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Posted: 7/27/2006 3:13:16 PM | | And you like cheesecake! Your also about 5-6 hrs away, so we gonna move half way and meet in the middle? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 3:15:34 PM | @MI?
Ya had me hooked darlin right up until the wakin up with the "hard on part"
I give it to you though. Your post/thoughts do very much make sense the way you just explained. I think perhaps you just came out a little rough initially. We should not generalize, neither sex to be sure. My experience with men my age varies. Some are absolutley hot and outgoing, others have truly let themselves go for whatever reason. Sometimes what life's experiences bring to someone are not kind, and they look double their age. I admittedly will bypass someone who looks like my Grandad! Do not get me wrong. I am not all that an a bag of chips but I want someone in my life who can somewhat mirror who/what I am. If he looks like he needs a nursemaid, I am not the gal for him. Would it make me seek out younger intentionally? No. I still am much more comfortable in my own age bracket. Having said that, I would not bypass a younger man within a reasonable age limit. I have met one fellow much younger than myself who was on the exact same "mental page" I was on. So what to say? Again, for myself, not intentionally seeking out younger men, I will and do in fact give the benefit of the doubt...Does any of this make sense??? | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/27/2006 3:19:56 PM | From my own exp. It's all in the attitude. I've almost always dated older women. My last ex was 12 yrs older than me. I find I perfer the women who know what they want, and will go and get it. This is not always the case with older women. *coughs last ex's name*  I'm not saying there are no younger women like that. Maybe I'm just oblivious to them. Just like I am apparently oblivious to women checking me out.... Learned this at the last POF party I attended.
So if you're reading this *You know who you are* I WIN! | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/27/2006 5:45:15 PM | For me I don't find many women approaching the big 60 hold much interest for me, not that I have any restrictions on my profile. So its older guy looking for younger women like oh say 49 to 57 maybe!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 1:32:57 AM | My Island: First, may I say that you don't know anything at all about me to make a comment like you did. And you've assumed alot from my posting, that you also have absolutely no idea of. You've assaulted my opinion to the OP's question. If you would read it as it was written: it was a relationship that lasted 12 years almost. Where did I write that he packed up and left me? An assumption on your part. I shouldn't have to correct you, but you know the saying "It's better to be thought a fool, then to open your mouth and remove all doubt?". In order to perhaps save the next poster who might be bombasted with your crass opinions, you might think the next time before you post a reply. I will take this opportunity to tell you, that it was I that ended the realtionship. The last 2 years became unbearable. I found out he had a fetish for wearing woman's underthings. He was an alcoholic. We didn't have sex for 2 years. My self esteem was shattered.
I find your posts have a very dark, miserable undertone. Full of bitterness. But you delight in justifying them as a simple "honest opinion".
When I said "If they can keep up" - did I say with an erection? NO I DIDN'T. And that would have been crass for me to suggest. I meant, if they could be active with me. That simple. From my personal experience, in my younger days, men my age (30's) needed afternoon or after dinner "power naps" that drove me crazy. As another poster pointed out, since your post, there are many men who just aren't interested in activities women are in their 40's. We are at the high point in our lives and enjoying what life has to offer. No time for "power naps".
Obviously, no one can put all men or women into two separate categories. And I certainly wasn't painting that picture in my post. But you certainly have painted me with a tarnished brush in yours.
Thank you Gummble and Kit for your support! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 1:41:52 AM | And by the way MI, where do you get off saying: She wants younger meat, plain and simple? Or, that I would now "settle" for a man my age?
Where in the helL did i say any of that, and how dare you assume that. If you're going to quote, quote correctly. If you're going to assume, keep your damn mouth shut.
You have absolutely no idea, who I would like to date, who I've been with or what I'm looking for. I've taken your insult personally, and I will consider the source and not pursue it further with POF. I do however, expect an apology from you in this thread. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 2:27:51 AM | foreverpinky...... I wouldn't take it quite so personally, as MI blasts anyone with an attitude such as ours.... as other posters have suggested, he is letting his baggage do the talking. If you look on page 3, post 63 on, he had gone into the attack mode on me too.
