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Posted: 2/16/2008 4:16:53 PM | Been there done that, you learn from it in a way I guess.
Don't let it get to you and just move on is the best advice I can give you. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 4:21:07 PM | Jamie , i just had the same experience with a woman on POF. Not sure why either.
If I felt it was not worth a dinner or I got cold feet, at least i would say I didnt feel it was the right time or I just not sure we fit or something. Yes it hurts at times but better the truth then silence.......... | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 6:13:48 PM | I wasn't exactly stood up.....but I waited and waited for him to show. I kept checking my cell to see when he got there.....well he was on a Harley, lost his cell and we ended up not seeing each other. I think I remember seeing his do-rag after he described what he was wearing. But we never talked again......we both kind of got our feathers ruffled. But hey, you live and you learn......and sometimes get burned!!! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 7:11:50 AM | got stood up last night for the first time by a POF member.
I have never been stood up before. This was my first POF date. Hope all the guys on here are not like this. This is actually why I waited so long to accept a date with anyone on here.
We had talked earlier in the week, made plans for Saturday night and he was suppose to call Saturday afternoon, so I could give him directions. Never heard from him all day. I guess I could have called him, but I was not the one who inititated this.
I did send him an email this morning, stating he could have called or even sent an email if he did not want to go. I really don't expect to hear anything from him.
I agree that some people are just jerks. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:50:08 AM | | People who have no common courtesy for others, tell so much about their own character. If you get stood up, make lemon aid of the lemons and count your blessings. They did you a favor early on and didn't waste any more of your time and told you more about themselves in actions than they would ever have in words. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:11:10 PM | exactly! ive had that happen way 2 many times in the past. i tried confronting them, they wouldnt answer their offline msgs from their i.m. once i was able to confront them, i found out after having great conversations etc, they didnt wanna meet or felt i wasnt their type. i was like u should of said that one day 1 not 3 weeks later! then they said i dont see what the big deal is and i told them u should of been honest im not gonna take responsibility because u wasnt honest.
they said they were honest but all i heard was excuses, after that; they felt like i was a needy **** which wasnt true. after i stopped talkin 2 them, i moved on so much for bein a "needy ****!" | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:28:41 PM | I feel your frustration. The same thing happens to me all the time. I don't understand their cowardly behavior. Is it so hard to send an email that says "Thanks but not interested". It is only 4 words. He can remain aloof and removed and hide behind his personna all he wants. People I've talked to say that he wasn't worth my while and to be glad I never met him, he was obviously a jerk. But that does not help your anger at his rude behavior.
I have a question for you men. Do women do that to you? Do they lead you down the garden path then stand you up on the first date? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 4:12:49 PM | These are the same people who would promise to Love, Honor and Cherish, until they got out of site and only thought of their needs. Very narcissistic. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship with a self centered person.
When one finds the one, who's happiness means more to them, than their own selfish wants and needs, then they are capable of love. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 4:26:32 PM | Blastkist, I just had to say this when i read this lil ditty by you: I'm so glad I'm terrified of men on here ! LOL! I don't have to go through this.
Just the fact that this is where your head is - to me is no different than that cad that stood up the other member. Only you are standing up someone's time and energy with your defense mechanism. Why on earth are you here, for crying out loud? There are some people who are truly real here, and as long as ppl are out here wasting time and energy then these types of things will happen, and happen again.
And you are terrified?!! Isnt that the statement of the year. And you wonder why you dont want to go through this. Man I am so lost on the knowledge......... | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 3:21:08 PM | Just back on here.. after three years on hiatus from this site and another one.
It had never happened to me. There were a few dates that my "date" was late..kinda got me wondering. With an explanation upon arrival (and a couple of times, a call on my cellphone) all was good. In my WILDEST dreams, I would never EVER stand anyone up. Tells me one or two things about some guys on this service (or all of them as far as that is concerned) who pull stunts like this....either players, involved with someone else or married.
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Posted: 7/29/2008 12:29:09 PM |
I have a question for you men. Do women do that to you? Do they lead you down the garden path then stand you up on the first date?
