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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 9/12/2007 5:39:01 PM | I am a curvy lady,...some might call BBW but I just hate that name so I prefer curvy or vouluptuous,...and my new one is Zafty...lol
I will tell you a little story....I stand 5'8 and have always been a thicker gal,...after my second child was born the weight never went away and my ex was a controlling and insecure man and liked the fact that I was over weight and would actually sabotage me each time I went on a diet. So needless to say that marriage ended and it took me a good year to find myself again and to understand what was really important.
I started to change my lifestyle and also started Weight Watchers but never attending any meeting just counted the points for everything that went into my mouth and also started walking daily. I weighed in at 240 and taking a size 20 dress size. It has been just about 5 months and I am PROUD to say I am now weighing just under 200 and taking a size 16 in clothing.
I started walking three times a day,... about 15 or 20 minutes and am now up to my 7k daily walk. I know that I will never be skinny and to be honest I do not want to be,...love the Marilyn Monroe thicker curvy body stature and that is what I have set my goals to become. I am realistic in that my body will need a lot of exercise to tighten everything up again.
I have never been more proud of myself and my children are also. You can not do this for anyone but yourself,...and be realistic about it,...do not expect it to happen over night,...I am loosing about 2-3 pounds per week and that is a wonderful amount to loose as it will stay off at that gradual loss. Make sure you also drink about 10-12 bottle of water per day as that is so important also. But most of all,....keep a dairy about how you are feeling when starting this and right in it every day about how you desperately wanted to cheat,...or how proud you were of yourself for not going off track and after a few short months you will be surprised at how you view yourself and your changed in attitude. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/29/2008 5:26:54 AM | | hey, i'm a bbw and i love the way i look. who doesnt take off their clothes every once in a while and think.........hmm i dont like this .if you look in the mirror and you are dissapointed then you need to do something about it. some bigger people are healthy, they are just bigger! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:02:33 PM | I like BBW myself but then again I like 80% of the women I meat . Try victorian era clothing and those of us that love it .. BBW are sexier by far than skinny women at ren faires. Corset, full skirt, Nice hairdo ../drool GIMMIE DAT!!!
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:29:04 PM | The attitude here is a little strange it's essentially: "I've accepted my glaring physical flaw, why can't everyone else?"
Like it or not, being overweight is a flaw. We all have our own flaws, and the trick is finding the person who either doesn't notice or doesn't mind.
For all my assets (and they're tremendous!) I'm not without flaws. I'm not the most attractive of gentlemen, in a physical sense. I'm at best plain looking. I do the best I can by wearing nice clothes to distract attention from the fact that I look like Harry Potter in his creepy old man days, but I don't kid myself that it's a positive.
It's also important to define a difference between a woman who is curvy and voluptuous and one who is just plain obese. Curvy women with breasts, and hips, and fun bits like that, are very sexy. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Women seem to think all men want stick figures or lingerie models. Nothing could be further from the truth. Our range of what we consider attractive generally starts well ABOVE the level women seem to expect, and well up there.
But there's a big difference between that and a girl who is badly overweight. Being overweight is unhealthy, causing major health problems in both the short and long term. Being overweight results in a lack of energy, unwillingness (and/or inability) to participate in a range of activities such as rock climbing or bushwalking or even sport. Being overweight often reduces libido, either physically or psychologically.
Essentially it's your choice to accept your own flaws, but not your choice whether other people do. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/30/2008 8:46:30 PM | here's my two cents...
i'm BBW, I'm freakin' hot, and I know who I am! I am not "happy" with my body and haven't "accepted" my flaw, but my attitude is good. I try to pay more attention to what I eat,walk, stop drinking so much beer...blah ...blah. I am losing weight. Slowly.
You know what else? I'm sexy as hell because I know what I'm doing! Like me, don't like me, I still freakin' rock! A friend of mine, that is male, told me that I have awesome hair, great sense of style, cool jewelry, can drink tequila like no other girl he knows, and its just not as much fun when I'm not around. Sound like a winner? I am!
