity to love his kids and my son and me. After that experience I am more hesitant to date a man with children but would probably still give it a shot. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/26/2008 11:11:28 PM | Hi, I think they do :)) ...they are called compassionate, understanding and LOGICAL men. The logical men know that relationships/ marriages end and the sexy newly single women are here on pof looking for a date ...LOL and vice versa. The compassionate ones know that feelings/ distractions may come up and the understanding ones don't take it personally when you're busy.
I have met a few.
What are we all on here for anyways, especially in my age group? To find someone, fall in love and have a family (generally and in the long run).
So, try it out men and women.
Kids are a blessing, and if you need your date to be a good, educated parent and they're not- you can stop dating them. Just like if you want them to be tall, or blonde or like metallica. Be choosy. You deserve it.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:33:16 AM | | hey men do exist that date women with kids. im 25 met my girlfriend 4 yrs ago , she had a 3 yr old and i had a yr and half old , she is 24 , now we have a 15 month old son together and all is great | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 9:23:55 AM |
they are called compassionate, understanding and LOGICAL men. The logical men know that relationships/ marriages end and the sexy newly single women are here on pof looking for a date ...LOL and vice versa. The compassionate ones know that feelings/ distractions may come up and the understanding ones don't take it personally when you're busy.
going along with the question posed by the OP.... There are many different reasons why some of us guys wont date women with kids, one of them being the implication in the quote above...
I'm compassionate, understanding and logical.... but apparently, if I dont want to, or refuse to date a woman with kids, somehow I end up being less of a man for my choices.
Maybe if some of the single women who are really single, stop and think for a minute, maybe two... they wouldnt turn into single moms who cant stand their ex's...
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