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Posted: 12/20/2008 9:34:12 AM | I thought men had more problems encountering this but I guess I was wrong.
Joanne1357...if this has been a recurrent problem...there must be a reason why. How are discussions to meet being addressed?
If you are the one initiating the date, stop doing that all together. If a man is truly interested...most often they will say something like " I would like to take you out for dinner sometime" or " I would LOVE to meet you for coffee sometime". Say something like " I am free x_day during this time frame or x_day...during this time frame...call me on one of those days if you have time to go out before this particular time and let me know if you are busy...if you can't meet up ...its not a big deal". When you seem like you have a busy life...a man will more likely feel smitten to take up your valuable time. You're also saying that if you don't meet them right away-its not the end of the world. Trust me, when you give people options and say your time is limited...the more likely they will want to book an appointment ( a date in this instance) with you! Otherwise, always have alternative plans that day. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 12:58:58 PM | | I was stood up by someone I met here too. We "booked an appointment" and he never showed and I never heard from him again. We should have a thread here where we can call out the names of people who do crap like that, so other members know who to avoid. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 7:24:02 PM | I accidently stood up one person.
Wow, that's the most stupidest remark I ever heard in a post. 
"Accidently" stood up someone....good one. Sorry, I don't buy it.
I did not plan on "standing him up" it just happened.
Same excuse when unwanted pregancys occur. Man, some people come up with real lame doozies.
No wonder it was a no "big deal to you" when you were stood up, because you do it other people as well, and probably don't feel guilty about it at all. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 12:20:26 AM |
Wow, that's the most stupidest remark I ever heard in a post
Well, thank you!!! | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 12:30:39 AM |
Wow, that's the most stupidest remark I ever heard in a post
Nope, here, we have a winner..allow me to clarify:
Wow, that's the most stupidest remark I ever heard in a post
OT: I was stood up once. Pissed me off royal. I moved on. End of story. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2008 12:46:05 AM | Nah, I was not pissed off "royally!!!" . Such trivial matters, like being stood up by a complete stranger does not have that much impact on me. Life is too short. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 6:49:48 AM | | yep they died its why they didnt call you back...prolly had second thoughts and didnt want to .... | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 7:52:57 AM | Original post was in October of 2005. I'm assuming the guy in the picture with her didn't stand her up ;)
Am I the only who checks the dates? And is there no way of bringing certain "forum death" to these old posts? | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 7:59:34 AM | It would seem this is the main complaint on here, after "people don't answer e-mails ofcourse. Personally I don't get it either. If you are not on here to meet people for real, not only are you wasting their time, you are wasting yours as well. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 5:58:18 PM | Mikesignify30, I did read carefully, thanks.
She may be looking for "dating", but if you read the body of her profile? She's found "the one" already.
She originally posted this thread in October of 2005. I'm sure that her profile has changed since that point in time, i.e. picture, status, etc. She also hasn't posted since October 19 of 2005....
I'll also assume that she's well over the fact that she was stood up over three years ago. Wonder if she knows this thread is still alive and well? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 1:46:23 PM | Hey there
Dont dispair, Im very new to this site and got stood up by the first guy that i chatted with and decided to meet. He sent me a text to explain why and we arranged to meet and he stood me up again but you know what ...his loss
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Posted: 1/23/2009 2:41:16 PM | I agree, death to the old strings..
People get bombed all the time for making a new topic and not doing a search to see if it has been done before..
Mostly because people want a fresh opinion?
Death to the topics more than a year old.. So someone starts a new one, keep it around for a year, then let it go..
As for being stood up - Send them a thank you card.. A text in caps even.. Because if someone is willing to stand you up, count your lucky stars you just dodged a real bullet.. Who would want someone around who doesn't even have the ability to follow through on a date?
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Posted: 1/23/2009 5:43:15 PM | This is similar to the "Disappearing Acts" thread I started. I got a lot of positive, supportive feedback, and a lot of mean-spirited bull****, blaming me for this happening to me. The fact is, this happens to a lot of people, and online dating is very dicey. As another poster said, it's a scam. The sites themselves may not necessarily be scams. But the people often are because of the anonymous nature of the beast. It's very difficult to meet sincere, genuine people on these sites. And it has happened to many of us, not because we weren't good enough, attractive enough or because the other person met a "better fish." There are just some lame-ass, mindless, heartless jerks in the world, of both genders. People do things like that because THEY are losers, and it's THEIR loss.
I am not even trying to meet people here anymore because I am so appalled at what goes on. I think I'll go back to the old-fashioned way...I'll meet them at bars! (Just kidding!)