I tend to date men just slightly younger than me, but not to the point of immaturity..... they can usually keep up with me and still have the perspective gained of life experience.
I even later explained myself, much along the same lines as you have. and the explanation was apparently not accepted, as he is now attacking you for saying the same things as I did ..... as Gummle suggests, his attacks only make you wonder as to why he is so bitter on this subject.
My Island.... FYI - statistically, women initiate the large bulk of divorces in this country. I know when I got divorced 6 yrs. ago, 91% of all divorces were inititated by the woman..... you might want to rethink some statements you made earlier. And as myself, Bluedew, Kit and foreverpinky have suggested, it is not about the sex, it is about the energy that a person has in life. As a friend of mine recently said to me... "you are not IN the fast lane... you ARE the fast lane."......... | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 6:09:23 AM | For the most part I think it is a LUST thing, on both parts, I have been with younger, as much as 12 years younger, in a long term relationship, he was very mature, we had lots in common, but I guess we just lived too far apart, besides we both knew it was not a "forever" thing, was nice while it lasted.
Nowadays, I prefer my men a bit more "seasoned", not that I won't think about someone younger, just not Waaayyy younger, just does not do it for me anyways. | |
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GUMMLE
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Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 135 | |
| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:18:19 AM | MI...
You are an intelligent man...
You have a unique writing style...
That on occassion borders on confrontational...
However...
In some topics...
Such as this one...
You appear to wear your heart on your sleeve...
And are defensive...
Whether intended or not...
You read more into others' responses...
Than is perhaps there...
Your choice of words and phrases...
Project feelings...
Real or otherwise...
Only you can know...
I do not label...
Nor will I be baited...
But if asked...
I will reply...
Honestly...
In other threads...
I have found your perspective...
On certain issues to be...
Thought provoking...
Taking others' opinions as a personal affront...
Is not such a perspective...
It only serves to paint an individual...
As hurt, angry and bitter...
OT...
I forgot to mention...
That she...
My late wife...
Was 14 years my senior... | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:36:20 PM | Foreverpinky,
(your restrictions prevented me from sending a personal apology - you're happy, I bet - lol)
In your case, I apologise for presuming to know your circumstances and commenting prematurely and unfairly about you, personally. It was a case of categorising you with others rather than approaching your situation as an individual, unique situation. Again, I apologise.
For those who think I am posting in a bitter tone, i'm not. I am stating my views just as others state their views... it's my view and my opinion. I can easily point out repetitive behaviours that are no better than mine (if gauged by a particular group), yet they totally ihgnore their own behaviour as a direct contradiction to their efforts to preach to me. I am simply stating my views, as I would on other topics. If anyone believes I am blasting them, they are wrong. In many cases, I find people get easily offended because my view may not be as empathetic to their views as they would hope.
Pearl,
Again. You are one that feels compelled to chew my ass off. However, you have not answered my question... properly, that is. I asked what it is guys my age couldn't keep up with? Your response is a contradiction. Not only did you say older guys couldn't keep up, you also included in your response that the younger guy couldn't keep up. As below:
Pearl – mssge #75
Hmmmm..... where do I begin????..... I am a single mom of three kids... work a full time job... drive my kids all over, plus back and forth to their father's residence every other weekend (total of about 1000 km every two weeks)... I wake up at 5 am daily, and go to bed somewhere between 11 pm and midnite, sleeping approximately 5-6 hrs. a nite - yes, also on weekends .... I own my own home which I am currently renovating, and rebuilding the yard and landscaping etc..... on top of this, I have a fairly active social life..... and I have not even touched on the personal aspect of my life yet..... are you tired yet????... the youngest man I ever dated was more than 15 yrs. my junior, and could not keep up with me
You left yourself open for a variety of comments.... it's unfortunate you blame me for noticing your discrepancy...... and no, I'm not blasting... I am commenting.
I have no problem admitting my imperfections and incorrect assumptions on-line. I'm not stubborn nor insistent to be right all the time.... maybe others should consider doing the same. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 8:40:33 PM | MI
you yourself admit in your profile your "A little rough around the edges"
your roughness and crudeness comes across in alot of the threads....perhaps some polishing is in order....IMHO | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/28/2006 8:49:17 PM | Mirage,
Trust me... I've improved immensely. Keep in mind this is a text environment. Kit Kat has spoken with me at events and I'm sure she could atest to my calm, but direct nature. Her and I don't see eye to eye on issues, but we still have anopen line of communication when/if need be.
