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Posted: 2/22/2005 4:09:40 PM | | Does eHarmony really use Myers-Briggs? I didbn't get that impression, but if that's the case, ENFPs get rejected. Maybe someone else here that is an ENFP can take the test and see if they get the infamous eHarmony "you're hopeless" letter too. | |
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Barly
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Joined: 2/6/2005
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Posted: 2/24/2005 11:45:57 PM | | I did the Eharmoney thing ( yes i know i how I spelled it). I completed the whole thing, spent the money, followed every stinking rule, wrote every match to come my way, and got.....another bill. The place is a rip off, I would never recomend that pay scam to anyone I know, and would warn everyone else to steer clear of that site. But after reading all of your replies here, I'm glad that I'm not the only one that feels this way about them. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2005 5:16:26 AM | I would never pay 50 dollars for a dating site anyway. Especially one like that. I even put contact info in my profile and no one could figure it out. Its an obvious rip off, there's no secret method to finding a mate. You will figure that out when you meet the person. You could take all the so called "compatibility" tests you want, won't mean crap if you never meet the person, because no one is going to pay 50 bucks to meet a person. I'd rather pay the 20 or so from some of the other sites although I don't. Cupid.com actually ain't bad since I've put my aol im info on my prof. Again, people have to be smart enough to figure it out as well.
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Posted: 3/9/2005 11:17:30 PM | | The same thing happened to me, Shawn888! I took their test for HOURS, and then they said there was no one compatible with me. Very discouraging... | |
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Posted: 3/9/2005 11:18:55 PM | | Interesting, elmwood, I'm an INFP, and eHarmony rejected me, too. Maybe they reject all ENFPs and INFPs? | |
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Posted: 3/9/2005 11:20:57 PM | | INFPs ARE extremely rare---found in only 1% of the world's population. Maybe that was their reason for rejecting us? | |
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Posted: 3/10/2005 6:37:08 AM | | I can't stand their advertisments. They are the pits. I'd even type it into my web browser. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2005 6:38:13 AM | | Intuitive Feelers? Perhaps a contradiction by itself. You are rare! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2005 4:40:18 PM | I think Eharmoney ( I like the play on words ) is a rip off as well. Both people have to pay to get contact made, and 50 USD is a lot of cash to pay for a date........... rather spend that money on something that is tangible.
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Posted: 3/18/2005 6:10:15 PM | | i saw that man on TV, he looks like a classic pedophile. They have good ads and suck people in to pay. I cant see why it cost so much. Its done by computers. I actually think few people meet anyone on the internet. I have been on the interline for two years. I am getting men i met two years contacting me. DUH, they seem to remember why we were not in touch. They have not met anyone either. Go figure. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2005 2:56:12 PM | its ok site, i prefer some sites that dont ask you to rate your self directly and try to make you be honest about your self... really hard LOL
but I have done some tests like a http://web.tickle.com and i really prefer the questioner type of system over just rate your self on 1-10... which is absurd, even though I was honest and had many matchs... the chance that those people are who they say they are are slim.
The fact that you cant search or even view a picture even say a small sized one of the profile is a BIG turn off, there is no way that you will be interested in someone that you have never seen or heard... looks are not everything but you have to see them regardless on how you personally place value on looks/appearance...
the price tag is wayy too high, I might consider it some day down the road but i believe that dating sites should be free to a point.
One of my ideas is to create maybe a cluster type of data sharing with the use of the individuals computers for bits and peaces of data/processing and storage, so long as the security is good and the date is random and is in bits/peaces.
Thats what i will think the future dating sites are going to be like :P use your personal computer resources for there advantage in return free service.
Seriously who wants to have your computer crunching numbers to find more digits of PI or extraterrestrial stuff, wouldn’t we rather have it do something beneficial to everyone LOL esp NOW | |
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Posted: 3/31/2005 1:42:41 PM | Wow - I'm amazed that so many had such poor results.
I tired it and it has been wonderful. I've not had good relationships so I contacted a former girlfriend and asked her what was wrong with me. What was I don't that contributed to every potential relationship going south. Her reply was "You are the man every woman dreams of, the problem is the women that you choose to date". Because, I was raised in an abusive home and was married for 26 years to a woman that continued the abuse, it became like the battered wife syndrome. Sub-consciously, I would be attracted to people who ended up being such critical people that I hated being with them.
So, with that background, I tried eHarmony. I originally got no matches and changed one thing on the profile. There was a question - would be marry someone who smoked? I put a yes and was matched up with people who don't smoke. I guess it was a glitch in the system.
The person that I'm dating is so compatible with me that it is amazing. We communicate on a very deep level. Her communication style is identical to mine. I told her that I often leave cabinet doors open and it drives every woman nuts. Her reply was - "I do the same thing". We are committed to doing things the proper way and have committed to keeping the physical out of the picture so that we can get the friendship working before we hop into bed. We did discuss sex and have the same views on sex.