Finding flattering clothes is a pain in the butt! I do my best. I have the body of a plus size model and the boobs of a heroine addict, try finding clothes for that! The good thing is, smaller boobs aren't so bad. They're just right. ( I say small, C, but women my size are usually bigger and the clothes are made for it)
My personality walks in the room 5 feet in front of me and has my whole life, even when I was thinner. My sense of humor is awesome. I am very loving and kind. Those things will never change no matter how much I weigh!
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/31/2008 7:22:42 AM | Screw all that BS! There are plenty of men who WANT a BBW. There are those of us who have never dated a slender woman in our lives. Society and the media have done their part in making women feel alienated because they don't fit into a teeny tiny outfit. Countless ignorant men have done this also. Don;t believe the hype. Just be YOURSELF... there is someone for everyone. Work on your self esteem on the INSIDE and it will show as confidence and beauty on the OUTSIDE. Nuff said.
One love,
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:53:52 PM | | Cause we have to live up to the media and the emphasis on skinny...I have never been thin, been thinner than I am now though!! Being overweight is unattractive to most, whether they admit or not. I know I am overweight, but adore my body and I'm a great lover. None of my past partners ever complained. Sure, I would change some things if I could, but, face it, I'm not 20 years old anymore. If the weight really bothers YOU, you need to start trying to lose some of it now. A little at a time. It's hard to have confidence with the extra weight, I understand completely, but if you find your comfort in yourself, there will be someone that will come along to be your lover and all that stuff. Bi-curious is normal and one day it will happen if you. Get happy. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 4:30:39 PM | Because many of you so-called BBW are just friggin' gross!
Before you jump all over me, my second wife and a long term live in relationship were certainly not skinny; in fact, one was a bit hefty, BUT, neither was gross.
I have seen some of the pictures of those of you who call yourselves BBW. Now, I would like to meet marketing genius who came up with THAT nomiker. Many are not beautiful.. big maybe, but not beautiful.. the two are not necessarily related.
I have seen some in here calling themselves BBW who are stunning, but there are so many obese ugly females who just should not pretend that there is any beauty involved at all.
Maybe "Female Attracted to Twinkies" (FAT) should be an option.
Now, you can bash me! | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 4:44:17 PM | OMG! girls? please post a picture....we are big beautiful women! I love me just the way I am. if a guy can't see past it then it's his loss... I have no problem with being thick...fat...or ...chubby | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 5:01:49 PM | Papermache... you are not the type of person I am talking about, in fact, you are probably less in size then one of the relationships I talk about.
The thing I would find unattractive in your case is smoking, not size. Good luck with continuing in trying to quit... I know how hard that is, even though I quit before I was 30... it took 6 tries.
And yes, a picture helps. I have none on here as I am not looking; I like my girlfriend just fine. Yours is a great one by the way. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 5:18:27 PM | Speaking as a fat girl, and I prefer the term fat over some flowery, gussied up title like 'BBW' or 'large and lovely' or even the new one that's floating around 'marilyn monroe', it's hard to be "full figured" because the majority of men are not attracted to "full figured", "BBW" girls. I.e. The majority of men are not attracted to fat chicks.
Think about it, if a guy takes the effort to keep himself in shape, cares for his body, why would he want to date someone who obviously doesn't - and do not give me the B.S. about "I eat healthy, I exercise" because if you did- you wouldn't be over weight. Yes, there are some medical conditions that cause weight gain and some medications cause it too such as prednisone and there are conditions that make it hard for women to lose weight such as PCOS - but the key word here is 'hard', not impossible.
I am very vocal about this topic and I make no apologies for it. If you're a "bbw", whatever, you really should not be b*tching about the men who aren't attracted to you. I'm not attracted to red hair, do you see a line of red headed guys ready to bash me for it? No.
You're either attracted to something or you're not and most men are not attracted to girls who are overweight.
There is a huge difference between being overweight and being "curvy". It seems that these days people associate one with the other. Not true. I have a friend who's 120 pounds and is very, very athletic but she still has nice curves. You can be an ideal weight and still be curvy - being curvy does not equate to being fat and not all fat girls are 'curvy'. Some are unfortunate enough to be stuck with a body shape that is just round with no curves. I'm one of the luckier ones because I have a defined waist and I know how to photograph myself to accentuate the curves I do have - but I am still fat. Most people would never believe how much I weigh if I told them.
