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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 6/26/2009 10:08:15 PM | | I don't think it's hard, it's just who YOU are attracted to? Me, I like thick women (especially if they have CURVES and HUMPS in the right places). A Squirter is a PLUS! An orgasm like that isn't a mess, it's a job WELL DONE. It's nice to be able to work out together, if she is REALLY tryin' to lose the weight to help raise her self esteem! Lastly, the majority of us men would LOVE to have a woman who is open to havin' relations with other women (we hope it includes us once or twice (ha-ha). My dear, you are a diamond in the ruff, again just have to meet the right GUY!!! Take Care and Good Luck!! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 6/27/2009 11:08:49 AM | | Personally, I think it's all in your head. I'm not sure if I can speak for other guys, but the way I see it, a woman with confidence is very attractive. It doesn't matter how big or small she is, as long as she's happy with herself. If she's unhappy because she's overweight, she should exercise and diet properly and do what makes her happy, not what makes other people happy. It's her misery that makes her unattractive, not her weight. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 6/27/2009 9:30:52 PM | I think society puts so much pressure on WOMEN to be the Hollywood type female. The majority of women just don't look like that. I find it frustrating that men are not judged by their weight the way women are. I just LOVE the heavy and average looking man not accepting me because I am overweight. Hello buddy...if you aren't Ken don't expect Barbie!!! As we age and go through menopause it becomes more of a problem. I have just been diagnosed as being insulin resistant. I was actually thrilled to hear that because it explains why I can never lose weight. Now I know what foods (bad carbs) I need to avoid I am seriouly looking at losing the weight I have gained. Some of it came from ending a bad marriage and anti-depressants which are known to make you gain weight. I have just recently started to pay attention to my carb/protein ratio and actually eating more often and eating more protein. I am adding a serious exercise program as well to get healthy. I secretly thought that I would be attractive to the opposite sex if I was thin; but then I looked at all the beautiful women, young and old, thin and heavy who are alone. Look at the list of the 500 most beautiful people on here...most are extremely attractive and yet alone. Look at the success stories and the majority are ordinary and average people who have been successful on here. At 52 I would sincerely hope men my age would realize it's not all about looks anymore..it's about the beauty within and compatability in my books. But sadly this is not the case!  | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 2:17:12 AM | | Hey I prefer a woman that is a little larger. I worry about the little ones, whether they are eating enough. I am not going to say I like women that are like huge. I like woman that is say 30 -40 lbs overweight. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:05:05 AM | Libra,
I'm skinny and I think that's a ****ing awful set of things to say. Plenty of overweight people ARE actually healthy. Just because there's a correlation between obesity and heart disease doesn't mean every single obese person has heart problems, or that no skinny people do.
Second of all, I've known very attractive men who could choose a wide variety of women, who preferred ones with a little extra padding. (In one case this wound up hurting me personally very deeply, because it was a man I really liked.) But anyhow, your logic about how nobody prefers larger is just wrong. You can find people with pretty much any preference under the sun. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:15:52 AM |
It's an oxymoron to say fat people are healthy. No doctor in the world would agree with you.
Have you tried going around and asking doctors whether every fat person is unhealthy, to get a variety of opinions? I have a feeling you haven't...
It's true leading a poor lifestyle leaves you at risk for health problems, but, people who lead relatively healthy lifestyles and tend to be overweight anyway, are as likely to be healthy as a naturally skinny person who leads a healthy lifestyle. (And conversely, a naturally skinny person who leads an unhealthy lifestyle is likely to be unhealthy.) | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:30:17 AM |
Our friend above has not graduated from college and he is talking about fat people being stupid. Classic Just because someone does not graduate college does not mean he/she is stupid... Education does not automatically equal smart... I know a lot of very stupid college/university grads.... Equally, a very smart person may or may not choose to go to higher education for a variety of reasons... cost, location, or simply because they already know more....
As for fat people being stupid.... http://living400lbs.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/alzheimers-brain-size-and-fat/ They found that obese individuals had, on average, 8 percent less brain tissue than people of normal weight, while overweight people had 4 percent less tissue. According to Thompson, who is also a member of UCLA's Laboratory of Neuro Imaging, this is the first time anyone has established a link between being overweight and having what he describes as "severe brain degeneration." "That's a big loss of tissue, and it depletes your cognitive reserves, putting you at much greater risk of Alzheimer's and other diseases that attack the brain," he said. "But you can greatly reduce your risk for Alzheimer's if you can eat healthily and keep your weight under control." | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 10:41:59 AM | M, read the complete study. This is done on people over 70 years old and the sample size was fairly small. It's interesting but not conclusive by any means. The study also measures brain tissue rather than anything else. Brain tissue is not a measure of intelligence, but rather a measure of mass. It does not evaluate how effectively the neuro pathways work nor cognitive function in general. It also does not evaluate other factors such as dietary nutrition, excercise levels which increase oxygen intake or a host of additional variables. This study is interesting and I will be intruiged to see further research but this is far from conclusive at this point.
