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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:53:16 PM | | I married someone who was 40 and never married. The marriage didn't last. He was married to his mother! I'm afraid of any man who's never been married now. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:57:11 PM | I just found out recently that my city (Kansas City) is one of the worst in the country for singles. UGH!!
I'm still attracted to younger men (52-55), but find that they are still "looking around". I find older men (56-60) are so set in their ways that they probably wouldn't be willing to change a thing. There are too many things I'd want to change, such as bathing, brushing their teeth, and cleaning their home. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 6:06:52 PM | Cleaning their home? To tell you the truth, all the men I seem to meet are housework fanatics. I could eat off the floors of their homes! Some of them hire maids and some of them have retired and attack the housework the way they used to attack their job.
I always tell a guy, "If your house is cleaner then mine, we aren't going to get along!"
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 7:29:24 PM | OMG friendlyldy, send them my way. A man who cleans!!! 
Better yet, maybe I better move to FL, warmer there.
I would rather be with a man in a clean home, than a dirty man. LOL | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 8:16:08 PM |
It seems there are only two types of men out there. Newly divorced men that just want to date around because they haven't been free for so long. They are like a kid in a candy store.....they want a little of this and a little of that. Makes perfect sense to me.
Then there are the guys that have been divorced for 10 yrs or so. They like doing what they want to, when they want to. And this is a bad thing...HOW?
perhaps you're looking in the wrong age group? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/12/2007 8:21:20 PM | "Ever feel like a lonely little petunia in an onion patch? "
I so relate to that. I do however, see other petunias here and there in the patch. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:20:29 PM | GrandmaBooBoo .....
Then there are the guys that have been divorced for 10 yrs or so. They like doing what they want to, when they want to.
And this is a bad thing...HOW?
perhaps you're looking in the wrong age group?
Does not apply in my case......its just too dificult for me to find an active person like I am in my age range.
Kahuna | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:41:32 PM | I know that's true for you, Kahuna.........It's not in your profile now but I remember reading your profile or something you wrote and I got tired just reading about what you like to do.......... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:11:58 PM |
I know that's true for you, Kahuna.........It's not in your profile now but I remember reading your profile or something you wrote and I got tired just reading about what you like to do.......... LOL! that's for sure friendlyldy.....I make a trip around the grocery store and I need to come home and take a nap. Could never keep up with Kahuna! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:47:21 PM | | We're more 'specific' now in our search aren't we? but that's because we know ourselves so much more than when we were young...we know what we can accept and not accept and on what we can compromise...Second time around relationships don't have good stats on lasting. Some people do jump in too quickly...take your time...don't settle..yes, compromise, but don't settle...and keep the faith. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:50:24 PM | You very well could be right. I'm in the middle of a divorce, my second, and I am looking forward to quite a while, one or two years anyway, of no dating at all. Although I someday do want to find the right gal again it is more important to me to reach down deep and discover just who I really am. Everything I have ever done, thought, decided or accomplished has envolved at least one other person who was affected by my actions. I have no clue how I would have conducted myself over the decades had I been making decisions about life that would affect only me. So I know what kind of father I was and what kind of husband I was and what kind of son I was but I really don't know what kind of me I am. So I plan to find out. All by my lonesome. Once I know that, I'll know what I want in a woman and what I have to offer her.
Besides, I want to finally finish the book I'm writing. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 7:41:23 PM | I've been divorced for 12 years, I'm 53, I'm set in my way, I'm still looking around for a woman to clean my house who can support me in the style I wish to become accustom to. I know its hard to believe I'm single.
I guess good looks can't get you everything you want, I'm proof of that | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 8:36:53 PM |
I've been divorced for 12 years, I'm 53, I'm set in my way, I'm still looking around for a woman to clean my house who can support me in the style I wish to become accustom to. I know its hard to believe I'm single.
I guess good looks can't get you everything you want, I'm proof of that
All I can say to that is....ROFLMAO!!! I feel your pain John! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 8:39:12 PM | I'm still looking for that 100 year old man that I'm supposed to be dating
and you think YOU have a problem........ | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 9:05:07 PM | Well I'm hunting for 107, but they seem not to have any listed on POF! Bummer!
That's just my luck!
Yes I was over 50 and alone.... again.... and still.... over 60... alone still.
Now if I could just get someone to ring the doorbell, I keep waiting
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Waiting.............  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/13/2007 10:42:38 PM | If someone tried to come in and radicaly change my life like you described I think would halt the relationship very early on concludeing they really didn't love me but a fantasy they had in their mind.
Would I expect a certain cooperative effort to blend our tastes, belongings, lifestyles if I decided I was ready to live with someone? Sure. It would be virtually impossible to cram two households in one home but even then I don't see why over time two people who love each other couldn't her plates with his glasses and have a lovely table?
I have no doubt that my "nest" as it is now would be decidely too slanted to my tastes but hopefully hospitality alone would make haveing a "sweetheart's" favorite comfort items around.
