| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:11:42 AM | roaul: Nothing to forgive with you very nice comments. TY 
Bucs: Thank you so much for those comments. I feel so good knowing how you all seem to love this guy who can be so unlovable at times. You have been a great inspiration and blessing to know.
Georgie: I appreciate your posting below. Hearing and following your struggles have helped to keep me going when I was all alone. Thank you for reaching out to me and others. You are a blessing to many. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:12:49 AM |
I'm happy to give you all good news but sad that I must also leave you all too. My wife and I have reconciled after much hurt and pain that we've inflicted on each other. My health is really irrelevant right now as I am finding peace with the woman I've started my life's journey with 23 years ago. I NEVER imagined this would happen and I had planned to divorce her after the holiday season was over. NO ONE is more shocked than I am of this sudden turnaround.
Congratulations love269, I pray all will be well and love, friendship, and mutual forgiveness and admiration will abound in your marriage! You've been down a hard road my friend, and you deserve this happiness. Life does suprise us at times, but when the ending is this good, you've just got to grab it and run! Don't forget us, we love you. I love you as the good friend you have always been. May God's angels guard your steps, the wind be steady at your back, and you face always wear smiles a mile wide. Say hi now and then. Love, Georgie | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:17:25 AM | Its even more obvious now with the departure of love269 what company Im in. I think I am truly blessed. Its apparent that the ladies of this thread are the cornerstones of a lot more. I can see from the postings and banter back and forth that there's a lot more than just quick wit and well wishes. Its also obvious that love's departure is a wonderful yet sad one. Its certainly made me sit back and think....and think....
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:19:31 AM | blewsclew Certainly not, it's in the creative writing forum, called One Survivor's Story.
2uneek This is an unusual place for sure, should be MORE like this. Some of us have known each other from here for awhile. We have some pretty tight bonds. Always happy to welcome new people here, to add to our little corner, growing by leaps and bounds. You know it's a good place when everyone's welcomed with open arms. We're here to share our lives, like the OP says friendship, love and one day at a time. It's always good to see people joining in and EVERYONE has something to add, you're all here giving and that's just a blessing to see. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:34:04 AM | Indeed...good luck, love...we've never met that I can recall, but I definitely wish you well. I know very little about your health issues, but remember, taking care of yourself and not neglecting them will make your reconciliation all the brighter.
Baby steps....thanks for the reminders, people...they are very important. I been baby-stepping along for several months now, and ocassionally take a larger leap. I've learned quite a bit along the way...haven't we all?
2uneek; you were asking about preventing a divorce from being messy...it isn't always easy, or even always possible, but what I found helped to a great degree was remembering that no matter what had been done to hurt me, it didn't change the fact that my ex was a person who I had loved enough to committ myself to; that we'd had a lot of truly wonderful time together, and although she did not want to be with me anymore, it was clear that she was sincere about not wanting to destroy me by leaving. There were times when I had to force myself to remember that; but these factors helped me realize that she was still someone who deserved respect and decency. She wasn't an evil, conniving ****; she was still the person I'd known and loved for years.
It wasn't always easy...and there were times I said things I shouldn't have...and there were times when she said things she shouldn't have...but overall, we remained civil.
As far as the thrust of everyone else's posts; yup, I too am my own worst critic.....all part of the human condition, eh? But we learn to defeat the self-lies with reinforcement of the positives; good support, and I too am a firm believer in the healing power of laughter. Prayer always helps a great deal too, and a warm smile and a hug from a friend goes a long way, also. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:44:50 AM | Bean: I will certainly take your advice. In fact its getting copied and pasted to my personal journal. Its good to know your doing well.
Bucsgirl: I took the time to read your story. The medal of honor Im not sure is good enough for you. I am so privileged to sit and listen to you. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:52:46 AM | love - that is great news! i hope only the best for you and your wife and also that you will appreciate your relationship more than ever. You have posted many good thoughts and brought many good people here. You may be gone but not forgotten, I am really happy for the both of you
to the rest of the remaining quads a prayer request - a local 19 yr old young woman needs your prayers as she is in need of a liver transplant, they are requesting a donor and a healthy recovery when a donor is found and the surgery is complete - her name is Ahna
I do belive prayer can change things even though I am not particularly religous or devout. I have seen to much to argue the fact that prayer can change things, so after you are done running around buying chocolate cookies and making people smile and laugh say a little prayer for Ahna please, thanks! | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 11:05:23 AM | Dear Love, as Bucs said, couldn't be happier for you my friend. And yes, we will miss you terribly, but knowing you are with the love of your life is far more important and that makes us happy for both of you and your family. God bless. u got mail.
A big warm hello to bucs, georgie, leafs, ladybug, mamatiger, Iluv, Raoul and everyone else here...alot of new people WOW that's great..I have been reading lately but not posting much . I never was nor likely ever will be a philisophical type person with a gift for words like you guys. And I must admit my mind has been totally occupied with a very special person (Dave, Dave, Dave) LOL | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 11:32:10 AM | \Wow every time I read a post I think it is like a new learning experience here, a wake up call, a new thought process.
Loves the best of luck to you, I am sorry we never got the chance to speak but you are onto bigger and better things.
Sun dance I will surely say a prayer, when I was really lost I realized I wasn't even praying, my self worth I didn't feel worthy or whether God even cared. He does care and my prayers are being answered and with all us good people praying it is sure to help Ahna.
Blewsclews and 2uneek after reading bucsgirl's story and posts she does deserve more than a medal she deserves a Halo !
2uneek it's not just the ladies making this forum the special place that it is. The men here also have added much to make it what it is.
I am off to work now. The first day working that I don't have to worry about kids or home, nothing but me. I must say I'm feeling a little scared it's still that inner child that thinks I'm not good enough, but I' going to take her along with me and prove that I can do it, and thank God you all are here to share this with me. It really does mean a lot.
Now don't take off cruisin without me
Georgie save a margaritas for me ! | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 12:03:04 PM | Thank you to all who have emailed me and/or posted such wonderful comments here. Some of you I have never met here, but you noted my earlier posting or just my good-bye one and how much this crew here means to me. You folks are like extended family. I hope to one day return (with a less sexual username  ) and catch up with you folks.
I so appreciate all the good wishes and praises (although I deserve little of those). You've all meant so much to me. If anyone of my good friends here missed my earlier good-bye post it is #870. I also update my profile with more specifics about my departure and some very special thank you's.
I'll check in here for a few more days. Thanks again all. I had no idea that I had somehow touched so many of you. I often felt like I was taking more than I was giving. It's nice to know that wasn't the case.
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 12:32:02 PM | Seriously though...I'm very lucky. I have a fairly good life, good health and great friends. I struggle sometimes with being the sole caregiver to an elderly parent, work full time, take care of a large home and try to find time to spend with my beau who is totally blind. It gets to be a challenge at times to divide myself into so many pieces but I manage.
So right now....I just need that massage. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/9/2005 1:56:51 PM | Love...you know you'll be missed ,but we still have the "lighthouse" metaphor to honour you!
Big step for me today in a way..it's my son's 19th birthday...taking him out for dinner and buying him his "official" age-of -majority drink ( not like he's ever had one before...ahem..)
Makes me realize the full meaning of "baby steps".
Can't help but look back to his birth,the first steps,the first words etc...
and now, he's a grown man...and I'm so proud of what a kind ,smart,and honourable person he's become.
It also makes me feel old!Yuck!!! | |
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