And while education may not automatically mean smart, it does mean that someone has the drive and ambition to complete a degree and the cognative abilities to acutally pass their coursework. That's why people with a formal education get paid better on average than those who don't. Anyone who choses not to pursue an education "simply because they already know more" or any of the other reasons you gave show a lack of ability to focus on and complete long term goals in order to provide a more stable future for themselves and their family in todays world. Frankly as an engineer who is working full time and attending school full time for my masters degree, the idea that my weight somehow makes me stupid is laughable. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 2:38:56 PM | | If you go by some studies, it doesn't matter what your size is overall or how much you exercise. All that matters is waist size. I'm not sure if I tend to agree with this but it seems to be all over the place lately. I guess you can work out like crazy, be thin and if you tend to carry weight in your midsection, you're really unhealthy. Go figure. Now that I found out I'm supposedly stupid because I don't have a university degree, I guess none of this should matter to me anyway. It sure doesn't take people long to become pompous asses looking down their noses at others once they go to university. So laughable. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 2:44:21 PM | kthg:
" Our friend above has not graduated from college and he is talking about fat people being stupid. Classic."
So striking back in a vindictive manner shows intellegence? | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 2:50:35 PM | | Where does it say that an average weight man HAS to be attracted to overweight women? Those who are overweight (men and women) have no right to pressure other men or women who they should like. Listen: fat is not beautiful and on top of this I'm really tired of women saying that all men want Barbie figured women and that is simply not true. We just don't get excited about 50- pound (plus) of extra weight. And we have a right to our opinions and to call us closed minded is only an attempt to convince those who are overweight that their argument is valid. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 6:21:04 PM | | It's a bit of a hypocritical point of view because women, even obese ones, rarely want to date overweight men. They rarely want to date men who aren't in good shape let alone fat. Society has very positive terms and groups when it comes to the attractiveness of big women but no such attitude exists for larger men. Not only this but women have no problem using very hurtful terms when describing fat men yet any negative terms describing larger women are rarely tolerated. The fact all larger women are classed as "BBW" here indicates the positive attitude that must be accepted when talking about large women. No such term exists for men. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 6:58:54 PM | ^^^ There is a lot of truth to this.
In a world where men and women are supposedly equal now, I find it interesting that men are still expected to talk to women politely, deal with women using kid gloves...
And women still don't have to register for the draft.
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:09:00 PM | | I agree that dealing with your weight is very mental. I'm obese, but I'm trying to take care of it. And have since lost 50 pounds since last December. Simply adding in an hour of activity and making healthy decisions makes me feel good, like I'm doing something good for myself. That has boosted my confidence, making me walk taller, feel prettier, and smile more. Taking care of yourself....that will make being full figured easier. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/20/2009 10:43:04 PM | Some people are too smart to waste time at a University. I went to school for Finance and realized it was a bunch of propaganda indoctrination when they started teaching that "service economy" crap. I walked out after paying for the classes and never looked back.
The study about fat people losing brain tissue is interesting. There has to be something wrong when you can't see your toes and you keep eating junk food. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/21/2009 5:00:06 AM |
M, read the complete study. This is done on people over 70 years old and the sample size was fairly small. It's interesting but not conclusive by any means.
Actually I did read the whole study... and several others besides... This was one of several studies confirming a link between lower cognitive function and obesity... the base line for this test was to find the REASON cognitive function is lower in obese people.... Another study in 2006 used some 2,000+ people ranged from mid thirties to mid sixties...
The latest study that lasted for five years and included 2,200 adults finds a link between obesity and the decline in a person's cognitive functions. Participants belonged to an age group raging from 32 to 62. They needed to take four mental ability tests before the study started and then again five years later.
Another danish study in 2003 also found the same result... and also in China...
However, cross-sectional studies conducted on Danish draftees showed a clear inverse association between BMI above the median BMI and both intelligence test score and educational level. The same tendencies have also been seen in a Chinese study in children. These cross-sectional observations raise the obvious question of whether cognitive ability and educational level are determinants or consequences of changes in body weight and development of obesity. Therefore, some Danish researchers investigated intelligence test scores and educational levels in young adult men in relation to their subsequent changes in weight and risk of development and persistence of obesity.Subjects were selected among men appearing at Danish draft boards. The men were divided into two groups: A group with juvenile-onset obesity, including all men with a BMI of greater than 31 kg/[m.sup.2]; and a non-obese group randomly selected as a 1% sample of the study population. The obese group and 50% of the non-obese group were invited to participate in follow-up studies between 1982 and 1984 and between 1992 and 1994. Among 907 men with juvenile-onset obesity and 883 non-obese men, age, region of examination, intelligence test score via the Borge Priens Prove 1953 test, education and BMI from baseline to first follow-up, were analyzed. Within both groups, BMI significantly increased from baseline to both the first and second follow-ups. Education and intelligence, analyzed separately, were inversely related to BMI changes in both groups. A greater increase in BMI at the first follow-up occurred in the lowest intelligence test-score quintiles and in the group of less educated men in the non-obese control group. When adjusted for education, the association between intelligence score and BMI changes and the development of obesity vanished, whereas the inverse relationship for education persisted only for BMI changes. Intelligence score was not associated with the persistence of obesity in the obese group, whereas inverse relationships were found for education. The highest educated group had less than half the odds of remaining obese compared with the lowest-educated group.
