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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:35:20 PM |
men love you for having a good body image , and for you being sexual, weight or looks have nothing to do with it, its all attitude
Talk for yourself there bud!... | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:06:15 PM | Ah, doesn't this topic just bring out the best in people? 
For the record, I've seen a lot of "skinny" patients getting CABGs lately, not to mention fem-pop bypasses, strokes, back problems, etc. Saw a patient not too long ago with type 2 diabetes and a normal body weight. These problems are not weight specific, but being class 2 obese or more puts you in a higher risk category of developing them. The same way smoking puts you at higher risk of lung cancer than not smoking. Non-smokers can and do get lung cancer but not to the degree of smokers. The same goes for obese patients.
As for the rest, well, you can all fight amongst yourselves. I personally believe that if the negativistic posters here put half of the energy they expend making people feel bad about themselves and instead use it to motivate them, you'd solve a lot of the obesity problems right there. Rather than beating people when they're already down, how about offering words of encouragement and support? Probably not going to happen, hrm? That's just too...nice, for the interwebs.
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:38:00 PM |
personally believe that if the negativistic posters here put half of the energy they expend making people feel bad about themselves and instead use it to motivate them,you'd solve a lot of the obesity problems right there.
Equally, if a lot of the obese people spent more time doing something about it instead of sitting on their asses defending being obese and ****ing about those who won't date them, you'd solve a lot of the obesity problems right there. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:10:37 PM |
Rather than beating people when they're already down, how about offering words of encouragement and support? Probably not going to happen, hrm? That's just too...nice, for the interwebs.
Hmm...I don't see it as having anything at ALL to do with "nice". It has everything to do with common sense though.
You speak of words of encouragement and support...um yea. See, these people need to want to get there ON THEIR OWN. You can have 100 people offering up the panderances of goodwill and encouragement and support...but the obese one has to have the friggin' want/desire and willpower to do it for themselves and no other. Without that cornerstone, the rest is just the same touch-feely crapola that one would expect to see requested.
You can't encourage an alcoholic to quit...they have to WANT that for themselves. UNDERSTAND why they have less friends, no job, and a shitty enough life to actually WANT to change that about themselves on their own.
You can't encourage a smoker to quit. They have to WANT that for themselves.
If the object of the encouragement is unwilling to want it for themselves, then all we do is promote our own selfish desires and we project them on that person. WE want them to quit this, or stop that, or drop this many pounds...they don't. Then it's no longer about THEM, but just about US. Then this encouragement and support becomes meaningless and pointless because it's not about THEM at all. We want them to do it for US, and disguise it as support and encouragement.
And really, it's not just simply kicking them when they're down...it's tough love in the sense that perhaps that same kick will wake them the f*ck up so they can see themselves for who they really are, and what they're really doing to themselves and maybe...just MAYBE they'll see something they don't like and WANT to change it. Get them off the excuse train and back into the real world where excuses are just like ***holes...we all have one.
Pretty simple really.
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:25:04 PM | All right then, riddle me this: what use does it do then to insult people and bash them? It's not exactly like it's going to make them want to do anything, correct? By your analogy anyway. So then why do it? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Your own situations? Or are they just an easy target?
If you have seen any of my other forum posts in regards to obesity, you'd plainly see I am not one for pandering to the obese and encouraging them to continue on with their self-destructive paths (my own included). Neither do I find a reason to insult and harass them, either.
I'm just curious what the point of being "mean" is exactly?
I hardly think calling them "stupid" and other, even worse, derogatory names can be termed as a kick in the ass or as a "tough love" tool. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:42:12 AM | [quoteAnd really, it's not just simply kicking them when they're down...it's tough love in the sense that perhaps that same kick will wake them the f*ck up so they can see themselves for who they really are, and what they're really doing to themselves and maybe...just MAYBE they'll see something they don't like and WANT to change it. Get them off the excuse train and back into the real world where excuses are just like ***holes...we all have one.
uuuum, so you're going to use "tough love" on someone you've never even met before??? How does THAT work...don't you have to love them in order for this to work???Do you even know this woman's name?
So, yeah, talk about seriously flawed logic, Im calling bullsh!t, and btw, nice way to go about trying to justify the fact that you are a d00cheb@g.
