| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/5/2008 6:30:54 PM | they sure do exist hun,i use to think the same thing and i have four kids 2 of each sex i have 3 in there teens and the man i have met is great infact ive met quite afew nice guys its just a matter of not giving up i think hun they are out there hunnie dont give up and goodluck    
 you can be happy too hunnie
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:45:03 PM | Q: What’s the one piece of advice you’d like to offer a man who’s dating a single mom?
Remember she is doing the best she can—working, parenting, taking care of the home and trying to have a social life and date. Be understanding of last-minute schedule changes. She is trying to please everyone.
A widowed mom is different from a divorced or never-married mom. She has different issues to deal with—a child’s grief, a child who is thinking someone is taking daddy’s place and having the kids 24/7. The guy also needs to understand that I didn’t choose this life, so the pictures of my husband aren’t going away because that’s my children’s father. I didn’t hate the man and didn’t divorce him, so don’t ask me to put that part of my life away forever simply because I met you. Instead, embrace the fact that my kids had a great dad and I had a great husband and I really am moving on—otherwise I wouldn’t be on this date.
When the time comes to meet the kids, be friendly, kind and try not to usurp the mom’s time in front of them. Kids are very sensitive to anyone who takes up their mother’s time.
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Q: What’s the single biggest misconception guys have about dating single moms?
That we’re only after a daddy for our kids, or help with paying the bills.
That we’re completely and solely wrapped up in our children’s lives and activities—to the exclusion of our own. We are moms but we’re also women. We have interests, goals and dreams of our own.
That all we want is sex. Yeah, it’s nice, but that’s not our only goal in dating. We want someone to take us away from our mom roles and make us feel special.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:19:56 PM | Currently I have my 3 sons (2 teens, 1 preteen) almost full time - solely because of logistics and financial pressures on my ex.... she simply can't have them full time right now. When I'm scouting around for that potential "someone", I rarely pay anyone any attention if they don't have kids. Why? I guess its the sense of shared experience... the understanding of what the demands of having kids are. And frankly, maybe I'm being shortsighted here, but I feel like women around my age without kids would not want to be goofing around with someone who has the responsibility of kids.
The only time I'd be leery of dating a woman with kids was if her children were quite young... I don't ever want to confuse a young child about whether or not I'm going to be there for them, etc. I'd want the mother to be very careful about any man having contact with her young child(ren) for that reason. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:35:13 PM | I think it would be Hypocritical of me to only date women that have no kids...I have a beautiful daughter of my own, so why would I have a problem with someone else having a kid of their own....
I do however tend to stay away from women that already have a few kids...this is not because I don't like kids, or respect the fact that she has a couple....Just makes it hard, when I want one more in the future....I love kids to death, but with the economy the way it is now adays, having 4 kids is tough on finances...I don't ever want my kids to go without something because I can't afford to give it to all of them....
Though I guess if that right person came around, I would just have to make things work...
But we are out there....We do exist...
P.s I do find that a lot of women, are put off my me having a kid of my own....Kinda makes me sad sometimes.....My daughter is my world...but I would love to share that world with someone else someday.... | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2008 1:52:11 PM | Well I am an almost 46 year old Momma with a 5 year old son. I have 4 children in all .....20g 18g 13g 5b. There are very few men my age that have young kids and they sure aren't interested in having them full time.
I don't need a father for my kids, either and I think I have done a very good job with them. My son is a bit of a challenge sometimes because he has more energy in his pinky than I do, but he respects Momma so it is all good.
I don't have a hard time with another man disciplining my kids, but you are NOT going to be downright mean to them. I know how to discipline and as long as it is done the right way, I don't mind someone else doing it, but they are not little soldiers for you to march around and they are NOT punching bags.
As for dating a man with children, I have NO problem with it, but I do think it is a good idea to wait until you have dated a while to introduce the kids because they do tend to get attached quickly or at least mine do.......even though they have a dad...they just love people in general or at least the young ones do. The older ones are a little more leary because we have been there and done that before. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2008 2:16:29 PM | | the only men that wanted to date me when I had two small children were the ones that wanted me to support them too. Now that my children are grown and out of the house, I seem to find all these older guys with small children, no thanks! Now they know how it feels! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/2/2008 11:36:06 PM | I have dated several woman with at least three children. My own preference is that the children are not teenagers. However, that's just a preference, it's not written in stone that I will avoid the woman because of this one factor. The problems I have encountered with dating woman with children are the following: not getting enough attention, privacy, discipline, problems with ex-husbands, time available, etc. Ironically, when I was younger I swore that I would never date a woman with children, but now that I have a child of my own, I enjoy dating other women with a child or two. However, I'm finding out that many of these women aren't interested in having any more, and I still am. So I'm finding it difficult to find women close to my age that still want to have another child.
