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Posted: 10/14/2007 1:21:45 AM | Lonely nights my god, they are the worst for me, there is only so much to occupy your mind with. weekends and nights are the worst, the empty house ouch, great to get out and meet people, but still got to go home. I know it will get better just takes time DAMN it. I so miss the company of the opposite sex, not just the sex but the closeness, and hugs, the smell of a woman the conversation etc. but in time it will get better for all of us. chin up young lady it will all be good in time.
cheers,
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Posted: 10/16/2007 10:18:16 PM | | I gotta tell ya that I almost opted to skip this but since it was an issue that I was dealing with also, I thought I'd chime in. I didn't really want to because I didn't want to think about it and feel worse. It sucks to be alone sometimes. I was never blessed with kids and I'm never home long enough to have a pet, So like I'm alone alot. I used to read alot but one day I came to the conclusion that I was only filling my head with someone elses thoughts and I have plenty of my own to deal with, So there would no more escaping into literature. I started going to bars to be around others and got to be known as a regular but I got to thinking that I was and (sometimes ) still spending too much money, as well as too much time there. Internet is also an escape but I'm still alone at the computer. It don't matter how far the net reaches, Still alone at the computer. I've decided to exercise and learn a new language in order to better myself while I wait for the right lady to come along. If you believe that then please drop me a line I want to tell you I Love you and that it'll be allright.lol | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 1:50:58 AM | | Awwww...huggies to everyone who suffers from lonely nights, I discovered awhile ago lonely nights are what you make of them....I do everything from watch T.V...Watch You Tube...Watch paint dry....lol....KIDDING...I find I'm so exhausted at the end of a week/day I don't have time to be lonely. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 2:30:08 AM | i actually enjoy lonely nights, if im restless ill toss the skateboard in the trunk take ride downtown and find me a nice parking garage. try to relive my youth, its painful but fun. or even a drive up to the mountain, cranking tunes and winding corners at high speeds-thank god for all wheel drive! other then that-curling up to a book is enough escape for me!  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 9:42:15 AM | My boyfirnd works in the oil fields he is gone it seems all the time .
Some night when I get lonely I curl up with my little dog and read a good book
or take a walk or call friends and family . | |
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Posted: 10/18/2007 4:41:26 PM | at my position in this life (age) I feel that there should be a bond and an un-questioned or un-spoken trust between 2 people. if you are happy watching a movietogether you have seen 23 times, then dammit the whole idea is because you are TOGETHER!!!
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Posted: 10/18/2007 4:55:05 PM | | Play on the computer (Here and elsewhere), study ( need to do more of this), or just chill and watch tv | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 4:13:23 AM | | Oh wow, I have a lot of these. I divorced in April and honestly don't date much at all. My lonely nights are on weekends, when my babies go to their dad's house. So generally, I do self care. I get my salad, glass of wine and a few episodes of Forensics Files or some girly Lifetime movie, and give myself a pedicure. I have good feet by the way. Hehehe. This time gives me the opportunity to relax and regroup and ready for the rest of my week. But I am secure enough to go to the movies or out to dinner by myself. I love to people watch, and I read lips well. So have found myself privy to some very interesting conversations to say the least. It's cool, everything in its own time. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 7:39:12 AM | I play popular online games like City of Heroes or World of Warcraft. It's a very absorbing form of escapism and has a huge social element. The games aren't overly difficult and grouping up with other players to conquer goals can help evaporate some loneliness. A lot of really intelligent people play and the chat can be pretty stimulating at times.
Other then that, I watch TV, clean, rearrange rooms, go for drives, shop...
It's hard though, I don't do clubs or bars so it's really hard to meet fresh faces and plant the seeds of a future friendship or relationship. It's kinda depressing. I have work friends and all that, but we see so much of each other at work that we don't do much outside of work. The worst part is, I'm thirty and comfortable in my space, and the older I get, the more I enjoy just relaxing at home and abhor the thought of going to a club or a bar. | |
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| lonely nites
Posted: 10/19/2007 8:53:50 AM | On lonely nights, I try to be ultra-productive or give myself a 'spa date'. It depends on how depressed I am about being lonely. If I'm not terribly depressed about it, then I shoot for ultra-productive. I'll move furniture, organize my desk, clean out my closets, take things to Goodwill, organize my cabinets, etc. I don't make a list or anything...I just move from corner to corner taking care of projects as they cross my path. Once I'm exhausted, I'll take a long bath then cuddle up on the couch with my kitty and watch a movie before going to bed. I figure if I'm going to be moping, I might as well be productive. :)
Spa dates are for when I'm actually depressed about not finding someone I like who likes me (sounds simple, but alas it isn't). I buy fixings for a complex yet indulgent dinner, get a facial, manicure, pedicure and massage (preferably from a guy), head home feeling all pretty, cook dinner then relax in a terry-cloth robe with a mug of cocoa playing Sims 2. Once I've ruled a neighborhood for a few hours, I'm perfectly fine with being single again and back to my happy self.
It's odd honestly. During my entire 20's I never wanted a relationship. It seemed interesting, but I always enjoyed my company more than the company of others. My friends would ask if I were lonely, and I just looked at them askance. How can I be lonely? I have me. I've always been wired differently. *shrug*
Now that I'm 30, I feel like I have to choose between two paths: focus on my career and become more engrossed in myself, or attempt to find a relationship. I can eliminate the loneliness by purely focusing on myself, but doing so closes down the part of me open to finding a guy. To remain open to a relationship, I have to keep both doors partially open which leaves room for loneliness. It's vastly irritating, but its the path I've chosen for now.