Charity
Ps, my last statement? Yeah, that was called "tough love". lmao!  | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:46:06 AM | [quotemen love you for having a good body image , and for you being sexual, weight or looks have nothing to do with it, its all attitude.
Haha, this is not true at all.
Not true for you maybe, thats a lil presumptuous to speak for all men isn't it?? I dated this one guy for about a minute lmao! He was seriously gorgeous. He dumped me, wanna know why? Cause I wasn't "thick enough" for his tastes. He now routinely dates women around the 300 lbs range (I am 140, so DEF not his "type" lmao! ) To each there own! Need proof? Go look at some of the "success stories" lol | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:48:41 AM |
I belive i am a really good lover. (I am also a squirter;)
I am soooo bi-curious i fantasize about being with another woman all the time.
I have never been with another woman....but would truly love to give it a tryI belive i am a really good lover.
Ok, your name is "bicurious4u". You aren't into women except that it makes you hotter to men, thus in your mind negating the "unhotness" of being overweight. You state that you are a squirter, (and most women are, given time, and comfort with a partner that genuinly thinks you are stunning even if you are twisted into a pretzel position lmao!) But you STATE this as yet another way of "upping" your "hotness quotient". In truth, any woman with any sense of self worth (and please, please, please, take the time to REALLY figure out what people are talking about when they say this, it IS NOT a blanket term for "dis-ease" with one's own body or surroundings. It really does mean something.) would keep this a bit of a surprise...or at least not announce it to the world as a way of saying "But see! THIS makes me "Ok" doesnt it??? doesnt it?!?!?!"
You wonder why you are meeting douchebags. And most women here will tell you what you want to hear, or blast the sh!t outta you for being so insecure ("well! eff you for not thinking you're a piece of sh!t, you piece of...." etc..) Both of these responses are ridiculously unconstructive. So I hope you are able to get past all that, and read what I am about to say.
You appear to have no sense of worth, based on self or even experience and observations of other people. You really seem to believe at the deepest part of you that you are not worthy (by virtue of your weight) to occupy the two inches of space on this planet that you do. And I am here to tell you that YOU did not decide if you were worthy to be here in the first place, you are worthy by virtue of the fact that you exist. So who in the H are you listening to when society tells you that they have been deemed some intangible almighty judge, and that you arent "acceptable"????
Again you meet and date an inordinate amount of @ss-w!pes, and you wonder why this is, when you tell them off the bat all the secret pleasures that await them within the gates of heaven between your legs (sorry to go biblical, but hot damn! if it doesnt piss me off to see a women who has no idea what she possesses AND on top of that, puts no value on ANYTHING about herself as a person unless it relates to this specific body part) You routinely give guys the go ahead to screw other women, (friends. ex's YOUR friends cause after all who supposed to provide the chattle in said situation, why YOU are of course!) And you offer to screw these women, not because you like it for you, (or maybe you do, but are willing to exploit it....in a kinda...idk...deviant way, read, screw me, toss me, screw her, toss her just say you LOVE ME! and I will let you treat me anyway you like! ) but because you want nothing more than a few flimsy words of love tossed your way, and could give two cents about the ACTION that it takes to prove and EXPRESS love.
Sexuality isn't meant to be used as merely some exploitative practice for women with low self-esteem and predatory men (or read same characteristics, either sex. Its an expression of love sometimes but ALSO can be an expression of a whole hell of a lotta fun lmao! And imo, its not fun when sex is used so flippantly as a way of improving your sense of worth. AND it doesnt (in this context) serve to improve your sense of value anyway
You send mixed messages, "Im bigger, I suck" but "I suck therefore overlook my size" and "be with me" but "bang anyone else you want" and "Im a good lover" but "I dont care much about being given pleasure (which is a turn on for a lot of men) as long as a I can pleasure you"
Squirting and licking cl!t (excuse the bluntness please) is NOT a substitute for kindness, strength, peacefulness, ability to induce great big belly laughs, intelligence, WISDOM, etc...... and if you quit ignoring the fact that you might have all or some of these characteristics, because you think that your weight negates them, then maybe you wont feel so hollow and lonely. And maybe your sense of self will improve, and you wont be desperate, thus taking the bait of the loser on a consistent basis as you do.