She has wished for a man who would treat her with respect since her past relationships have always been bad. I am a true southern gentleman. On our first date, we got to the restaurant and she opened her door. I hit the panic alarm and she said, "What happened?" I said, "This is my car and my door and I will open the door for you." She had never had a man open the door for her. Of course, I was playing with her - I'm not a controller. I just wanted to show her that I respected her and wanted her to know that I was going to treat her as a special gift in my life. She loves it and I'm very excited about having someone in my life who is finally compatible.
For $49, you get connected with someone who is compatible. I've spent a fortune on first dates that went no where including money for access to a dating site.
Go for it - you may find the love of your life.
T | |
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Posted: 4/8/2005 12:56:32 AM | My advice.
Take the test, do it honestly, and copy the results.
( So far, there have only been two people that have matched mine ....lol)
When you meet someone interesting, you can always trade test results after they do it too.
All depends on how honest they want to be with themselves though. I found the test to be quite on target, if you are willing to take your time and do it right. You will only be fooling yourself if you don't.
Forget about joining though.... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 9:38:53 AM | I tried it for a couple months and was very dissapointed. I got a lot of matches but nost of them were located a great distance from me. Any local matches I did get never replied or blocked me automatically. I was paying $30 a month and that still felt way too high. Matches could also be hard to sort and keep track of. I did like how you could ease into things by sending questions first.
Overall I will say EHarmony is okay, but not worth the money. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 12:39:52 PM | | Dang out of 3 pages of responses...yes, Eharmony reigns the Online Dating industry. I don't get it...I wonder how many members of Eharmony decide to take a bat to the TV Screen everytime they see that Geeky Niel Clark Warren/Kermit the frog sounding/ Bill Gates grey haired looking guy, telling how many successful relationships and marriages became of Eharmony. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2005 1:54:13 AM | I am glad to see that I am not the only one who has been marked "unmatchable". I have taken the test a few times (just finshed one before posting this) to see if anything changed. I think that everyone deserves love and being told you cant be matched is just rude. I think taking a test that takes forever and then only to be told that is a waste of peoples time. One can never show one true self true lousy questions... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2005 9:00:52 PM | One thing that has been mentioned here previously is that EHarmony.com is a Christian-based website. Therefore, if you aren't a religious person then you shouldn't be trying to utilize that site. Personally, I have read some of Neil Clark Warren's stuff and it's not bad stuff. Yes, it's one of the more expensive sites out there (believe it or not, there are other sites just as expensive out there, if not more so). Like admin says, they are one of the top online dating sites. Just keep in mind that they are a Christian dating site; if you aren't a religious person then stay out.
I'll admit, I've had some bad experiences there. But I can also say that I met one of my closest male friends through the site. We're very compatible but the likelihood of us being involved in a dating relationship just aren't there. Does that mean we weren't one of the success stories? No....we were just a success in a different way. I will say this much, tho. He was the only good thing that has come out of my experiences at EHarmony.
Something people need to remember is that alot of the people that get matched up are NOT paying members and you don't really know if they are or aren't paying members. THAT to me is the second biggest gripe about the site.
As for the other flaws, EVERY site has it's flaws. No one is forcing you to go check out a site. If you take a look and don't like what you see then don't take the time to join. Read the FAQ section of the site to find out what it's all about before you take the plunge. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2006 10:21:18 PM | Oh it never fails.
Every time I need a laugh I read these threads about eScamony.
I still get the emails every day about how I have just three weeks left on my "last chance". Three years goin now. Uh oh!! I better hurry before the chance to get turned down by christian fundamentalists passes me by!!! At the bargain price of $40 to $60 per month!!
I wonder if I could get them to change their emails to snailmail. The vast paper bulk could heat my house in winter. Of course that much heat would mean an updraft that might send eagles spiraling into space and threaten airliners. Is eHarmony FAA approved? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 9:18:24 AM | | Have a friend who paid them, and they actually sent her money back and told her she was too picky and they would never find a match for her! | |
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Posted: 9/16/2006 2:40:45 PM | I've been on eHarmony for a year, and dated lots of women through the site. So it kinda does work, but it's very ineffective when it comes to finding women with whom I actually match. Most of my dates through eHarmony have been first dates, followed by me not calling her back, and clicking teh "Close" button. In many cases I close them because they were lying about weight or appearance. I can tolerate a few extra pounds, if you don't lie about them.
I wouldn't call eHarmony a scam. The women I've dated were real enough, but web dating is generally not very effective, and tends to bring out the worst in both men and women. I think I'm paying 25 USD per month for the site, and it's worth it, despite the generally shitty dates I end on. Hell, you just dump the **** and move on the next. I'm still hopeful that my recent lucky streak of 5-6 shitty first and last dates will be replaced by one where I'm actually attracted to the woman so I can stop paying that annoying piece of shit Dr Warren.
I'm a Liberal and Atheist, so it kinda annoys me to use a Christian site, but they don't have any problems finding liberal atheists to match me up with. I get lots of matches, in fact so many that I close most of them (I also get closed a lot), as I simply don't have the energy to communicate with more than a few at a time.
Maybe I shouldn't endorse Dr piece of shit Warren, but I can recommend eHarmony. Contrary to sites like match.com, it actually works. I've dated lots of real women, that I wasn't attracted to, through eHarmony, which I never managed on match.com. | |
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