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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 1/30/2008 6:48:21 PM | | You must have had a lot of bad experiences. Too bad, you have not found the right woman yet. Looking at the wrong profiles? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:19:24 AM | ..[4 posts in 19 minutes . . ?? I thought _2_ was the Max]..[consider 'Editing'?]
*****
Another 'Category' . .
The Widowed-type . .
Spoiled by an Excellent teacher . . still active and verile . .
but living in a 'target-free-environment' . . | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/1/2008 1:41:47 AM | Now let me see.
She's 50 he's 55. She's got the kids off her hand's and she owns a house. And she wont touch a guy who hasn't paid of a houe cause, by that age, any man how doen't own his own house is a bum.
He's 55 and has only just re made contact with his adult kids after being torn awasy from thenm during a savage divorce fifteen years ago.
He's also spending as much times as he can with the grandchildren he never knew he had.
He HAS paid off a hosue. The one his ex kept during the divorce , so now he's renting.
Any 50+ woman who doesnt' understand where I'm coming from isn't even worth bothering with. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/2/2008 9:08:59 AM | Hello everyone,
I am 53 and along again after 17 yrs of ok marriage I used to look at women that were set free after long relationships and they were in their 50's and say to myself " I nerver want to be alone when I am 50 + "but look here I am still have some issuse with ex after 3 yrs on my own. Yes ladies look at this time as on your own not alone! Explore, seek but have fun with it, show your friends, family,adult kids you can do it on your own be who you truely want to be! Change you name (I went back to maiden name and it feels good to be ME again). For those who married young or been someones wife forever, now is your time, I have changed my hair color, style that I like and looks hot, Dress the way I feel alive and sexy in. I went on a date and I asked this man what attracted him to me and he said.'' The way I have a confident way about me, the way I carry myself, the way I smile and laugh. The way I made him feel comfortable like a friend." I have went back to college believe that was not easy the math almost killed that. anyway I am going to get degree in something that I want to do for a Career not just a job . Don't want any man to ever think I want to be taken care of that way.  But if a man came along and said I need you to take care of me , If we were on our way to partnership I might just have to change my plans ( that's is by my choice only) I just might do that. You have to adapt look at our parents and Grandparents and the time they lived in! women did not have many choices on their own so make the best of what is avaiable to you , get off your 50 + butts and live YOUR life. And be gentle with the men, you know they are strong in body but more sentive in mind !! Look I even got a tatto in fact 2 of them. Looking to get my last in a month freedom to express yourself!!!! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/2/2008 9:23:48 AM | No wonder everybody is single here ,,going by the posts marriage must be like a jail sentence ,,,,,,, why don't you write something positive , instead of banging on about your last life ,,,,, who gives a stuff if you've found your freedom? You can't be enjoying it too much if you need to come here going on about it !!!
As for being alone over 50 !! yeah ,, I've seen them all ,,,,,, going out having a ball,, if marriage was so bad , it was your own fault , nobody else's .
Now anybody got anything positive to say ?
Remember , no man is an island ,, and if you're hanging on to your friends and family for a life ,, then you are sorely losing . Eventually they will tire of your singledom .
Oh , and as for being alone again over 50 ,,, I think it's a load of bull.... show me someone who is really happy here!!!! If they were , they wouldn't be bothered with this stuff.
So , to all you man bashers ,enjoy your singledom . I'm stuffed if I know why you are on a dating site!!!  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/2/2008 12:35:42 PM | Some people have been with someone for so long they may not really know what to do . I for one am a lot happier with a companion. I have been out of the datimg for 17 yrs. it is hard to start over or get started again. I met a very nice man and I think if I play my cards right I might have a good time with him and he with me but if nothing happens other than friends I am ok with that but I found that if us real non-game players find the newbie on site first we have a chance in having a good time before the newbies get attacted by the game players. This new way of dating is an experience in it'sself for many who have not ben around computers. We must be gentle and help the newbies in their path lol.   And barra57 you are online for what, do you date, Have you been married before??? No one is bashing marriage just ruff for some over 50 to be back in a new age of dating! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 4:50:14 AM | Why can't people leave the past in the past? We all have a history or we would be very dull people indeed.
It's today and tomorrow thats improtant.........so all of you out there..........for heavens sake make the best of it.
Dump the emotional baggage, no one wants or needs to know. Move on and create
your new future. You never know YOU MIGHT ENJOY IT!!!!!:
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:40:01 AM | Sorry to disagree on my very first post...there are MORE than 2 types of man over 50
Respects
Paul
xx (gentlemanly kisses,one each cheek) | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:42:42 AM | haha!!! I just love this thread..I'll be 50 in July and I'm as happy as a cephalopod in algae heaven!! (sorry..some people talk in "horse" language. I talk in "marine" language.)
I have a great life now and at 50, I don't see it getting worse..just better.
-I live alone
-I can afford to live alone
-I live on a barrier island...alone
-Did I mention that I live alone?
-I can walk on the beach at midnight..alone
-I can be a bed hog and pillow pig all I want
-I can drool on my own pillow and don't have to share my drool with anyone else.
