| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/13/2005 10:11:53 AM | | I can't understand some guys. Here is a perfectly gorgeous lady. Telling us she's alone. She shouldn't be. An older woman is much more comfortable with her life. She is able to give a level of love that younger people would be so jealous of. Now a woman, just like Tnshylady, is a treasure to behold and hold. Not to let her go. The young girls may be more energetic. More no level of energy can replace the depth of love an older woman can give. Wish we were closer. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/16/2005 2:06:27 PM | I'll have to admit to falling into the latter category. I miss female companionship. I'd like to have a woman in my life. That doesn't mean I want someone moving in, throwing away my things and redecorating. Changing my diet, my wardrobe and my vehicle, etc. And, in my experience, women universally see men as Martha Stewart type craft projects. "OOooohhh, look what I can make out of this!"
If/when I meet a woman who is smart enough to realize cohabitation is neither necessary nor probably desirable; who wants someone close, dependable and mongamous, but who also has her OWN space and stuff and activities that are HERS and is willing to allow me the same....I'll be on it like a duck on a Junebug. Until then, thanks but no thanks. | |
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jimb77
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Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/16/2005 6:29:44 PM | | I bet. When I want to get really bummed out, I run ages 50 to 55 and see what is out there.....:( | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/19/2005 10:03:20 AM | | well you also forgot the third type of guy, the 50 year old that has never been married, with no kids. i fall under that category. i find myself caught between being too old for the 30/40 somethings, and too young for the geritol crowd. i'm active, have a good job i like, neither look nor act 50, what's a guy to do? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/19/2005 12:55:11 PM | | munch that is so sweet, even if you did call me 'an older woman'. lol, but that doesn't really bother me at all, because I am. What does bother me is men that do not want a serious relationship. Just my luck, a handsome man with beautiful gray hair and you are a world away. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/19/2005 12:58:38 PM | | Yep greybear..that is a tough category you are in. But not every woman is out to change a man. At least how ever you start out treating a woman, is how it should be all the time. If you appear to be romantic and sweet, don't change in midstream. Be how you are from the start so we aren't puzzled when it all changes. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/19/2005 1:20:04 PM | | finish, you are in a category that I would think would be labelled 'a player' automatically. Because you never married, you will be looked at as gay or a player. We should never assume anything tho. I have been divorced for a long time. I haven't dated anyone since Aug this time. I had a 10 month relationship that ended when we had 'the talk'. He made it clear he would never marry again...ever. Ok, so why didn't he make that clear from the start. He also said I had too many morals?? What the hell does that mean? I have never been told I was too moral. I am not a religious freak. But I am not a wild party girl either. He likes getting drunk every weekend and if a female flashes her boobs and is all over some one else's man, I shouldn't say a word. Please! OK, just venting. Shouldn't have done that. I am just so tired of men not being who they really are or saying what they really feel from the start. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/19/2005 2:28:33 PM | tnshy, i happen to be neither gay nor a player. i just do the type of work that is done on nights, weekends, holidays, anniverseries, birthdays, etc. now when i meet women they know what i do, but it does become a strain on a relationship. what are the choices? find another profession, or meet someone in the same field. i happen to like what i do, but i know what i do and who i am are two different things. like i said before, why settle?
i believe you should always be true to yourself and your values. screw that guy, you're better than that. like janis joplin once said "don't compromise yourself, it's all you got"
hang in there, the right one will come along. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/20/2005 7:12:04 AM | Tnshylady:
I think Jimb's point is that there are very few women in the 50 - 55 category. I find there are very few fish in my age category/geographic location which can be a source of frustration. Add in that I am also over 50 and never married, what's a guy to do? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 10/21/2005 4:20:27 PM | | Hmmm. I'm not sure why I can't be both "romantic and sweet" and still not want to rearrange my life completely. I suspect that what your puzzled by isn't when "it all changes", but rather by when it *doesn't* all change.i.e., when he doesn't want to move beyond what's been working (dating) to full-time, 24/7 commitment. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 12:17:25 AM | | If you are in a commitment, marriage, or live together..why would you have to rearrange your life completely? You can still do the things you like to do, with or without your sweetie. If you really love someone, you will want to be together. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 9:06:00 AM | .
Tnshylady:
Hard to date when you’re over 50? Why? If all I wanted was to “date,” that would be quite easy and I’m well over fifty.
But, as you said about men, most women in my age group seem to be serial daters who just want guys for to entertain them. I’m not into that, so I disregard that type.
The freedom thing is another issue. I have no recent ex’s I wish to talk about, but I do have a life and things I will not give up. With me, that happens to be writing every day. Which means, anyone who knows me also knows where to find me most anytime -- I seldom wander too far.
However, there is plenty of room in my life for “closeness” with one special woman. Just one, though. And, that one I’m looking for will be a keeper. Meanwhile, until I find her, I am perfectly happy being alone.
I suspect there are many men like me available. I personally know at least two others. You will notice some, too, if you quietly look around.