As I said, the first test I referred to was just looking for the reason, the connection between obesity and lower cognitive function seems to have been established... | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/21/2009 8:53:41 AM | I can't believe some here are trying to DEFEND being obese... like it's a good thing ??! WTF ? What weirdos... living in a la-la land...
fat is beautiful and healthy.... *let me drop a few bags of candy and snack bars here* - all this defending, very tiring! might need some extra energy...! yom yom yom.... | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/21/2009 2:40:14 PM | David, you won't find me saying that all men have to be attracted to big women. You won't see me saying that all men have to be attracted to anything or all women have to be attracted to anything. Attraction is on a personal level. There are enough men out there attracted to big women to go around. I would never want someone to try and be attracted to someone they are not. Talk about a terrible idea.
M, the studies are interesting. I am not saying they are not. I'm interested to see more research for sure. We know so little about the brain and it's function. We can't even figure out exactly what causes alzheimers! I mean, we know thinning a certain type of plaque lessens the symptoms but we don't know the cause of a disease that effects millions. The amount we don't know about the body and brain is astonishing.
As far as education goes, I will stand by every statement I made. Obtaining an education shows a knowledge of how the world and the system work. It shows the ability to commit to a plan for the future. I will not say that all people without a college education lack intelligence but, if you chose, in this society, not to obtain a college education, you show a willingness to hinder your future. That's the way the system is designed. Basically, those in glass houses should not throw stones. Don't call other people stupid unless you have a way to show that you are more intelligent than the average bear.
yarmilema, fat may not be healthy but neither is thin or athletic. You can't look at anyone and tell the state of their health. You know that. You look at someone who is thin or athletic and you have no idea how much they eat, what their cholestoral level is, what their blood pressure is, if they have cancer, lupus, ect.... You can look at someone who is big and has no health issues and assume they do. That's a judgment you make based on assumptions and that's innacurate at best. As far as being beautiful goes, I have no doubts on that score for certain. You may not like it personally but I don't seem to have an issue getting men so I can tell you that there are many men who see fat as beautiful. No need for you to do so. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/21/2009 3:23:53 PM | Libra, you are frankly pathetic. My cholestoral level is actually low, both LDL and HDL. I love fruits and vegetables. My blood pressure is well under pre-hypertension. My resting heart rate is on the low side. My blood sugar is well within norms. Until I started back to school full time (so I am working as an engineer full time AND taking masters classes full time and holding a 3.67 GPA) I worked out 5 days a week an hour or more a day doing cardio 3 days a week and weight training 2 days a week with a personal trainer. At this weight. You want to strap on that much extra weight and see what that takes? I would garuntee you couldn't keep up.
People here have read my story before and it's really not necessary to rehash it for a fool like you. When you have accomplished half of what I have in life then you can come talk to me. Until that time you are really not worth anyones time. You can claim that my capacity to learn is less but your capacity to think appears to be blunted. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 9/21/2009 7:08:44 PM |
My cholestoral level is actually low, both LDL and HDL. I love fruits and vegetables. My blood pressure is well under pre-hypertension. My resting heart rate is on the low side. My blood sugar is well within norms. Until I started back to school full time (so I am working as an engineer full time AND taking masters classes full time and holding a 3.67 GPA) I worked out 5 days a week an hour or more a day doing cardio 3 days a week and weight training 2 days a week with a personal trainer. At this weight. You want to strap on that much extra weight and see what that takes? I would garuntee you couldn't keep up.
The thing you overlook kthyg is that you are still relatively young... At your age all of these factors should still be good, BBW or not... It's good you excercise and all that, but no amount of excercise will stave off effects like arthritis and cartilege issues in your hips and knees... and they likely won't show up for a few more years yet... but many years sooner than they would if your weight was lower...
An estimated 30 percent of American adults - about 60 million people - are obese, the CDC says. Experts know that every additional pound of fat puts more force on the body's joints. The load adds to more wear and tear on cartilage and appears to cause joint pain, even for kids. A study released this month in Pediatrics suggests that overweight children are more likely to have joint pain - pain that could be the first sign of crumbling cartilage. VICIOUS CYCLE Joints that ache can set off a cycle of weight gain and disease, experts say. Kids and adults stop moving much because of the pain, they gain weight, and that puts more pressure on weight-bearing joints such as the knees and the hips. By their 40s or 50s, many overweight Americans have the joints of the average senior citizen, says Erin Arnold, a rheumatologist at the Illinois Bone & Joint Institute in Chicago. Note the ages...? You have a high likelihood of this ahead of you... and it's not only obese people who suffer from this, large muscular men suffer from it also.... One thing in your favour is that apparently weight training helps to stave off the osteoarthritis to a certain degree... | |
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