| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 8:37:02 AM | | Hey Blast....I did not yell. I actually only typed him on here, where I know it is safe and noone else can get into his account. The worst thing that I typed him was, "I thought you were better than that, I thought that you wanted the same that I did." That is what I consider reaming out. I left him no room to explain and yes that was rude of me. He IS a good guy and I screwed up plain and simple. He apparently is done with me and I guess I can not do anything abou it....there is "plenty of fish!!" Pardon the pun :) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 8:58:07 AM | | I totally agree! If he cant accept you made a mistake, hes pathetic! if you really care about someone you will do anything to be with them! and i hate to say this but i think he was too cowardly too finish things with you, and had done this to make you feel its all your fault........which is totally wrong! and where the hell are they both sleeping in this one bedroom place! move on hun hes a jerk, you and your kids are worth far far more than some idiot playing mind games! | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:18:38 AM | Thanks you two!
Yeah I know right? Bunkbeds? hehehe
I thought that it may have been her at one point, but I swear he said that he was not interested in her. OH well **** em all!!!!!!heheheh :) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:21:53 AM | I think you should stop blaming yourself. If he understands that that message came from his computer then he should take responsibility and apologize to you. He should track down the culprets and have a few words. He's not defending you well here.
Another possibility is that by your words it did seem like he was maybe losing interest and didn't know how to say it, blaming it on work schedules and such. Then just using your reaction to the message as a way of blowing you off without being a real man and just saying it. Of course I could be right off base here, but if you've ever read enough of these posts and had a few blind dates or extended date experiences you find people just seem afraid to tell a person there not interested because they don't want to hurt their feelings. When in fact saying nothing or avoiding the person just makes it worse and the other person confused by trying to determine if they did something wrong as in this case.
So I go with the idea that he is just not interested and don't think you did anything wrong.
Its simple to me, if he was interested and knows you are then he would go to great lengths to resolve this. Since he hasn't, it shows he's not interested. move on, he's a little boy. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:40:49 AM | | When I was in my late 20'sa I too went through the same sort of thing . NOW , that I am pushing 40 . OF couse we say and do some things others don't like . see if , he DOES reply to you . If not , well . you know another guy in wisconsin . he may be older BUT . He knows that what a woman says and she she does can be two completely differant things . always think " ok so he is not after me . there is more fish in the sea of love " | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 10:08:06 AM | I think he probably did write it and even if he didn't he is using it as an excuse to push u away and say it's over so he must have had doubts. He is a grown man if he needed time to think all he had to do was tell u and u keep apologising what r u doing it wasn't your fault it was either him or one of his colleagues how were u to know he should have been fuming at them and concerned you had been hurt. BIN HIM OFF HUN ...easier said than done but dust down n move on
tc good luck :) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 10:08:16 AM | I think he probably did write it and even if he didn't he is using it as an excuse to push u away and say it's over so he must have had doubts. He is a grown man if he needed time to think all he had to do was tell u and u keep apologising what r u doing it wasn't your fault it was either him or one of his colleagues how were u to know he should have been fuming at them and concerned you had been hurt. BIN HIM OFF HUN ...easier said than done but dust down n move on
tc good luck :) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 10:14:48 AM | Based on what you wrote, it looks like he doesn't want to see you anymore. Although he denied that he sending you the "GO AWAY" email, realistically, who else would have sent it? If another woman sent it, it is no better than if he sent it himself.
The best thing to do is give him some distance.
Best wishes,
Puppy Love | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/2/2005 5:34:24 PM | | Yeah I have gathered that he does not want to see me anymore. Oh well, I am not half bad looking...I can find someone else...but right now I do not think I want to. I rather just let destiny take her toll. Que' Sera Sera.......................thank you everyone, your input has been enlightning and helpful. :) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/4/2005 9:00:50 AM | no, you're not half bad, you're very pretty, but you already knew I was going to say that. I highly doubt that they were going to sleep in bunk beds. I hate to say this, but it kinda sounds like he and this "co-worker" are a little more than friends. I'm tempted to think that she's the reason he's not talking to you. I'm glad to hear that you've decided to walk away. You can do better.
