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Posted: 5/18/2009 2:20:08 PM | | i havent got an aswer for you other then to say women do it too cause ive been stood up now what 3 times and its not nice you go to the trouble to change what your doing in the hopes of meeting some one and there not there then its well what the hay ,then u hear back form them i was busy well so was i its i think there just here to play childish games cause they know no better is got to be the reason | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 3:41:58 PM | Did you call him? I mean... maybe something happened...]
Romney not sure if you are speaking to me but the 36yo- no I did not call; I specifically said twice, when asked if I would like to meet: that I was free on a specific day, in the afternoon for a couple hrs... no response.
A couple others, after conversation on the phone said they would call on a specific day- never happened. One who is still on here, & seems to have a few things in common with me, stood me up after setting a time & place. Then told me he was only looking to have fun/have sex, cause was married so young. OOOKKAAY. THEN, contacted me a couple mo later; I told him he had prev stood me up must be he couldnt remember & that I was not interested.
I am not calling men- that seems to be the death knoll, they never call you back, even tho they ask you to call in the first place when confirming plans | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 8:09:35 PM | | It has happened to me also Jamie....one guy just never called me on the night we were supposed to go out and he didn't answer when I called and the other one had been emailing back and forth for about 2 months and when I finally said we NEED to meet and set up a date , he never called or emailed me again! ....but they couldn't be much of a man so better off without them!! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 6:01:54 AM | I wasn't exactly "stood up" but I arranged to meet a guy in a popular bar that has live music. It was crowded and the only seat I could find was at the bar with my back to the room. It was busy, the band was setting up, many people edging to the bar for drinks, etc.
I alternated from nursing my drink to swiveling around to look for my date and see what was going on.
Eventually a guy stood next to me. I assumed he was waiting for a drink (busy bartenders) and I looked at him and smiled, he just of stood there and looked at me without expression or acknowledgement. Didn't say a word to me. After about another 15 minutes I asked if his name was ____? He said yes. I asked him why he didn't introduce himself. No response. We made some small talk, by now the band was playing, and after another 15 minutes or so he said "this isn't working" and he left. Of course he was observing me and apparently decided I wasn't "it" for him, but geez, he could have spoken up at the beginning instead of scoping me out. It was a weird, freaky and immature experience, strange guy and it sort of left me laughing.
The band was good and the rest of my stay there a lot of fun.
Hope I'm not hijacking this thread..... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 6:33:07 AM | My ex husband met his wife on Yahoo personals. He dated LOTS of women until he found Steph. They lived together, bought a house and are now married.
After 25 years of marriage I have no ill wishes for my ex. We have the same friends and inevitably end up at some of the same gatherings. I found his wife to be a lovely woman. We talked a lot at a party and when my ex saw our rapport he came over and we all chatted. Now- no strange feelings at parties, we are friends. I wouldn't have it any other way.
But back to the thread...yes, it sometimes does work. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 7:31:45 AM | WOW someone as attractive as you got stood up! now I have heard everything!
His Loss.
Glad you have found someone javascript:smilie('') | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 8:13:13 AM | Maybe some people are losers, afraid, etc. or just fooling around. I like the one about wife wont let him out. Same thing in life. Real people and losers. Better to find out sooner than later. Lance Wallach | |
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Posted: 5/19/2009 7:23:22 PM | "Why are people such cowards?"
Because that's who they are! There's nothing complex about an Idiot.
Just Thank your Lucky Stars he/she did you the favour. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 6:45:22 AM | I finally meet a guy that I think I've clicked with, we make plans to catch up the next week and then I don't hear from him ever again. What's with that?
Dear potential date:
If you decide you're not interested in me (or whatever your reason is) why don't you just tell me.
I tell people if I'm not interested and it's usually because we have nothing in common. But it seems that manners are few and far between these days as I have only been ignored. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 8:00:33 AM | | i'd have to agree thats pretty low to stand people up - you'd think someone would have a bit more courtesy than that!!! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2009 9:23:46 AM | | It's just simple, common courtesy to advise someone you have met in person, that for what ever reason, the chemistry is not there. It's a sign of maturity. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:45:12 AM | My theory is, that when someone stands you up, it's just a higher power weeding out the 'Riff-raff' for you.
Imagine dating someone for months before finding out they were not worth it. Plus, doing that to someone is such bad karma that I am sure they get their 'come-upings' eventually. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:22:51 PM | | I did this to a girl today by accident I work twelve hour shifts at night. When I woke I called her and told her I overslept and she understood. Any of you girls have any advice on hoew to make it up to her. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:24:12 PM | | cause this is the internet and thats just life....there will always be good apples and bad apples | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:35:13 PM |
I did this to a girl today by accident I work twelve hour shifts at night. When I woke I called her and told her I overslept and she understood. Any of you girls have any advice on hoew to make it up to her.
You ever hear of an alarm clock?