YES!!!!! I love my life!! Nothing wrong with being 50..60..or 70 and having to live it alone. I will live my life well at any age.
Sans | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:51:49 AM | Yes yorky_paul there are more than two types of men: actually there are many more types of humans, but sometimes we generalize when we seem to be in a "pool" of the same types. Makes one forget there are others to be considered. Your salutation says it all: we need to have respect for one another.
However, OT: I'm over 50 and have been alone since about three weeks before turning 50, so my "aloneness" is not "again", it's just the continuation of what was begun then. I too am finding some difficult times through this process but generally speaking have no trouble being with "me, myself and I". And like the referenced poster above I have learned to respect myself. Without self-respect how can we believe that others will do the same.? Still goes back to "Do unto others........" | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:04:44 PM | | I think it is hard to date when your over "50"... From what I have seen on this site...The men want women in their 20's, 30's. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:52:02 PM |
I think it is hard to date when your over "50"... From what I have seen on this site...The men want women in their 20's, 30's
Now mind you this is just my feeling on this but, I think many more men (and Women) would rather date someone close too their own age, I know I do. It seems we put too many roadblocks up regarding the first contact and are not giving people a chance. There is to much read and delete as far as e-mails go whether we all want too admit it or not. I know I would talk or e-mail pretty much anyone, and yes some of that would obviously be just for a friendship and nothing else, I would make that clear in as nice a way as I could find, I know there are some out there that think I'm a Jerk I guess, but I tend to say what I mean and tell it like I see it. So the short answer is most 50 year old men that I know would rather be with 50 year old women, I guess it's the packages that differ.
And Please Don't Shoot the Messenger. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 3:40:22 PM | Here's the thing......
I have been divorced for almost 15 years, am only 43 and for whatever it's worth, I have much more fun with a woman that is over 50. At least 7-10 years older than me.
Not sure why, I have been this way since I can remember. But the older I get the more I understand just what is important in life and tend not to care tha much about the unimportant things.
I am not interested in going to bars, seeing how much I can drink, seeing how manly I can be. I'm just interested in being happy. And sadly, even women my age either want to be 30, act like they are 30 or have an IQ of around 30.
Good conversation, intelligent thoughts and someone that just doesn't mind being treated with respect, kindness and generosity. Holding doors open is not the mark of chivalry, it's the mark of respect, if you ask me.
BlueMax
ValleyChatter.com | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:21:04 PM |
And sadly, even women my age either want to be 30, act like they are 30 or have an IQ of around 30.
Not me! I had a 3.96 GPA in college, I still love to watch educational tv, museums, and learn new things, I'm 58 years old, I look it, I feel it, I act it (most of the time! Even old people play like kids sometimes!  )............now if I could only find a guy who looked it, felt it and acted it.......... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/4/2008 4:26:59 AM | hi all,well I am 57 and have been on my own 14years,I have never lived with anyone since my marriage break-up in 94. freinds talked me into buying a computor saying go on line you will never be lonely again//I bought this box of worms last april,I was totally computor illitrate,I went on line in may to make friends and possibly find some-one to share my life with, as I live in a isolated spot and to have a human conversation is a 70k round trip to town,so here I am///,over the last 8 months I have chatted to a few,met 5 in person,of that 5 two didnt match there profil picture by at least 15 years// one was so dirty when he rocked up to meet me [[ he had grease and dirt bracelets,tide lines and long black fingernails ]] he was nice to talk to but a total grott// no 5 wow my dream guy,we met and fell in love or so I thought, 4 months we ,msn everyday,chatted on the phone,I was supremly happy,he was 52 and a widdower,he went to europe on a holiday in dec,before he went he said i am going to send you a freindship ring so the world will know you are mine by wearing my ring, no ring came in the mail I will ring you xmas day he said before leaving, no phone call and no xmas email,dec 28 hes in scotland no msn at backpackers he says, next night I am up very late downloading stuff way past my bedtme and up pops his msn pop up,being new to computors i thought msn was a one to one like a phone ,how green I was// he said oh theres one computor here with msn on it when I asked how come you are on msn,lol, new years eve I had sent two emails wishing him happy new year,did I get a replie no// new years eve and new years day came and went nothing till the 2nd jan a reply to my whats going on email sent on the 2nd, still no happy new year message, no promised post cards,no phone calls// nothing for 2 weeks,then a message on a dateing site we met on ,love your profile but love you more// I replied,silly me was still in love with him,on the 20th jan finally a email,real big \\two lines//I replied,21 another mail from him ,only i jammed it by pressing pre see on incredible mail,I had to pay 20dollars to go up a levell , another two liner.