Ah well, there are persons with considerably more pressing decisions so I try not to complain about it. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 10:38:53 PM | I'll watch DVDs, practice my drumming, go to the gym, cook something new, chat online.
There's always plenty to do to pass the time. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 10:44:52 PM |
I'm involved with someone who has a social life that doesn't include me so I find myself lonely at times. At my age I should have some sort of social life but I've always seemed to be too wary of getting out and doing new things on my own.
That should ring some alarm bells. You sound like you aren't exactly in agreement with the situation , maybe it is time to make a change?
much success, | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 5:23:38 PM | I tend to Over-Work myself... Just like many, I hate to be alone on a cold night, or a weekend, or just a good night to have company and conversation, so right now, I throw myself into my work.
Some day there will come a time when I will find that person I can't live without, but until then, I do NOT want to settle for Mr. Right Now, so I just work. And, when the time comes and I find this person, I will slow down at my job, and enjoy the company of the other person.
The only down-side to being a work-a-holic, is that in my profession, there are tons of long, lonely nights on the road, where thoughts and questions seem to take over my mind and heart.
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 10:56:05 PM | It`s been a couple of years now,at first I would just sit in my apartment and watch TV, listen to tunes I got into reading scientific american, nova, popular science, stuff like that I`d buy a movie or two every few days. I dident know anyone outside of work so I would go out to a bar for a few a couple times a week, I met a couple of people but it never amounted to anything. After several months I left the city for a smaller one thinking it would more like back home, but it was no different in the last few months I started messing with the computer and now I`ve moved past one finger typing LOL this site seems to keep my attention I`m starting to get into the forums I`m finding there are a lot of people are positive about life and I need to see that because this alone thing is starting to kill me sometimes I think I`m a chick I`m so sensitive about wanting a little happiness I`m sure that woman who only cares about being loved is here somewhere. Things happen for a reason all these lonely nights are leading to the day that girl lets me know I am not going to have to worry about being alone anymore or at least for now that`s what I`m going to try believe  Wood | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 11:22:07 PM | omg i just looked at your profile cowtrucker ::falls off chair::
:: slowly picks himself up off floor::
Ok now that i've picked myself back up...
I'd have to agree you seem to be One of a Kind!!! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:03:31 AM | If I get bored and I'm alone I just find something to clean...I've got the cleanest house you've ever seen.....Even I realised I was getting bad when I took the vacuum cleaner apart and cleaned the individual parts. Oh and my car is spotless too...after I washed it, waxed it and vacuumed it I got out a bottle of cleaner and spot cleaned the rims... This is bad.....maybe I should start doing it for money...Atleast then I'd be rich.. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2007 8:14:29 PM | I clean and when the cleaning is done, I ride my scoot. When I can't do that and there is nothing to read or nothing on tv and I am not online. Drinking is the fail-safe. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2007 5:51:21 PM | | For me personaly, when my kids go to bed...it does get especially lonely around here. I may just slink into bed, pick up my current book, do some reading. Pause, daydream some, curse myself for things I've done (yea, lovely stuff, eh?), but it's also the time that I do some praying. Since I have nothing but silence in my little world...a prayer can be the very thing to settle my mind so I can sleep, and still be hopeful that things will someday work out. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2007 9:44:23 PM | | i f uck the sh it out of my pillow and then i snuggle up with it pretending its a woman....sad thing is im not trying to be funny. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:23:49 AM |
i f uck the sh it out of my pillow and then i snuggle up with it pretending its a woman....sad thing is im not trying to be funny
Whoa. Something you might not wish to share if you're looking for a date.
Nothing wrong with masturbation, in fact, I highly encourage it, it's very healthy!
Being a need to have a pillow as a replacement for a woman speaks of much worse and higher issues. Might want to seek a little help. (I swear, I'm neither being mean, condescending or trying in any way to be a jerk, damn internet communication barriers) | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 12:16:04 PM | | its mearly a creative version of masterbating and my way of compensating for being alone as it is as close to sex as ill ever get...basically to me its solitary sex and there is no help that can cure that short of finding a real woman....plus you cant get help in saskatchewan, ive already been turned away because i couldnt adeqautly explain myself or understand the system so these so called professionals ascertained that i had no problems. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 8:10:49 PM | Sometimes I sit here at the puter feeling pretty sorry for myself about my lonely time. I read, yes. Played the games. Gone out. Even started ripping carpet up in my room. Doing gardening, etc. This still doesn't fill the void of having someone around. Even making friends here has been near next to impossible.
But when it gets too hard, I listen to sad, poor me songs then go watch funny vids on youtube.
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Posted: 10/28/2007 4:41:23 AM | | I have had these for 5 years now since the Divorce = o dates on weekends, last was 2003, and my goal is Longterm. Maybe the profile is not selling lol.. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 7:52:47 AM | being alone is not always lonley, I start work early, get home early, watch the toot on the tele when football is not on or go to the pub  | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 12:31:24 PM | So far, I haven't found PoF to be in any way a replacement for real life interaction. I've yacked with a few, even gone out a couple of times, but really, social interaction in a real life environment works absolutely wonderfully.
However, PoF is still a fun place to look and chat it up, and all that. Ir's a great supplement.
I'm not actually lonely - I was when I went through my divorce, but I've become pretty accustomed to just having friends and a few dates here and there - I don't need anyone to cuddle, hold hands or get intimate with me anymore - it's not longer a requirement for happiness. The sex, on the other hand, tends to be a pretty needful thing. But even there, you have to be careful - too much drama risk for the random partners - among other risks less savory.
Yeah. | |
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