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Posted: 1/9/2006 1:51:07 PM | HA NO KIDDIN, apparently when they dont want to show all thier skills for dialin a phone or sendin a mssg are quickly forgotten, but when they want you they cant bug you enough, leave you enough mail everywhere, jerks i am really startin to lose my faith at a rapid pace here, geesh. I got back doored today from a guy on here,no call nothin, i logged on to msn and he couldnt get off there fast enough, loser. yes you know who you are!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 4:05:16 PM | I've been on here for 2 years, met a lot of women from this site over that period of time, and it only happened to me ONCE. I had arranged to meet this person at a local pub, and even spoke with her on the phone prior to meeting. On the evening I was to meet her, I got to the pub at the appointed time, ordered a drink and waited. An hour later, no show. So I went to the pay phone and called her number. Got the answering machine. Waited another half an hour, still no show. Called her number again, got the answering machine. Paid my tab and left. The waitress that served me told me that she wouldn't have waited for somebody more than 20 minutes, and that I had a lot more patience that she did. I emailed her 3 more times over the following two days and never got an answer, an apology or an explanation. She read the emails and deleted them. And she's still active on this website.
I mean, ok you change your mind...have the common decency to CALL or EMAIL. Or if it was something beyond your control, at least call or email and explain. Sheesh. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 4:50:59 PM | | i see this hapening all the time no one knows the real reason why ppl do it. but i can speculate. some ppl just like to know they can get a date or whatever you mean to do. some ppl want the date but once they get it there afraid what the other person may think. its common place talking on here and acting in the open can be alot of pressur on a person. as for the not calling wel it kinda goes to say that if there afriad to meet you it will be harder for them to face you and fese up as to why they didnt go thru with what was planned. just my two cents. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 6:57:29 PM | | I have never been stood up but I can imagine how humiliating and depressing it can be. But just realize right away that it's better to know right away that he is a jerk, rather than go through the whole date and realize this later! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 8:15:08 AM | | yea I've read all of these...I met someone on here a few months back...who is still active on here...I'd love to say who but being the nice person I am I won't....anyway we hit it off, had things in common, great guy...on our 4th date because of a serious miscommunication problem between the 2 of us-texting and emailing instead of talking on the phone, he thought I was gonna go see him...I had made plans to go out with girlfriends that night...I THOUGHT he understood......next thing I know he's not taking ,y calls, emails, etc I 'm wondering why???? he told me I stood him up!!!! I apologized, tried to explain and believe me it was not INTENTIONAL...I really liked this guy....when I did finally talk to him, and explain he heard only what you wanted to hear and hung up on me! jerk....then lied to friend saying totally opposite things that I really did say...nice guy huh? ladies if you want to know who he is you can email me personally....but he's still active on here and when I see him, I just want to throw up!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 8:33:11 AM | i met some creep on this thing and wish he would have stood me up.
he's one of those myspace/POF/yahoo dating trolls that just looks for women.
ugh, gross.
Ignore him Jaime, and keep on trucking Girl! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 10:30:18 AM | Had that happen to me with one person from this site.....oh well his Loss! still it isnt a great feeling but you move on and find another fishie!
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Posted: 12/12/2006 11:58:01 AM | [worse is when you show up and have a great date and the person likes you so much that they never talk to you again because they are scared that they now have to put energy into a relationship]
So it is possible that he actually liked me???? Doesnt this seem childish - why would you do this? if you like someone - wouldnt you persue it??? Can someone explain this to me????? | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 10:44:22 PM | The nice thing about them standing you up, with no explanation, on the first date is......ACTIONS SPEAK FAR LOUDER THAN WORDS....you get a quick picture of who they really are...not who they try to convince you they are........And you dont have to worry about wasting any more time on a Classless Loser....Selfish, Self centered.......LIAR....Now that's real character and just who we are all seeking......  And nice to know early on...before wasting much time on them..
Actually they lose in far more ways....and your a winner, by a long shot...  | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:33:46 AM | I just don't get it! You have great conversations, you seem to have a lot in common, you plan to meet and what happens? Some jerk stands you up, now phone call, no email, nothing. Why are people such cowards? How hard is it to pick up the phone and say I am not interested or I am not ready to meet you yet! Aren't we adults. Why can't people have enough consideration for peoples feelings to at least be honest. Help me understand, PLEASE!!!!!!!!!
