| | OVER 50 And Alone....again.Page 5 of 29 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29) | @c_deacon
connecting with them on all the right levels IS the problem
Agree, but in a relationship there inevitably has to be a compromise and maybe if you can't connect at all levels initially then you both have to work at it. With luck you'll achieve that and the relationship will flourish. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 2:56:56 AM | @geoweb: women my age are tired.....not interested in anything that requires physical exertion
*sigh* absolutely right geoweb, and it's a real shame. Yes, I know that womens bodies age at a different rate to that of a man but this seems to be a widespread thing. The number of profiles I've seen saying "my {insert activity here} days are over" is worrying to me as a mere 50-year old. There must be some active ladies around ?? | |
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ogot22
| | Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 103 | |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 3:00:33 AM | well im really what bracket i fall in hon. But im 62 and have not had a women for three years, and if ya would like to ( being from the volenteer state) ha ha ,
If you think at 50 you have a hard time finding some one well just wait,
I really hate being alone, but if i try to make contact with some one that is younger im clasified as a kinky old fart , I still got the want to understand but hate being made fun off because o9f my desires??? (Dear abby????) | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 3:38:18 AM | @ksue44: A newly divorced person isn't the best one to hook up..
Difficult.. I'm separated right now, but I believe my 20-year marriage was truthfully over about 7 years ago, so I feel like i've really been "single" for that time. I think a lot of ladies are put off by the fact that I'm not truly single. So then when my divorce is finally through I'll then fall into the above category and I'll be no better off ! Boooooooooo.......  | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 1:34:28 PM | I'm pushing 50 myself and I'm divorced. I hyperdated after my divorce. It was fun and exciting. Yes; it was a candy store. That was stage 1.
Then I got picky. I looked for someone that would not impose on my life but was available when i wanted. That was phase 2.
After that I stopped dating for a while and recentered myself. I had to decided what was best for me in my life both physically and emotionally. Phase 3? maybe.
Being single takes a lot of time. I have to cook, clean and care for myself. I had to figure out what was best for me and be willing to take chances with my emotions. When I started daing again I had a fresh outlook and more confidence. I'm much more flexable than I was in the past.
So, to answer your question; You may be meeting the right me at the wrong time. Try asking a man you like for a date. After all, if you're not driving than you're just along for the ride. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:56:41 PM | Stop! looking so hard. Let him find you! It will happen.
Your to beautifull for it not to. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:40:58 PM | | Yes you are mostly right!. Ive been single for 5 years now. Ive been going through men like I change my pants. The first thing they want is sex..to see if we are compatible or not. Forget the profile or you. The men that im meeting come and we will talk and have coffee together or what not. Then they say they will call and never do!..Im not a pushy type or anything like that. I listen and know whithin a half an hour where they are coming from. When I think that Ive met my mr. right...he is all wrong. Ive beenreally down on myself lately and realise that I know what I want and if they dont call well then its there loss. I will meet him dsomeday and you will to. So ladies dont be so hard on yourself and be confident. The right man will come along. Some guys are not honest in the profiles so be careful and happy hunting! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/27/2006 6:16:20 PM | | No, not meeting the wrong men...just meeting the men of today. I am appaulled by men today. I won't date them. I am waiting for the right one to come alone and I will date him. I don't believe in kissing toads till you find Mr Right, cause there are too many gross toads. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/27/2006 6:30:44 PM | [qoute]I am appaulled by men today.
Could you explain to all of us unkissed kissed toads what you are referring to? I’m sure I’m not the only toad trying to figure out why our little pad is still empty? And why the flies are not flocking around us? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/27/2006 9:16:10 PM | As an unkissed non toad this evening, let me say that the women of today are not always a bargain either. You would not believe the lies, baggage and bitterness that women of today bring to the table.
You want to know why older men like younger women? It is not because of their appearance. (Okay, its not just because of their appearance.) It is because of their attitudes. Younger women don't bring in the hatred from the failures of their previous relationships. They don't blame me for the way that an ex treated them. They want to have fun, live life and see where things go. There is no clock ticking, like there is in a 30 year old and there is no bitterness, like there is in 40 year olds. As for women in their 50's, well I have no experience there. I just hope that they are past the issues seems so dominant in the 30's & 40's.
As a mature, educated, professional, all I ask is to be judged by my actions, not those of others. Is that too much? | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/27/2006 9:16:42 PM | | I for one... like men 50+... so those are the ones I want to date. I just turned 47 so I think I'm close enough to comment and personally... I'm more confident in dating now than ever before but I also like myself more now than I ever did before too. But, when just getting out of a relationship everything seems to suck!!! When the hurt is fresh, everything seems scarey and not very satisfying. But that's just my .02 | |
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nico79
| | Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 112 | |
| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 2/28/2006 7:50:54 PM | | Hi Galxay-drifter, l am not a toad, a bullfrog maybe, a snake in the grass certainly not, at the moment l am a big bluebottle fly buzzing around you, careful with that swotter, regards Nico | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/1/2006 10:26:34 AM |
TNSHYLADY WROTE:It is so hard to date when you are over 50. It seems there are only two types of men out there. Newly divorced men that just want to date around because they haven't been free for so long. They are like a kid in a candy store.....they want a little of this and a little of that. Then there are the guys that have been divorced for 10 yrs or so. They like doing what they want to, when they want to. They will date you but don't want you getting too close. They like their freedom. Am I just meeting the wrong men, or am I right?[/Quote]
WRONG WRONG WRONG!
