| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:51:42 AM | I think people usually go for people who are a similiar body type to them. No one wants to be crushed, or tower over the other. It just doesn't look right. I want a woman who is slim like me. Not a "stick" as lots of overweight women like to put it, as if BBW and anorexic are the only two body types.
I'm talking a woman who's breasts extend out farther than her stomach, who's waist is thinner than her hips. It's more proportions than a number on a scale, but there are limits. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/11/2009 2:41:15 PM | I dont know where i fall..and i dont care.. as long as i am happy with me.. I have played soccer and sports all my life and my current job keeps my very active.. all i know is shake what your mother gave u.. I do... I do not care what other people think of me, because I pay my own bills..and i do not need anyone taking care of me... you do not need someones approval to be beautiful.. you are all u need... when u get that "dont give a F**k attitude about what others think you will be ok.. trust me!!! it works..    | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/13/2009 1:26:27 AM | It's interesting how people seem to believe being thin is healthier than not being thin.
In fact recent research indicates that being 10% underweight has far worse health and longevity consequences than being up to 15% overweight. Of course, severe obesity is another story as would be severe underweight.
Underweight is a great state for cancer prevention. If you eat very little and carry very little body fat, cancers do not do well in your body - or they don't progress as fast as they might under more optimal nutritional conditions. However, they and many other diseases, one they have a foothold, will fell a thin person far faster than a heavier one. Fat tissue is needed to store fat soluble vitamins and nutrients and it provides a cushion against accidents and storage capacity to endure disease states.
In this country, even a little bit of body fat is considered a sign of sloth. Sickeningly anorexic girl celebs in their 20s are now the gold standard for attractiveness in certain circles and that rubs off on all of us. Yet that thin state is far more unhealthy than a bit of body fat!
I work out doing heavy cardio (kwando, zumba, step) 3 times a week, advanced yoga twice a week and an hour of weightlifting 5 times a week. In addition, I maintain my property of 10,000 sq. ft., including trimming tree branches, mowing, mulching, composting, trimming, flower gardening, edging and the works....even in the humidity and heat of Florida summers. I cart 30 bags of mulch around by myself. And still at my age, I am now battling fat around my waist - which seemed to come out of nowhere over a few month period- mainly by starving myself, which doesn't go well with the workouts. I'm so frustrated I'm considering lipo. I'm 5'10" without shoes and have the most fabulous long legs and arms, and a wonderful set of breasts with zero sag....but I've now got fat around my waistline. I'd like to accept it, but there is so much social pressure and brainwashing that I just can't! It's insane! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:14:20 AM | | Interesting side note on this: Heavier women actually secret more hormones than thin women do! ADDITIONALLY, the chubette is likely to be lustier, last longer and more willing to do it again within minutes than her skinny counterpart! Many more sexual goodies too! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:12:43 AM | Being a big beautiful woman is fairly easy for me, so cannot tell you why it is so hard for you...
On the other hand, if I were so burdened with being a bbw, I'd join the gym, cut out soda, and eat more salads. Good luck, M | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:32:44 AM | | You have to be happy with yourself your made beautiful and for everybody there is someone. All women are beautiful in there own right. Tall, short, large, skinny and everything in between. Beauty is all thoughout a woman. Be confident in who you are and your beauty will shine like the Sun!!! JMO | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:27:13 PM |
You're living in a patriarchal society among men who worship the phallus out of insecurity. Just look at the Washington monument, or any weapon-- they're all shaped like phalluses-- this is a patriarchal society which intends to penetrate, and dominate-- and based on what? Fear.
Nice try. But domination and penetration are inherent male qualities. Not fear-based overcompensation. That's typical feminist rhetoric right there.
I agree with some of your other points, though. There is certainly a huge tendency among people in power in this country to perpetuate things that are either untrue or are only partially true.
As for the topic, if you don't like fat people, don't be one or don't date one. It's pretty simple. Everyone's happiness is their own responsibility. It's not anyone's job to convert anyone else. Lay the information out there and walk away. If someone wants it, they'll take it. If not, you've lost nothing. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:29:11 PM | Nice answer!
since everyones talking about this i figure ill throw my opinion in as well! Being a BBW is a CHOICE..of course some people say its genetics & yes, it may be to some extent, as kids you depend on your parents & the habits they pass on to you, but when you get older you are capeable of changing anything you dislike about yourself. I have always been bigger & for awhile i resented it, but now that im on my own and able to make my own choices, ive started losing weight & changing my bad habits. Now, with that said.. i am now able to say i LOVE myself. I am thick and love the fact that i can feel sexy & comfortable in my skin. It's all about working what you have..confidence is beautiful. You can be skinny & have a pretty face, but none of that will matter if you have an awful self image and personality. Anyway im rambling, but you'll never be/feel beautiful if you dont believe you are. Walk in beauty, Love Yourself.  | |
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rhodax
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Joined: 6/11/2009
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:04:02 PM | I can't speak for the women but you have to realize that us guys have to different sets of criteria for women.