Off topic:I'll be around later tonight, if you'd like to IM me at yahoo. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/5/2005 6:04:01 PM | | Just a little update for all of you who had showed concerned and shared your input. I am finding it hard to let go since there has been no closure. I am still writing him. I told him that all I want is closure, that I am not some robot who can turn of the feelings at will. I want a goodbye or something. I even told him to just block me from sending him shit. Just something instead of dead silence and ignoring me. Well I am hopeful but I am realistic too. Thanks again | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/9/2005 10:59:14 AM | Dont be stupid. Nobody whos realy in love dumps sombody over somthing so petty 99% of the time when you get dumped its because theyve become involved with some one else.
The the ass holes try to make you feel its some how your fault. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/9/2005 11:08:38 AM | Nah when you were a kid and you got an owee your moma would kiss it and make it well.
Now you got a different kind of owee
You need a vvolunteer to kiss it and make well.
REPORTING FOR DUTY MAM | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/9/2005 11:21:03 AM | I would have to agree with those who have said to forget the loser!
If he is someone who could not walk in your shoes and see that you had the RIGHT to be upset with the "Go Away" reply that came from HIS IM screen/alias...and he cannot forgive your tangent or rant that you replied with....then what the heck is he going to do when something really serious occurs?! | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 10/9/2005 1:59:13 PM | | Well first off we were never inlove, just seeing eachother. We have talked and we have decided to just stay friends. My innitial letters did upset him and he was taking time thinking about everything. Well he made his choice....and I have made mine. NO MORE POF!!! Well maybe just for the forums! ;) | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 12/3/2005 10:47:27 AM | | I think he is cheating on you. To be honest, he probably has someone else. Who's to say he is really at work, when he writes you on here? I think you should just " go away " like he said. Just dissapear and live your life. You have kids to worry about and I don't know why you're wasting your time on this highschool game. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:23:28 PM | Hi Skittles ...
I have to say .... I'm so sorry for your experience. I completely feel your pain. But #1 ... do you want to be with someone that gives you the silent treatment? That is cruel, abusive behaviour. #2 ... he just moved in with a female coworker and he is not responding to you anymore ... hmmm ...that's sends huge red flags to me.
Maybe he is a nice guy and needs some time to sort out his feelings ... maybe so, but that is still no excuse for giving you the silent treatment and for not apologizing for the IM response of "go away". I think a decent guy would respect your feelings and at least tell you one way or the other what is going on. There are a few of them out there.
No one deserves to be treated like that ... forget about him. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 1/24/2006 8:56:16 PM | Sorry to sound like a **** but I seem to be the only one who didnt miss this line In one of your posts ..
does not read the forums that I know for a fact! Yeah the whole coworker thing is a bit wierd. He just moved in with a GIRL coworker in a 1 Bedroom apt. on the first.
So hes living with another woman In a one bedroom appt - I think the rest Is kinda glaringly obvious sadly. Theres the answer to why he didnt spend a lot of time with you Id say.
Sorry you fell for It - but at the same time how do you fall for It? Just be more careful In the future. I dont have a lot to say I dont know the facts but that one line says more to me than every other reply to this post.
Cut him off - move on and be a lot more picky In the future. Seems his live In gf Is owed an appology as much as anyone. | |
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| Did I offend him to the point of no return??
Posted: 1/24/2006 9:24:53 PM | | I don't think you owed him the appology, in fact vice versa. Most of the IM's that I know of are password protected. If I see a friend on one of them then I assume that's who I'm talking to. I would never walk away from my computer and leave that on around anyone I didn't trust completely. He let other people into your personal business. Think about the archives. You can look up old conversations. You were in a relationship with this guy so your personal business is all over that thing. Phone numbers, addresses, etc. That's just stupid, irresponsible, and inconsiderate, whether the person was a co-worker or his new girlfriend. They shouldn't have had access to you. | |
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