nergal
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Joined: 5/12/2005
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:34:07 AM | | He seems to be intimidated by it. I certainly am not .. I have a lot of time for women with intelligence I want someone I can hold a decent conversation with as much as anything else .. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 52 | |
| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:44:39 AM | | I posted a thread in another section on a similar topic... I find that some men are most definitally intimidated by intelligent woman, especially woman who are self sufficient, and truely enjoy what they do for a living. | |
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nergal
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 53 | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 4:43:07 PM | Honestly, you are contradicting your own advice here. Woman or man no one should dumb themselves down.
I was trying to say that normally you get what you give in a relationship. I enjoy
certain attributes of my friends. No use trying to flex my smarts to
it's fullest when all I want is to enjoy their sense of humour. I'm not
dumbing down, I'm just not finding it neccesary (as some do) to showcase
that aspect of myself to my friends.
@nergal: if you were referring to me; I'd say you're probably right. I'm
a competitive person and I don't like to lose (at least not always). I would never put
myself into the ring with Mike Tyson; if Mikey doesn't hammer
me, as he does with his other opponents, I'd feel like he's not
respecting me.
There's no contradiction with the two points: this thread is about
the relationship between a man & his woman. I'd feel unworthy if
my gf was super-smart and she's handling me with kid-gloves....ewww!
Anyway, it's difficult to describe...but i think many men understand what
i'm saying. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 4:57:17 PM | | no you are not the only man to find an intellegent woman intimidating. i come across this all the time. i make plenty of men uncomfortable. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 5:07:03 PM | I have dated some women that thought they knew it all.. and that was nasty even if you showit to them in black and white.. they have some off the wall remark..
however i think it would be awesome to dat a women of intelligents.. imagin the conversation, learning, and understanding.. nice! | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 6:13:08 PM | I prefer them actually. Nothing like a stimulating discussion on current events etc, not much into "small talk" or mind numbing conversations.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Anthony | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 6:32:07 PM | I think some of you aren't understanding the question. The question
isn't whether you prefer a mentally handicapped woman. It's
if you want a GENIOUS...that's my understanding. Who wants
a retard???? | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 6:35:17 PM | Quite the opposite.... I find women of intelligence absolutely exhilarating
I love to have my horizons expanded and I have found that only intelligent women can do this....
I have only been intimidated by one woman she was a professor at a big 10 University, with many degrees and 1 year away from her Doctorate.... and yes initially I was intimidated, I was intimidated because I want to challenge and expand my partners mind just as I want her to challenge / expand mine.... but she pursued me and in the end we both were mentally stimulated......
After her, I realized that an intelligent woman is a requisite!!!! | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 6:44:08 PM | | I prefer people who are really simple or really complicated. I don't see intelligence as intimidating in itself, however, some people are exceptional and that can be intimidating. I know what you mean, for example really exceptional artists intimidate me as much as really driven rocket scientist types. Generally if someone is really different and you want to get over it, just ignore that the difference exists, and I find you end up coping in remarkably interesting ways. I find people who are a challenge to interact with (but not too much of a challenge) to be sexy and interesting. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 6:53:28 PM | Intelligence yes, as long as a down to earth attitude is maintained. Especially if she can use her intelligence to progress, rather than sexual charms all the more amazing.
If the woman is looking down her nose at me and others, I'm not interested. I don't care how good looking she is. If she is willing to accept/ask help to further herself professionally/privately then that shows maturity/character as well as intelligence. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 7:00:16 PM | hang...funny u should say that...i cant even begin to tell you how many men have literally told me to my face that im intimidating..and it wasnt because of any degree of intelligence, however it did have everything to do with self confidence..and because im very open and opinionated and speak my mind, they (men) have told me that they are intimidated by that...
i can only guess that this would mean that they are more used to the quiet and submissive type that just lets life pass them by or the ones that speak only when spoken too..thats not me...i guess because im a very good conversationalist, it scares the guys away...and it happens on a regular basis...go figure. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 7:03:42 PM | I don't consider girly women 'submissive' I consider emasculated women as...
well, emasuclated. 
Intelligence has nothing to do with masuclinity or femininity. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/2/2005 10:29:20 PM | I've yet to meet a woman more intelligent than myself LOL. It speaks to compatibility. You need to feel that you are on the same level as a partner or they at least balance some of your strong points.
We all have our gifts. Focus on what binds you, not what separates you. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/3/2005 1:42:50 AM | There is nothing more alluring, fascinating, attractive, amazing and exciting than a woman* who has a double dose (or more!) of intelligence. When I can describe advanced concepts to a woman and she understands what I am talking about, well that just flips my pancakes. Brownie points for her if she can add to whatever it is we are talking about!!
I drool (figuratively, of course) for intelligent women -- the more intelligent, the more I like..
(hmm.. pondering.. could this explain why I am currently 'single'?)
* -- Unless, of course, you're a self-defeating, 'low-self-esteem', dishonest, stalking-prone freak, in which case I change my phone number. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/3/2005 1:47:12 AM | oh, and I must distinguish:
Intelligence, in my dictionary, equates to "ones ability to [mentally] comprehend and apply logic".
Education is something totally different, and does not indicate intelligence or the lack thereof. I've seen quite a few people confuse these two, or suggest that one depends upon the other. Nope, I don't think so. | |
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YX32
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Joined: 7/10/2005
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/3/2005 2:39:59 AM | Intelligence is not a competition. we all have our areas of expertise. I would prefer a woman more intelligent than me.....at least, someone with more common sense.
Cuz I have days where I make Forest Gump look like Einstein. (I'm still trying to figure out the mystery of using washing machines and mixing the right soap.)
Toon | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/3/2005 2:49:45 AM | Women with intelligence are the biggest asset a man can have.
If you're just looking for a little on the side then I think that would be a nuisance. However I'm not into that. If I'm going to do anything with anyone, I want to do it right, and that requires talking, and I dislike talking to the wall.
Sorry fluff between the ears just does not cut it for me. I like my relationships two sided. | |
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| woman of intelligence...intimidating?
Posted: 10/3/2005 8:34:06 AM | | yes i do agree that some men may be intimidated by an intelligent woman..but in the same token,,i think in todays modern climate,,must of us real men are not,,as a matter of fact there are quite a few of us who prefer an intelligent women,,,but i dygress..what i find interesting is the great number of women who say they re open-minded to all men as long as they are "nice" guys and will treat them well,then as you scroll down,,the question arises, income, and they say,,a minimum of 75,000 $ only need apply,,doesn t sound that open minded to me ,,call me crazy,,and of course,,even on the websites,,if you don t look perfectly to their specs,,than you definitly never considred,,that i give you goes both ways..all i ask is that you don t tent all men into one catagory when there are plenty of good men that too would like to find a good woman.. | |
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