| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 12:20:06 PM | susndeca - and all the other thick ones
Have you ever been someplace, within the publics eye, and your chest was not fully covered? Swimming pool...beach.. ? If you have ever in your life done this then please explain to me why its ok for you, simply because you wanted to or it was hot.. or whatever.... but its NOT ok for a woman... when she is nurturing young?
Shall we outlaw anyone that has a stoma too (neck breather) because you have an issue with it? .. what about amputees, mentally challenged ?
Im willing to bet you have made sexual comments about womens breasts ... butt.. possibly more. So therefore YOU for your own reasons have taken something used for sustaining creation, and turned it sexual and gathered issues from it.
Do you gross out at the site of a woman giving birth? ..if so does that mean you would never want to have sex? I kinda doubt that one.
Wheres the logic in this...so you see a bit of skin .. so what .. the nipple... no wait .. its in the babys mouth .. so you dont see that either ...
or ...could this just be a classic case of envy ?
Food for thought ... for all the men who are against it and think its vile or whatever .. I'll put dollars to dimes that if the law changed and said it was perfectly legal for men to get a blow job any place they wanted including restaurants ... that all these men against breast feeding would be RUSHING to Dennys | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 12:46:51 PM | poorwhitegirl- said- "sus- The only one here showing a lack of maturity is YOU. "
--- A girl went to an extreme (which is lacking maturity) implying the only was to be annoyed with breast feeding is if a person *stares*.
poorwhitegirl- said- "To answer your question about whether or not I breastfed - No, I didn't."
--- I didn't ask you. Confusing me with someone else?
poorwhitegirl- said- "I asked you this question in retort to something stupid you said in a thread that got deleted last night. I'll ask again-
How much DOES stupid hurt? (Obviously you know.)"
--- I replied to this last night but like you said it was deleted.
The OP wrote over and over how her ex wasn't paying her enough money and took it so offensively making it very clear it was all about HER not about her child's needs. Women and men alike jumped her case for that very thing. She wanted to shoot him, she made herself physically ill from the stress and had no idea what she was going to do and posters tore her up over that too. You, jumped my case because I had already offended you in another thread.
Note this part--- The OP then posted again with back to back sentences that said, to paraphrase *He needs to pay me more child support because she is pregnant and needs more money when it's born* followed by a sentence saying *No, it's not his child it's my fiancés*................... In that same post she said- Why is it men think all women are after their money?....
Other posters and myself pointed out she was an emotional train wreck. She did NOT clarify that she wasn't seeking child support for both children after stating one wasn't his. Had she clarified herself I would've left that quote out but still yet her stupidity should hurt. And you my dear are a woman scorned looking for any and every chance to leap at me because I've accidentally hurt your precious feelings in another thread.
You can disagree with my position of not wanting to see a woman’s bare breast at a restaurant. I think it should be covered with a blanket.
North Exposed- said- "susndeca - and all the other thick ones"
--- Have you lost it?
Nursing a child does not require a breast be visible in public when it's so easily covered. If you'll notice I'm saying the same thing a lot of women here are saying. We all support breast feeding as long as she can be discrete by covering... | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:45:24 PM | | FYI. only half of me is a girl.. and that half didn't post in this thread but she thinks that when you eat she hopes you cover up as well.. nothing worse then watching a person chew in a restaurant | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 2:04:12 PM | poorwhitegirl- said- "OMG you are just as ignorant as someone else I know on here! Nice how you try and "quote" from a thread that has been deleted! "
- How sad you failed to noticed I *paraphrased*. I didn't quote.
- Paraphrasing is often used when a person cannot remember a quote.
- Your emotional anger took precedent over remembering what was typed. Just as now you intentionally attempt to insult me unprovoked. A sign of scorned.
poorwhitegirl- said- ""You ASKED me if I was "one of them". I answered. No, I'm not confused. Nice try though!"