Some people are polished, some aren't. That shouldn't place us at different levels. Jerks, players, disrespectful people come from all walks of life. Of any POFers I met as a coffee meet/date, I've never talked offensively to them..... I can say that on-line because it is the truth. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 9:00:41 PM | | improvement is good, we grow with it and learn from it..nobody is perfect. This is a text environment which is why sometimes we should re-read what we type before hitting the "send" or "reply" button....there is nothing wrong with being direct but there is a knack to it....it takes into account, the other person's feelings...polishing up on this knack is the best way to get your point across without being demeaning or down right mean...so for the people you have met face to face you are nice and never talk offensively? then why do it behind the scenes? | |
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GUMMLE
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Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 141 | |
| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:18:11 PM | Again...
I will not be baited...
OT...
Speaking from experience...
Rather than hearsay and speculation...
The relationship between...
An older woman and younger man...
With no hang-ups...
Or preconceived notions...
About age...
Can...
And often is...
About a lot more than lust...
No different than any other...
Age group arrangement... | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/28/2006 9:59:43 PM | pinky makes note to self: do like gummle and not be baited. lol...right after this note to MI.
MyIsland: yes, you're right, I am glad that you couldn't contact me personally. And you seem to have apologized (however lightly). I hope you're taking note of the other posters notes. You are crass. I didn't even touch on the line you made about me of "having had miles of years driven into me" or whatever diatribe you were on.
I will rise to the occassion and accept your apology here. However, I will now in the future consider the source when I read your posts. I think you take delight in "trolling" the forums and you do this deliberately to "bait" attention. You say you would never speak to a woman like this in person. Good thing, cuz I think if you had the balls to say them to me in person, you'd be swallowing them. Or if we were in the company of any gentlemen, I think you might find yourself on the floor.
You consistently justify your crudeness and rude behaviour on simply stating your opinion in a public forum. This is a cop-out (and again, it's a classic sympton of trolling). You recognize you're "getting better" -- believe this when I say it, you have a long way to go!
I'm now "letting this go". (thx gummle) | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 10:55:13 PM | Foreverpinky.......Your description of the ex-hubby coulda been my ex-hubby........ Nice we are both free now!!
I come back here and see flaming etcs. But oh well.......texts leave much to be desired.
When seperated I had no idea about what age mattered to me. I dated youngerrrrrrrrrr guys and all ages. Nothing worked out. So I can't blame it on the ages. All were equally good/bad...however it went.
I am now presently trying to date within my own age range. I would prefer older than me, but those younger guys keep coming at me. What is a woman to do?? I say NO,NO,NO! But the younger ones say Why,Why,Why? I honestly can accept any age gap as long as it is older than my oldest child. Which to me still feels too young. I suppose my utmost youngest age would be 44, but they would have to show some serious maturity. I'd much prefer the older than 50 guys at this time in my life. Presently 60 is looking mighty good. Why? Because I want someone who can offer to me....what I can offer back to them.
However........I reserve the right as a woman to change my mind at any time in the future.......cause Lord...I just might do that!!  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 12:14:58 AM | ahhh ruby..I luv ya. glad to read your comments in the forums..if I'm not mistaken, I think you were going to leave us for a bit. If I'm right on that, I'm glad to have you back.
just for the record...the guy i spoke of in this thread was not an ex-hubby (but I guess legally with live-in rules, we'd call him that). He was my b/f after my divorce. My real ex-hubby left me for a younger woman! lol. (Another of ML's theories shot to hell!)
What you say is absolutely true. Which is precisely the point I was trying to make by saying age is just a number. It's whatever works for the two people involved. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 12:53:47 AM | I know I've posted this somewhere before, my dating range for a younger man, half my age and add 12. Any younger, we can be friends, but as for dating, converstaion seems to wane and they have no idea what I'm talking about at times!
