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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:15:56 PM |
You will see that Indians do marry white ladies and stay with them too.
If someone is not being honest with you.................thats him making excuses but you would get that anywhere as individuals .
I am very interested in learning more about that culture. I have had a couple of very good friends who were indian - the best friends I ever had in my life, but it is not always easy to understand why they are the way they are without studying the background of their culture and it isn't always something you always want to ask or have them be able to explain it to you in such a way you are able to understand. The website will be very helpful... Thanks. | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:03:56 AM | Hey Carolann0308, you are going off topic... Please talk only about topics such as marriage, dating and relationship since this form is meant for this purpose. Don't mix caste system with marriages and culture.
As far as Indian men are concerned, even chinese who have similar orthodox culture are far behind Indian men in term's of marriage. It is dedication, commitment and longevity of Indian men that keep marriages going. Marriage is considered a very holy and sacred ritual tradition which isfollowed by Indian men. Also to be equally applauded are Indian women, who tries to satisfy Indian men in all aspect.
Second, don't judge Indian people based on the India'ns living abroad. And also, Caolann, don't show caste system exists only in India. Don't you think blacks, asians and other community are being discriminated in UK and Europe. Even in North America, there is strong racism. In Europe, its wors't. If you talk only on marriage terms, here is what makes Indian men stand apart from rest of people in world?
1) Lowest Divorce rate in India
2) When you apply for a job, you apply through job consultant, agent's, internett, resume dropput to companies or seeing newspaper advertisement's. Marriage is also very similar to that. Either you find love by yourself, or by marriage beauro consultants, or websites like shaadi.com. We have more choices and it is good. No parents forces their child to marry forcibly. In west, you date a person, and if it work's, then marry and then divorce. Also, the main reason for failure of marriage is not love marriage/date marriage or arrange marriage. It is the expecation from any or both the partner's. Before marriages, there is huge expectations from both the partners, and if it is not met, then it result's in divorce. People in West always keep greater expectation's and the result, the divorce rates have reached 70%. And when people in West grows old, theey realize, they have nobody around them. Their husband left them, their child betrayed them and then in government ward, they take their last breath in this world.. You decide, who are educated dumbs?
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 7/16/2007 5:12:26 PM | Addendum : More to that - There's LOW divorce rate - but that doesn't mean these women are happy. If you go outside the indian cities - cities, which boast of modern outlook and take idiotic pride when reports of divorces come streaming in (its true - newspapers garnish as if its a HUGE leap forward in embracing a way of life thats more "acceptable"  ) - you'll see the actual dichotomy of a Nation that Boasts the Lowest Divorce Rate in the World!! Women who choose their mates are ostracized, shunned or even murdered!! Period!!
I think if women in India have to ascertain their place in indian society then I'm willing to live with a divorce rate that goes through the roof than live behind this farce!!! Luckily, as a secular and democratic nation - this is fast changing !!!!! I'm guessing India should be able to come out of this hippocratic loop within the next 20 years (a MIRACLE considering the 3000 odd years that have gone into making the archaic society we have today)
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 7/20/2007 3:54:41 PM | | You are going offtopic? We are taking about marriage , lovelife and divorce rate. We have the lowest divorce rate. Not every woman is murdered or tortured in remote areas. In fact, the culture is such that elders give respect to young ones and murders happens is a rare sight. Even in west, you will see murders, drug peddlers and drinkers who kill their wife. We don't have any doubt about the infrastructure of west, but marriage is a shame. Tommorow, people in west will die alone with nobody to take care of them in their old days, because even they did the same thing to their parents. In India, at least there is a family value system, where 90% of the son take care of their parents and even their small needs. This is culture and family values. India don't need father day and mother day, because people take care of their parents everyday unlike west, where after certain age, people only visit or think about their parents on father or mothers day..... There is weak culture in west, which results of no family life there. Too much individualism is making them psycic. Ask yourself seeing in mirror? Dont lie to yourself | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 12/6/2007 1:12:53 PM | TO THOSE WHO DISLIKE THE INDIAN CULTURE... . and im an indian
--i dont belong to a cast system
-- i do believe in true love
--i dont agree with aranged marrianges
--i consider women to be equal/ beter.. and need to be treated with more respect
--Women should be able to whatever they want to do ( making them stay at home= not cool)
-- i dont have high expectations ( thats wrong)
FOR THOSE WHO HAVE A BAD REP ABOUT INDIANS... im sorry... not all of them are close minded.. there are good ones out there not influenced by culture.... like me... | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 12/6/2007 1:30:18 PM |
Multicultural is a good way to date. - Lorethian
> I don't know how you work that out or where your logic comes from. Since the imposing of multiculturalism on Western countries, the divorce rate has skyrocketed. Fifty percent, at least, of all marriages now end up in divorce.
> Never mind. If I marry a Chinese woman - which I would never do - I won't need a divorce, because multicultural is the way to go. This will cure the problem.