There are some guys like me that have been divorced for less then a year and flat out hate the single life. I hate the whole dating game and the bar scene as a single male. I'd trade this so called freedom for a loving woman to hold each night in a heart beat!
I hate coming home from work to an empty house. No one to kiss hello or even yell at me for throwing my stuff down on the coffee table! lol
I think I will have to be very careful in my search for another mate. i may tend to rush things just so I am not alone! I love the process of falling in love and all the romantic things we all do at that stage of a relationship.
I put all my notches on my bed post years ago. Don't need a different woman every night to make me feel like a man. Just one woman that will look into my eyes and see my soul and welcome me home each night. Now I wonder if such a woman exists? I see many women that after a divorce love there freedom and seem to not want or need a man as much anymore. So I guess this works both ways. I don't think I am that different from most men, but I am not afraid to admit it like most men. They have to to put up that macho image thing and not let a lady know that he needs her except for sex. well? There are many men like that. Sure, I want sex as much as the next guy. But I will not pressure or push it. I will wait to know the moment is right. When the right signals are received from the lady. And if you know what to look for, all women will let you know when they want sex too.
Wait, I got off topic a bit! lol | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 10:53:34 AM | you are right ;-i know cos when first divorced i was candy store bound. after a year or three i wasat okalone dont crowd me stage as well. good news is nowim ready again to care and commit so there is a third stage and like all things in life its a matter of luck and timing !--good luck. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 2:38:13 PM | Some have never been married
Some are into relationshsips
Some aren't
Some fragile
Some brittle
Some just normal people with no preset agendas
Pretty much like 20 year olds, 20 year olds, 40 year olds, etc.
You state that you're not into intimate encounters. EVER? Sometimes? On Leap Years? With everyone? With Anyone?
Get the point. Loose preconceived notions and maybe, just maybe we will too. Or not!
Pay your money, take yhour chances. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:41:12 PM |
There are some guys like me that have been divorced for less then a year and flat out hate the single life. I hate the whole dating game and the bar scene as a single male. I'd trade this so called freedom for a loving woman to hold each night in a heart beat!
I hate coming home from work to an empty house. No one to kiss hello or even yell at me for throwing my stuff down on the coffee table!
WOW!! I can relate to that! (with exception of throwing stuff down on the kawfee table)
I felt the same way about coming home to an empty house, no hugs or kisses hello. Not much for dating (certainly not into games), the bar scene is only for Happy Hours with a few friends.
After being divorced for over 2 years and being alone for about 3 years, I have settled into a routine of sort, but would change that if the right person came along after meeting as friends first.
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Posted: 3/1/2006 6:15:40 PM | I been waiting for over 8 years now....and I doubt he is going to show up....Course IF you read my profile I have alot of strikes against me...nowdays a male my generation want a TROPHEY to hang on their arm....not an honest, OLD, ugly Broad like me. (Yeah...I admit it)...I have met some great guys....as FRIENDS!!!! (YEAH....I know I can never have enough friends....but...I am despirately seeking the LOVE thing..I was married 27years to my FRIEND.....now I want the real LOVE thing....Do you know what I mean????/) | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:18:10 PM | Wow...what a forum you have are you typing from my mind or what?
I HATE being single also.... | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/2/2006 4:38:08 PM | c deacon
i agree, meeting someone is not the problem, finding someone compatible is. I am overweight but I have no problem getting dates. My problem is I don't usually like the fish i am catching, so I throw them back and hope I have not hurt their feelings. As far as sex on the first date goes, I am 61 (almost 62) years old. If i like a guy, I would certainly sleep with him. Life is too short to save it. But I have noticed and maybe it's because I don't know how to play the game..but I don't understand how a man acts like he really likes you, then he doesn't call again, nor answer your emails. If I like someone, I let them know. My friends tell me to play hard to get...that is not who I am. I am not looking for a husband or money, just a close loving relationship with someone special. Okay peeps, what am I doing wrong in that I don't seem to want the ones who want me? I am not desperate and don't act that way either. I am not a woman who cannot live without a man, I just choose to have one.. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/2/2006 7:55:14 PM | | YOu see loveisclickaway.. you have learned to like yourself and enjoy yourself. It helps when a person no matter what age learns to like themselves and learn to live the single life the best they can, when you aren't looking that is usually when the right person comes along, until then.. we should be our own RIGHT person!!! | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/2/2006 8:47:38 PM | ^^^ 
They also sell those hand pus****... I have a friend with one... he swears he'll never need a woman again.. and that is sad!!! LOL | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/2/2006 10:50:52 PM | | I am out of a 16 yr marrige and been single by choice.Freedom been nice but i look to settle with the right one now. You been meeting the wrong men is all hun,smilessss.Dont feel bad,i been meeting the wrong women too,lol. | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/2/2006 10:55:05 PM | | we do all eventually...well....am being positive now.....meet that special person we are truly meant to be with.....but the same principals apply.....with any longterm relationship wished....we do need to put forth effort | |
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| OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 3/3/2006 5:39:28 PM | 47?? you are a young puppy! I'm 52, lost DH to sudden heart attack 5 yrs ago...have dated, had a couple relationships, would like to have a SO but also enjoy being a holy terror...
Cindy O | |
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