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| Can you trust a woman with Friends with Benefits
Posted: 9/29/2005 11:03:50 PM | @amyr2....Don't let the bast ards get you down!
That was a quote from a prof of mine once upon a time and it is a translation of an ancient Roman text. It is as true today as it was back then.
You know that what you have is good and that abstinence equals abstinence, period. Morality and integrity and loyalty and honesty have absolutely nothing to do with sex. To hell with these other people. If they don't like FWBs then don't invite them over for a drink.
My only point to you is something you actually adressed in your OP. I missed it the first time around and that is about not keeping the FWBs around when you do find someone to devote yourself to. There are lots of really messed up people who have all sorts of fuc ked up ideas about sex in this culture, just because they think sex is dirty and sinful and you must be a worthless human being to have sex with someone other than a lawfully wedded husband doesn't mean a damn thing. You know and I know that you can have sex as you see fit since you are a grown woman, you are responsible and considerate and don't walk into these situations without lots of careful discussion before hand....when you do find someone who rocks your world, he will understand and the fact that you love sex and didn't sit alone at home praying for his arrival and will consider it to be a bonus - not a problem.
These people who shit on you aren't the type of people you want in your life anyway. Forget them, it's just chatter in the background of life, white noise and nothing more.
I have NO problem trusting a woman who HAD friends with benefits, I wouldn't like to get involved with a woman whose FWBs are still hanging around. | |
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| Can you trust a woman with Friends with Benefits
Posted: 9/30/2005 5:43:12 AM | The original question in the original post was "So, can you trust a woman who has FWBs? And if so why not?"
"Has" is the keyword. How could I ever be serious about a woman who currently HAS FWBs? Her past is her past, but her present situation makes it my business if we are dating. If she currently has FWBs, then I'd simply think of her as someone to have sex with and nothing more, and I'm past that part of my life.
Sex is great but it ain't everything. | |
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| Can you trust a woman with Friends with Benefits
Posted: 9/30/2005 5:47:54 AM | If she's Honest enough to tell me about her FWB's...than she is trustworthy for sure.
If she kept things a secret and I found out about it, than you're talking about a different can of beans all together... I don't expect monogamy until a committed relationship has been started, up until then, to each his or her's own, as long as you are up
front with each other about your trists... | |
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