| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:25:21 AM | I'm not sure what the OP is obsessing about. According to the married men I know, she'll wean him off of sex within six months of the wedding day anyway, so she just as well marry Danny Devito as physical attraction won't be her issue after a short while. 
OTOH, from the OP's follow up, which reawoke this thread, I'm not sure if she stuck with Devito or went back after the Marlboro man?  | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:36:48 AM | "Oh my goodness, I just did. He's a football player."
Nope, he is not. Beckham is a football player. This guy is an "American Football" player. What he plays does not LOOK like football, it LOOKS like gladiators in an arena or something. So does a "rugby" player LOOK better to women than a football/soccer player? Thus: MY (on topic) point is that it is not just the looks, it is the aura, even the aura of the game one plays (game, as in sport or "sport"/game,  ) - female analogy: Who is more per se attractive in terms of aura: a female volley ball or beach volley player?
A lover or a fighter? LMAO
A chess player or a Merger and Acquisitions "raider" or an Oakland Raider? lol
Ah those auras!!
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:50:47 AM | Dick Banger:
Nope, he is not. Beckham is a football player. This guy is an "American Football" player
Who's Beckham? Oh I remember, he's the big disappointment that's merely a public figure paid to draw women to Soccer for reasons similar to this OP. Oops, he's injured again. Apparently he can't hang with the American Soccer boys. Posh needs to toughen him up a bit, you think?
I think you Brits have beat this Football, American Football, Rugby thing into the ground. I'll save you the trouble of being a chigger (i.e. under my skin) I like them all Soccer, Football Americana, Austrailian Rules Football (A Real Mans Football - BTW).
Finally, what did your post have to do with this Thread? Ok, patiently awaiting more of your philosophical babble.  | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:58:04 AM | "Finally, what did your post have to do with this Thread? Ok, patiently awaiting more of your philosophical babble"
No need for that (and for ad hominem), dude! Try Vinny Jones instead of David B.!
All the fellow poster has to do is read and grasp the full text of my previous post!
Hint: It makes a point about LOOKS/attraction and the aura aspect of them!
So guess whose post was off topic? No need to bang one's ... on the wall to figure that out either!
Eg is a woman volley playet or a woman beach volley player more appealing and why is that? Pure looks? Nope, the sexy aura of the beach sport in general. ABC!
Extra hint: Do North American women find US football, football/soccer, b-ball or baseball, players sexier? Ie which of these sports has more "sex appeal" for women?
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:22:24 AM | Nick Thinker:
Do North American women find US football, football/soccer, b-ball or baseball, players sexier?
Would that be Canadian women, French Canadian women (since they consider themselves different than their counter parts), Mexican women or USA women? | |
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Ice-ey
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Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 81 | |
| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 9:27:25 AM | | Thats life and a reality of dating. Looks are very important, more then most people want to let on, for fear of looking 'shallow' or whatever. | |
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clay71
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 82 | |
| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:09:28 PM | You know the Marlboro man is just an image,designed by the company.
He died of lung cancer.So he may look great on the outside but,there's not
much going on in that skull.  | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 2:47:22 PM | | i could get past his looks as long as he's clean and his sex is on point... | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:05:06 PM |
i could get past his looks as long as he's clean and his sex is on point...
 I love this girl! I've never really thought about sex being "on point". In my heyday it was described as "good in bed!" Develop THAT reputation and girls came runnin'! Of COURSE looks are important. It's the first thing that attracts us, isn't it? I don't respond to many profiles w/o photo's. Be honest, do YOU? | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:14:01 PM | Someway between "I wanted to make it work because they were so attractive" and "they're not attractive at all" the truth lies.
I would never base a relationship totally on looks-- but I would also never date someone that I was not at all attracted to. | |
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| UPDATE!
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:30:10 PM | I find the OP's update a little ambiguous myself.
Yeah, yeah, but are you still looking for the Marlboro Man or has your taste evolved to include the Gingerbread Man? Fat Man? Short Fat Man? Short Fat Toothless Broke Man? Peking Man? Ape Man? Overly Sensitive Man?
Enquiring minds (ok, well, this curious mind wants to know)
What say You, OP? | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/23/2007 4:35:45 PM | OP - because we've been given vision and unless we're totally blind, to some extent looks are important. It's not shallow. All living beings (animals & humans) are hard wired by that. It's just we keep getting thumped in the head if we express our "ideal" when it comes to looks. I admit, I'm attracted to dark haired men, it never fails. Yes, I've dated blondes, reds, and gray haired men.
I figure if we find someone that we feel 90% great with them, we've hit a home run. As far as short, the shortest fella I've dated is 5'2" and I'm 5'8". He was nice, great fella, but he wanted kids and I didn't. That was my deal breaker. It was a short relationship to say the least. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 10/31/2007 11:31:58 PM | im sorry to be blunt lady but u have a funny way of approaching relationships.
u seem to be just dating people and just thinking of yourself into it all.for example u dated the first guy cause u were attracted to him.u didnt care that he wasnt into u.then the next guy is into u and u like the way he makes u feel but u are not attracted to him so your still dating him just cause its good for u.havent u tought about how this guy might feel about u?think about how u felt bad when the first guy broke it off with u do u want to make this new guy feel the same way.
i say break it up with him as soon as possible and put him out of his misery.let him do all thoses nice things hes doing for u to someoen who will like the real him looks and all.
so u said u like the malboro man type.lol not sure what u mean by that but ill take a wild guess that u mean the tall square -jaw type man riding on a horse or something.lol
lady i looked at your profile and i dont mean any disrespect but i feel someone needs to tell u this if no one already did.your 67 years old.yes we all have our picture in our mind of what is the most attractive to us but at 67 years old dont u think its time to put away thoses younger girls standards and try to get down more to reality?thats the problem u see u like the malboro man but the malboro man might not be interested in a 67 year old women u know. | |
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| Anyone ever heard of the 5 C's
Posted: 11/1/2007 1:01:34 AM | Mmm
Chemistry
Charisma
Communication
Common Goals
Commitment
The above should speak for itself as per the ideal relationship and what is required. If you can get three out of 5 then can work on the other two.