1) What we like to look at (the ones we want to "nail" as it were)
2) The ones we want to stay with.
I have a penchant for looking at tiny little brunettes with no boobs because that's what I find the prettiest but I've had a couple of girlfriends that were fat as well as the tiny little brunettes. I have to say the fat ones were every bit as beautiful to me as the tiny little brunettes once I got to know them.
The big barrier for fat girls is getting to know guys. If you're cruising the bars then you're at a serious disadvantage because us guys don't know what is good for us and we always hit up the best looking women we think we have a shot at (and sometimes way above what we have a shot at) and these places are full of "hot" babes.
Try attending some of the POF events where you have a much better chance of actually getting to know some guys (or girls) where substance will be more important than the wrapping.
Not that I'm any kind of Adonis by any stretch of the imagination but I was contacted on a dating site by a women that had to be 350 lbs. What snagged me was her intellect - she wrote for a prestigious magazine, was politically active, and had a great sense of humour. We met face to face for coffee and I thought she was quite pretty despite he size. Unfortunately we are opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to ideology so it just didn't work out. I mean, how can you share your passions with someone who completely disagrees with you?
And stop reading fashion magazines! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/15/2009 10:10:43 AM | I think guys on here, say what they think women want to hear. When guys get together and talk about women, they usually poke fun of the guy they saw with a heavy woman. Its not fair and its not funny but thats the way guys talk around guys.
Lets be accurate here. Anyone who understands basic physics knows, energy cannot be created or destroyed by ordinary means. Each pound of fat has a certain amount of calories. It is impossible to generate MORE fat calories, than what you a ATE, no matter how "slow" your matabolism is. In fact, you have to eat MORE than the weight you put on, since nothing is 100% efficient. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:00:43 PM | | Don't feel uncomfortable going out and meeting someone new. Accentuate your sexy qualities. DD's? Not too shabby. Show em off a bit. Gotta pair of jeans that make that booty look scrumptious? Wear those! I'm a bbw. Doesn't help that I'm a 46 H. And of course, I play up my big brown eyes and a sexy smile. Believe me, plenty of good looking men (and women) check me out. Some men enjoy a woman with a more curvacious body. Some men are "closet" chubby chasers. The latter are my favorite cuz it blows their minds that a big girl can be cute, sexy and a fantastic lover! Embrace your sexuality. Everything else will fall into place. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:51:47 PM | rhodax, I agree with your first attraction to petite to average build ladies. My former wife was just this way and she was a brunette, 5'5" and an "A" cup for sure.
Seemed that she spent more time during foreplay complaining about how i nibbled to hard, or I sucked her nipples to hard? it never bothered me from the start her bra size cause the chemistry was intense, well at least during the dating phase.
Once we were married, it was like get away, don't bother me, not in the mood? What? I payed attention to her needs aside from intimacy. I believe that woman irregardless of thier physiology will either be attractive and mutually into us men, or they won't.
We divorced because she was cheating with a married man 24 years my senior, he is not rich, but he serves as the father figure that I could not fulfill. On the other side of this I remain attracted to petite ladies, primarily spanish and greek. Mmmmmmmm! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:45:11 PM | I am also a BBW. In the past this has bothered me. However, Im getting to a point where let people think what they want. I feel that only God has the right to judge me. I do feel down sometimes, but you just have to pick your self back up and say I am somebody. Who cares what that person says. Nobody is perfect, if we were then we'd be boring. I found out that I have to love myself before anyone else will love me.
Besides, you'd be suprised how many men out there love full-figured women. Just be confident and the men will come your way.. I bet. Good luck and Im sure you'll be fine. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:09:39 AM |
And yet, as I have stated, my blood pressure, blood sugar, cholestoral, ect..... are excellent and always have been while that of apparently healthy coworkers who you would find in societal norms for height and weight are not. My metobolic set point is low. It would take me severly restricting calories to lose weight, below what it would take for most people because my body temperature, heart rate, and blood pressure all run very low.
I looked at your profile... you're only 34 years old.... Even if you were twice your weight your bp and cholesterol etc should still be reasonable...
