2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 7:29:20 AM | Gosh there's a lot of reading to get ot know all of you people!!
Tesaz and love I have now read your profiles
I have been trying to read everyone's as they come up.
I've been doing a lot of reading lately !!
All the best to both of you! I know you two have helped complete this group and make it what it is and I as a newbie thank you for that.
Man I'm getting jealous ! lol, but hey I'm not ready yet ! I think I got some shoe boxes to fill first. Sheesh I'm feeling ready for a cruise or at least a communal beer or margarita !!
Woke up this morning to sunshine and our first snowfall! Nice | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 928 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 7:37:11 AM | brrrr....dont say that word yet! The cruise doesnt set sail til Friday. So everyone has time to get their hiney in gear  and their bags packed so we can set sail for the weekend tomorrow. Communal beer or margarita...hmmm...I think the bar is technically open.
Tuesday: So how did the first day go at work? | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:05:27 AM |
If someone has some advice how to not drop back into old behaviors when dealing with old words once slung in the far past in today, I'd really appreciate the help.
This is a pretty common thing for a lot of people, I think. Sort of a "knee-jerk reaction", if you will.
What I found helped me is a regular affirmation to myself that I have moved on from the past...I don't have to cling to the old ways of dealing with things, even when confronted with reminders or old words. It was a conscious decision of "This isn't who/what I am anymore...these things can't have the same power over me. I can choose a new way to respond." It didn't happen overnight, but it did happen.
I hope that helps a little, Georgie.
Good morning, everyone....I hope you're all making it a good day today. | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 932 | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:11:32 AM | Hugs are the best, Hugs to everyone and Raoul hugs to you especially, you sound like you feel a little neglected over there, shame on 2uneek getting all the hugs !!
Work was great but almost that too good to be true thing(that's probably just me) I have been procrastinating about joining a fitness center, no more, we have one right on site.
Just need to learn to quit worrying
I am a worrywart and even though I know all the little sayings, well not all but things like
To worry is to wish for you don't want to happen. I can't stop once the kids and house were gone and I really had nothing to worry about, I worried that I had nothing to worry about, anybody else relate to this or have any cures ?
And for all of you in warm country I don't want to hear any weather forecasts today k ! lol | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 935 | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:46:54 AM | Did somebody say hugs? I'm a hug addict.... I got to get that minimum daily requirement in...
Hey, if anyone is feeling philosophical today, I just ran across a neat little statement in another thread, which struck me as one of those "hey, that's cool" statements. I can't remember who posted it, or which thread I found it in, but it runs something like this; "I'm not sure it's possible to think yourself into better living, but I KNOW it's possible to live yourself into better thinking."
Whaddya think? What does that mean to you? | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 937 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:55:59 AM | | Sounds a lil pessimistic to me. Thats what were all trying to do. Realize our strengths and weaknesses, get past pain and doubt, and allow ourselves to live a better happier life. The other part is more true. Living yourself into better thinking. To improve ones life, it does help to gather your friends around you, organize your cluttered desk, eat healthier, etc. These do help to get you to think more positively about yourself and to become more motivated. Interesting quote though. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:04:30 AM | Great words humanbean
That's one of those things that make you read it a few times and even think about it more !
But yes If I'm happy I'm living better, therefore thinking better but then again if you think good thoughts you will live better Good words for thought !
2uneek also good words !
does that mean I can keep procrastinate about my problems a little more, cause I'm not ready to deal with what's occuring! lol | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:08:28 AM | o.k.  heres five hugs you hugaholicks
jees you guys are so insightful on all points in life
I just hate running around in circles chasing my tain people look and laugh too. being a tiger in society of people thats just kinds wierd.
humanbead liked the quote for the day
tuesday your job soounds great and it has a gym what a find. where is ilov i miss her | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:23:54 AM | mamatiger you sound perfectly normal to me,.
I keep chasing down everyone's calendars trying to find Tuesday !
iluv is missing !!, did she go cruisin without us ?
Georgie I wish I had some answers for your question, with all that you give I wish I could return the gesture of words, but I can't I wish I knew. | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:26:04 AM | What's this a hugfest?? hahaha Okay hugs all around...
I think that bean's quote means you can't change your life by THINKING, but by DOING. When you're doing things to better yourself, it affects your mental attitude and you do think better.
tuesday I think we all worry a bit. Worry is just a symptom though, not the underlying cause. Example: You worry are my kids gonna grow up to be responsible adults? What we're really wondering is am I going to be a good enough parent to raise them properly. I think this something all parents wrestle with a one time or another.
