maa_97
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Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 76 | |
| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/5/2005 5:05:35 PM | | Well we take turns on our 'dates' but we rather like to cook together and all.. so we pick a meal and buy the stuff and make it.. we take turns on things like that or goin out as well... should be a shared thing | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/5/2005 5:38:44 PM | The first date is the hardest.. I always insist on paying the bar bill at least... but, lots of guys have gotten very defensive or even offended... to the point where I finally give up.. A few finally say okay..>? I don't expect a guy to always pay for everything.. I make a good living, so why should a guy have to carry the whole expense>? Just my thoughts, but it can get really uncomfortable on the first date. I never know how to act and just who I might offend~~ | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/6/2005 1:45:39 AM |
I always say that whoever asks the other person to do whatever you're doing should pay.
I agree. The person who does the inviting is the host, and should pay. If this gal isn't willing to invite you out and pay, or invite you in and cook you a meal, etc. occasionally, then maybe you need to find a new gal. | |
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M-O-N
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Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 79 | |
| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:45:06 AM | Don't know what you're complaining about lol. I've been with a guy for 3 years and I've paid for pretty much everything. Even his food. lol
And he wasn't poor by all means. Just liked his money to be...well....HIS. :)
Yes, love is blind. :)
Monika | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/7/2005 5:20:04 PM | | hmm..weird, I believe in equality when it comes to that, I personally offer to pay half the time...unless YOU are asking her to expensive places to eat/drink/hangout...etc... maybe go to less expensive places, or just rent a movie rather then going out all the time...or make little hints, such as "no, I don't think I'm into going 'there' tonight, my wallett isn't very happy with me at the moment" haha, I dunno, ya know?! maybe she'll offer to pay | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/7/2005 7:10:09 PM | She's a date, not a wife. She should bring her daddy's money. or her own. LMAO.
Dating isn't really dating anymore either. One Tim Horton's hot chocolate is all I need to have fun! HAAHAHAHAHAAHHAAHAHAHAHA. After she's gone, I'll go have a huge piece of meat or something, with Beer. (not from Timmys cuz Timmys still SUCKS except in the summer time when they have Ice Cappucinos) Ummmmmmmmmm.... Beer.
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/8/2005 5:17:13 AM | Oh yeah, Timmy's doesnt sell Beer for all you kids out there hahaha. I made it look like they have a big piece of meat and beer. Sorry. Bud does that to me. I see Bud everywhere. I like Bud. Good old Bud yes!
Women should start paying........... NOW! let me start the meter. I like this question.
"When should the woman start paying??" Paying for? A date? Crimes against man? For mis use of their genitalia? Ah...ok now someone's gonna come in here crying that whole feminazi crap.. ok i'm outta here! | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:06:05 AM | to the OP (just cuz i'm too lazy to read all the other posts and i'm not sure if the subject has changed- hey at least i'm honest!)
You've paid the 3 date minimum in my book. If she's the one asking at this point she should be paying, but shoulda woulda coulda adds up to a whole lot of nothing. Stop taking her on $100 dates! Take her to the movies and out for ice cream. Take her out for pizza and a walk. Cook her dinner ay your house. And if she doesn't like that she's a golddigger and you can run away! Or you'll get lucky or now that you're getting past the testing you out stage she'll start to "reach"
Old-Fashioned and Greedy are two totally different things, don't let her con you into believing she's one instead of the other, whichever that may be.
And i hope you get some for spending all your hard earned cash (haha jk! kind of...) | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 85 | |
| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/8/2005 12:29:07 PM | on other threds I complained about paying 400 dollars a weekend for a date , painting the town a little , 40 dollar meal , 75 dollar entrance to the dance clubs , 250 dollar booze tab etc... goodies and little but very expensive stuff.
I am celibate so I never get any anyhow, when the word gets around , women flock and want me to take them somewhere , I am very stupid about this and think they actually like me... but yeah , my stupidity .
in the end , I am alone and have less to show for it. When I donot go out I get pressured by some .
Well I do not need to pay that much , it is my choice , loneliness makes me want to spend on women so they can be with me , but if I acted like an a*** and do not care about them , things change big time in a good way for me , but I cannot keep up that facade anylonger in time.
It is normal and common for the guy to pay , it is expected , if one has her pay , she may spread the word to all the people she knows on how cheap the guy is or if she pays half , their is no second date or outing , this has happened to me and do not ask what kind of women I ask out , it is all who says yes or have a chance with in anyplace and time, not picky.
Maybe I should quit being celibate , I stopped that for a while pretended on being an a*** , and they paid for me , nailed each one of them , then I got my senses back, I flip flop from being bad and good , it is a dilema in me.
Maybe I can just keep paying , one will be interested for reals one day . | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 11/8/2005 1:15:57 PM | So are you asking her on dates and then going to expensive places?
If I was asked out by a man, and taken to a really nice restaruant etc. I would assume he was paying because if we're sharing the bill, we decide together where we go.
If you make all the plans, you pay I guess. If you suggest somewhere and she agrees, that sounds like dutch to me.