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:00:37 PM | | Hi, I'm over fifty and have to agree with you -- there are many types of men -- some even bring a check sheet to see if you measure up to their ideal! I haven't had a meaningful relationship for almost five years. It is difficult for me to meet men with whom i am compatible, attracted to and whose company I want to share. Very few on this site in my area, which is a large city, rarely meet any men at work and my friends seem to know many single women who are great, yet no single men... Where have all the cowboys gone??? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:04:51 PM | | Where ya been all my life??? I agree with you 100%. I find slightly long distance (100 miles or so...) relationships work great with me. We can be together on the weekends or a day or so during the week! I really don't want someone under my feet ALL the time. I have alot of love to give the right person but I am very comfortable with myself! I happen to enjoy my own company & I DO like my space! I was reading the forum from Bucsgirl, What makes a women over 40 sexy. Good reading.....good pointers...but my question to you guys over 50 is...whaqt makes a MAN over 50 want a 26 yr old? Is it becuz the have great bods? Why is it you always seen the guys my age with younger women, they don't want someone there own age. This is what makes it so difficult to find someone to date. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:18:44 PM | Where ya been all my life??? I agree with you 100%. I find slightly long distance (100 miles or so...) relationships work great with me. We can be together on the weekends or a day or so during the week! I really don't want someone under my feet ALL the time. I have alot of love to give the right person but I am very comfortable with myself! I happen to enjoy my own company & I DO like my space! I was reading the forum from Bucsgirl, What makes a women over 40 sexy. Good reading.....good pointers...but my question to you guys over 50 is...whaqt makes a MAN over 50 want a 26 yr old? Is it becuz the have great bods? Why is it you always seen the guys my age with younger women, they don't want someone there own age. This is what makes it so difficult to find someone to date.
Opps! This was supposed to be a response to Greybear! If/when I meet a woman who is smart enough to realize cohabitation is neither necessary nor probably desirable; who wants someone close, dependable and mongamous, but who also has her OWN space and stuff and activities that are HERS and is willing to allow me the same....I'll be on it like a duck on a Junebug. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:29:06 PM | .
Who’s chasing 26 year olds? Not me, that’s for sure. Fact is, I’m not chasing anyone . . . just looking.
My ideal would be someone over 50 -- certainly well over 40, but then only in exceptional cases. Actually, it would be nice to find someone my own age, but that doesn’t look like it will happen anytime soon. I’ll let the guys experiencing their second childhood fool with the young ones. I try to act my age, mostly. Besides, I’m kinda known around here and so have to behave when in public.
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 10:52:18 AM | | go for it girl, go out and get what you want from a man........ i have a great guy who i use as and when i want him in my bed, hes happy with this arrangement as i am.by the way im 51 and hes 39, both of us single.life is for living, get one. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 11:16:04 AM | Just my opinion, but I think it's "hard to date" at any age, so I don't -- lol -- life happens friends happen, "special people" happen ...
I'm over 50 -- yep it does sound soooo much older than 49 doesn't it? But I think you will discover there are men who don't consider age a big issue. What matters is what you think, and what you want.
Two types? Oh Hon, it's soooo convenient to pigeon hole an entire gender and run about having attitude color perceptions. Yeah, other people really respond well to that -- not.
What do you want? What kind of "guy" do you want?
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 11:41:54 AM | OP
I understand and I think you are right to a high degree.
I was divorced over 7 years ago .. first few years were play time and now after all these years, it is very hard to give up the advantages of being single.
Although I don't want to be single for the rest of my life, but I have noticed that I have become very picky and not comfortable getting emotionally involved ... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 12:00:22 PM | Depends how many men you have met and how many you have been attracted to.I have been through two divorces each one so different from the other.time and our age was a big factor.My first EX and I are good friends( We went through a lot together and we still consider each other as family)
Second was like a storm in a tea cup lasted hardly long enough ,but in the short time we were togethere I was changed from one extreme to another.I look at most of the profiles and see a womans shopping list of the things she desires.Now I don't see many saying they are looking for a mature gentleman ( That is how I see myself) Life has been an adventure that is never ending ,life goes on and so does our need for a good partner.I wont say I wouldn't get married again but the Marriage vows are hollow words to me.
I do like the company of a good woman and that means someone I can communicate with on many levels .She doesn't have to be a Barbie doll ,but she doesn't have to be a Troll either
( Believe me I have met both)
Trying to find someone that fits into your life time of evolution is very hard and takes some adjusting but it doesn't have to be so traumatic .Two people can live in harmony without being together 7/24 or controling each other
WoW !! Better call it quits | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 5:12:02 PM | honey don't let the handicap thing bother you...I dated a wonderful man that lost his leg to agent orange...we traveled and had a blast together...BUT he left me for his last girlfriend, kinda ugly story...BUT don't use the handicap as an excuse for not dating!!!! as far as true love and romance , hummm, that is a good one, don't have a clue! been divorce 2 times and and starting over AGAIN, at 51...
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 12/29/2005 6:08:39 PM | | tnshylady...why are you complaining about being "alone"...you clearly state in your profile that you aren't interested in dating. okay, you need to decide. | |
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