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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 852 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 7:06:22 AM | Good Morning Everyone !!
ladybug I really like your way of thinking !! I hope one day I can have that same kind of joyfull assertiveness, but I wanna gallop and keep forgetting I can't yet !!
2uneek and human bean keeping busy on and around those hard days is like the best medicine, finding people to surround yourself with, still something I need to work on but hey there's a little piece of heaven here with lot's of wonderfull Angel's to help and guide you through.
You both have wonderful senses of humour, just make someone smile and laugh and I'd bet that would help ypu too.
As for my day to day it's a scary one and I have lots of baby steps to take today. I start my new job, I guess I should be more positive and use the word careeer. This is a big step into a whole new field I have never been in before, but something I have always been interested in . When I initially applied for the position it was being held at a job fair, the only way you could submit a resume, well I went and well the like 5 million people (okay a little exageration) so as usual I didn't take that step forward ! Bad as it was I left, I went home and well kicked myself in the a.. and got on the computer and found their website. I sent them a letter and a resume. Sure enough got back mail notification back email not sent, problem with the address, oh well I deserved that I figured, my own fault well the next day the phone rang they did get my resume and wanted to see me for the interview. Hence here I am. | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 854 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 7:21:26 AM | Thanks Tuesday I do try to remain a positive influence on myself and others. It is so easy to feel sorry for yourself or get caught up in the everyday concept of "woe is me" so you really have to work to make each day a positive experience. I find that by doing things for others I, in turn, am helping myself. I have a charity project called "warmth from the hearth" and I donate socks, hats, gloves and scarves to the homeless. I also mentor teen girls who are in foster care. Being a positive influence in the lives of others just makes me day so much easier to handle.
2uneek....the quest for chocolate continues. 40 minutes til lunch. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 7:36:16 AM | No more chocolate !! 2uneek and ladybug you keep talking about chocolate and well last night I went and bought a bag of double fudge cookies and ate a whole sleeve, the nightmares I had last night!! lol
Ladybug you really hit some good triggers there, a few weeks back I went to the grocery for something and made the checkout girl laugh while I myself was not of the best spirits. I didn't realize that even in my somber mood I was trying to make someone else feel good and well that sure made me feel better and realize at that moment, that I really needed to start really taking care of me so I could make others happy to make me happy.
As for a new project for me would be to direct some good energies and see if I can't do something to help the homeless here, for after all I was just there myself.! | |
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Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 857 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 7:51:52 AM | roaul I'm sorry shame on me !! I just kinda figured everyone was drinking communal beverages and well the two just don't mix !! and yes a bite of chocolate gives much pleasure, but I beg to differ on the whole sleeve !! lol
To all
I have something that I think fits right into this thread. maybe you've heard this before but Someone said your life now should be a reflection of 29 years ago !! and funny as it seems mine is, is yours?? | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 859 | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 861 | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 862 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 8:45:55 AM | | 2uneek you are far from dense and I guess the canadian is just natural eh!! lol, although a lot of people ask if I'm american when I talk, that's all the american infiltration of Windsor though I think.and all the detroit shopping sprees !! anyways I'm not totally sure, it came from a native I met up north, while out looking for myself, we got to talking about life and my situation and that I was probably in mid life crisis or somethingand he asked what I was doing 29 years ago I told, in fact I had just moved from Windsor to Vancouver when I was 18, looking for a new start then and yes I found a wonderful life there for quite some time. I was so caught up in thoughts of how this really was that I never asked exactly what he meant I just new it to be true. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 8:50:50 AM | my goodness, had to read several pages just to catch up on you guys.
tuesday I'm excited for you dear sounds like your going on a good path. human bean it's hard to go through tohse aniverseries I do identify.
Iluv and ladybug I love to read your thoughts. as well as the rest of you quadrage people
hugs to you all
well it seems to me that my life has been going ok. I was quite surprised about my little conversation with the other family member yet the words needed to be said so now I feel the ball so to speak is in his court. I have been retraicing some past things I have learned and had droped anong the way. Like my diet, I use to eat very healthy foods and kinda stoped years ago so now I have begun to eat more healthy. I am feeling more in control of my life and feelings. I find myself smiling more and not moping. went to the local coffee house to hear my daughter sing as she wrote a new song I enjoyed that and didnt feel tomuch anxiety in a crouded room. Most of the people there are begining to get familuar with us.
Everybody enjoys to hear my daughter sing. I have been enjoying the many talents my children have. They all are very different and diverse.
Forgiveness is a key to a lot of issues as many times we dont know everything about a person and the freedom of forgiving is fantastic. also to forgive oneself, that to me is a hard lesson I think i'm my worst enimy at times. whatever is happening in my life at this time is a positeve thing I am very surprised at this turn of events personally and just say bring it on I',m ready. love ya all | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 865 | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 866 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:18:34 AM | Forgiveness is a difficult task to master Mamatiger but one that we should all take great care to achieve.