However, one of the most common problems from being overweight is knee, hip and ankle joints wearing out the cartilege... Another 10 years and you might find yourself waiting for knee surgery to replace or trim the thin pad of cartilege between your upper and lower leg bones.... being overweight is responsible for approx 50% of knee surgeries to the meniscus....
And exercising will not help much... as it has to do with weightloading, not weak muscles...
For example:
There are increasing numbers of Canadians undergoing hip and knee replacements with the number of such surgeries having risen by 87% in the past decade. This increase in// replacement surgeries is due to the prevailing trend of obesity. The susceptible age groups were people between the ages of 45 to 54.
Figures show that nearly nine out of ten patients in the year 2004-2005 who had knee replacements were thought to be either overweight or obese. There is a definite link between obesity and osteoarthritis, comment specialists. Knee and hip replacements usually last for 10 to 15 years.
Note that: you are still over 10 years from seeing it happen.... and once you have it done, you get it done again roughly every 10 years.... to complicate matters, obesity increases your risk factor during surgery.... | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:33:07 AM | Warning, politically incorrect post below.
Alright, now up front I'm going to admit that I haven't read the entire 11 pages of this thread. But to answer the obvious question, men are most attracted to women with a waist hip ratio of approximately 70%. The further you get away from that, the less men who will be attracted to you. Sure, there are some men who get turned on by fat women, but there aren't enough of them to go around for all the fat women out there; and if we can't get turned on being with you, why would we want a romantic relationship with you? I know most women think love causes sexual desire, and I understand why love and sex are so connected for women. But for men, it doesn't work that way. We can love you and still not have any sexual desire for you at all. Just like women prefer men who have jobs, the very vast majority of men want women with a waistline quite a bit less than her hip measurement. We don't get to choose what turns us on, or off. Lots of people are turned off by fat. So, if you are overweight, stop using euphemisms like BBW, curvy and full figured, because you're not going to fool anyone but yourself. Be honest with yourselves. Fat is fat. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/18/2009 4:06:21 AM | Get a therapist. Not being mean but you clearly indicate to several emotional issues and you'll never truly be happy if you don't address those issues.
I might add, no matter how curious you are, I would not even come close to having sex with another woman until you address your other issues. It could be very damaging and possibly irreversible damage. There's nothing at all wrong with sexuality as long as whatever you do is between two consenting adults and no one is hurt. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:30:52 AM | | Honestly i love big/thick BBW etc etc, but morbidly obese and getting winded walking up stairs? That's not BBW that just makes me sad for ya. (not anyone in particular in this thread, just saying it's a line some cross and don't realize it.) | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:52:30 PM | i dont want to refer to being big as "fat" because fat is an ugly word thats used to make women insecure about themselves. why not curvy? curvy is beautiful and normal guys out there, like that in a woman. Instead of looking like some bone thin bimbo, you got some waist and body structure! i think im on the curvy side and i love it!! Im very happy with who i am and thats most important. forget acceptance from other girls and guys because than, you'll keep changing yourself for every guy that comes into your life. Once your satisfied with your appearance than people around you will notice and approach you differently. Curvy women and girls are the best. Thats real beauty right there and its time for you guys to realize that! curvy is better... At least you wont break.. =]
Thats a piece of my advice right there and my opinon on the matter.
confidence is the thing thats really sexy. And guys pick that up right away on whether a girl can hold herself with confidence or if a girl is really insecure about herself if you get my drift on this.. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/26/2009 1:46:37 PM | | Just an FYI walking does achieve a lot. I lost 15lbs from walking. I walked everyday twice for 2 and a half weeks. So to say u won't achieve anything from walking, u must not know anything. You should go read. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/26/2009 1:55:38 PM | why not curvy? curvy is beautiful and normal guys out there, like that in a woman
Yes, employ the standard method of making things 'nicer' than they are....
We call fcuking a non-romantic partner a "FWB" or Friend with Benefits because we don't want to admit that it's just masturbation using another's body....
We call Sex, "Sleeping with" instead of admitting it's two people humping each other until one or both orgasm is puddle of sweat and fluids....
We call a total stranger we screw with no commitment a "**** Buddy" yet, it's total stranger you're fcuking...
So why not call a person with a double chin, a sagging belly and rolls of purulent fat, stretching spandex far beyond it's design strength, and too bloated and slug-like to move comfortably far from the food trough, "curvy"? Yep, that's SO much better.... | |
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granz
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Joined: 6/22/2009
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 6/26/2009 8:31:57 PM | | Honestly, I could give two craps whether you weigh 120lbs., or 300 lbs. Why do you care what others think? Just be yourself. You can get hundreds of opinions from others, but what good will that do? | |
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