| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/15/2006 7:23:52 PM | | I see so much of this....women who after they get online see it as a candy store......and the young guys will come a calling......but its just sex or fun for them..so I get all these profiles where the women wont give the time of day to a good man because they have a distorted view on how attractive they are........ I dont think women want a good man...... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/15/2006 7:46:34 PM | | the funny thing is I'm a man who would love to cherrish and protect someone ,have that last great love.......... IM ready...........willing and able............Im open and loving........IM average cute with a good heart....but I can't find a women here that wants a good man like me..............I think they have ten more e-mails lined up and they try to juggle all that.........and I never get the chance to meet them......... and now there is no one left in my area to contact :-) so Im here writting in these forms because I can't find a woman in her 50's on here to evolve something........ | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/15/2006 7:51:23 PM | Geeze.... Ya'd thind that by 50 ya would'a figured yourself out.
Like yer still blamin' others for your doubts.
rant and rave on the online clouts
spit out the sap and expect someone to suck it up.
well hey ... generalizations make me want to spit
generalizations are just full of sh*t
I see them in threads old and new
I answer some but most make me spew
I'm over fifty and feel the same way I did at 30
at least about relationships both clean and dirty
I always demanded my freedom,
will compromise to keep the peace,
to expand my mind
to do new things
like what do you bring to the table
what baggage, history and old war stories
are you bringin' on the , oh I'm sorry
or is it really I don't want to hear that
I don't have time for trivial spats
its just depressing to my mind
I would rather spend my time
the precious little I have
feeling good not sad
Over 50 and alone again
makes me sad and then
I put on an old tune
try to croon along with it
dance a little bit
give out and old rock cheer
then grab myself a beer
Just think back
open the cracks in your brain
step over and around the pain
where and when did it happen
where and when did you know
was it fast or slow
blunt or subtle
just how did you get hooked
was it like out of a book
out of movie or play
was it at night or in the day
try to think back
dust off the slack bitterness
that entrenched judgmentalism
just where did you fall in love?
Now ....
relate that to now.
bet you weren't trying to fall in love
so why the sh*t would you try now
it only makes sense to me
especially being over 50
there are only two kinds of men
you will eventually know that my friend
I know you've heard and so many have said
One kind is alive... the other kind is dead.
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:29:33 AM | | You are right . I was one of those men. I kept dating women ,but I was afraid to get to close to them because I thought I would get hurt again, Just like the last time. So I wouldn't let NO woman get to close to me. In other words Men Think that alls women want to do is use them and then throw them away. So now I have learned that there are some women that do use you , but there are more women out there that are being truthful about who they want and what they want from the men now. I have learned to let my guard down a little . | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/17/2006 4:53:17 PM | | can anyone know for sure what one will be like or not unless one keeps trying. life is too short so keep trying and sooner or later wow. so hope your having another good day to say hello fiftymartin and hotmail and com could be a friend if not more well we tried. have a good night for the guy with humour is not too far. not hard to figure out! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/18/2006 5:12:17 PM | kudos to you , you have hit the nail on the head ,
most men that are suddenly singel at 50 or so are as scared of being alone as we are .
this is a dog eat dog world and we are all wearing alpo shorts good luck to all of us that are 40-50- and above | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/18/2006 11:48:37 PM | Hi All
Read through some of the pages. Oh dear the problems of dating and finding a girl/boy friend. You "young uns" got it easy. How about us over 70 year olds who think like and act like 50 year olds? I hang out with a bunch that is an average age of 55. The ladies don't really want to go "too far" with a guy my age. When I turn to my peer group she might like me but not my activities. Can't keep up or won't try. Rather go to the flea market. Which is fine but if the wind is blowing and the weather is fair I'd sooner go sailing. Won't go camping in my Westy 'cause it's too small etc. The "young uns" hang around 'cause I'm interesting or can teach them something. Which is fine. (I'm both) And I've met some in my peer group who seem to like me. We get along fine for awhile then mention a weekend camping, sailing, going to Vancouver for a concert and it's "seperate beds". C'mon ladies we've been around the block-- a few times. I also meet some ladies who are younger then I. We get along for awhile then one day she will ask my age. I tell her. Suddenly I'm yesterday's leftovers. Sound like I'm whining? Maybe ---- a bit. I did meet a lady in my peer group last week at a dance. Boy oh boy. There was magic in the air. Complete with wizards. We tripped the light fantastic. Danced to or own tune. What a wonderful evening. There was just us and the music. Then her daughter came and took mom back to Alberta.  (Sound familiar only in reverse?) Moral of the story. It's always tough. What makes it tougher is that most of us have been there at least once and I guess we are a bit gun shy. I'm happy living alone but a girl friend would certainly round life out. But the magic is still out there. ------- Somewhere in Alberta.
How old is old? How young is young? don't know. How do yo count age? Chronologically or mentally?
Catch ya later
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/19/2006 5:20:28 AM | Hey guys I have been single for 8 years..yes I have dated and made up for the fun that I missed in my youth...
In the past year I have changed quite a bit and I am so happy to be on my own alone...my kids are grown and it is such a great feeling to beable to do what I want when I want.