Charity,
Ps, simple thought, really, but if you want self-esteem, do esteem-able things | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 9:39:20 AM |
Oh my my----isn't this PearlJ a new breath of fresh air here----amazing AND cute too---truly a dangerous conbination in these eyes!
lol. yea i'm sure women find brown nosing very sexy. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 2:42:06 PM | Most obesity researchers now agree that metabolic differences, not willpower, are the driving forces behind weight and appetite control. Studies suggest that an imbalance of brain chemicals and hormones, including cortisol, ghrelin, leptin and serotonin, can increase cravings and make certain foods difficult to resist.
http://www.utsouthwestern.edu/utsw/cda/dept353744/files/548055.html | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:03:14 PM | | Ahhh. Now I know my problem. I have the dreaded "ice cream chemical imbalance" in my brain. lol. Seriously though, that theory makes sense. It's really unfair for larger people and those of us with a slower metabolism. I have to work like a madman to keep from gaining weight and stay in shape but I know some that look great and can eat all the crap they want. I read another study somewhere that analyzed the taste buds of kids and found that with obese children, vegetables really activated an over the top response in the bitter areas. I find this extreme bitterness when I eat veggies as well so there may be something to that. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:03:21 PM |
Most obesity researchers now agree that metabolic differences, not willpower, are the driving forces behind weight and appetite control. Studies suggest that an imbalance of brain chemicals and hormones, including cortisol, ghrelin, leptin and serotonin, can increase cravings and make certain foods difficult to resist.
1) I suspect the verdict is still out re: the chicken & the egg in this. Does the hormonal/brain chemical imbalance cause the obesity, or vice versa?
2) I'm not a big conspiracy theoryist, but do these "most obesity researchers" by chance get their funding from, oh, say, drug manufacturing empires?
Anyway, I'm in no position to preach about health issues. I'm a dirty, rotten smoker and don't care about my health. But I'm also not emotionally warped enough to argue that it's healthy. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:12:17 PM |
Most obesity researchers now agree that metabolic differences, not willpower, are the driving forces behind weight and appetite control. Studies suggest that an imbalance of brain chemicals and hormones, including cortisol, ghrelin, leptin and serotonin, can increase cravings and make certain foods difficult to resist.
You do know that our metabolic rates are not static. Metabolic rates can be affected by exercise and diet, among other things.
http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/articles-submit/jeremy-likness/dont-let-metabolism-fall.htm
Willpower may not be the direct cause of obesity, but it takes willpower to get off your ass and get into the gym to stimulate the changes required to maintain a healthy weight (and a higher metabolic rate). | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:37:19 PM |
For the record, I've seen a lot of "skinny" patients getting CABGs lately, not to mention fem-pop bypasses, strokes, back problems, etc. Saw a patient not too long ago with type 2 diabetes and a normal body weight. These problems are not weight specific, but being class 2 obese or more puts you in a higher risk category of developing them.
Yep. Normal Weight Obsesity is every bit as dangerous as obesity. Most people just have no clue what it is. It's alive and well and I'm certain I know MANY "normal" weight people with NWO. JMO | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 4:33:49 PM | Wow I just thought men were this evil towards women. This a New Day!
<div class='quote'>Squirting and licking cl!t (excuse the bluntness please) is NOT a substitute for kindness, strength, peacefulness, ability to induce great big belly laughs, intelligence, WISDOM, etc...... and if you quit ignoring the fact that you might have all or some of these characteristics, because you think that your weight negates them, then maybe you wont feel so hollow and lonely. And maybe your sense of self will improve, and you wont be desperate, thus taking the bait of the loser on a consistent basis as you do.
Charity,
<div class='quote'>You send mixed messages, "Im bigger, I suck" but "I suck therefore overlook my size" and "be with me" but "bang anyone else you want" and "Im a good lover" but "I dont care much about being given pleasure (which is a turn on for a lot of men) as long as a I can pleasure you"
Wow I was just on to blast all the males for being so evil towards you OP, I even gulped
down to the squirting profile, Because I can't control nobody!, To each his own
especially today, People will run over you if you have too much to say. I am old fashioned probably somewhere I don't belong. The girls gots guts to sayit. But is she totally wrong. Self worth, self esteem is something within you. It might make it harder yes, to lower yourself, really makes it tougher when you trying to climb up that ladder. I am really about the self improvement, could come and run miles with you,
But who are you gonna get with that "squirting shit" Opps You are very worthy, and I am not a dyke. Just my reply.