When I first left my marriage my husband forgave me.....I wonder if I have forgiven myself???? Sometimes I don't think so because I've never been able to move on with my life.
Baby steps..... | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 868 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:29:05 AM | | I can certainly agree with mama tiger. I too am my own worst critic. People cant hurt me with words because you oughta hear what I say to myself. I tned to curse at myself for not seeing whats been happening, lettings things go to keep the peace, keeping my mouth shut when I should say something. Its amazing what you find yourself getting into or have gotten into. Once you finally pick your head up and look around...you go OH MY GOD...whatta the...!! | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 869 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:42:25 AM | 
TO ALL MY FRIENDS HERE:
Sorry for my extended absence as I had much thinking to do and much of my life to get in order. I thank you all for welcoming my friends Ladybug and Kiddienurse to this thread so warmly. I so greatly appreciate that.
I'm happy to give you all good news but sad that I must also leave you all too. My wife and I have reconciled after much hurt and pain that we've inflicted on each other. My health is really irrelevant right now as I am finding peace with the woman I've started my life's journey with 23 years ago. I NEVER imagined this would happen and I had planned to divorce her after the holiday season was over. NO ONE is more shocked than I am of this sudden turnaround.
I have updated my profile with more specifics about why I need to leave and to offer some very special good-bye's. I hope you will all go there and if you so desire, send me one last email.
My heart is heavy leaving you all, but light in that my spirits are good. I don't know what is down the road for me healthwise, and I don't really care, but I know many of you do, so I'll just pass on a word now and again to Ladybug for you folks.
I have grown to love some of you so much as family. I hope you will not be hurt by my sudden departure. I, of course, offer my profoundest apologizies to my one friend here that I have hurt so much recently. You are wonderful and deserve so much better than this guy could ever give you.
May God richly bless all of you and grant you your greatest desires. He has granted me mine: more time with my wife. I never expected that to happen and had given up on it happening. God truly knows our hearts.
Keep the lighthouse beacon burning bright here folks so that you can all continue to offer the safe harbor to those in distress just like you did for me. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:53:47 AM | Margaretta's? Who said? I'll take one, rimmed of course, if they aren't too soggy now! lol My absolute favorite! yummmmmmm!
29 years ago today? EWW I sure hope not! I was in my fourth week of basic training in Cornwallis Nova Scotia, I'd just joined the military. If I remember right, about that time my feet felt like pureed sausage meat, my arms like lead weights, and I fell into bed every night so exhausted mentally and physically that when dawn came it felt like I'd just closed my eyes.
Well, using this mediforically, I can see myself in a type of basic training today. If that's true I've been in it for five years now. Taking responsibility for one's life, when no one once gave you a good role model to guide me so many tender years, is difficult. However, for the past two years I've had a very good friend who while not really a great role model, is a wonderfully warm and loving person dispite being manic depressive. Up until three years ago I couldn't keep a friend more than a few months, I always blew it. When I discovered it was because I was needy, I head on dealt with the needy issues within me. Once I realized I could get all the affrimations I needed from within me, things leveled out, and now I've got one friend across the hall has been a good friend for three years now, and the other for two. I seem to be making more friends slowly, healthy friends, and that's the best part of "Life Class 105, Basic Training."
Tusdays2 you are a delight. Congratz girl on the job! Give it your best and you'll thrive! 
2useek, welcome if I haven't said it before.
Bucs, Iluv, LadyBug, and so more of you always inspire me to be a better me. Thanks for being just who you are! All of you! | |
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Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 872 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:58:29 AM | love269
fogive me saying this but i feel your friends on here would much rather you be in love with your wife and build a future again than be here on the net you had many years of happiness before and now you have the chance to continue that take it and enjoy the life you want with her it is much better than hoping for things and not getting anywhere just try not to lose the friendships as you journey in life just every now and then let your friends know all is good. ood luck for the future i hope it goes smoothly for you. | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 874 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:06:14 AM | Although new to the group, I've read through a lot of whats happened previous. You are certainly moving in the right direction. Friends ARE truly priceless so dont forget them and they truly wont forget you. Im certain you will be wished all the best, and hope that your successful in re-claiming your life.
GOOD LUCK! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 10:11:15 AM | | love I can only speak for me, but I'm sure everyone else feels the same. I am ECSTATICALLY happy for you, our brother. That is the best news!! Another unexpected surprise....hmmm that's going on a lot!! I won't think of it as losing you, just having to go down a different road. But know we love you which means in it's purest form that your happiness is our greatest desire for you. I've treasured our brief friendship, it was rich and sweet. I can't tell you how this has so warmed my heart. You've been a blessing to us all. | |
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