We often worry about things that we have little or no control over. Why? Because we HAVE little or no control, so we anticipate with fear or dread the outcome. If we feel in complete control of something, what's to worry about? However, what is it we really DO have complete and total control of? OURSELVES. We cannot control other people, circumstances, the WEATHER (don't check the Fla temps, tuesday...hahaha) world events, etc. And any of those things can affect our lives in some way. I don't know there's a magic formula to prevent worry. If you think back to some of the things you worried yourself sick over that turned out completely differently, you can laugh and say, what the heck was I so worried about, that does help. At least we know that not nearly everything we worry about comes to pass. Thank goodness for that!! | |
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:29:00 AM | @lonewolf
Thanks Babe for the encourgament,you seem to be the only one that is encourageing me to keep going when i just wanna give up
Specialists here in the North are hard to come by,urologist seem to be slim to none and ones that are here are ummmm useless
Let me share a bit of my story since this is a thread to ENCOURAGE others
I have been suffering from kidney related probs since 1998 have had 15 kidney surgeries and 6 lithotripies(laser) to blast kidney stones
there is a family history of kidney disease but yet the urologist refuses to any testing other then more surgery
which another one is coming up Nov 22 which i do not want to go,after seeing this urologist 2 weeks ago when i had sever pain and sweeling in the kidney
he flat out told me it's all in my head...WTF how can sweeling be all in your head???? it was so plainly seen and even on the ultrasound
it showed,once i left his office i made a few calls and got in touch with a clinic in Toronto
now the fun begins i have the app booked but funds are limited as i am still waiting for ODSP
till i can get ODSP i stuck on ontario works (welfare) who refuse to help cover and travel
arrangements cause i made the app myself go figure eh you try to do better for yourself and yet
you get turned around and told no you can't do that,but i am still going even if i have to borrow the money
i refuse to let this dr here touch me...after all "it's all in my head | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 943 | |
| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:30:46 AM | I'll check to see if she stowed away somewhere...she knows she doesnt need to. The cruise doesnt officially start til tomorrow. Right now the ship is being well stocked and staffed for our enjoyment.
tuesday:procrastination is not allowed...so get packing! Your cruising tomorrow and I expect you to be first in line.
mama tiger: Looks like we need to send out the APB on Iluv.
Speaking of APB
Wheres leafs and bucs??? | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:39:33 AM | Morning Beautiful Quads~ 
Actually, this became my motto a few years back, when I took my life back and decided to live it to please me, not my abusers. There is nothing worse than trying to make someone proud of you who never will be no matter what you achieve in life.
"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "...holy #$&#&...what a ride!"
I like to think of this as finally living life my way, with fun, and able to put my walls down, be a child at times and play like one when appropriate. So much of my life was held back by negative things, that when I decided ENOUGH! I began a whole new experience from that day forward. I can't change my past, but I CAN change my reactions to it! I got back on track last night, after having a long conversation with myself in my mirror. There is no better yardstick for how you're doing than yourself. I forgot that for a week. Slap me! LOL I'm human too!
Sounds like that cruise is loading up and almost ready to leave the dock, I'll be there with my dancing shoes on! Wheeee!
On a more serious note, more surgery tomorrow for this old gal. :( Seems another abccess has grown under and to the side of the new healed tissue I've been growing back for the last 12 weeks. I too shall get through this! After being told I was so close to being finished healing from my surgery in September, and all the cutting since, this is only a minor setback and I refuse to get all worried about it. But if you don't mind, please add me and my doctor to your prayers tomorrow afternoon. This will be done at the Ambulatory Care Unit, and she rarely uses freezing, so it's rather tramautic when it's happening. I know your prayers will surround me and I'll feel all your hands joined with mine saying, "Go Girl! You can do it!" | |
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Posted: 11/10/2005 9:54:43 AM | | OMG I just got a phone call... I'm stunned beyond words....I always thought I had time to address all the abuse issues between us....now ....she's gone...my mother died this morning. . . i'm beyond feeling... I'm sitting here with my mouth hanging open feeling numb, like stone...she's dead....OMG | |
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Posted: 11/10/2005 9:59:29 AM | Friendship ... then love and we're both making it one day at a time through a maze of medical mystery and bureaucratic bungling. Y'know ... it's the theatrics with "mountains from molehills" mentalities that get doctors doubting those of us who genuinely suffer with few complaints.... Frightens me that I had to have a cardiac arrest before somebody heard me. Guess I'll just have to bring the "whine" for the best of care. Gayle ... you were there for me ... and I'll be there for you....
Now and forever....
Steve | |
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I was the last person to expect hugs from so many wonderful people. Your right...
worrying!! Worrying is knowing your not prepared to deal with problems that might occur.
there's bucs.