I'm not God, certainly not the moral police. There has got to be something missing somewhere self worth and love, The pictures I got past you were representing,
Big, Bold, Beautifully. Oh well just not there for me to say. Not my Forum Maybe this is what I need to say. You say you got dozens of replies.... So this is what it takes. Maybe we are connected to that Forum Magazine. .. Love yourself and you will attract all the needed attention you desire. If this does make you run one  mad mile. Nothing will. Good Luck with that. Regardless of what I think.  | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:52:11 PM | | do not blame on your children...you are in control...if you know what is the problem...that is half of the problem...get a food diary...throw away all the bad food...replace it with fruits and vegetable...one unhealthy snack during the weeknd...drink 8 glasses of waer...have four small mels...one large meal...eat breakfast...carbs one a day...whole wheat...walk at least for thirty mintues...keep a food journal...try to challenge yourself with a friend...and you will see it ...you can do it...your are in control and you have the power...become the strong person and stop being a victim...you are doing it for yourself and your children...good example...it is a health issue. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/23/2009 6:31:19 AM | I learned years ago there are three things a man should never ask a woman about: 1) her age 2) her weight 3) is she going through menopause.
I read an article in Newsweek about 25 years ago by some doctor who stated that when dieting the body moves into "starvation mode" after about 5 days. Starvation mode is where the body stops burning fat and begins using muscle as energy in order to conserve on fat. He then went on to suggest eating normally for 2 days afterwards to bring the body out of starvation mode and allow the matabolism to return to normal (or somewhere close). Then repeat the process. He did state adding exercise and eating normal amounts on the two days helps. I tried this and for the first month nothing happened. During the second month I lost 3 pounds the first week and gained 2 back over the weekend. 1 pound lost: not very encouraging. However, I didn't quite. Overall I lost about 1 pound a week but after 15 weeks that was 15 pounds and this is what I wanted to loose. I continue doing this with breaks now and then so i don't end up being anemic (sp) and take a good multivitamin. I have exercised since college and putting the two together seems "to work for me". Obviously everyone else will vary I'm sure. As I look back on it the concept seems logical and I've never read it anywhere else. However, I want to be causious about saying no other medical professional has ever published this idea. Anyway, it's something worth considering. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:21:41 AM | Dave I did a similar diet a few years ago and lost about 40lbs in three months. I also took phentermine. My regimen was 600/cals for 1 week, 800 the next and 1000 the next, and then started all over, it constantly puts the body in starvation mode..its actually un healthy and the trainer i worked with forbid me from having less than 1000 a week. I typically took in 800/1000(which is still very load)
TO the OP - if your body image is an issue you should work on it. Some women are fine in their own skin. I am now at my heaviest after my son, he isn't quite two yet, and I have only lost 40lbs of the 70 I gained. This time I have taken my time losing it. My reason for losing isn't for someone to be attracted to me, I am comfortable with who I am, my reasons are for being healthy for myself and my son. I know I am a pretty woman, and I know their are men who are attracted to BBW.
As far as the bi-curious thing, that is a networking thing. Maybe check into something locally, once you make a friend or two - the resources will probably be endless.
Another note, DON'T let the food be your comfort!! Instead read a book, go outside, take a walk even if you walk around your house!! If you can focus in on something besides food - that would help!
Good LUCK! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:25:56 AM | | I am not as small as I want to be but I am working on it and I feel great. I have no problem meeting people I know I am a good looking girl very femine and sexy and sensual I have learned alot about my own sexuality in these past few months and I am loving myself. It is all in your presence. If you dont feel good about yourself no one else will... | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:58:10 AM |
I learned years ago there are three things a man should never ask a woman about: 1) her age 2) her weight 3) is she going through menopause.
You left out the big one these days.... "Are you pregnant?" Or... "When's the baby due?"
You just can't tell sometimes. | |
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