I don't know.. for women who have been married a long time, trying to figure out when to pay and when not to offer and when to grab the cheque and run is tough. I never picked up the tab when we were married. That would have meant I was wearing the pants, or I had the money or something to my ex.
Now I am comfy picking up the tab with friends but I don't know about "dates" yet. | |
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roxy
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Joined: 3/14/2005
Msg: 87 | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 8/2/2007 12:26:38 PM | | First date? What about having a vagina makes some women feel entitled to free food and drinks? I don't mind paying, but I know when I'm being used. | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 8/2/2007 3:16:58 PM | | If I ask a girl out, then I'll pay on the first date. After that we go dutch. If a girl asks me out, we go dutch from the start. | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 12/30/2007 8:14:17 AM | Try living in Orange County. :)
I find depending on where you live, you get different responses from women. When I lived in Canada, Alberta in particular, the women offered half the time at least and if we went on multiple dates sometimes they picked up the tab the 2nd time (never the first though..).
Perhaps others have it right, if you ask someone out for dinner, you should pick up the tab, but it's a nice thing always for the lady to offer half.
There's no question there are plenty of gal's who won't turn down a free meal or night out. I find it interesting how you get different responses in different regions. In one region, when the bill came, 50% of the time the lady excused herself to go to the washroom. Here in OC, I find when the bill comes she generally becomes quiet/silent until you grab the bill. I have talked to a few of my female friends here and they generally say they never pay here.
I think in today's world, as the 'gap' has narrowed and in many cases the women going out on dates make more and have more assets then the man anyways...there are no 'traditional' forms of dating anymore as this was based on decades ago when women didn't work. I think all in all it's a good practice for the gal to offer. I had one gal say to me she'd pick up the tab the next date..and then never heard from her again..tacky.
If you want an equal partnership...then start off equal..if you want a controlling relationship...let the guy pay always...if you want independence...well you get the idea. Building a relationship is about respect...Now if the guy is a multi-millionaire, then it's a no brainer..but even there I know some who do get tired of feeling 'used' for their money. | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:20:34 PM | Generally for the first few times of going out, I think the guy should pay, especially if he's the one who initiated it. Once we are considered a couple I usually pay my own way most of the time. But usually the guy keeps on insisting that he pays. I usually offer to pay anyway and he usually says no. After a while, the dates tend to get more casual anyhow.
I would say to start doing things that don't cost $100. Maybe she can't afford to spend that much on a date. So if the date isn't that expensive, maybe she would be more willing to offer to pay. | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/1/2008 2:30:47 PM | | There's this thing called communication. If you use it, things are MUCH better/easier. This goes for everything in a relationship not just who should pay!! | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:23:34 PM | Guys initiate 5m4r7chxor because the women rarely do..they expect men to take the 'lead'. Using that as an excuse for who should cover the cost of 'meeting' is sad. That's like saying since it's almost always the guy that proposes...he and his family should pay for the entire wedding.
Maybe that dowry thing isn't such a bad idea..lol. :)
Guys...should we ask for a dowry or at least it's size when we ask a woman for dinner? :) After all, we are taking her away from her dull, boring, uneventful life, and out for a spectacular time with a well groomed, attractive, fit, almost perfect specimen of a man....her prince charming every time.
She should be so grateful, she should scrape up her left over change from all her shopping trips courtesy of her divorce settlement, to spring at the chance for dinner with a man. :) After all, we have have taken the time out of our busy lives, when we could have been working or out with another woman! :) | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:26:47 PM | livewirehere...
A guy who gets offended that easily, is one you should stay clear away from..the offer is always nice. Some might act that way simply because they don't know what else to do themselves...do they accept and run the risk of appearing 'cheap'. I've had some dates where the woman would say 'now don't be cheap and leave a good tip..'. sheesh.
You can't live your life worrying about others. Live the life you want to lead and have respect for yourself. | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:34:40 PM | | i think the real answer can be found out if you ask yourself is this a girl you like or a coworker/buddy. if money is that serious go to somewhere where the menu is rated $$ as opposed to $$$. hth | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:16:56 AM | maybe she has no money ? at 24 year old she may not LOL
I was just dating a woman for 4 months and she never even offered up a dime we broke up and she asked a favor to pick up a pool table that was about a 60 mile round trip in a Big Gas Gluping Chevy Truck and did not even offer up a cent in gas ,on that day there was still a chance we would still date and i told myself if she does not offer up some $ for gas I would be done with her ......she did not and its over now
maybe its my fault for not asking before but i did not think i would have to but I paid for a weekend vacation to the islands, i bought her tires / cv axels and had them installed on her car paid for all are dinners and many hotel rooms I think she paid for 2 tips I guess she thought I should pay since I was "getting some butt "
I guess im not the person to give advice on this subject LOL | |
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| When should the woman start paying??
Posted: 1/4/2008 7:53:29 AM | | When you do not even know the person I dont get why you would pay so much for a total stranger. I think 100$ dates should be reserved for people that have already established a steady rapport. Lunch, coffee that is what a first date consists of, that way you both can bail quickly if it doesnt seem to be going well. | |
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