I took a long hard look at myself,what a silly fool I was ,I had just paid 20 dollars to read a email from a man who couldnt be bothered to spend 5 dollars on a phone call to me , had forgotten me xmas day and new years I have not replied to that email or the message put on the dateing site same day///because in cold hard realty love is actions not the spoken or typed word,my plans to move interstate will still go ahead but I will be moving for me not to him.// yes love on the net I think i have been cured of finding that special person on this box of worms,its friends only now for me, do you think his behaviour while he was away[[6weeks]] show him to be a faithfull totally in love wants to marry me man,we were to get engajed in feb and had made plans where we would get married in the outback. faithfull NO //double life yes// how can someone say he loves you then forget you,// my tears have dried ,my angers gone and like a flower that dies from no water,my love for him has died . yep alone again and a lot wiser,for 5 months I have been faithfull to what\\ a can of worms// no more long distance love affairs for me the pain of being used is not worth it | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.bara57 /2/3/ 08
Posted: 2/21/2008 7:51:50 PM | lol barry your articule is sad, I find this a great thread,its full of sharring and caring,look at it again with eyes not blind!
TIS A MANS WORLD.
ITS A MANS WORLD OUT THERE,
TO SURVIVE ON MY OWN I MUST GROW TOUGH,
TO TURN MY HEAD AND CALL THERE BLUFF,
AND LEARN NOT TO SHOW MY TRUE FEELING,
THAT IM ONLY A HUMBLE HUMAN BEING,
AND SOMETIMES I REALLY DO NEED TO CRY,
INSTEAD I JUST BLOODY WELL SIGH,
CAUSE ITS A MANS WORLD OUT THERE,
AND TO THEM LIFES JUST ONE BIG DARE,
IS THERE ROOM STILL IN LIFE FOR COMPASSION,
OR IS IT HIDDEN UNDER THE TERM PASSION,
YES IF ONLY I WAS A MALE ,
LIFE WOULD TELL ANOTHER TALE!!
BY JEANIE
hope you had a nice holiday barry, you said you would contact me when you got home in a week !!!!!you didnt!!! lol not all men are liars you told me !!! lol jeanie whos learning to trust again the hard way  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:41:59 AM | Hi
Just been reading some of the replies to this and it would seem that for some its easy to date again for others not. Agree that some just out of divorce both male and female are like the kids in the candy shop and also that some will carry baggage.
If you are lucky you will be in a place that is easy to meet others for some its not. I find that it's easier for men to go toplaces more so than women but perhaps I'm old fashioned, I wouldn't go to a pub or club on my own !
As far as the sex is concerned yes for some that's all important for others the other stuff matters more and as for the whole package ........ well that would be a miracle lolol
I think if you find what you want in this life you are lucky but basically it's a journey for us all and sometimes your on the right path and at others your up a dead end !
Good luck to us all may we all find what we need as opposed to what we think we want !
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:31:25 PM | Sorry, I disagree.
I was initially surprised by how much women wanted to talk about their ex. So I'd encourage more. You're a woman -- wouldn't that tell you I'm interested in YOU? Your reaction suggests (perhaps) that distrust was a major issue for you -- which I need to know if I choose to pursue you.
That's how I feel, as a guy, when a gal shows the same interest in my own history.
She (in my case) may be "over it" as you say, but it's still going to be a major part of who she is today ... assuming it wasn't 10 years ago.
If I'm concerned about her being "over it" -- then the best way to learn that is to talk about it. Sooner or later, she'll tell me what I need to know. And along the way we get some mutual empathy going. This is bad? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/23/2008 8:41:37 PM | I not only talk about my ex but he's been known to call me or email me when he's having problems in his current marriage............ He's been hanging around for over 20 years now.........
I can understand the heartbreak and bitterness and trouble with trusting after a divorce but there has to be healing. I can't hold the next love of my life responsible for what an ex did!!! The new love has to start with a clean slate!
Wayne died 5 years ago so I've gone through divorce and losing someone to death and losing someone to death is a lot easier because there's much less conflict. I'm going forward in my life with a background of happy experiences and memories and just wanting to have more happy experiences and memories.
Although I'm perfectly able to live by myself, I know that I'm happier when I'm with someone I love and who loves me. I've experienced it. I know it can work. I know how to work through things with another person........how to give and take......how to appreciate the one I'm with instead of taking him for granted..........
But I am alone again ........... and I just hope that the right guy who wants that, too, will come into my life and I can experience that kind of love and happiness again........ And I have to be realistic and realize that the odds are against me!  But I just try to keep going forward with an open heart and mind.......... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:03:31 AM | OK - this is what you do. You agree to meet me for a date - lunch or dinner say. You meet me and spend all of our time talking non-stop and interrupting me whenever I try to enter the conversation. Take no interest in me as a person whatsoever. Let me pay for everything. Shake my hand. And indicate no interest whatsoever in creating any sort of mutual relationship. Be sure to spend some time running down men in general. I go home poorer, disillusioned, and tired from smiling, nodding my head, and getting in an occasional compliment.
Repeat.
And then complain there are no "good" men.
How would you know? You don't even know anything about me. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:44:38 PM | M7, I got a good laugh out of your post. I actually had a man do that to me! After listening to him talk for an hour about himself, showing no interest at all in getting to know me, I finally told him that if he didn't shut up and stop talking about himself and show a little interest in finding out who I was, I was leaving.
Know what happened? He and I ended up together for four years! He said that he was just super nervous and so he kept talking and talking and that when I told him off like that, he knew that I was real and genuine and not just trying to "snag" him.........
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