I think it's a case of some not being completely comfortable meeting people this way and getting cold feet at the last minute. Sometimes it's the great conversations online and over the phone that scare people the most, because they fear it won't be the same when they finally meet the person face to face. I have yet to meet anyone I've chatted with online and I anticipate they'll be some apprehension when I finally do. I know it's probably going to feel a little strange sitting face to face conversing with someone I've been chatting with online and over the phone for several weeks, but I'm prepared for that.
It's just unfortunate that some can be so inconsiderate that they can't pick up the phone and tell a person they've had a change of heart. To leave someone hanging at a coffee shop or bar wondering what happened is pretty cold blooded. I've been reading a lot of these stories lately and as I've said in the other threads this is just one of the sad pitfalls to online dating. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 5:19:29 AM | i just met someone here and we
planned to meet at a food court by a department store....
waited an hour and figured i was
another frozen mackerel in the dating game,but it turned out
a few blocks down the road this dept store had
another outlet with a giant name on it so it was easy for her to
make a mistake.
.....we got it all sorted out,but have to admit
it was a fluke in most other cases i'm sure ppl do get stood up | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:42:46 PM | | If you dont hear back from the person who didn't show....you have no recourse but to know....IT WAS DONE INTENTIONALLY.... NO CHARACTOR.... | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:49:20 PM | | These guys should be named so that no one else suffers the same humiliation ...! | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 7:41:27 PM | The nice thing about them standing you up, with no explanation, on the first date is......ACTIONS SPEAK FAR LOUDER THAN WORDS....you get a quick picture of who they really are...not who they try to convince you they are........And you dont have to worry about wasting any more time on a Classless Loser....Selfish, Self centered.......LIAR....Now that's real character and just who we are all seeking...... And nice to know early on...before wasting much time on them..
Actually they lose in far more ways....and your a winner, by a long shot.
perfectly said whisper67520
thats it in a nutshell
Artemis: these guys?!
umm its girls too, just so you know.
better term would be these 'people'.
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Posted: 1/30/2007 7:55:55 PM | | I WAS going to meet someone (first time meeting anyone from the internet), but I waited and waited at the coffee shop, and he never came. We had confirmed plans a couple of days in advance, and his reason for not showing up was that he didn't hear anything from me after that. Hello, we'd already confirmed! And if he did need some assurance, it wouldn't have taken him but two seconds to zap me a message. I've been lied to for the last 3 1/2 years, I recognize a lame excuse when I hear one... | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:06:34 PM | hey hawkfan.
I know that one all too well.
It's screwed up when u are waiting somewhere as well.
He didn't hear back from u after the set-up, so he just doesnt show up at all? lol.
can you say diaper boy?
I deal with people like this a lot in my everyday life, so my BS/Phony tolerance is always on alert.
I can tell hours and even days before, if they are gonna screw me over. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:13:36 PM | Met a man here,,,,arrange a meeting,,,,I was there and he said he didnt see me,,,,so that night when we talked IM here,,,I ask him what happened did your wife or one of your friends see you,,,,he deleted his profile then....jack***,,,,I know his name and number,,,if I had been an evil person would have called his wife and ask her why he stood me up,,, 
I give my date 20 min,,,,I mean they know the area and have a clock or watch,,,they can make it on time is I can | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:23:11 PM | | I feel like a bit of a moron because I waited for an hour. But, I had a book, so it wasn't all bad. I still don't understand though, he contacted ME. He asked if I wanted to meet him, he even picked the place! I gave him a time, he said 'okay, sounds great!'. Then nothing... Oh well, I never understood my ex's lies/evasions either, and I'd known him for 4 years! I guess an honest person will never understand a dishonest person. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:49:04 PM | Hawkfan... "guess an honest person will never understand a dishonest person"
So well stated...Thank You... | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 5:24:38 PM | | Wow.. I've only stood one person up one time and the only reason that we didn't hang out was because i was with my fiance at the time... We were going on a date or anything, just hanging out, but still. It was the only time i ever stood anyone up, I just find it stupid. If your going to cancell call the person and let him/her know | |
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