- I asked if you were discrete. I did not remember asking anyone if they breast fed. You followed with a post stating, to paraphrase: *you didn't breast feed your child*. In hindsight you did answer the question although indirectly. My mistake. | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 2:45:32 PM | poorwhitegirl- said- "You're a messed up little man, sus. Believe whatever you gotta believe to make yourself feel better. "
---How flattering that You *paraphrased me* from the thread that started this personal vendetta.  Which now has gone to multiple threads.
Women post to *Cover it up*. I repeat their opinion and yet you chose me to leap on. Come on now, isn’t it time to learn how to let a personal vendetta go....... | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 2:48:09 PM | | WHAT personal vendetta are you talking about? I have no personal vendetta against you. Do you know something in my mind that I don't? You'd be totally kewl if you could read my mind. Hell, I can't even read my OWN mind! | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:30:33 PM | ^^^^^ suns know what you serousily need to lay off
I have a wonderful man...wonderful children and I DEFINITELY dont need some stuck up arrogant PRI!!! telling me im something im not.
I know who and what I am.. and thats all that matters.
Im happy...boo hoo for you if yer not.   | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:43:02 PM | AHHHHHHH THE HORMONES THE HORMONES...... HELP HELP!!!!
sorry im in happy mood today... boo hoo all the little whiny pissy snottbags.
get back on topic ppl!!
I COMPLELTY approve of BF in public been there done that. As long as a woman is discreet sitting off on a bench or at the table with a nappie no prblems whatsoever.
Just like us drinking our coffees its a natural thing.... we would'nt have our snacks in a smelly bathroom would we? Its unfair to make a hungry baby starve and wait till we're out of the public eye before feeding completly cruel!!
go ahead...be disceet cover up and watch thier grabby hands so they wont yank the blanket down!! | |
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Beth84
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:13:22 PM | I had no trouble breastfeeding in public. When the situation called for more modesty, I would feed my son under a light poncho (can't fall down like a blanket can.)
Where is the obscenity in a human breast? They are meant to nurture and comfort children.
Some men never grow out of needing that nurturing...... | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:01:17 PM | first breasts are not sexual organs they are ment for providing nurishment for our children i nursed my son until he was 22 months old and if he wanted to nurse he did at the mall at the park in church it doesn't matter where if he was hungry he got fed thats it
i do however believe there is a way to be tastefull about it becuase some people are uncomfortable with it but just put a blanket over the baby and yourself and its all good and if a few small minded people give you a dirty look just remember they were probably never breast fed and never had that kind of closeness and are more just jealous of the connexion you and your child have | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:37:40 PM | Breasts exist to provide food for babies. They are the focus of male sexual attention and are sensitive organs, or probably more appropriately glands, for women but prior to the advent of formula, they were pretty much how all babies were fed.
I breast fed all three of my kids. I did the blanket thing, which was fine, I don't think I ever offended anyone, I think in most cases they were unaware. I have also gone into bathrooms or sat in my car for a few minutes because it was more comfortable than trying to make sure the blanket stayed where it was supposed to with active little hands.
There are also other alternatives in certain situations. My father was killed in a car wreck when my youngest was about six months old. My mother was in the hospital, we had driven a 1000 miles and the kid was hungry so I just turned my back to the room. My brother, whose wife was also breastfeeding their third child, asked my mom what I was doing and I was like, feeding the baby, what can you see? I noticed my sister-in-law was a little less uptight about feeding the kids around us after that.
I don't think it is appropriate to breastfeed in a restaurant or similar public place more because of children than adults because people should be able to choose what their children are exposed to. My stepson never paid any attention to it other than noticing that I was feeding the baby yet again and my kids just think it is normal but that was our choice, it is not everyone's.
I think you use common sense and behave accordingly depending on where you are and considering the thousands of women that breastfeed, how often does someone really encounter something that they feel is offensive? | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:58:24 PM | For the people against.... have you ever seen a bikini? .. a small bikini? ... seen any kind of porn? ...Where you REPULSED by this?
If a sexy woman winked at you and flashed you some skin .. maybe ever a bit of nipple .. you would be offended? Do you get angry and call the senate when you see a "Girls Gone Wild" commercial ?