Anyway, fat girls - stop b*tching about men not being attracted to you. Stop complaining and telling them "you don't know what you're missing!". It's childish and only hurts you in the long run. How can he miss anything when he doesn't want it to begin with? I hate sushi, if someone tells me "you don't know what you're missing", that makes no sense because I don't want it anyway so how can I miss it?
Furthermore, if you aren't happy with your weight, here's a hint: Do something about it. "Oh, but Halokitty, I can't! I'm not MEANT to be anything BUT a BBW". Wrong! Genetics predetermine how you gain and lose weight - genetics do not predetermine how much you will weigh. That, my dear, is squarely on your shoulders. Eat more than you burn - you gain weight. Have a crappy slow metabolism? Sucks to be you but it can be over come. There is no excuse for being unhappy about your weight and not doing anything about it. I will give credit to those who truly have situations where losing weight is difficulty - but it's never, ever impossible. You just have to want it badly enough.
If men don't like you b/c you're fat - so what? There's over 6 billion people on the planet, one of them will eventually like you whether or not you're fat - or because of it. Don't hate on people who have different meters for attraction than you.
ETA: Being overweight is NEVER healthy. There is no fat person who is HEALTHY. Every 1 pound you are overweight adds approximately 100 pounds to your joints, more when you jog or run. Over time, the joints can't handle it and they wear down prematurely. Overweight people run the risk of fat encasing their inner organs which can lead to all sorts of complications. Heart disease, diabetes, increased stroke risk, dementia, etc.
There is no such thing as a "healthy" fat person. Even if they seem "healthy" now - they aren't. Their body struggles to handle the excess weight and eventually, if nothing is done about it - the body will give up. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 6:58:20 PM | It isn't hard to be a BBW. The hard part is liking yourself as a BBW. There is nothing wrong with being full figured or bi curious. The trouble is that you look at the tv and read the magazines too much. If we all followed in the images they present, then you would weigh about 80 pounds. Who wants that? Love yourself hon, thats number 1 and then that confidence will glow from within you and will attract women. You don't want a shallow man or woman. Just believe in yourself.
(The proceeding was a paid political announcement) | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 7:36:05 PM | | It's not hard to be BBW or full figured. I manage it well. Don't seem to have a problem finding men who love the way I am either. Again, there are men who are attracted to all body types. Not all men will be attracted to you just as not all men will be attracted to a thin woman. Just sit back, enjoy life, and don't worry so much. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:17:16 PM | [go to the gym,i go to the gym if i didnt i would be overweight too it runs in my family.do u think u are the only one with this problem????stop complaining do something about it .3 times a week at the gym doing light weights and start walking three times a day,then starting running 3 days a week,change your diet,only take in what your body will use in one day.only you can change it.and for the bi thing go do it talk is cheap.]
Are you serious, harry??? Are you really serious?? I'm dumbfounded that people still buy into this logic and we're in the what, 21st century?? The research is overwhelming here: there are a lot of overweight people who eat less than thin people do, and exercise more than they do as well. Newsflash: they still struggle with their weight! I have a friend who looks like a supermodel and she's never even seen a treadmill. Plus, she lives on fast food. Her body is a gift. Many people workout regularly and avoid fast food and eat well and everything and they remain overweight to some degree or another. Their bodies are their curse.
Talk is cheap indeed, especially when what is being said is cruel or unsubstantiated. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:32:50 PM | ^ They may eat less but they probably take in more grams of fat and more calories than they should in a day.
You can eat just 1 meal a day, but if that meal has more calories or grams of fat than you should take in during the day - you're going to gain weight. You can exercise until you die, but if you're still eating too much fatty food, or too many calories - you may not exercise enough to burn it off. And fatty food does not always equate fast food. You can have ridiculously fatty food from home made food.
It's not so much as how MUCH you eat, it's WHAT you eat. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:46:21 PM | Well.. I am glad my somewhat provocative posting caused some activity on this subject.
Halokitty... refreshing to have your viewpoint expressed, as it is a reality, with very FEW exceptions, and the emphasis is on FEW. Way to many obese people make excuses, and it is always glands or metabolism.
