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Posted: 1/31/2007 5:43:53 PM | I think that getting stood up happens more than you realize. I was dating a guy for about 5 weeks and seen each other several times. We had plans for a concert but he said he had to work overtime because of Christmas (UPS driver) and I called him a cpl of times to find when he was getting out of work and I never heard back from him ever. Cannot imagine what happened.
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Posted: 1/12/2008 7:04:03 AM | | I totally understand that one~! Has happened to me as well. I wish I could explain it. The only explanation I can think of is that they talk big but when it comes down to the meeting and dating part, they get scared because they really do not like strong women. Maybe they are looking for a meek one who will stay barefoot and pregnant. Who knows?? I just realized that this is an old post and you may not ever see it but I had to put my two cents in anyway! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 12:26:55 PM | | It seems that having good manners and showing courtesy are not common anymore. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 12:34:01 PM | POF has a hidden acronym in it concerning why people get stood up by others on here :
P.O.F. -- (Probably Out Fornicating)
If they didn't meet you, they went to go meet someone else.
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Posted: 1/12/2008 12:41:32 PM | | Well i have been really lucky on here when i was dating, the guys always turned up, but after, sometimes you just dont hear from them which didnt bother me cause i felt the same way.If for any reason i couldnt make it i would have the decency to make sure thay knew before hand.It,s only right to tell them straight as thay have to travel to meet up plus the build up to the meeting. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 9:11:32 PM | I've only been stood up sonce in my life, and that was a guy I met on another site. I had given him my cell number but I didn't have his. Turned out his daughter had had an accident at school and he had to make an unexpected trip to the hospital. I was ticked off at first, but he explained in a very long, apologetic email.....told me if I never wanted anything else to do with him, he would certainly understand.
Sounds like I'm lucky to have only had this one "no show"...... | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 10:49:35 PM | | I went to meet this one guy I had met on another site and he didnt show so he was blocked. I dont have time for silly games. I then posted a profile on this site and he is on here too. I dont email him or chat to him. He contacts me again about 3 months since the first date that he didnt show for. I think ok give him another chance " at this point I should have know better". We arrange to meet a local coffee shop and no it was not Tim's. I forgot my phone since I dont usually carry it. I showed up at ten mintues to the expect time. Picked up a drink, got a table and then waited for him to show. Well 30 mins later he still had not shown so I left. His response was " I was out in the parking lot waiting" What! since when do you not go into the shop to see if the person is not there. Well the final text msgs was I dont think it will work out from me. Well off to fish some more. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 3:33:21 PM | Dont take things too seriously !
Just enjoy the journey and learn from your mistakes. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 4:31:00 PM | We had been talking for a week or so and I asked her out to dinner. Yeah I just do not understand why this chick was all about it around noon, telling me she bought a new outfit and some crapola. She told me to call around 4 which I did no answer. OK no biggie. Call again at 630, no answer. I mean maybe some kind of catostrophic even took place, I hope it didn't but not even a call? I am not calling again cause I am really not that desperate. So I called an ex and I am going out with her instead, thank god for the back ups.  | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 4:33:14 PM | | That is so rude. He should have called you! I don't understand why people do that. They must not think your time is valuable. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 9:34:22 PM | | When deciding to take an online meetup offline, I choose something quick and simple. A simple meet n' greet is a Starbucks or public park. It takes very little time and cost no money. If stood up, I just treat myself to an earl grey tea. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 10:58:37 PM | | ... having never been stood up before until this week, I'm kinda surprised at my reaction. Usually, I would be wondering what was wrong with ME, but this time I laughed, realized that not too much had been invested, and thought it was cowardly and inconsiderate .... and I'll just be moseying along! ............ | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 11:08:29 PM | | Happens to me all the time too. Tonight as a matter of fact and last night too and 2 different guys. I just assume that was a phony pic and they are really bald, fat, jobless, 5'2 and living in grandmas basement and that is the closest to female interaction they can get. Don't take it personally. However 1/2 hour after I get stood up I go and leave a shitty testamonial on them to alert other chicks, but make sure u delete them from your friends list so they cannot leave a bad one for u back. Thanks, I do my part, lol | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 11:13:56 PM | namelessgrace: "He's married (or in a relationship), and couldn't figure out a way to sneak away or call you. You are better off being stood up. Keep looking jamie, you'll find someone worth your time!"
