|
|
|
|
|
Thad61
|
Joined: 7/1/2007
Msg: 451 | |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:47:13 PM | | I don't feel right if I am not pleasing a lady. It's my desire to share love and life with that special someone, no games, no space priorities. Loving, giving, sharing and respecting is the true happiness in life. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2008 2:57:08 AM | | I am not sure where you come from but the situation is so very similar for men. I have been on POF for some time and have not been able to have any serious conversations with the women on this site. They all are listed on10-20-30 favourites lists and when they look at my average photo they dont want to get involved in conversations. Obviously women are just like men: want George Clooney, Brad Pitt etc and someone to treat them like a princess. I have been divorced for 10 years and would truly love to be in a committed long lasting relationship but like you, I obviously am picking the wrong favourites. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/9/2008 10:15:59 PM | .
swtitalgal
I think it is hard to date when your over "50"... From what I have seen on this site...The men want women in their 20's, 30's.
You are correct about over-50. But here's the dirty little secret about online dating. Those guys are looking for cyber sex, phone sex, whatever.
POF does the best job of filtering out all the gorgeous babes under 30, who fill our inboxes everywhere else. So the real question is why so many "real" guys over 50 don't come online. (no pun intended!)
I'm exploring started my own site for the over-50 crowd, for this reason specifically. Or offering to run a subsidiary for POF.
Even the so-called "mature" sites (like seniorfinder) follow the same online pattern, which was developed for the majority of the market: under-35 or so.
I love it because there are SO MANY good women over 55!
. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 4:13:36 AM | I agree with the fact that a lot of men are looking for cyber sex and phone sex. It seems there are so many of them scared to take a risk and get involved with real and genuine women. Cyber sex can't hurt or reject you!!!!! 
I send emails to men who say they are looking for long term relationships, we email for a while, they ask me for my phone number so that they can ring and arrange a meeting and that's it. Fortunately I have a full and interesting life and am not waiting by the phone, but it is frustrating, what do men really want!!!!! Perhaps the problem as I read in another post is that men fill up their lives with lots of interesting things to stop from feeling too lonely and when someone comes along, they get worried they will have to give up their "stuff". From a personal point of view, I don't particularly want to live with someone, unless you want children, what's the point But I would like a committed relationship, living apart would be a good way of keeping the relationship alive and it means you can still have your own interests and share what you want to share. That's my take on it anyway. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:01:46 AM | | Yes i know what you mean i thought i was married till the "end of days' as i say but it did not turn out that way and i personally dont like being alone. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 8:06:59 AM | Bearded Romantic, your comments are so "on target." Most men over 50 are too cheap to pay a hooker so they think they can prey on women online.... | |
|
| |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:09:13 AM | Athena, I like your idea of a committed relationship and living apart. I wish there was another accepted option to married/single! For mature adults with busy life that don't necessarily want to set up house again, or change too many things in our lives. Hey Athena, you should think of a name for your idea.  Co-mingle? 
Except for the few rants of people that said 'get a life' yet spent 10x as much energy here behind their computer screens to type it all than those of us that are sharing  I've enjoyed this thread!
You sound awesome Friendlyldy, I don't think you'll be needing to  much longer! | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:26:56 PM | Hotcolo.
You said the same as I was thinking.
Great Post:)
Talking about the ex on first date or any date im outta there
They havent closed the door on past issues.
My last meeting I think has put me off dating for life, (I think.)
Ive never met so many men with so many issues:O
Yes I do realize women are the same but im speaking as a female
Im happy with my life and im not going to be a nursemaid.
I dont NEED a man he will be in my life if I Want him to be.
Not into needy& clingy | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:42:49 PM | Munch
You seem to know where its at:)
NTshy
Sounds like the guy u dated didnt know what morals were
His Loss
Never change to please someone.
I believe his house my house, I dont have any wish to move in move his things etc. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:24:04 PM | .
chocolatebrowne
Bearded Romantic, your comments are so "on target." Most men over 50 are too cheap to pay a hooker so they think they can prey on women online....
My favorite flavor. 
There's that. But I think a lot of that is also not knowing what to do. I'm fairly fearless and outgoing. But I still recall thinking, I haven't done this in 34 years. And I hated discos anyhow
I still think most guys, let's say over 4o or so, just aren't here. Sorry if I've posted this already. The whole concept is set up for folks under 35. And we need a different method.
At my very first online matchup, it dawned on me ... and the gal laughed hysterically ... "Here we are, total strangers. We've never met before. We know nothing about each other ... but the PhDs say we should be evaluating each other as potential marriage partners. Who wrote THAT script?"
I was new to Boise, had no friends -- just my son, his wife and two grandchildren. Now I am very good friends with three FANTASTIC women -- love each other, but not "in love."
Allow me to GENTLY suggest how the gals make it so difficult. I used to see these words and barf: "First friends, then who knows?"
Uhhh, I know what you mean NOW. But can you say that without it sounding like a come on? Or a tease?
We oughta be dating for fun, to met new people, discover new adventures, pick up a new "best friend" or two ... at my age ... get away from relying on our kids. Instead, read these forums. Too many of us seem to be living our lives like a Greek Tragedy. I know I was.
For a while.
And, to me, that is the biggest part of the over-50 dilemma.
. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:59:49 PM | I am sorry sister that you have had these problems. I have been told you let people treat you the way you want to be treated. Hummmm. I woke up! I don't let men treat me that way.