It is also interesting that the vast majority who answered that have pictures are attractive individuals. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/22/2009 9:14:50 PM | Yes, in this centrefold obsessed society, it is hard to be overweight. You don't fit the current standard of beauty. There are other issues that also make being "big" hard. Your health is compromised. You are at risk for diabetes and your heart is working on overdrive. Because you are dragging around the weight of more than one person, physical activity is taxing.
My suggestions are go to the doctor for a full physical. Make sure that your thyroid is in peak performance. Slowly start pushing yourself into physical activity and increase it weekly. Cut down on carbohydrate loaded foods. In the grocery store DO NOT buy foods that you know are unhealthy empty calories so that at weak moments your pantry won't kaybosh you. I am always amazed at what fat people have in their grocery carts.
Celebrate your triumphs and forgive yourself your failures. In a short year, you can be a new improved you. I'll be one of your cheerleaders. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:29:52 PM | [I have seen some of the pictures of those of you who call yourselves BBW. Now, I would like to meet marketing genius who came up with THAT nomiker. Many are not beautiful.. big maybe, but not beautiful.. the two are not necessarily related]
There is no need to bash you for your comments, they speak for themselves and reflect the kind of person you are. I can't imagine any woman would be interested in someone so limited in his thinking (unless she had an IQ in the single digits). Here's the thing, thin women can be equally disgusting, dirty and 'gross' as you put it. These aren't traits exclusive to BBW's. You equate beauty with the outer appearance and nothing more. I know of very few people who are incapable of viewing the traits that make someone beautiful on the inside such as kindness, loyalty, forgiving and so forth, as being equally or more important than what a person looks like.
Since I'm a strong believer in the importance of inner beauty, I have to say that whatever you look like on the outside, your cruelty and narrow-minded opinions negate whatever you have going for you on the outside. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:35:20 PM | [You can eat just 1 meal a day, but if that meal has more calories or grams of fat than you should take in during the day - you're going to gain weight. You can exercise until you die, but if you're still eating too much fatty food, or too many calories - you may not exercise enough to burn it off. And fatty food does not always equate fast food. You can have ridiculously fatty food from home made food]
It's not so much as how MUCH you eat, it's WHAT you eat.
You're missing the point. Countless studies have proven that women who struggle with their weight who eat the same amount of calories and fat grams per day as thin women still ly struggle with their weight. To assume that people who struggle with their weight do so because they eat lots of fatty foods is pretty judgmental, and it perpetuates the stereotype that has been scientifically proven to be false. Perhaps some of them do overeat or eat the wrong kinds of foods, but there are many who eat the same foods or even fewer calories and fat grams as thin people, and they struggle with their weight. A lot of it has to do with heredity and biology. This is not to say that some BBW's could lose some weight if they were a little more disciplined, but to blame them entirely for their weight is ridiculous. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:37:30 PM | | Hey my name is james I,m here to encourage u got what most don,t have that is children be grateful and bless there are many women who can,t have kids and remember u r a beautiful person it not outside it,s what inside that count hope to hear from u. | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:43:50 PM | [Think about it, if a guy takes the effort to keep himself in shape, cares for his body, why would he want to date someone who obviously doesn't - and do not give me the B.S. about "I eat healthy, I exercise" because if you did- you wouldn't be over weight. Yes, there are some medical conditions that cause weight gain and some medications cause it too such as prednisone and there are conditions that make it hard for women to lose weight such as PCOS - but the key word here is 'hard', not impossible]
Wow. I'm amazed at the ignorance in some of these posts. Eating healthy and exercising are not the cure-all for obesity. They help, but they're not the entire solution. This is especially true with women who suffer from PCOS and medications that cause weight gain. If someone has to choose between living with obesity so they can take medication to keep them healthy or alive, it isn't necessarily 'hard' to lose the weight, it could be dangerous. Why judge them? And since we usually don't know someone's medical history when we see them on the street or at work, why are people so quick to judge their weight issues as being entirely their fault? | |
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| BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured??
Posted: 1/24/2009 12:31:42 AM | Now why would you only quote this:
[I have seen some of the pictures of those of you who call yourselves BBW. Now, I would like to meet marketing genius who came up with THAT nomiker. Many are not beautiful.. big maybe, but not beautiful.. the two are not necessarily related]
And then ignore the next part, which read:
I have seen some in here calling themselves BBW who are stunning,
Huh? why? | |
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