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:45:06 AM | | First of all not all the dads are deadbeats. My ex pays his childsupport every month. I don't need someone to pay my bills. So don't put all of us in the same group. You never know u may be missing out on the greatest person u could never meet!!!!!!!!! | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/12/2008 7:43:49 PM | | hi ladys there are men out there that are welling to date womens that have kids i love kids but thats just me iv always been upfront about my kid and there for it helps out if they run than its there lose i just wish i could find the right girl for me so i dont have to keep hunting good luck | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 3:28:32 PM | | I think mostly men who date women with kids just need sex at that time. If they were serious they would look for a better opportunity to start their own family. For my part I always wonder why that woman is not still with the father and if the answer is petty I'm turned off. Being dead is a real good reason. Alcoholism and drugs are good reasons. If the man left you I wonder what is wrong with you. If you left him I wonder if he really deserved it or are you just wanting a change just because things got stale. In general a woman should consider her kids first and her social fun second. My ex worked for four days while I had the kids and immediately on day five when she got them back she went out that night. I think a woman should miss her 2 year old and at least wait a day to go out. I'm just stunned by the insouciance most feel towards the importance of a real family of a real dad and real mom. I find it ridicualous how kids get shipped around going over different step family's houses and being with half siblings and all this complicated nonsense. My brother is younger and dates a girl with kids. He openly admits he doesn't care about them at all. Many believe this is acceptable. Both of them make me sick. A woman who tries to upgrade her man should always consider the man's impact on her kids first not if he is funny, handsome, rich, good in bed or whatever qualitiy she is looking for. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 3:28:49 PM | | I think mostly men who date women with kids just need sex at that time. If they were serious they would look for a better opportunity to start their own family. For my part I always wonder why that woman is not still with the father and if the answer is petty I'm turned off. Being dead is a real good reason. Alcoholism and drugs are good reasons. If the man left you I wonder what is wrong with you. If you left him I wonder if he really deserved it or are you just wanting a change just because things got stale. In general a woman should consider her kids first and her social fun second. My ex worked for four days while I had the kids and immediately on day five when she got them back she went out that night. I think a woman should miss her 2 year old and at least wait a day to go out. I'm just stunned by the insouciance most feel towards the importance of a real family of a real dad and real mom. I find it ridicualous how kids get shipped around going over different step family's houses and being with half siblings and all this complicated nonsense. My brother is younger and dates a girl with kids. He openly admits he doesn't care about them at all. Many believe this is acceptable. Both of them make me sick. A woman who tries to upgrade her man should always consider the man's impact on her kids first not if he is funny, handsome, rich, good in bed or whatever qualitiy she is looking for. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 5:53:51 PM | Yes, men date women with children. I do find it hard to find women who will date a man that has children though.
As for not involving the children in your personal life, I feel that my child is my personal life, and if I am dating a woman who accepts me I would like for them to know my child well enough to accept them also. I would date a woman with children and would also include them in some of the dates so they do not feel that they are being replaced or overlooked.  | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 5:57:48 PM | | when I get to Know a woman I want to know the whole woman and not just parts of the woman. Unless I know and understand the children in the woman's life as well, there would be no chance of an honest relationship. That's what I'm looking for. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 7:01:12 PM | | Some time I wonder that myself. The Other day I got reply from a guy on a dating site that said he did not know if he could be interested in me because I have child. I truely do hope that there are men out there that don't feel threatend or intimated bye women that have children. I know that if I met a guy and he had a child I would not feel that way. Maybe its because women think differently then men do about certain issues. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 7:06:24 PM | | I think that is so refreshing to see a man not intidated by a owmen with a child or children and yes it does make a situation fun you can do all the goofy fun stuff that otherwise would be considered childish once we reach a ceratin age. hope that that you find someone that u can share your time with and maybe your life. | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/14/2008 8:08:06 PM | the only men that wanted to date me when I had two small children were the ones that wanted me to support them too.
I have experienced this since my daughter's father and I split up. It seems like few men in Florida want to date a single mom, which is why I have been single almost 4 years. What's a girl to do? | |
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| do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/16/2008 8:11:38 AM | | yes there you just have to keep looking. My friend tell me to wait and take my time when im looking for a woman to date. always only time will tell. but i always end up running into the player type women i try to avoid them. | |
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