Fortunately most people, men and women alike, are decent people with courtesy. But one PoF woman exchanged emails and agreed to meet at the House of Sweden. (I'm being specific so she will recognize herself if she reads this.) She didn't show up. She didn't bother to call or email. She didn't take the trouble to let the staff there to tell me she couldn't be there. She just treated me, a human being, like a clod of dirt. I have never ever treated a woman that way and hopefully never will. I should have posted her name on PoF to warn other guys to beware of her. Any of us may have to deal with conditions of age, race, height, weight, beauty or ugliness, wealth, etc., but NOBODY has to be impolite and insensitive and selfish and unconcerned about the feelings and time of others who are generous enough to invest some of it on you. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 1:02:26 PM | I have had this happen to me also...people can be so damn rude! I met someone on POF who made first contact with me....the emails and phone calls went well, so did our first meet....then more phone calls...still sounded pretty promising....then poof! No explaination...all I got were his voicemails up the ying yang...thought something may have happened to him....tried emailing him....still no answer....POOF! Must have been a tsunami in the POF pond!  But, really, be an adult and say what is on your mind....I am a big girl....I can take it.....there is no excuse for rudeness....just my 2cents
oh .... for those disappearing fishies.....when you decide to resurface, try another pond....  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 1:22:19 PM | You were going to meet a person for the first time at your house? Honey, that's scary! Maybe your guardian angel knocked him off your doorstep... or maybe he was still just playing with the idea of meeting and chickened out. I will tell you this. Due to extenuating circumstances, I agreed to let someone meet me at my mother's house for our initial meeting (my unplanned need to be there was one of those circumstances). One of us was literally saved by a Girl Scout. She rang the doorbell as he was pinning me down and I was reaching for something heavy to smack him over the head with. Please consider any future meet and greets in a public place. And better luck in the future.  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 1:29:55 PM | I found out, after I walked away that 2 of them that were playing games were actually married. Their wife called me.
I have never had this happen before in my life. And it is not just from POF... I wonder if it is the area, blue collar workers vs suit & tie crowd. But I am losing all faith in the decency of men.
I only takes and emiai, IM, or phone call to cancel. No explaination necessary, just cancel, better than leaving us hanging.
Being STOOD UP IN NOT A GOOD FEELING. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 2:50:10 PM | Being stood up is not a good feeling.
First time made a date to meet. Went to the place wait a 40 min past the given time. Went home.
Another time made plans to go to a movie after a good first meeting. He asked me to pick a movie, a sent back a few suggestions for location and movie........ dead silence.
I took the hint and moved on.
One time I had a first meeting set up and could not make it so I called and before I could offer suggestions for an alternate time he hung up. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 2:52:07 PM | | Are you sure the person is ok? Maybe there was an accident or something? You never know. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 2:59:57 PM | You know what's even more amazing than people responding to a 3 year old thread? The fact that they didn't even bother to read the OP's profile, which says:
It happened! I met someone absolutely wonderful. When he calls I run to the phone. When I hear his voice I get butterflies. He makes me laugh. He is creative and kind and adorable. I only hope that I can continue to make him feel as precious as he makes me feel. I met him on here so everyone keep fishing. Best wishes for life, love and happiness. To my special someone, Thank you. Jamie
So, stop telling the OP that it will be alright. She found someone - ON HERE. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 12:06:48 AM | [You know what's even more amazing than people responding to a 3 year old thread?]
The reason people are still responding to a 3-year old thread is because it happens every day and people have to vent. It's wonderful that she found her true love, but my guess is that we're not responding to her as much as grumbling about the rudeness of people. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 9:47:14 AM | | I agree with Calif. I just put in "stood up" in the thread, just cause I wanted to vent. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 9:56:06 AM | | it happens to guys and girls all the time. but what I am wondering is that why everybody gts so angry. over someone they haven't even invested emotions into. I think people need stop bringing there past to a new beginning. I believe that is half the problem. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 8:59:56 AM | new update. Didn't get stood up. (well I did) but not because of the reason I thought. After I left him an email, he emailed me back and tried to call me several times. We just got our wires crossed on who was suppose to call who before the date. He thought I got tied up with something else, and thought I was suppose to call him the Friday night before.
Going to try again next week.
So POF guys you are still at 100%.  | |
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