Each generation has their own expressions and I grew up with family who were born during the depression, been in World War II, and I was born to the youngest late in life. My Aunts and Uncles were in their 40's and 50's when I came to be. So the expressions I grew up with are totally lost on anyone too young.
How do you do, remember this or when, with someone not even born at the time! Makes it a little difficult to relate to each other. Being a talker and a listener, I need someone who can add to the conversation. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 3:45:41 AM |
doc you should be biting your tongue with all the suggamomma's after you!
Nahhhhhhhhhhhh, biting your tongue hurts. | |
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| Older woman / Younger men?
Posted: 7/29/2006 4:38:07 AM | However, you have not answered my question... properly, that is. I asked what it is guys my age couldn't keep up with? Your response is a contradiction. Not only did you say older guys couldn't keep up, you also included in your response that the younger guy couldn't keep up.
This is exactly what I have been trying to point out all along, MI... although, I must say, Gummle says it much more poetically than I do.
The relationship between...
An older woman and younger man...
With no hang-ups...
Or preconceived notions...
About age...
Can...
And often is...
About a lot more than lust...
No different than any other...
Age group arrangement...
FOR ME... not necessarily all women who have no age hang-ups.... it is not about the age.... it is about one's energy level... which is why the younger guy became history too. I am NOT about to rule someone out for their age, whether they are younger or older. ..... HOWEVER.... I WILL rule someone out for their maturity and/or energy level..... NOW to describe "energy level"... and what exactly they cannot "keep up with".... in short, whatever we are doing.... if we have both worked all week, we get together on Friday nite, I don't mind if we sit and watch a movie.... but I DO mind if he falls asleep during it..... if we go out, I don't mind if he doesn't dance.... but I better not hear it is because he is too tired..... and the one excuse that I get such a laugh out of.... they don't feel like getting together tonite because they are "too tired".... paint you gone... (btw - I realize it is USUALLY just an excuse) ....YES... I have my tired times too, but, I rarely sleep more than 7 hrs. a nite, .... and someone who sleeps till noon won't last much with me.... I want to get out and do something - LIVE!!! ..... I have dated several men older than me, and only one COULD keep up to me..... I have also dated several younger men, and only one COULD NOT keep up with me... the one mentioned earlier, and he was also too immature.....so, you live and learn..... as I said earlier... by and large, I date men a few years younger than me... due to maturity and energy level... "by and large" does not mean always.... it means usually..... but, on the plus side for older men... they are usuallly more open, and play less games.... JMHO
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Posted: 7/29/2006 5:32:12 AM |
And you seem to have apologized (however lightly)
Thank you... how gracious of an acceptance you display.
I've read some very mean things being said in these forums and in comparison to the public apologies that should have been posted, I did rise to the ocassion.
I will rise to the occassion and accept your apology here
You didn't rise to the ocassion(read above statement).
You consistently justify your crudeness and rude behaviour on simply stating your opinion in a public forum. This is a cop-out (and again, it's a classic sympton of trolling)
If it's not an opinion, just what else can it be? This is a discussion forum, where opinions are allowed...no?
You say you would never speak to a woman like this in person. Good thing, cuz I think if you had the balls to say them to me in person, you'd be swallowing them. Or if we were in the company of any gentlemen, I think you might find yourself on the floor
Maybe you should take a step back and respect the fact that I am allowed an opinion, just as you are. Quite frankly, if you insult me in public and a "true" gentleman was with you, he would defuse the situation... not provoke it.
However, dating "boys" would compliment your immature temperment.... another difference to note between younger and older men.
On topic:
In my troll free opinion:
The odds are immensely stacked against those preferring to establish long term relationships with others when a larger age gap occurrs... it's not that some won't work, it's simply stacked against the odds of it working. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 7:03:27 AM | | I have underwear older than some of the kids who have contacted me for Gawd's sake! What could they honestly think I have that kids their own age don't? Magic body parts? An unending tantric/sexual knowledge? Sorry kids, but big Momma has to draw the line at that kinda stuff! | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 7:06:14 AM |
What could they honestly think I have that kids their own age don't? Magic body parts? An unending tantric/sexual knowledge?
That generally is the hope, yes. | |
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