> Peter. | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 12/6/2007 2:21:03 PM | Hmmmm...I live in the US. I date men that are citizens of the US. I don't ask for any family tree history when I go out with them. I guess if you are opposed to getting married to anyone that has roots in different countries that practice a different religion or whatever, I don't think you would date them. If you don't date them, you won't fall in love and marry them.
I am glad that in the town I live in they try to work for understanding diversities. | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 12/6/2007 2:29:20 PM | I am glad that in the town I live they try to work for understanding diversities. - frznstrwbrry
> Personally speaking I am proud of my race, my ancestry, my ethnic background, the inventions and achievements of my people (Scottish) and what they gave the world, like the telephone, the television, the reflecting telescope, madacamised roads, logarithms, chloroform, RADAR, penicillin, vacuum flask, the invention of world time zones, the ultrasound scanner, pneumatic tyres, the decimal point, fax machines, iron bridges, microwave ovens, refrigerators, quinine, the telegraph - and others too many to list.
> I am happy with my race, my people, and I would never marry someone outside of it. Give me a Caucasian woman anytime.
> I guess I must be - wait for it - (big deep breath, and all together now) I must be a racist.
> Peter. | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:34:17 PM | I am going to be ignorant (and possibly rude(?)) . How do the Indian women
manage to keep the dot on their forehead. ? I am tempted to go further (farther) but
the women near me, USF are awesomely pretty. But since I don't fit in the 6 digit income of their families I'd be a fool to even think of meeting one. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 12:13:24 AM | I am a white canadian girl who has dated a few brown guys. Not all have been indian, but my current bf is. I seem to just attract brown guys more than white guys its an ongoing joke with my friends and my parents who are surprisingly very accepting of me dating outside my culture which is mainly a British background.
I have talked of marriage with 2 brown men and have considered it. There would be many more obstacles to overcome however being as there are so many cultural differences. If I were to get married to an Indian man I would have to have 2 ceremonies, each one pretaining to our own cultural backgrounds. I myself find the culture very interesting and I love how family orientated it seems. And the foods pretty good too lol
But yeah the biggest obstacle in these relationships is the families. Hopefully both families are accepting. Otherwise its not going to be successful to be completly honest. My first realationship to a brown guy was with a muslim pakistani he couldn't tell his parents or family about the relationship, eventually the relationship ended. Currently I am dating an indian from punjab and although we have not been dating long he has already told his mother about me, and I am to meet his family in the spring when they come to Canada to visit.
But anyways yes I think its possible for the cultures to intermingle you just have to mature, openminded and responsible :) | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 6:51:22 PM | Depending on the source, we are 8-12% of the world's population. So, do us a favor and give us a larger chance of survival by leaving our women alone.
Your sentiment and statement is understood, though highly misguided it is. Inter-racial breeding is not causing the demise of the white race. Buddy, I read the american renaissance and stormfront as well as the next white nationalist and I know where you're coming from. I feel for you.
The welfare state, big government and cultural changes are what's causing this phenomenon. Never in the history of humanity has a native majority ethnic population have voluntarily replaced themselves and been 'outbred' by mostly benevolent immigrants.
8-12% still means at least over 600 million white caucasians not including white middle easterners.
There was recently a story in nytimes about the outsourcing of wombs to india - surrogacy. It was worth a read for the public reaction alone. As a right-wing vilified conservative and east indian, I fully support this endeavour. Too many young white people of this generation do not want the burden of having children and its economic consequences, but if you think that coloured folks do, you're mistaken.
The fertility rate of coloured women of second or higher generation in the western world equals that of white women. I plan on having no children, neither do any of my siblings and I am a first generation immigrant.
But there's no concerted effort on anyone's part to seek out any particular race of women to pursue. By the way, your comment would be considered extremely sexist, stupid and chauvinistic, contrary to the values of the wide western world. 'Your women'? isn't that how a patriarchal society works? Isn't 'our women' more of an 'ownership' association?
Finish off the welfare state, big government and meaningless government programs. Go back to 2.1 - replacing your population and stop giving amnesty to illegal aliens in your country before you tell coloured men to seek out 'your women'. At the same time, you might want to whip some white boys marrying asian women. It goes both ways. You might want to tell coloured women to leave your boys alone. Genes are split both ways when them eggs are fertilized, FYI. | |
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| what white girls think about indian men & married life?
Posted: 2/1/2008 6:45:39 PM | | Theres been alot of talk about how Indian men treat their women, most people saying that the woman are undervalued and unhappy in their marriages. This is certainly not always true. People who believe such things are obviously a little too influenced by the media, and because they are ignorant they don't relize that India and Pakistan are not in the middle east! They are in Asia. Its surprised me many times how many people don't know this. But anyways to get back to my point, from my experience Indian men seem to know how to treat women very well. I've been treated much better by Indian men than any other race including my own. ( excluding my father of course lol) and the men seem to be very understanding, and infact love to spoil their woman :) | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 9:46:07 PM | If a Caucasian woman has an attraction and connection with a South Asian aka Indian man I suspect that they are dating a man who was raised outside of Asia and outside the restrictions and strict family rules, values and judgements.