That said, like other posters, I am very alarmed that you agreed to go to this guy's house. Never, EVER go to the home, get in a car or meet in private with a stranger you meet online. I hate to sound like your mom, but this is very dangerous. So I am glad you got stood up. Perhaps a guardian angel was watching out for you.  | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 12:17:02 AM | I have not had anyone stand me up. I always meet close to a mall so i can browse . when my date gets to are meeting spot he calls then i go there and meet him, i don,t like waiting. several men have told me that they stood women up because when they arrived there date did not look like the pic. in the pic you you weigh 130 in person you are 300. of course the guys don,t always look like there pic , i give a current pic i expect the same. I don,t run when i see that my dates few extra pounds is more like a few hundren extra pounds. i show good manners and enjoy the person. : | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 4:27:02 AM | | I can't agree with you more jamie. I have just went through an experience with a member on this site who left me with such a feeling of humiliation and disgust . I was in tears. I could not believe there was any human that could do such a horrible thing. I to met a man on here, we had great conversation for a week or so. We exchanged phone numbers. We talked for awhile that way. We had conversations that lasted for hours. We decided to meet. Our first date was cancelled , by him, his father became ill. He called and we changed our plans for the following evening. Well we met. Things were nice, I got the feeling we were having a nice time, feww beers , shared some fries. Well we decided to go to another place and he would follow me there. So I got in my car and he got in his and he started to follow me....... only to pull off the highway and go the other way. I parked the car and called him on his cell phone. I thought maybe he took a wrong turn, caught the light, something. He did'nt answer his phone. I have not heard from him since. I sat there in that parking lot and cried my eyes out. I just could not understand and still can't why he would be so heartless as to sneak away with no common courtesy to me as a person. Your confidence and self esteem take a serious blow. It's so not fair. I want so badly to post this mans name, so that no other woman has to endure his evil ego. Hope still floats................ | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 5:18:11 AM | I was stood up this New Year's Eve. He was at home asleep. Really tired from working.
The only other time I was stood up was in high school...it was to be our first date. A double date. Our family was so poor we didn't have a phone. He and the other guy were in a car accident and were hospitalized. I found out the next day from my girlfriend who was "stood up." The guys made it up the following weekend when we had another double date.
As far as the man who stood me up this New Year's Eve...he has instant messaged me and apologized but never rescheduled. I would say that he just wasn't into me. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 12:15:02 AM | | I have never been stood up cause theres never been a chance. I mean don't you have to get a date first ... I try .. some of you ladies to be asking us guys out .. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 12:16:27 AM | | Now with todays economy there is more woman working than men.. Should some of you be asking us out? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 1:04:33 AM | Work with me here, but how does the economy of today mean that more women are working than men? ? ? ?
And trust me, if a woman likes you.. She will ask you out. But just because she asks you out, wouldn't it be polite to offer to pay for half? Ya know, because of the economy of today..
Glassy ^^^^^^^ @ you girl, I am SO sorry to hear he did that to you. That had to have been absolutely horrible to feel. I know it is easier to say, than feel at that very moment, but trust me.. it was a reflection on what an ass he is, not on cool you are. Any person with integrity would have told you upfront they weren't feelin' it.. He should have called you.
People who don't call or pull the "Hey, let's get together sometime again" but NEVER call/text or anything (even if you are just interested in a friendship) totally suck it. If they are freaked out that you are interested, without even asking (had they, they might find out they aren't as desirable as they believe because some of us can resist their powers!) then they are not worth the time. Social grace rejects should be spending their weekends recording super cool music on their Casio keyboards. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 2:50:23 AM | browsing & found this- addressed to me in Dec
[Joanne1357...if this has been a recurrent problem...there must be a reason why. How are discussions to meet being addressed?
If you are the one initiating the date, stop doing that all together. If a man is truly interested...most often they will say something like " I would like to take you out for dinner sometime" or " I would LOVE to meet you for coffee sometime". Say something like " I am free x_day during this time frame or x_day...during this time frame...When you seem like you have a busy life...a man will more likely feel smitten to take up your valuable time. ..Trust me, when you give people options and say your time is limited...the more likely they will want to book an appointment ( a date in this instance) with you! Otherwise, always have alternative plans that day. Good luck!]
yup have tried this:
1. have shown interest while browsing profiles.. no luck, so have stopped.
2. have said- "I have some free time on such & such a date if you would like to meet", no call back
3. have responded to "let me know if you would like to meet", no response from the guy
4. have called a guy when we started corresponding when they say"call me".. as it is 2009 not 1950 after all; but I really dont think guys like that so wont be doing that anymore.
DO have a fairly busy life, & use this site as a tool; to see if there is someone in my area that I am compatable with, can go out & have fun with. Am not desperate or needy but would like to find my special someone. I go out with friends, have joined a dance group, cant wait to start gardening & take my dogs to the park up by the lake. I work full time & have a big yard to take care of; am not a party girl out every nite. I enjoy my down time too. Have met a couple nice people here but nothing past a 2nd date. Enjoy the forums. Have always said age is just a number but that aint necessarily true either.
so... will just keep fishin.. here & IRL | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 11:42:00 AM | Oh big time I have been stood up.
I even had a woman walk out of the coffee shop when I got there, because "I was not her type"
I grabbed us coffees and sat down and within a minute she walked out. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 1:35:08 PM | | Sometimes it even happens on the second date. I say don't agree to meet in a romantic setting until you're absolutely sure you could be in a relationship with the person. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 1:59:32 PM | | I guess that is what comes with online dating...Fakes and liars....And the people who usually do this are not adults yet lol....I for one, would never do this to anyone. | |
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