Some of you are making it sound like some porn movie for nasty women or something .... nipples all over the place ... lactating ... going off like a squirt gun and gettin in your eye (hold up your coffee cup... its better than coffee-mate)
Would you not travel to foreign countries either ... Mexico beaches... Europe.. places that public nudity is allowed ?
I have yet to see a woman breast feed that simply hung out both breasts and walked around like she was airing out a pair of Nike runners... maybe the gene pool is deeper where I live ... who knows ... but I have yet to hear a good argument and about what is wrong with nature and the miracle of children and the lengths we go to for their survival.
You go off about covering up..etc ... well christ ... a 9 pound baby breast feeding generally covers up more skin than most bikinis I see at the beach... let alone ... most women have some sort of nursing blacket, poncho, jacket, something to cover for the most part | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/3/2007 1:00:05 PM | the average woman breastfeeding shows less breast than the average****ail waitress.
i will not give formula - it is a very poor substitute for natural feeding, and my child is allergic to it (thanks to a nurse who fed it to her against my wishes when i was in surgery). it is a pain in the neck to have to carry around bottles of formula and worry about whether they're at the right temperature - milk is always at the right temperature, the containers are always clean, and you don't need a big bag to carry them around. in terms of convenience, natural feeding is far superior.
pumping out and feeding milk via bottle is an option for some, but many children refuse bottles (mine did after 5 months) and it is an unnecessary pain in the neck to do that. breast pumps are expensive - $350 for a decent one last i saw. breast feeding is free and the milk never needs refrigeration.
i will not cover up. if you are offended by the sight of my child being fed, you have several options. you can turn your head the other way, the human range of vision is less than 180 degrees. or you could try to eat YOUR dinner under a blanket. in my family we don't do that. we don't eat in public washrooms either. it is not sanitary, but you are welcome to do so if you don't want to see me feeding my child in a restaurant.
my child has the moral AND legal right to be fed anywhere that an artificially fed child is permitted to eat. if you (the general you of course) have a problem with it, it is YOUR problem, don't make it mine. my concern is my child's health, not your hangups. the more women who breastfeed publicly, the better. it's about time it becomes NORMAL again in this society. | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/3/2007 4:38:08 PM | Good for you, Whitestarmama.
i agree 100%. i breastfed my daughter for 4 years. i think the more women who breastfeed in public the less women will be shy to do this. it is the best food you can give your baby and it's also so very good for mom too.
for those who are interested....you can find more information on breatfeeding here: http://www.geocities.com/beadmama99/breast.htm | |
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Syreen
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/3/2007 6:27:05 PM | There are discreet ways to breasfeed in public. I do not really need to stare at another womens boob, while I am trying to eat my lunch.
My daughter was breastfeed for only four days, though not my choice to end it so soon, yes she has had not ONE ear infection, not one cavity, is the brightest in her class, etc. etc.
Sure, there are benefits to breastfeeding, but if you can't or don't, your children will survive just fine. The la leche police need to go back into their holes...   | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:36:47 PM | "I don't think it is appropriate to breastfeed in a restaurant or similar public place more because of children than adults because people should be able to choose what their children are exposed to."
I have to totally disagree with that statement. I think it is very important to nurse in public so that children are exposed to it as a normal thing, because it is a normal thing. My mother did not nurse, none of my aunts nursed, I grew up thinking bottles were normal. Despite that and the difficulties in the beginning, I was successful at nursing my daughter, and I proudly nursed her (discreetly) whenever/wherever the need arose. | |
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| Breastfeeding in public...approve or disapprove?
Posted: 2/4/2007 9:30:50 AM |
There are discreet ways to breasfeed in public. I do not really need to stare at another womens boob, while I am trying to eat my lunch.
then don't. turn your head, look at your food, your date, anyone else you find interesting. covering up is not an option for some of us, and we should not have to take responsibility for YOUR discomfort. looking the other way solves the problem of what you see.
the average age of weaning, worldwide, is 3.5 years. the natural age of weaning according to anthropological studies is between 2 and 7. yes, that's school age.
yes, your children will survive whether your breast feed or artificially feed, but one is natural and normal, the other is a poor approximation that constantly tries to emulate what nature got right in the first place. | |
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