I generally would not consider a relationship with a man from India for a variety of reasons.
I am of South Asian ancestry, many generations removed from India, born and raised in the Caribbean and Canada. I was married to a Caucasian man of Scots ancestry for 24 years. It is what I was familiar with, I live in a Whitebread town.
Now as for men from India.... I have seen too many old world thinking.
My thinking on the low divorce rates ...well.. women are usually fearful of the husband and his family, women do not divorce....they get killed...they disappear...sorry..a small dose of reality here for many brides in India. Til Death Do Us Part comes early for some of them.
For a Indian man with a Caucasian woman here...well..
Were the men born, or raised here from a young age?
Are we talking Sikh or Hindu men? are they strict about their religion?
Are they looking to sponsor their family in India and bring them over?
How much influence does the family make in his life? Are they going to be running his life after he marries?
I have been aware of many bride burnings here in Canada in the last 20 years....Indian men who marry a woman of Indian ancestry who is living in Canada.
I suspect things are different for a Caucasian woman... an Indian man who would dare date or have a relationship with her is probably not old school and will not get caught up in the controlling ways of the family.
BTW... South Asian men...or men of South Asian ancestry are not all from India ... they are found all over the world.. Canada, the UK, HK, Oz, USA...Caribbean..they are all over the globe. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 1:22:18 PM | WesternRose
Ok well the guy I am currently dating is Indian and he was not raised outside of Asia. Infact he came here on his own a few years ago for schooling and his family is still living in India. He is Hindu and he is not very strict about his religion hes very open which if he was strict about then we wouldn't be dating in the first place obviously. He's not looking to sponser his family in India, being as he comes from a pretty wealthy family so if anyone was a golddigger it would be me. And his family has no urge to move to Canada. And of course his family has influence in his life why would anyone want to date someone who does not have deep family values? And being run by your family? Well thats a possibility in any race or culture, its not a purely Indian thing.
The things you are saying seemed to be based on sterotypes from the media as well as maybe 1 or 2 experiences of your own. Generalizing is just silly. Sure what you said may apply to some Inidian men and it also doesn't apply to many. As for the bride burning... I am tired of hearing of it, it is NOT a common thing and people act as though it is only Indian men who abuse, torture, or kill their wives. When it happens everywhere in the world including North America. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 2:38:48 PM | Appears...yes... a lot of stereotyping...and experience.... I am a bit older and have seen a lot of strange things with Indian men.
for one thing..your gentleman is a Hindu... educated...and is not hung up on the old world thinking regarding relationships.
take a look at those who are allowing their families to dictate their relationships and their lives...the ones who are raised in a strict Sikh family...chances are these men are not going to be entering a relationship with a Causcasian woman and let their family know about it.
there is a big difference between where the men are from, their education, their religion, whether it be Muslim, Sikh or Hindu. How their culture raises them to threat a woman.
I am very happy for you. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 7:58:41 AM | I met this India girl on a site called CafeTropic.
She was married to an India Man and was begging anyone to come up with the money she needed to be able to BUY her freedom from her husband and his family.
She said that she would gladly move anywhere in the world and become anyones wife in exchange for being freed from her horrible life in her native country.
She said that women there are nothing more than slaves that could be bought and sold by their parents and mens parents.
Arrainged marriages are nothing more than a way of making slaves of women.
NOW... tell me how great things are for women in India.!!! | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 8:06:59 AM | "As far as Indian men are concerned, even chinese who have similar orthodox culture are far behind Indian men in term's of marriage. It is dedication, commitment and longevity of Indian men that keep marriages going. Marriage is considered a very holy and sacred ritual tradition which isfollowed by Indian men. Also to be equally applauded are Indian women, who tries to satisfy Indian men in all aspect."
I agree with Carolann. Most Indian cultures seem to consider women inferior to men. "Marriage longevity is due to the dedication and commitment of Indian men". Indian women should be applauded for trying "to satisfy Indian men in all aspect(s)".
Welcome to the 1920's! | |
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Posted: 2/4/2008 8:08:11 AM | Dear Novemberbabee,
Hi, hope you are well and its great to hear from a Yorkshire woman.
What i was was doing was replying to WesternRose. WesternRose made a comment on if the man is a strict Sikh or Hindu. But what has is strictness to his religion got to do with the race of woman he is attracted to?
I am a very strict baptised Sikh with uncut hair, long flowing beard and a turban and i wear all of my 5K's. So what, what has that got to do with the fact that i only like Caucasian women? All my life i have only been attracted to Caucasion women because i was born and bred in England.......by the way.....i like women with Yorkshire accents. | |
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