Importantly be honest with yourself and tell the other person how you feel. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/1/2007 2:40:45 AM | | The answer is simple. Marry the unattractive nice guy and fool around with the malboro man on the side. There, problem solved . | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/3/2007 7:59:47 PM | so u met the malboro man huh? and i tought he was dead from all thoses cigarettes he smokes in advertisements  | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/3/2007 8:14:59 PM | | You will never get past your lack of attraction to this man's looks. It is ingrained in each of us. Don't beat yourself up.....it is just the way it is. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/3/2007 9:29:17 PM | | THAT'S A TOUGH ONE. I THINK WE CONTINUALLY MAKE COMPROMISES. IF LOOKS ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU, THEN THEY'RE IMPORTANT TO YOU. THAT'S NOT NECESSARILY WRONG. BUT, THERE MIGHT BE A MIDDLE GROUD. YOU KNOW, YOU MIGHT NEED A MAN THAT HITS A CERTAIN ATTRACTIVENESS MARK. JUST CAUSE YOU DATED ONE ATTRACTIVE GUY THAT DIDN'T HAVE A COMPATIBLE PERSONALITY, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT ALL ATTRACTIVE MEN ARE GOING TO FALL SHORT IN THAT DEPARTMENT. SIMILARLY, NOT ALL NON-ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE HAVE GREAT PERSONALITIES. SOME BUTT-UGLY PEOPLE HAVE NEARLY UNBEARABLE PERSONALITIES. SO, DECIDE WHAT LEVEL OF ATTRACTIVENESS IS AT LEAST BEARABLE, AND WORK FROM THERE. SOME MEN ABOVE THAT LEVEL WILL BE COMPATIBLE, SOME WON'T BE. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 11:24:21 AM | (quote)Hey....did anyone not notice that this was posted in 2005 - this is 2007 - why are we responding to this forum? If she's still with him, then this is all for nothing. Next time I'll pay more attention to the date! (/quote)
Hey Guys, thank you all..it was TWO years ago, it's waaaaaaay over, I have moved on, I assume he has moved on..BUT..I still feel the physical attraction has to be there in some way, the spark, the chemistry, or whatever it is. Age doesn't matter, you never "feel" your age. When I look at a man whom I am attracted to I feel 40 and young and sexy and beautiful and I want him...doesn't matter that I am 67 or he is 70, it's chemistry and attraction and only some of it changes as we age. Sure, I love all you 40 year old guys, you look like candy to me, but all I do is look, hey, I'm not dead yet! | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 11:52:53 AM | No matter how you slice it Carole923. You are shallow. Not a bit shallow, a lot shallow. You've gotten to know this guy and are impressed with everything but his looks. And as it seems it is a problem for you that tells me that the looks department is priority over the other. You even said you'll give it time to see if he grows on you. That tells me his looks could eventually be a deal breaker. That tells me you are plain and simple shallow. next you'll be on here complaining about the great looking guy that played you and "why are all good looking men players"?
I remember a movie I watched once that showed how true things can be. A woman played by the beautiful Ashley Judd was always looking for the successful good looking guy to wisk her away. In the movie one of these good looking guys molested her daughter. The woman in the movie ended up marrying the town bug exterminator. He was short, chubby, bald and had a heart of gold. What the women in the movie learned was what is most valuable in life. Looks can be destroyed through life mishaps or simply by time. But the true heart of gold will last until it beats no more.
Now what do all the fit women think of the wonderful things I have said? (Okay I'm kidding with that last comment. Just a fesecious remark in reference to another thread) | |
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Älska
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Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 96 | |
| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:02:51 PM | | It's not shallow at all. For me a guy has to be the whole package of looks, personality, sex appeal, charm, wit and intelligence. Looks are as important as the rest! | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:12:41 PM | It's not shallow at all. For me a guy has to be the whole package of looks, personality, sex appeal, charm, wit and intelligence. Looks are as important as the rest!
Hmmm. My opinion is, to think that looks are as important as the "rest" is to not understand what the "rest" is. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:21:09 PM | | It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone. But it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile. Because it only takes a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. Maybe we meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person. We will know how to be grateful for that gift. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love will not provide assurance that they'll love you back. Dont expect love in return; Just wait for it to grow in their hearts. But if it doesn't, be content. It grew in yours. | |
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Älska
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Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 99 | |
| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:22:18 PM | | I understand fully what 'the rest' is. I wouldn't be attracted to a gorgeous guy who was as dull as a 20 watt bulb nor would I attracted to a guy who I couldn't kiss with the lights on! Hence, the whole package. | |
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| What is it about looks?
Posted: 11/7/2007 12:41:21 PM | I know from this males perspective looks, personality, sex appeal, as well as personal hygiene, enthusiasm both in and out of bed, charm, wit and intelligence is a must.....not a "I would like to have"
Once-Upon-A-Time...like 25 years ago up and until 3 years ago I would "indulge" most any woman. Today the standards set forth are much higher. Let's face it for what ever reason if one is unable to give 100% why bother.
Can't find the 100%? Then maybe do a few at 75% and a few at 50% just to keep in practice. | |
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