Now if someone special did come along and win my heart so be it...but right now I enjoy my life...
and not because a man or a woman is over 50 doesn't mean they have to find someone quick because they are getting older...enjoy being alone...enjoy that silence..smell the flowers... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/19/2006 9:01:46 AM | | Hey I do enjoy my singleness. I come and go as I please, get and go to bed when I please, eat, wear, what I want. I do date a variety of woman, and I go places, i.e, dances, parties. But there are times when it would be nice to have a companion. I'm tired of cruising in my sailboat alone driving to Mexico and parts of Canada alone. Once in awhile some magic fills the air but seems to disapate pretty quickly. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:08:18 PM | i know what you mean , i an just turning turning 51 next month and men still find me attractive , but the players drive me nuts , i fell deeply in love with a guy here we dated a yr then he e-mailed {of all things } to say that he loved me dearly but he ewanted to travel the counrty on his motorcycle during his vacation , be borrowed money from his mama as he put it to do this canada ride the bikers were doing , no i an not a biker babe , but his excuse really blew me away , he is a real mama"s boy should have threw that fish back in the sea the first time he said MaMa !!!!! well live and learn , so for now i am flying solo   trying anothere lake to fish in  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/19/2006 11:49:54 PM | Ok here's the rub, when a man sees that you are a "round" lil thang,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,they bust ass hauling them seelf out the door. We big gals have passions and needs and want to be cuddled and apporecated as well. Overweightness is the last frontier to discriminate against.
Give us big gals a chance, you might be suprised to find a loyal, passionate partner, who isn't trying tp move in upon you, actually would prefer to keep my place snd share time and not expenses. I for one am ready for romance and passion and honesty, but not marriage.
Please tell me there is ONE man out there who thinks the same way?  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/20/2006 12:13:00 AM | | If I hear there has to be chemistry one more time, I'm gonna puke! PPl are alone because they WANT to be. not because they HAVE to be. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/20/2006 4:29:52 PM | i so agree with you !!!!!! i had a conversation with a guy just last night , He said he never dates anyone over size 8 !!!!! i am not a big woman but i found that remark from him was horrible !!!!!! that was our first date and our last !!! i found him very shallow , and get this he was 230 LBS 5ft9
trust me there is someone out there for you, do not let this get you down i will be 50 in tw0 weeks and i do not plan to slowdown . so hang in there ok ? you have alot to offer some guys just need to get with the program : | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:13:31 PM |
Then her daughter came and took mom back to Alberta.
You couldn't work something out to at least keep in contact with this lovely lady? I don't get it,statistically there should be TONS of women in your peer group;why are they not FIGHTING over you?? A healthy,active male their age?? Maybe you better come over here to Michigan...
Cindy O
Well behaved women seldom make history. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/20/2006 7:13:42 PM | "enjoy being alone...enjoy that silence..smell the flowers..."
The silence can be deafening.
Do the flowers smell as sweet without someone to describe the smell too?
And at the end of the day, it's no fun sleeping alone. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 2:06:36 AM | | Some of those married men not getting it at home may be falling asleep snoring as soon as they hit the sack and it's their wives who aren't getting any!!!!!!! And then-he wakes up and goes out to cheat on her! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 2:09:23 AM | | Too bad you don't live out west in Canada! lol I think you're cute too. And I don't think I'm gorgeous-just the average looking 60 yr old who has worked all her life and still enjoys life. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 12:28:49 PM |
I see so much of this....women who after they get online see it as a candy store......and the young guys will come a calling......but its just sex or fun for them..so I get all these profiles where the women wont give the time of day to a good man because they have a distorted view on how attractive they are........ I dont think women want a good man......
Good afternoon Bobby!
There are some of us (but I'll speak for myself) who have been online for many years. I don't see being online as any 'candy store' nor do I search for any long term relationship with any younger guys (ones under 40 with some exceptions). As for attractiveness, on the outside I'm only me, but on the inside, I'm a gorgeous person that many don't take time to get to know (how unfortunate).
I'd love to have a good man in my life! Not one who is a 'pushover' and someone to 'cater to my every whim' (thinking I just wrote that line in another forum) but one who can be as supportive as I can be, as well as a life long partner who believes in 'forever'!
With that said, I have listed my profile under 'activity partner' opposed to the other options such as dating, ltr and the like. A person never knows what may grow from a good friendship.
Elaine ... remaining as Only_Being_Me | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 3:03:21 PM |
i an just turning turning 51 next month
you4myfier, You have to be kidding! I think you better check your birth certificate...they got the year wrong by at least 10 years. Attractive? Made me wonder if I could move there, lol.
At 58, I'm starting over....and discovering some of the same things that others have mentioned in this thread...women my age are tired.....not interested in anything that requires physical exertion (sex included) or anything outside of their 'set routine'.
The younger ones seem to fall into categories....package deals.....angry with the world.....bitter about their last relationship.........in love with themselves....live a million miles away and not interested in relocating.....looking for sugar daddy or looking for younger men.
Where are the good ones? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:48:47 PM | | I just saw this forum and wanted to post...am on my way out for dinner with a couple of galpals....will share more and want to hear more whence I am back home..... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 6:59:05 PM | thshylady~
Oh, did you assume that by the time you were 50 you would be dealing with men of maturity? Sweetheart, they only get worse and better at their craft! Don't assume anything rather than they are probably jerks. Then if you find one that isn't, you are ahead of the game. People generally are getting crazier and crazier. The good ones get snatched up like worms in a pond, maybe you will be the lucky fish next time, you just have to keep looking. You have to look very closely at men, don't let them fool you and don't let them in till you are really sure of them. They don't deserve to leave and take a part of you with them. They'll take a part of you and won't lose a minutes sleep.
Take care and be strong! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 7:35:34 PM | Date!!...What's a date??? I can't get anyone to talk to me, and that's no joke. You have no idea what alone is till you've walked in my shoes.
Signed, An American stuck in Ontario, Canada | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/25/2006 10:15:47 PM |
from your profile .... "....how much of a really nice guy I am unless you knock on the door."
You can't be waiting around for one of us to knock on your door! Be assertive and write an email, use the instant message feature, etc.
I can't get anyone to talk to me, and that's no joke
What is the reason you can't get anyone to talk to you? Find the answer within yourself to that question, change anything that needs to be changed and start messaging! Don't give up either!
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