I wouldn't take her advice, sounds like an excuse/delusion.
Some people more often than not only post their absolute "best" pictures taken with their hair done up, heavy makeup etc. then show up for a meeting looking a polar opposite to their photo. In these cases the other party often feels betrayed or tricked by false advertising -- sometimes to the extent that they will leave save the trouble of explaining in an awkward conversation WHY they are leaving.
It's actually safer to do this in the event that someone takes offense or is hurt, they could do something completely oddball like follow you home, key your car, lose their wig and attack you for not "accepting who they are".
The world is bizarre, don't act so surprised when things like this happen. You grew up here, you should know by now that the status quo isn't always what is to be expected. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 11:14:55 PM | | It's not just males who have rude discourteous people on this site. I exchanged emails for a while with a woman and we agreed to meet. I will mention where we were supposed to meet so that if she surfs this thread she will recognize the place. She can know that I am glad we never got together because of her rudeness. I just would not want a person in my life who behaves like that. We agreed to meet at the House of Sweden in Balboa Park. I waited for an hour and asked the people there if they knew her. Even if there was some crisis that made it impossible for her to show up she at least could have told me afterwards. That's common courtesy. I try to be very polite myself and I do not like boorish people. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 8:37:15 AM | Okay one of the members contacted me.. chatted with me and decided he wanted to meet me. We were going to meet this on the 14th and so I had to rush to get there on time after work. I'm there 5-10-15 minutes and still he doesn't show. I text him and says "Sorry I fell asleep watching tv. Can we do it another time?"
I'm thinking wow I worked 12 hours on my feet had 30 minutes to change out of my uniform and get to the restaurant.. made it on time. And he clearly had little interest in meeting. So I sent him a text telling him thanks but no thanks and told him to lose my number.
He starts send me more messages aplogizing and I just ignored them.. so the next day he sends me one more message cussing me out because I was rude and a "b" because I wouldn't respond to his messages and he hopes I get raped and die"
I of course ignored the message and thanks GOD he did not show up. lol what a loon!.How are you going to stand ME up and then tell me I'm rude for not giving you another chance to do it again. lol Don't think so! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 8:41:09 AM | | I don't know what people are thinking giving complete strangers off the internet their home address. They could be murderers or something. Y'all that do that kind of thing need to meet people in a mutual public place. That is incredibly dangerous. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 8:46:55 AM | | I got stood up 2 weeks ago. I feel like me did me a favor by not wasting my time. Had my glass of wine and was on my way.......his loss.... | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 10:08:50 AM | | To the 2 ladies above.....sorry this happened to you.....but count your blessings, as you found out early on, their lack of character and they did you a tremendous favor. What jerks. And then for the one to be disrespectful again to you, by trying to demean you for not giving him a second chance.........WHAT A LOSER......BIG TIME. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 10:18:20 AM | | I feel your pain it happens to everyone on here guys and girls. so I don't know what to tell ya | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 10:53:24 AM | I just don't get it!
About a quarter of the people (both men and women) here are already in relationships and are "cheating" and another quarter (both men and women) are just playing around ... they don't really have any intention whatsoever of meeting anyone here. Generally putting the clamp on endless emails/IM and arranging a face to face meet weeds out the players from the real people. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 10:55:03 AM | knuteroc
My current interest and I both 'missed' each other on our first date. I thought she stood me up, she thought I stood her up...
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Posted: 2/16/2008 11:09:09 AM | one it is sad as heck what happened to the poor ladies above..but koodos for them sticking to there guns!and definately be careful and meet in a public place!NEVER give your home address!!!!!and true alot of the people on here are like that...i should know...while w my x he was on here w two accts and now has a new acct on here...but i can honestly say i have only met one person from here and am glad they are my friend...but ya it is hard to meet "the one"...but i also have to say for some of us it is hard to do a face to face alone when u have to juggle work and kidds...but hey i am optomistic i guess...hugs n good luck  | |
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