Make it up to her by not standing her up next time. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:35:25 PM | | Often, the other person is fearful of connecting. Women have been warned by many people and the media that internet dating can be downright dangerous, e.g. being raped, etc., so many women are frightened! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 9:40:51 AM | | I am a bloke and have been stood up 3 times by 3 different girls one of them was a P.O.F member also. I also 2 days ago drove over an hour to meet a P.O.F member for a dinner date and when I got to her place with in 5 mins she told me it was not get to work out for us. So I no how you feel and you are not the only one to have had this happen to you. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:35:40 AM | Believe it or not Grey Sea may have something.
You have no idea what could have happened and are going on about it like it was the end of the world.
Example: Girl and guy are at a dance club and dance.
He asks her out for next weekend, He calls and confirms 2 days before (directions ect.)
Friday night ..no show.
Stood up right ? A little hurt or whatever, then just curious.
2 weeks later girl finds out that he was in a car crash and died going to pick her up.
I know this to be true. I was the 19 year old girl.
Now this extreme is very unlikely, but it could be anything from a relative died, they are sick, whatever.
They could be just rude or have a So.
The point is . Get your head on, never assume and get over it.
Move on.
It's not the end of the world. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:54:44 AM | Yep, that happened to me too ... he claimed to have gotten sick, but he actually had someone scope me out and I didn't get a good review, I guess.
I'd say "it's his loss", but he wasn't into me so nobody lost anything, and I had a really nice coffee while I waited.
}:-P ~~~~~~~~~~~ !!!
Dust yourself off and be thankful you didn't get burned worse later. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:46:13 PM | When I used to date off of this site I was stood up by no fewer than 20 different women, which was about half of the women I attempted to meet off of this site. And by stood I mean we had an arranged date, time, and place, I showed up, and she didn't. Sounds unbelievable, but it is true. I'd like to say I just brushed it off and didn't let it get to me, but that isn't the case. Those experiences, along with plenty of other bad experiences with women off of this site, have certainly helped to make me cynical, jaded, and bitter regarding women in general, especially when it comes to online dating.
But, it did teach me a few things, so I have some advice for guys arranging dates. First off, always arrange a first meeting someplace where you would be anyway, so that if she doesn't show, it really doesn't affect your plans. For example, I have a routine where I typically grab a beer or two at a local brewery on Wednesday, so I'll often suggest that as a first meeting place. If she doesn't show, it's not like I have blown an evening that I could have made other plans for.
Secondly, always call an hour or two before the date to confirm that she plans on going. Once I started doing this it severely cut down on how often I got stood up. I'd call and she'd say something like 'Well, I wasn't planning on going since I hadn't heard from you in two days and I didn't think you were going to show up...', or 'Oh yeah, something came up and I can't go, I was going to call you and tell you, but I forgot, sorry...'. In cases like this she'd usually suggest a reschedule, but I would say something like 'So, if I hadn't called first and instead just showed up for the date that we had both planned, I would have been stood up? You had my number, you could have called me and let me know that you weren't going to be there. That you didn't shows that you have no respect for me or my time, and I am too good a person to be treated like that, goodbye.'
My last bit of advice is optional, you can take it or leave it because it may be a product of how cynical I have become, but it works for me. Basically, do not allow women to disrespect you. If she pulls any of this kind of crap, delete her number, IM's, etc. and block her. If you are a decent man and treat women with respect, then you deserve to be treated with respect as well. If she doesn't get that, then don't waste any more time with her, let her be some other chumps problem. It seems to me that a lot of women have an entitlement complex where they feel they are gracing us with their presence, should they decide that they feel like making an appearance at that very moment. Because they log in every day to find new suitors in their inbox, they don't place much value on them, and treat them accordingly. No thanks, I have a strong sense of self worth, and will not allow other people to treat me like that. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:23:03 PM | It was somewhat of a legitimate excuse, even though he always carries his cell phone or could have found one to call and let me know, and even though I would have driven separately if I knew I had made plans for that night to meet someone. We did make plans to meet again, and he didn't show up. It was weird, but it didn't hurt, as considering how inconsiderate this person was, I wouldn't want to meet them again anyway.
my sentiments exactly!!!! you don't want to know people that can and will possibly continually let you down, its just not worth it | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 7:02:30 AM | | hey, elevenstar, tried to contact you but your only accepting messages from people who live nearby, be nice if you could get in touch and change your settings, would love to hear from you, x | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 9:51:01 AM | | i just got stood up 4 the first time last night... he had both my home and cell numbers but never called, we've been chatting online for over a month, actually since day 2 of me joining this site, anyway i had been asking for his number or for him to call but he never would call or give me his number. He was online this am and is now ignoring my emails. I asked him, why r u on a dating site if u dont plan on meeting? I dont get it either. burned on my first "date" after 20+ yrs of marriage. doesnt feel very good at all and i had to make plans for a babysitter to watch baby till his dad got off work... I'm madder than hell. mind games hurt people | |
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