I have met men online. I have found that about 30% are married and just looking for a sex partner other then their wife. I ask if they are married before we meet. There are some things that tip you off that they are married. My male friends said they have the same problem.
I date younger men, men my age and men older.
Go out doll yourself up, how ever you do that and start flirting with the guys. You'll find a keeper. Don't believe all the hype that older women can't find men. I find them were ever I shop, read or dance. Remember sister you are a goddess. | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/11/2008 12:17:28 PM | *Never Give Up . . Never Surrender!!*
If you WANT to Love, again . . keep your chin up . . your self-esteem strong ..
..and ..
pledge to give your Best to someone that is as worthy of love as You are !!!
. .   . . | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:21:24 PM | I was an only child so I've always been fairly comfortable alone. I learned how to keep myself interested in things and reach out and make friendships a long time ago. I have a pretty full life that I enjoy but I know that I'm the happiest when I'm in a loving caring relationship with a man........... I used to get hit on a lot even three or four years ago but I am getting older now, I will be 60 in two years ......... that sounds impossible to me! And it's been hard for me to adjust to men thinking of me as "too old" for them and things like that........... But now I just laugh about it. I have 70 year old friends who just got married a year ago and my 80 year old neighbor just got married a couple of years ago. Those men look at those OLD women as if they are Angelina Jolie..... I caught the 80 year olds kissing passionately in the hall way one day.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.........and the biggest sex organ is the brain. We see what we want to see. I believe there are decent older men out there who do want to meet ladies their age and fall in love again ....... I may meet 50 guys who aren't like that but hopefully eventually I will meet that one who is just what I am looking for and I will be just what he's looking for............ | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/12/2008 6:22:13 PM | | your correct,,,most guys are afraid to get in deep...women i meet tend to look for finacial security,,some almost ask,,how much i make,,yuk,,so be carfull what questions you ask, and what order you ask them | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/12/2008 6:57:59 PM | | look guys,,,,ive been divorced for yrs, iam 53,,the golden rule is,,,men turned on by what we see,,,,women,,,by what they hear,,,advice to women,,compliment the guy, dont sit back and soak up our compliments,,nothing bores us more than that,,you like to be made to feel special,,,,so,,do ,,we,,guys,,dont settle for this,,i want to be treated like a princess , thing that women do,,,cos you set the tone for the rest of any relationship,, and thats a mistake,,be true to yor selfs,,as for love,,you gota test ,if the girl is able to love,,so many cant,,easy way to find out,,ask her for her definition of what love is,,that will tell you all you need to know,,a healthy person, looks to give love, not take it,, ya gota give love away, to get it,,,dead simple, be carfull out there guys keep your eyes open, and listen to every word,, and remember dating is suposed to be fun | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/12/2008 7:09:49 PM | | hey guys,,nothing wrong being single,,more fun than being married,,as for women,,they gota remember, we will only chase for so long,, and girls,,dont do the iwant to be treated like a princess thing,yuk,, you like compliments,,,,well so do we,,,,better to be free than to live a life in service,,ha ha,,golden rule for girls,,,,to be loved,,ya muct first become lovable | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/12/2008 7:33:44 PM | | fair is fair Golden rule for guys..........to be loved, you must mature beyond the point where you define sex by the third date as love........... | |
|
| |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:47:58 PM | Yes! . . But still be able to _Discuss_ Sex . . as mature adults . . and not as
giggly teen-agers or prudish pilgrims.
It should happen when it's agreed upon . . by Both parties . .
when the attraction..and the desire are both present in a growing relationship. .
Not just for the sake of Doing it..! | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/14/2008 2:44:15 PM | HI I AM 55 AND SINGLE, BUT MY PROBLEM IS I AM PARTLY DISABLED (CAN'T WALK VERY FAR ) AND A BBW SO I FIND IT HARD TO MEET SOMEONE. FIRST THEY SEE MY SIZE THEN READ IN MY PROFILE I AM DISABLED. SO I GIVE UP LOOKING FOR SOMEONE BUT IF THEY LOOK PAST MY DISABILITY AND MY SIZE THEY WILL FIND I AM A NICE HONEST WOMAN, I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A CARER AND DON'T NEED ONE. CAROLE  | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:12:02 PM | | why are the women in here allways going on about sex...not likt their 20 or somthing..i think its a midlife crisis for most women in here,,girls,,,dont overate your selfs,girls or is it mostly in your imagination,,mmmmmm,,,i think it is, | |
|
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:27:37 PM | | hope springs eternal friendly lady,,,,you searching to hard,,just let it happen and it will.first step is ,dont be afraid to be alone,,love is fearless,patient,and unconcerned for its self.so many people in here without hope, or have givin up,, you must be happy and contented,,,before you date,,.only then will a relationship work..in other words dont look for someone to take away your lonliness, you are resposible for how you feel,and you can change how you feel....when your ready to...tic tok | |
|
| |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:38:29 PM | | what is this fear of being lonely,,,,why ya all so scared of it,,,,when did yas become so so dependant on others, that you lost your ability to be alone,,thers a whole world out ther,get out and enjoy it,,is life ,,only about ,, finding a partner,,,the love of our lifes,,,,god,,,i think not,,,,love finds us,,with out the seaching | |
|
|
| Page 19 of 21
|
1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21 |
|
Home
login 