What always amazes me is the number of single people say they want to bring a person into their life but have no dedicated time or space for a potential partner. Kind of speaks to how committed they are in the effort. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 1:59:49 AM | As a man who used to fit both categories, I think you're right on both counts. But we move through those phases and realise the importance of having a 'best friend and lover' once again. Much better to give up a bit of so-called 'freedom' and have a partner again, for all sorts of reasons. I also speak as a man who is happy cooking for two and ironing his own shirts!!  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 2:09:15 AM | Wow - after reading your post, I'm moving to Kansas City!
You look and sound wonderful.
I shower & brush my teeth daily, and clean my apartment regularly. Am I in with a chance??!
lol
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 3:54:12 AM | Jrbogie, you are correct--the healing, rediscovering yourself and reconstructing yourself and finding out you really like who you are or changing what you don't is an important part in living. Like you I did not date during that time which took about a year but I did meet some guys who were going through the same things and we did things together and are still friends. It gave us both the prespective of the opposite sex in conversation--and a hug once in a while since the loss of human touch by singles seem to be a biggie. Read your profile and you seem like someone worth knowing. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:24:42 AM | I'm 58 and this is the age where I thought I would be going off on vacations with my husband and enjoying our retirement. A jacuzzi on the patio........maybe going cross country and exploring ........ snuggling and walking hand in hand..........
I've been on my own many times throughout my life and I don't need someone to take care of me but I sure do miss sharing special times with someone I love.
One thing I don't understand about POF is where are the older guys? I mean, most of the guys on here are early or mid 50's.........where are the guys who are over 60 and even 70? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:29:02 AM | | friendly I don't know how to break this to you. Most people on this site think men in their early to mid 50's are the "older guys" including women who are +/- a couple of years. I have seen many profiles where 50 y/o women are looking for men that are 10-15 years younger. In fact many of the women think we are just a bunch of old perverts looking to get lucky. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:48:42 AM | I'm not shocked......... I see those posts, too, and it surprises me at times. I don't want a boy toy..........but quite honestly, I think part of the problem is that the older men are ignoring the older women and the younger men aren't! I get a lot more mail from the younger guys then I do the older ones! I think it's funny.........
My post wasn't about sex or getting lucky. It was about how this was a time when I was looking forward to retiring and spending the rest of my life with my best friend...... a guy I loved........I was up in the Smokies and went into the jacuzzi there and there was this older couple in the jacuzzi, holding hands and being close. Heck, I don't know if they could have sex anymore but I would settle for the hugs, the kisses, the holding hands............I watch my 70 year old newly wed friends dancing and how he wants to hold her hand when they walk and THAT'S what I'm missing!!!! I watch my 80 year old neighbors sitting out on their patio, having their****ail together at 4 every day and deciding what to do that evening and sharing their days and going to Key West and it just seems like the older guys (over 65) have rediscovered love and romance........ And the guys 50 to 65 are running around with little blue pills looking for women who will let them experiment on them.........
I've been lucky in my life that I've always enjoyed sex but if I had to choose between sex and love, I would choose love ........... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/14/2007 8:50:19 AM |
I'm not shocked......... I see those posts, too, and it surprises me at times. I don't want a boy toy..........but quite honestly, I think part of the problem is that the older men are ignoring the older women and the younger men aren't! I get a lot more mail from the younger guys then I do the older ones! I think it's funny.........
My post wasn't about sex or getting lucky. It was about how this was a time when I was looking forward to retiring and spending the rest of my life with my best friend...... a guy I loved........I was up in the Smokies and went into the jacuzzi there and there was this older couple in the jacuzzi, holding hands and being close. Heck, I don't know if they could have sex anymore but I would settle for the hugs, the kisses, the holding hands............I watch my 70 year old newly wed friends dancing and how he wants to hold her hand when they walk and THAT'S what I'm missing!!!! I watch my 80 year old neighbors sitting out on their patio, having their****ail together at 4 every day and deciding what to do that evening and sharing their days and going to Key West and it just seems like the older guys (over 65) have rediscovered love and romance........ And the guys 50 to 65 are running around with little blue pills looking for women who will let them experiment on them.........
I've been lucky in my life that I've always enjoyed sex but if I had to choose between sex and love, I would choose love ...........
No offense..but why are you looking to what others have for what YOU want?
What they have is just that...what THEY HAVE...
It may seem to be ideal from the outside...but that's just the surface....
If you know what YOU want...IMHO..YOU should go out and seek that....
I think a lot of women frankly waste their lives looking for some romantic "fantasy" that they'll never achieve...(not saying this is what you're doing)
And I've also noticed that older women (I date older) actually can tell you how many YEARS it's been since they were "intimate"....
How sad for them that the only thing that they really have (their own life) is slipping by and they're missing it....
If you find someone of age (and there are,of course, reasonable limits) that is attracted to you...and that you seem to be attracted to as well....why not see where it goes? | |
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